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2023.05.29 04:36 ThrowRAreadstoomuch What do I bake for my first Kiss? (19f, 18m)
Description: Me(19f) and my bf (18f) have been dating for 1 year and a couple months and I think we might have our first kiss soon so I want to bake him something special.
I really need some dessert ideas for my bf. I"m all out of ideas and he might visit in a couple weeks or so, so I have lots of time to prepare. If someone could give me some simple ideas I'd be very grateful.
Whenever I bake something 1 always bring him some. I've baked many things like banana bread, chocolate chip cookies, cake mix cookies, doughnut cake ect. When he comes over I think we might have our first kiss so I want what I bake to be somewhat special just nothing crazy ofc.
Please note that I'm not made of money so please keep that in mind and please also note that he hates cinnamon (idk why but who am 1 to judge lol)
Thank you to anyone who decides to help, I will update you on my decision and how it went in a couple weeks after he visits.
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2023.05.29 04:36 ControversialBanana0 Building my first gaming PC for 1440p gaming!
>**What will you be doing with this PC? Be as specific as possible, and include specific games or programs you will be using.**
* I'll be gaming at 1440p 170hz. Primarily AAA games like Cyberpunk 2077, Red Dead Redemption, Battlefield, etc.
>**What is your maximum budget before rebates/shipping/taxes?**
* I'd like to keep the PC as cheap as possible while still giving me a good experience at 1440p with a good framerate, but not skimping out on it to the point where it. Basically just a good value PC that will last me a while and will be easy to upgrade 3 to 4 years down the line. I'd like to keep the PC itself not including any other peripherals $1200 or under, but the current build I have is a little over $1300 (I could remedy that by getting a use GPU).
>**When do you plan on building/buying the PC? Note: beyond a week or two from today means any build you receive will be out of date when you want to buy.**
* I'm planning on building my PC about a month from now, and I'll try to update the initial build at that point if needed.
>**What, exactly, do you need included in the budget? (ToweOS/monitokeyboard/mouse/etc\)**
* The PC only.
>**Which country (and state/province) will you be purchasing the parts in? If you're in US, do you have access to a Microcenter location?**
* The United States. I'm lucky enough to have two microcenters within a half hour drive of me, and I've included a cpu, mobo, and ram bundle within my current build.
>**If reusing any parts (including monitor(s)/keyboard/mouse/etc), what parts will you be reusing? Brands and models are appreciated.**
>**Will you be overclocking? If yes, are you interested in overclocking right away, or down the line? CPU and/or GPU?**
* I'm not too heavily interested in overclocking but definitely wouldn't mind it.
>**Are there any specific features or items you want/need in the build? (ex: SSD, large amount of storage or a RAID setup, CUDA or OpenCL support, etc)**
* I'd like to have a 2tb nvme. I'd also like to run a Minecraft server off of my PC to play on with a couple of friends, but I'm not sure what sort of hardware that would entail.
>**Do you have any specific case preferences (Size like ITX/microATX/mid-towefull-tower, styles, colors, window or not, LED lighting, etc), or a particular color theme preference for the components?**
* I'd like to keep everything ATX. I definitely want an ATX case but don't mind a microATX mobo. I don't want to waste unnecessary money on rgb but don't mind having it either.
>**Do you need a copy of Windows included in the budget? If you do need one included, do you have a preference?**
* No, I'm fine with using the free version of windows.
>**Extra info or particulars:**
I'll be gaming on a 1440p 170hz monitor and would like to play at a consistent 90+ fps on high to ultra settings. I want this PC to last me a solid 3 to 4 years before any major upgrades but will probably upgrade the graphics card sooner. I included a 6800 xt in my current build as that seems to be the sweetspot for high refresh rate 1440p gaming right now without breaking the bank. However, I've found an insanely good deal on a used 6700 xt for $200 and I'm not sure if spending $300 more on a 6800 xt is worth it right now.
I'm pretty much set on getting the 4000d airflow. I've had my eye on it for a while because it's an amazing looking case with great thermals and because I'll have my PC on my desk I want something nice to look at. I've been debating whether or not to get the lancool 216 though, because it's similarly priced, comes with two 160mm fans at the front (can move larger amounts of air at lower speeds so should be quieter), and has better thermals from what I've seen so I'd appreciate any input on that. I just like the aesthetics of the 4000d airflow more.
Also I've decided on getting the Gigabyte M27q Pro for $300. It's not at that price right now as stock has been quite low but the price should hopefully come down soon. I'd appreciate any 1440p monitor suggestions from you guys as well!
This is the build I came up with: https://pcpartpicker.com/usePcGoBoom/saved/#view=YgWK7P
(I'd like to go ryzen 7000 btw so that I can upgrade to a better cpu down the line ~maybe 3 to 4 years~, without having to replace my entire motherboard.)
Thanks for reading!
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2023.05.29 04:36 Zealousideal_Pin_304 Only Lifeguard on Duty
I’m working at an outdoor pool that’s pretty big, alone. My first day was saturday and i’m working tomorrow for memorial day. I don’t have a lot of experience at all but i’m certified and i feel pretty capable in cases of emergencies but i want to know what others think of what some key aspects should be when working a pool alone all day? i’m there from open to close and the company has not given me a hip pack like they said they would be able to offer so i purchased one online but it won’t be here by this upcoming shift. there are kids who bang themselves up and people who ask me questions, it’s fine to handle but knowing there will be a lot of people at the pool tomorrow i’m nervous. some words from more experienced lifeguards would really help ease my nerves. i want people to have fun but i want to keep people safe and let them enjoy themselves. i don’t want to be the mean lifeguard and i’m a bit shy in asserting myself but there’s no room for that when i have to make sure people are safe. what should i do if kids scrape themselves and come to me for bandaids but i’m watching my zones? what should i do if teens dive when i tell them not to? how do i kick people out of the pool if o can’t physically enforce it and would have to divert my attention to calling the security guy who occasionally pops in?
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2023.05.29 04:36 mrsmjparker I Negotiated and the Company Rescinded Their Offer
For the past month and a half I’ve been going through the process of applying and interviewing for a position. It started with a recruiter reaching out to me on LinkedIn and I have a boundary for myself that I won’t even make a phone call with a recruiter unless I know that the position is within my desired salary range and has the same amount of WFH days that I have in my current position, if not more. I am open to being fully in office as long as it pays more. So I always ask from the beginning what’s in budget for the salary and if the job is remote/hybrid/in person. In this case I was told the salary, that they are flexible about the amount, and that the role is hybrid with two days in office. Since this role has the same amount of WFH days as I currently have and pays more I proceeded with the process.
I went through multiple phone calls, multiple interviews, an employment verification, and a credit check and they extended the job offer to me. I’ve been working with a professional career coach this entire process and she helped me with my response and helped me initiate negotiation.
The offer letter didn’t include if the job was hybrid so I asked about that (even though we did discuss hybrid in my interview). They told me that training is 100% in person and after I’m done I would be ELIGIBLE for the hybrid schedule that MOST the office is on. I also found a job posting on indeed that says the position is in person. I got the feeling that they would keep me 100% in office the entire time I work for them. It’s also an hour drive each way so an extra three days a week makes a huge difference and for the salary they were offering I would be losing money. However, I did not call them out on this in my negotiation.
I handled the negotiation properly. In my interview I made sure to ask what important skills they are looking for and cited that I have those skills in my negotiation, plus years of industry experience. I also cited various websites with the average pay for this position and used that to provide a number to negotiate with. Their offer was below even the low end of the salaries I saw. I stated that I would be okay with an alternative such as a starting bonus, additional PTO days, or another incentive. And I reiterated that I was excited about the job opportunity and phrased it as a request and not a demand. This was not an entry level role. I didn’t throw out a ridiculous number. I never mentioned a number before it came time to negotiate. I was told they were flexible. I was professional and enthusiastic. I didn’t mention any personal reasons about how I need the increase in salary. I swear I handled this the proper way. (And before anyone comes for me, no, it is not greedy to negotiate. Companies do not provide sufficient raises to retain their talent so the time to get the salary you want is in the beginning when you’re negotiating for a new job. This is part of advocating for your value.)
They responded and let me know they not only couldn’t meet my negotiation, but that they were also withdrawing the original offer.
“After much consideration for your proposed changes to the terms in the original offer letter, we are unable to meet your salary requirement of XX nor any of the additional proposals for starting bonus, additional vacation days or other incentives. Therefore, it is with great disappointment that I inform you we must regretfully withdraw your job offer for the position at Company. This email serves as formal communication to let you know that our job offer is no longer available with our company. Company is under no obligation to give you compensation or employment moving forward. Our initial job offer did not serve as a binding contract, as this job offer was at-will. We wish you the best in your future endeavors and hope you can find a role that serves your interests.”
I understand there is a risk to negotiating but this came off so petty! Usually companies are willing to participate in some sort of negotiation or at least say that their original offer was the best they could provide. My career coach thinks this company wanted a yes man and freaked out when I came back to them with research and to advocate for my value. I had a weird gut feeling about this company ever since my interview with the hiring manager so I most likely dodged a bullet with this one. But I am pissed off that they lied about hybrid and wasted hours of my time on interviews, paperwork, etc. I really want to blast them on Glassdoor. And honestly I feel so discouraged with my job hunt now. I was told companies rarely ever rescind offers like that but is this the new norm? Has anyone been through this?
Tl;dr: I received a job offer and negotiated properly. The company also lied about the role being hybrid and didn’t tell me until I had a job offer. After I initiated negotiation the company immediately rescinded their offer.
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2023.05.29 04:36 riegyne Blueprint Workshop
Hi guys, do you have any idea how to ask a service company questions about a blueprint? What does the flow of a blueprint workshop look like?
We're working on a mock project that involves an IT company providing IT services. However, we have only studied manufacturing companies so far, and we're not confident in our knowledge since we are all first-timers in SAP.
This is our first time working on a mock project (thankfully it's not a real one, but our performances may impact our chances of being hired), and I'm unsure if there are any differences when it comes to a service company.
I'm currently a trainee in the FI functional consultant role, but any advice or reference materials from any module would be greatly appreciated.
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2023.05.29 04:36 HagenTheMage What happens to a Sabbat pack when a member ranks up?
Packs are a really strong bond in Sabbat's structure, but whenever I hear about high ranking members, they are "lone wolfs". In Camarilla for exemple coteries come and go, so that's pretty understanding, but where does the rest of the pack go when a member become a Bishop? Will a ductus just comply in being now a "lower" member of the pack? What's the logistic on all of this?
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2023.05.29 04:35 PumpkinSpiceSaturday Don't be a jerk, Almanzo.
I just watched the episode where Nellie lied to Laura about the history portion of the teachers exam. Laura fails the test. She attacks Nellie, pushes her into the creek and wrestles her in the mud. Almanzo comes by, pulls Laura out, puts her in his wagon and takes her back to his house to clean up. (Why not drive her home to clean up? Rather creepy to take her to his house...)
Perhaps I missed it but Almanzo does not ask Nellie if she is ok. Nor does he even help her up from the muddy water. As he drives away, Nellie is still in the mud. He doesn't come back to give Nellie a ride back into town so she can clean up.
I realize he wasn't a big fan of Nellie but he certainly should have made sure both girls were OK. Total jerk move by Almanzo to just ignore Nellie.
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2023.05.29 04:35 Thefunnygamerman Does aim lock on objects that come out of dispensers?
Im trying to make a reusable low weight and drag flare system. Would a dispenser be a good choice? Or should I just use detachable blocks instead?
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2023.05.29 04:35 Tattedqueen94 F28, m33. Need advice on the bomb my boyfriend dropped on me today. After 3 months of dating.
Me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 months. And today he told me that when he and his ex wife were in the process of breaking up he cheated and got a woman pregnant and the baby ended up getting adopted. He got a vasectomy after which I knew about. But I didn’t know about this adopted child. That no one knows about.
I really love him but part of me thinks that he’s not going to want more kids because he does already have 3. And then I feel like he lied about why he had a vasectomy. I don’t know how to bring this up. Because I’m scared it would make us break up. Has anyone dated anyone with a vasectomy that later had it reversed and it worked out?
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2023.05.29 04:35 Sharp_Issue_3178 AITA for wanting low contact with my MIL?
I (F25) got married to my husband (25 M) this year. We got engaged on vacation in August, my husband’s grandma died as soon as got to our condo (Sunday). She had suffered with dementia and Alzheimer’s since I met her 5 years ago. My MIL told us that they planned to have the funeral that Friday, meaning we would need to leave our vacation early. Of course, we wouldn’t miss the funeral, but my MIL said they couldn’t have the funeral after we got back (we were supposed to come back Saturday) because she couldn’t take another day with her sister in town (as her sister and her family were in town to say their final goodbyes to their mom). Side note, the grandmother was cremated. Little did I know, that my now husband pre-paid for a bunch of events that we could do which his family did know about.
My husband and I weren’t inviting his dad’s set of parents because they are very mean. My MIL and FIL tried to guilt trip us into inviting them, even though they were not financially helping us with the wedding and they thought it would be easier if they just came. Because we weren’t inviting them, my in-laws decided to throw us an “engagement party” so the grandparents who weren’t invited could feel included in wedding festivities. My in-laws wanted us to tell them that it was a small destination wedding with only close friends and family. Also, my MIL wanted us to send out the Save the Dates after their engagement party, so the grandparents wouldn’t find out. My MIL also didn’t want me to post photos on my Facebook as the grandma would see them and it wouldn’t play into the small wedding story. My MIL pushed to only have the guests be 30 guests and under to keep with the whole “small wedding” charade. This is not my ideal engagement party. While at the family engagement party, my FIL dad said to my husband, “you got fat” and the grandma said, “we can’t stay, we have a concert to go to.” Clearly, they’re amazing.
I took her to show my wedding dress, she said “very nice.” At our venue outing she wasn’t very interested until she found out that the place we can stay has cabins that she can rent out, so now she can turn it into a mini vacation. Throughout the whole planning process, she nor my FIL ask if they could help or anything. I told them when we got our marriage license and we had two more months until the wedding and then my MIL stated that she got a new job and has unlimited PTO. She glossed over the news and just talked about herself.
My MIL also said there was no place for reservations for a “rehearsal dinner” since it no place near took a reservation for a large party or it would cost more. She only looked at the lodge we were staying at the the restaurant we got our wedding catered. I ended up booking a reservation for a place 20 minutes away that took a big party. I didn’t invite my husbands side of the family since my MIL reserved a brunch place for the Sunday after and only invited their friends and not my family (even though we were all staying the night at the lodge. I’m just annoyed and frustrated. My husband has talked to them about how they need to give me affirmations, but clearly that did not stick.
I want to go low contact, but then I feel guilty. AITA?
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2023.05.29 04:35 Haunting_Dealer_3453 iPhone 11 screen freezes almost everyday, multiple times a day
After installing a software update a few months ago, I have been experiencing my locked screen freezing almost everyday. It doesn’t happen everyday, but when it does it usually happens multiple times, sometimes up to 10 times. I have to force reset my phone, and sometimes that doesn’t even work. I have looked into it online and people say it could be a result of low storage, low battery, incompatible apps, or outdated updates. I use 48.3 GB out of 64 GB of my storage, it happens when I have a full battery, I deleted almost all of my apps, and recently installed the new software update.
Why is this happening and what can I do about it?
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2023.05.29 04:35 daboom__ literal shitty place to work
So Ive been working nights at a supermarket (grocery store) for about 5 months now and there’s been several times when I’ve been at work and there has been a strong odour of shit and or piss. I found out tonight that the drainage system for the building is super old and hasn’t been upgraded since the store opened (so over 20 years ago)… as a result the drains get blocked regularly and they actually leak onto the shop floor and staff room hallway, let me repeat that, THERE IS LITERAL SHIT LEAKING ON THE FLOOR WHERE PEOPLE COME TO BUY FOOD! I’m not too happy about working in these conditions either, I’m so close to walking about but I need the money and need a new job before I leave. COMPANIES DON’T GIVE A FUCK ABOUT THEIR STAFF OR THEIR CUSTOMERS.
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2023.05.29 04:34 kiisabear My mom hates me and I don't know why [LONG POST]
I (F20) have moved to a new place thanks to my mom (F43) convincing me to. We are living with my great-grandmother and it's been almost a year now. e live in a small village and I don't drive so I relied heavily on my mom to drive me if I wanted to go somewhere that wasn't within walking distance. Almost a month ago, there was a big argument with my great-grandmother who made a racist comment which I did not agree with. This resulted in me staying with a new friend for a bit. When I came back, my mother accused me of drug use; I don't do drugs. I've had a puff here and there from weed and I rarely drink any alcohol. I don't party, I pretty much am a hermit. My mother had said that I need to be aware of the drugs I may be around in which I responded with "no I do not. If others are getting into drugs, it is not my business to be asking about it. It makes it look like I'm interested and I am not." She blew up at me and told me that she "cannot keep an eye on me 24/7". I then responded with "you don't have to, I'm 20 years old, I am capable of looking out for myself." This was the line that completely threw her off her rockers. She said that if I'm such an adult and if I get arrested for hanging around druggies to not bother calling her because she could care less. That as an adult I should "figure it out". My mom, needless to say, has never been a good mom. She neglected me and my siblings growing up to chase a sugar daddy who wasn't really a sugar daddy but a drug dealer. Now I don't know if he got her into it or if it was already something she was doing before she met him (she was a stripper before I was born so it wouldn't surprise me if she was into drugs during that time). All I know is that he encouraged her to get into it more heavily. I grew up never seeing the drugs but I saw the effects. The fighting, the forgetfulness, the fatigue. From a young age, I told myself to stay away from drugs in fear I'd end up like my mom. There's no way in hell I'd ever do drugs, I saw how it made her. Eventually, my siblings and I were placed into foster homes. I was 8 at the time. I was in and out of foster homes, group homes, and even at one point went back to live with my mom. I had attempted which landed me back in my group home. My mom couldn't care less and said I only attempted for attention. I struggled with self-harm from when I was 12, always wearing long sleeves and big baggie sweaters. I was embarrassed. Still, my mom said nothing about it and pretended to act as though she didn't see. A big incident at 17 where I was assaulted by a boy in a group home and was kicked out for it, it had seemed to bring us closer. She was on my side and acted as though she really cared about me. Almost even comforted me. Finally, I came home when I was 18, I was then again assaulted brutally and had to spend time in the hospital. This was when things started to go downhill. She didn't believe me and thought I had staged it despite my being physically shaken up, bleeding, and bruised/in pain. She had even taken me to the hospital where they treated me and gave me a rape kit basically. She kicked me out a few months later, it was November. Wouldn't let me come back to get a jacket or anything. Just a blanket. I couldn't charge my phone either and it was close to dying. Thankfully a friend and her family let me stay with them. My mom eventually allowed me to come home, and I made plans to leave. I stayed in a housing program but it lasted about half a year as the girls were eating my food, not cleaning up, stealing my stuff, etc etc. They were not doing anything to help me truthfully and my mom started to convince me to go back to live with her. So I did. There were more fights, more having to leave the house over and over and over and over again. My mother is my only support system, I had nowhere to really go. So I told myself to just stick it out. Now back to the present day, I've literally had enough. My mother started spreading a rumour around that I do porn. It's a small village so everyone knows everyone. That could ruin my chances of getting a job. She's aware of this. I tried to talk to her to resolve this issue but she doesn't want to talk. So, like a highschooler, she spreads rumours about me and talks shit. I have no car pretty much, no job for the time being, and no place to go. My grandmother has had enough of my mom's attitude and as a result, wants me to leave as she deems me to be the issue. I don't understand why my mom hates me so much and I think our relationship is irreparable at this point. I've tried, given it my all, I have no more to give to my mother and now I'm not sure what's next. Any advice?
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2023.05.29 04:34 bing_bang_bum I’m (33m) seeking guidance on navigating a mutual breakup with my partner (32m) without souring what we had
After nearly four years together and 8 months living together, my partner (32m) and I (33m) are in what feels like the process of mutually breaking up. We had a long conversation today acknowledging that neither of us has been happy for a while, that there is distance growing between us romantically, and that, foundationally, neither of us feels like we can be our complete and genuine self around each other. We both feel like we’re too far gone for therapy to fix it. It was a painful conversation, to say the least.
This person is still my best friend and my world and I still love him deeply. I don't even want to stop loving him, even though I’m sure that would make it easier. It almost makes it harder that there's nothing I can hate him for. Neither of us did anything wrong. It just...isn't right.
The thought of just saying "goodbye" forever to a man I spent years believing I would marry, who I fantasized about growing old with, makes me feel sick to my stomach. The thought of us becoming strangers makes my eyes well with tears. It feels impossible to fathom not having him in my life. Even though I know in my gut that we aren’t a ‘forever’ match, I feel like my heart and my brain are in battle. It feels unnatural to let go of the most important person in my life.
I've been through two major breakups before, but this is by far my longest and most meaningful relationship, it's the only time I've ever lived with my partner, and it's the first time I'm approaching a breakup in a mutual and respectful way. While I’m proud of us for being mature (so far), I have no idea how to navigate any of this. I want to do it right. We have created so many amazing memories together, and I don’t want those soured.
Over COVID and throughout our relationship, my network of close friends definitely narrowed. Most of my closest friends no longer even live in my city. I also struggle with feeling like my problems are burdensome, so I tend to isolate myself in the times that I most need support. My very best friend, who does live near me, is due to have her first child tomorrow (literally), so I quite literally would be a burden if I leaned much on her for support. I do have a therapist which will be helpful.
I'm so scared. I am an anxiously attached person and I’m triggered pretty viciously by abandonment. The last time I went through a breakup, I had a legit mental breakdown. It was a terrifying and traumatizing experience. I didn’t sleep for days and in hindsight I think I may have become slightly psychotic for a day or two. I have done a lot of work on myself since then, but I know the coming weeks will be filled with potential attachment triggers. How can I let myself be cut off from his life without feeling abandoned and unloved? How can I remain emotionally stable as I help the love of my life physically move out of my home and my life forever? How have you guys gotten through breakups like this?
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2023.05.29 04:34 MaterialPurchase3563 Approaching one year anniversary
In a few days time, it would be the anniversary of when I found out my S.O. cheated.
May has been particularly tough on me, despite the fact that it is our anniversary month, I also found out from talking to the girl that May last year was when they started hitting it off, finally deciding to meet first week of June last year after a month of SFW chatting.
I feel guilty, because I chose to forgive him and I see him trying, but I just feel helpless everytime I come spiraling down. At this point I don't think my thoughts, my feelings, are still his responsibility so I feel obligated to just shrug them aside. But it has been pretty hard. I try to make it seem that everything is okay but when he turns his eyes on his phone I catch myself staring at him and wondering if he's been up to it again. Each time he needs to go out of the house my mind has also been travelling places, and I feel so guilty for doubting him this much and for thinking he's going to do it again if he was given the chance.
Nobody has told me since I haven't been talking to anyone about what happened, I feel embarrassed for what I, we, went through as a couple. But how much time is enough time to get over what happened? Isn't one year supposed to be enough or is it really bound to hurt this much?
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2023.05.29 04:34 Anonnnnnn1265 She (F26) Said She Needs More Time To Recover From Breakup Before Continuing to Date Me (M25), But We’re Getting Brunch a Few Days Later With Mutual Friends
After years recovering from my last breakup, I found someone that made me feel things I didn't think I would again. A few days ago, she told me she is not ready to continue dating. I will see her again tomorrow for brunch with our mutual friends, and I need advice/thoughts on how to interact with her and how to process what she said. Sorry this is a long post, but I wanted to give context because I really liked her and thought it would work out.
About two weeks ago, I ran into J (F26) who I knew as a freshman in college. We have not talked in years, but we have tons of mutual friends and we instantly connected. I got her phone number, invited her to brunch a few weeks later with our mutual friends, and we went on a date about a week later. It was wonderful - we talked for over four hours, flirted (biting her lip, "accidentally" bumping into each other, laughing at my bad jokes, etc.), and generally enjoyed our time together. At the end of the night, she gave me a hard hug and said that she was around all weekend if I wanted to see her again. So, a few days later we to a farmer's market nearby for a few hours and again had a good time and flirted. I then invited her to my apartment later that night to watch an NBA game, and she said it sounded like fun but would need to go home to finish up her work (she works remotely) so that she would have enough time that night. About an hour before the game, she texted me that she was finished working and was just too tired from working and, it being a Sunday with a game at 8:30 p.m., it was too late and wanted to reschedule. So, she suggested getting dinner the following week, which she made reservations for that night and I agreed to without any issue.
A few days ago we went on our third date at the restaurant. Again, we had a lovely conversation for about an hour. At the end of the dinner when I asked about doing an activity together after brunch, she told me that after talking with her therapist, she realized that she was not ready for a relationship. About a month or so ago after returning from grad school abroad, her then-boyfriend who lives in the area broke up with her. Apparently, she took it pretty hard but when I asked her out she thought that she was ready to move on but was wrong. She said there were many "peaks and valleys" since then and it was not fair to me. She also said that it was genuinely her, not me, that was the issue because she has really enjoyed hanging out and talking with me. And because she did not know when she would be ready to date again, she did not want to hold me back when she couldn't be there 100%. Holding back a tear, I told her that I appreciated her honesty and communication, that I enjoyed our time together, that I thought she was special, and I would respect her boundaries. I walked her back to her apartment and changed the topic, dropped off our leftovers at her apartment, and she asked if I wanted to walk and talk with her some more. So we did, and I returned to her apartment about 2.5 hours later. Again, great conversation and we talked about deep topics (religion, politics, etc.), which I should note we were compatible on. She also disclosed that she has a mental illness (but did not specify and I did not ask) that she gets treatment for (presumably, from her therapist but I did not ask).
At the end of the night in her apartment, she apologized about not being ready for a relationship, but was looking forward to brunch a few days later. I told her that if/when she recovers, I would be happy to pick up where we left off and she knows how to reach me. Her response was that she just didn't know when that would be and to not wait for her if I find someone else.
Assuming J comes to brunch with me and our mutual friends, how should I interact with her? Just friendly and ignore what she said? Or just pretend she's not there? Also, is there anything I should say about how she's feeling? I was thinking of asking her if she had any feelings for me, because if she did not then this is all moot and there's no point or hope in waiting.
I note that a female I am close with said to just be her friend, check in every once in a while, and eventually she would find her way back to me. And this is exactly what happened with her and her husband who both are a few years older than me, so I have a little bit of hope right now. If you made it to the end of this post, I greatly appreciate it!
TLDR: Girl I was friends with in college moved back to my city, and we went on three great dates. On the third date, she disclosed a breakup about a month ago and realized after talking with her therapist she is not ready for a relationship. She still wants to go to brunch with me and our mutual friends in a few days.
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2023.05.29 04:34 Far-Investigator-555 His response for those who asked. He blocked me after 😂
2023.05.29 04:34 pancakesquest1 Shiv really does come out on top.
She at the end of the day made the decision.
She held the power regardless if she became CEO or not. She chose the CEO. That’s fucking power!
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2023.05.29 04:34 watchusayyy Gurgle at Kitchen Studor Vent
I have a Studor vent in my main floor under my kitchen sink. Whenever we run the dishwasher (during its drain cycle) or wash dishes/hands, we hear gurgling. It’s been going on for a while now so a few months ago I had a plumber come out and snake the line. He also replaced the smaller Studor with a larger one. All was fine for a few weeks and the gurgling started back up again, this time in full force.
I had standing water in the kitchen sink on Friday. I backed the Studor off knowing as soon as air enters the line the water would flow, which it did. I was intent to snake it myself with my Ridgid 25’ snake. I snaked the line but as soon as I put the Studor on and ran water, it began gurgling again.
Now tonight as someone was taking a shower in the master bathroom (all showers on the second floor), I hear gurgling at the sink (no water running there). I get to the Studor and back it off, hoping no blow back (none reported). As soon as air enters the vent, however, the gurgling stops.
The kitchen line meets with the master bathroom drop after about a 25’ run. Everything looks as it should (i.e., sanitary tee far enough away from the kitchen line). AFAIK no one has flushed any wipes down the toilet but I’m beginning to suspect there is a blockage somewhere along that path.
I don’t believe it happens when the other bathroom shower is running (will test tomorrow at this point). What could be my issue? Do homes with a Studor have a vent stack?
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2023.05.29 04:34 thebeastnamedesther At what age was your puppy crate trained?
We just adopted an 11 week old golden retriever. He was rehomed to us after 2 weeks with a different family and 9 weeks with his breeder. I don’t believe he was crated when he was with his litter, and in his 2 weeks with the other family crate training went very poorly. I’m at a disadvantage of being limited in my crate training experience because our 1.5 yo came to us already crate trained at 12 weeks old.
So I come here to ask - how long does this process typically take? The internet says days to months. With such a broad range, it is hard for me to know how hard to push him. He has to be crate trained in order to be boarded, and I need him crate trained during certain meetings while I work from home.
I’ve explored the crate training links on this sub but they’re not answering my questions. I’m not trying to decide if I want to crate, I need help executing the plan! Thank you all!
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2023.05.29 04:34 Aggressive-Dragon Help with awkward living room layout
Hello! I need some help trying to figure out a good layout for this awkwardly shaped living room. So far, I’ve come up with 2 options, neither of which I love 1. Mount the tv above the fireplace, have the couch along the stair wall, coffee table in the middle with an armchair along the window wall facing the fireplace/tv 2. Push the couch along the window wall, have the tv on a stand against the stair wall, with a chair angled facing in the direction of the fire place.
I’d love to have some kind of cabinet/table near the front door as a drop zone when I come in, I just can’t figure out how to make the room flow make sense. Any ideas would be super appreciated!
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2023.05.29 04:33 Mission_Possible_361 Everything is in slow motion
I woke up yesterday with strep throat but still had to attend my graduation party since I had a major role in it. When I went I got the worse strep and headaches I ever felt I went to a chair and basically slept for a few minutes. Then called my dad to come over with Adol (painkillers I believe) and water when he came I took a pill which drove me for the rest of the party (I also took another pill an hour or so later since the headaches were back) I pulled off the speech and left when I was back I felt like crap, said I'd sleep it off and I woke up with numbness in most of my body and it feels like I'm in slow motion literally everything is slower to me not physically I feel massive pain in my leg joints and can barely shuffle around. When I breath in it comes out raggedy like in waves. Anyone know how to fix this?
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