Skip to the Last part for 2023 specifics reading everything would really enlighten you tho.
Location and Alliances

• Senegal is located in West Africa bordering Guinea, Mali, Mauritania, Bissau Guinea and Gambia. Senegal is also part of ECOWAS ( Economic Community of West African States) and AU (African Union). ECOWAS has an economic centric objective and AU is justice and development of Africa focused.
• Every single one of the nations that border Senegal has had a military coup in its history except Senegal. Every attempt in Senegal failed and Senegal was regarded until today as a model of democracy.

French Control / Neocolonialism
Senegal was a well ruled country despite its politics being mainly ruled by France from the shadow, France hold the reserve of CFA Francs currency and print it for 15 countries. 15 sovereign nations are entirely dependent on France's currency. France also control most of their seaports and has priority in every new market offering with mandatory acceptance for these nations. Despite its many resources Senegal is a very poor country it has gold, zircon, lots of sea territory for fishing, clay and many more industry needed resources and forestry that I can adequately explain. France also has military bases in most of these countries until recently they've been kicked out by Burkina and Mali. Recently lots of Gas and Oil sources have been found in Senegal and that could change the lives of millions of Senegalese citizen (keep that in mind as you read)

Abdoulaye Wade, Macky Sall, Dirty Politics and Spiraling Debt

​

• Macky Sall is the 4TH president of Senegal, elected in 2012. Before him It was Abdoulaye Wade who was president since the year 2000. It's mainly under Abdoulaye Wade that the country started changing landscape major road construction, more and more building and a decade long plan to move the airport to a less cramped space thus giving us the AIBD Airport replacing LSS airport. A new agriculture program GOANA and many more projects.
• But it's also under Wade that nepotism got higher in his government were new ministry official position created for his "friends" in ridiculous position. A government in which Macky Sall took part and eventually became prime minister.
• With the rising nepotism the first embezzlement campaign started with ministers and deputies having safes filled with billions of cfa. For context back in 2007 a billion wasn't an imaginable number it had just became mainstream. It first rise with their own son stealing from them, then their sons and daughters traveling all over the word as new millionaires. For context their parents were poor prior to being in the government. Then arrest for drug usages, luxury car crashes. In a blink of an eye rose a new wave of billionaires and families that were above the law. Coincidentally the economic crisis of 2007 made the population even poorer in comparison.
• Politics mixing with religious figures, violence at political rallies and the birth of "nervis" basically political henchmen paid to beat opponents or whoever stand in their way and the police ignored them since they were being paid by people that were very high in the political ladder (ministers, friends of the president etc....)

3rd Mandate, Abdoulaye Wade vs The People (Macky Sall and Youssou Ndour incl.)

​

• In 2011, at the end of his 2nd mandate Abdoulaye Wade pushed for a new legislation that would make him able to push for a 3rd mandate and have his good-for-nothing son as vice-president a novelty that the people didn't welcome at all. His former Prime Minister Macky Sall and a lot of opposition political parties and social justice movements, and rappers and Youssou NDOUR (famous singer) banding together and protesting initially peacefully and gradually throwing rocks at the FDS (Forces of Security, police and Constables)

Link Archive Protest Youtube: https://youtu.be/i224i8CTB64
Link Archive Macky Sall Coallition : https://youtu.be/P_wigR7JFYY

• Macky Sall was appointed leader of the movement, and toured Senegal to present his ideas. Despite his opposition to Wade he never suffered persecution or attacks by police forces or any other charges by the justice system. However Dirty Politics was Macky Sall never physically suffered and had his constitutional rights respected. [Remember This it's relevant in 2023]
• Occasionally he would be pelted with pebbles by some people that were against his ideas but never by the police or any other FDS.
• Ultimately Abdoulaye Wade would give up and lose the election and leave graciously without anything in fact the police forces allowed the protesters to walk freely up to the gates of the Palais Presidentiel.

Hopes, Justice, Regrets and Embezzlement of Funds

• In Macky Sall, Senegalese people had high hopes, not so charismatic a leader he had a humble upbringing which inspired hope. He had worked under the previous govt and had extensive knowledge of the populations suffering, the poverty and nepotism.
• He would go on to track the people that embezzled funds under Wade's presidency : La traque aux biens mal-acquis which recovered 200 Billions of CFA Francs (305 millions euros) in 2012 according to Macky Sall's prime minister of the time Aminata Toure

Dynasty Faye-Sall, War of Gains and Scandalous Deals (Petro Tim Oil & Gas)

Then slowely but crescendo new names started popping in the government, branded as the FAYE-SALL dynasty : Macky Sall, his wife Marieme Faye and the in laws Aliou Sall and Mansour Faye.

• A war of opportunities between Aliou Sall, brother of Macky Sall and Marieme Faye, the first lady.
• Petro Tim $10 Billion Scandal Sunu 400,000
• Aliou Sall would make the news for signing scandalous deals mainly the Petro-Tim Scandal for embezzling 10 billion dollars (from here on out we will be talking in dollars because the amounts are ridiculously high). He would be accused of corruption, fraud, embezzlement, money laundering and criminal association. A report by BBC and Africa Eye states that Alious Sall had also been by Petro Tim through a fictive company that he owned.
• In a statement**, Ousmane Sonko called the senegalese youth to demostrate against these scandals until appropriate measures are taken**. Another revelation of the report was the takeover of Franck Timis' group's stake in 2017 by British Company BP. Timis Corp is a firm run by Romanian-Australian tycoon Frank Timis. According to the BBC report BP had agreed to pay Timis $10 billion in royalty payments for its stake in the two blocks. Senegal's offshore oil and gas reserve have the potentiak to transform the country when they begin flowing in the next decade with volumes expected to rival some of the region's biggest producer.
• A campaign started online in which every citizen claim they are entitled to at least 400,000 CFA ($653 usd) from each of the payment that Aliou Sall received with the catchphrase << sunu 400,000>>
• Despite all of that, the judge would squash the procedure rather quickly, it helps to have your brother as president.
• Mansour Faye, The Arrogant Baron (SDE - SEN'EAU / COVID 19 Funds)
• Mansour Faye has a reputation of being a vindictive and arrogant public figure. He will first be remembered for signing a contract for water distribution through SEN'EAU with french company Group Suez killing in the process local company Sénégalaise Des Eaux (SDE) a company that oversaw the water distribution for decades.
• Mansour FAYE is also mentioned in the Cour des Comptes report regarding the misuse and embezzlement of the Covid 19 relief funds. The covid 19 relief funds was of 1000 billion CFA FRANC (over $1.6 billion USD)
• Mansour Faye's daughter studied in the US and came back portrayed as a model for the youth with her ranch and agribusiness which is an insult to the senegalese citizen who can't even afford school fees in some part their own country let alone own land and get a degree in the US. A nepobaby fed with nepotrustfunds and nepoland to build her nepomoney paid business. She said : << you shouldn't be afraid of failure>> easy to say with billions in the bank.

See here the BBC documentary that angered the Senegalese citizens: https://youtu.be/1TAN6PsxKAc

• Mansour Faye will also have some of the harshest comment when several fatal car crash happened in early 2023 in which 63 people died in 8 days. In light of the lack of regulation, the state of the roads and the laissez-aller in the transportation industry, many asked for his resignation in which he would coldly reply : << To the people expecting my resignation, they will need more stamina>>

See video here: https://youtu.be/eS8UV8EtykQ

• Which only proves their lack of empathy towards the citizens they are supposed to serve. One thing that is very common with the entire dynasty Faye-Sall is the disdain, and hatred toward the suffering and needs of the senegalese citizens.
• When people asked in 2021 for better roads and that the tollgate highway was expensive. President Macky Sall replied that: <<It is what is. If you want to drive on fancy road with no plot holes you pay and you use the tollgate highway. But we have an alternative which is the RN1 (National Road)>>

see video here: https://youtu.be/r4DHowh8KLo

• And I can't think of the countless lawsuits for defamation against anybody that tried to expose their true natures. Mansour Faye is very fond of lawsuits and has had a few in his arrogance and power he seems out of touch with reality.
• Whenever addressing the nation he would do it in a patronizing and arrogant way, so much so some people do not listen and would just read the ministry's tweets.

The others (Moustapha Niasse, Youssou Ndour, Mame Mbaye Niang...)

• As mentionned earlier Youssou Ndour was part of the coalition and protesting alongside Macky Sall against the 3rd mandate of Abdoulaye Wade. Youssou Ndour was in fact a candidate for the election but his candidacy was invalidated because his taxes. Youssou Ndour was not a law abiding tax paying citizens according to reports of that era.
• Taxes that he never proved having paid, he would later join Macky Sall's government as Minister-Adviser. Yet another nepo-position in which he will bask in even more riches and allegedly not paying his taxes.
• The most notable thing about him is how loud his silence is regarding every protest against the current regime, in 2021 and 2023.
• You can see him in this video actively protesting in 2011 along with the M23 movement: https://youtu.be/H0hZhNKLUXg
• Moustapha Niasse, the political dinosaur born in 1939 he has been invested in politics as early as 1970 and has been part of every government since. Nothing notable about him beside him clinging to a hope of becoming president he has always been at side of the regime even when the regime is unjust and flat-out wrong. Nothing to say beside good riddance in September 2022 his term as President of Congress ended. He will be remembered for turning the Congress into a shitshow where legislation from Macky Sall passed as will.
• Mame Mbaye Niang the good-for-nothing turned billionaire he was a protestor in 2011 you can see him here protesting at the gate of congress (the coward in brown shirt and jeans who fled when the cop came close) : https://youtu.be/nklxXTZF_no
• A report by the IGF (General Inspection of Finances) revealed how funds have been embezzled once again by a small group of political figure in which we count Mame Mbaye Niang (then minister of Youth, Employment and Infrastructure) and his close friend Ibrahima Cisse; The funds amount to over $800,000 USD (517,864,401 CFA Francs) for the PRODAC project which earned him the nickname Mbaye Prodac. A project that should have created 180 000 jobs provided only 1500 between 2014 and 2018. Coincidentally Mame Mbaye Niang became a billionaire in the same period.
• Ousmane Sonko would go on to make that report public by accusing Mame Mbaye Niang of stealing from the State and the citizen. A deficit of 178,500 jobs from the PRODAC project is beyond criminal knowing that Unemployement Rate of the active population in 2018 was of 14,3% according to the National Statistics Agency (ANSD)

The Claws of France gripping harder

• Between 2012 and 2023, the arrival of French companies surged to a new high with Auchan and Carrefour competing directly with local businesses at lower prices due to allegedly lesser taxes, SEN'EAU killing SDE for water distribution.
• Major civil engineering projects being given to french companies such as Eiffage. In fact EIFFAGE, ALSTOM, SYSTRA and SNCF together built the TER (Train Express Regional) an airport rail link of only 36km for the first part already built for the price of over $1 billion USD (656 billions CFA) a project the government is really proud of.
• The project is putting Senegal in even greater debt since Senegal only funded the project with 142.5 billion cfa and 3 loans from La Banque Islamique de Développement (196 billion CFA), l'Agence Française de développement et le trésor français (196.5 billion CFA) and la Banque Africaine de Développement (120 billion CFA)

Harder Living Conditions

• With inflation, soaring prices of virtually everything such as housing, house essentials, food, transportation and gas...
• Under equipped school with huts as classrooms in some remote region of Senegal Abris Provisoire au Sénégal
• The NGO workers are gentrifying Dakar these people who are supposed to work socially on topics of poverty, are the one actually escaping poverty they are in Dakar partying spending lots of money in places raising significantly the cost of leaving.
• Under equipped hospitals with aging/failing equipment as in Kedougo where a small outpost with barely nothing it's not covid 19 that kills people rarther illnesses that can easily be cured in bigger cities such as malaria, transport of patients is also a huge challenge with patient being transported to bigger hospitals 200 or 300km away with no ambulance rather horse-drawn carts. The same problem in several regions of Senegal. In contrast, the political figures leaving the country every now and then to get medical treatment in France or the US. A symbol of their own failure in building anything important in this country.

The Rise of Ousmane Sonko

• Ousmane Sonko is a former Chief Tax Inspector in Senegal and advocate for reformation of the Senegalese Tax System. He was fired from his position as Chief Tax Inspector for being a whistleblower in many cases of fund embezzlement of High Profile Politicians (Aliou Sall, Mame Mbaye Niang...)
• He would go on to engage in politics and became the youngest candidate to run in 2019 at 44 years old. He rose to fame in politics among the youth due to his credentials as chief tax officer and the overall ethic in his work as mentioned by many of his former colleagues. A man who turned down bribes from the biggest companies in the countries and focused on his duty. The narrative is beautiful and confirmed itself as years passed and people learned more about him. He finished 3rd in 2019 as a newbie in politics.
• An even bigger achievement when you learn about the vote manipulation in the 2019 elections as exposed in Story Killers with the employment of Team Jorge a disinformation for hire company. Ousmane Sonko was victim of gigantic smear campaign with fake documents and false claims.
• See the documentary titled : #StoryKillers: A deep dive into 'Team Jorge', the disinformation mercenaries operating worldwide
• With Ousmane Sonko rising to be the candidates of the youth (over Half of the senegalese population) several attempt at destroying his reputation took place, he would be labeled a liar until the LGE, IGF and BBC report are published.
• Ousmane Sonko became Congressman made fierce speeches in which he called out the disrespect towards Senegalese citizens by which the congress dealt with important matters. Congress was a place of chit-chat and arguments where the political affiliation was the only thing that mattered to any of the parties involved and occasionally throwing hands (fighting)
• He also authored a book called Solutions in which he advances many ideas to push this country forward, economically and socially with an emphasis on education, economy, health and employment.
• Mame Mbaye Niang would accuse him of defamation in the PRODAC case;
• He also exposed the excessive cost of the TER Project.

Macky Sall's 3rd Mandate, Sonko-Adji Sarr, 2021 Protests

• Macky Sall' 3rd Mandate
• Macky Sall is ineligible to a 3rd successive term as stated in the Article 27 of the constitution of Senegal "Nul ne peut faire plus de 2 mandat consécutifs"
• Macky Sall served a 1st term of 7 years from 2012 to 2019 but in 2016 a referendum took place in which the presidential term would go down from 7 to 5 years. Taking effect after his first term in case he get re-elected.
• Having nearly served his 2nd Term 2019 - 2024 (we are in 2023) he eluded a 3rd term trying to loophole his way into a 3rd term using the Article 27 claiming that it's his first mandate of 5 years. Which is wrong the Article 27 existed way before the 2016 referendum and it is explicitly states that no-one can do 2 more than 2 successive term.
• Curfew and Police Brutality
• In 2020 mask mandate is effective and a curfew is established, which made life very difficult for workers who had to commute. The police officers used extreme violence to enforce it. Beating people who were out at curfew with sticks making them crawl on the floor. While the population suffered inside, the rich politicians and their family hosted private parties outside
• When the first Vaccines arrived in Senegal, the first Lady Marieme Faye hosted a private vaccination party at her residence with no respect of masks or crowd control this angered people
• That was the last straw people started burning tires and protesting for the removal of this stupid curfew which they are the only one to suffer from
• Additional context: In Senegal a lot of houses don't cook dinner they buy porridge to local (diaykatou fondé/thiéré/thiakri) that sell at night from 8pm to 12pm. These cheap porridge is what feed lots of people in poor neighbourhood a bowl filled with nourishing food for 100 to 200f cfa. Some houses are overcrowded with over 20 individuals in a 2 story building during summer these people stay outside with their friends and relatives there is a sense of community and togetherness. They only leave for bedtime. The houses cramped and it gets really hot in the summer (up to 35° c / 95°F)
• Sonko-Adji Sarr
• In 2020, during the Covid 19 pandemic, Ousmane Sonko is accused at first of Rape with Threats at gunpoint by a worker at a massaging place he is a customer of. He says it's a conspiracy to make him ineligible for the 2024 elections in which Macky Sall want to be part of.
• Then discrepancies started growing, the medical examination disproved any trace of sexual violence, the officer (Captain Touré) to which the complaint was filed smelled a political conspiracy and fled. Adji Sarr the alleged victim is first believed by a portion of the population but as she goes from reporter to reporter saying different things here and there the growing sentiment of empathy turned to disdain because to many she was definitely lying.
• The case would be ongoing for 2 years 2020 to 2023 and Sonko would be proven non guilty on the counts of Rape and Death Threats since no proof or witness were presented. Everybody that went on to speak would disprove in a way or another the claims of Adji Sarr. The medical official, the officer and her coworkers, boss and his husband. BUT despite all of this Ousmane Sonko is sentenced to 2 years of prison for "corruption of youth".
• Throughout the case, Ousmane Sonko has been held at home by the police not letting him go out, he was kidnapped twice by the police while he was touring the country and forcefully taken home and every supporter of Ousmane Sonko has been labelled a terrorist or an MFDC member.( A very dangerous claim that could turn this conflict into an ethnic war. The southern people are remarquable people and the stigma of separatism they are labeled with could be very dangerous.)
• Protest erupted in march 2021 which beyond Sonko's mistreatment was a protest for everything that is wrong in the country like the Gilets Jaune in France. The police started shooting live rounds, one victim in particular Cheikh Wade is shot in the while he waved his senegalese flag by a police officer in Parcelles Assainies (Dakar) the 2 day protest would make 14 victims, 14 civilians killed.
• Mansour Faye would go on to declare that "Occult forces" are responsible of the 14 dead civilians.

Amnesty International Article : https://www.amnesty.org/en/latest/news/2022/03/senegal-one-year-after-march-2021-families-demand-justice

2023 Protests

After sentencing Ousmane Sonko to 2 years of prison, he is at first kidnapped while he travelled back home from Ziguinchor occasionally touring the country ,held at home and the people are out protesting to end this masquerade, for Macky Sall to either leave Sonko alone and finish his 2nd term or to leave the country altogether.
There's already 600 political prisoners before the protest.
The police shot live rounds, beat up and runned over several people.
And a new type of tear cas that can blow your limbs.
The people are fighting for a better future. Macky Sall doesn't care about Senegalese people. Senegalese so desperate for a better future that many died at sea on shipwrecks trying to reach europe on rafts or canoes.
In 2019, 210 senegalese people died in the mediteranée trying to reach europe because there's nothing left of hope of a better future in thish country, in novembre 2020, 414 senegalese people died at sea trying to ge to europe according to IOM
The 2023 protest showed an escalation of violence from the police, the constables and the 'nervis' these paid militias that have gone increasingly violent with machetes and semi automatic rifles and handguns. Fighting along side the police they have killed 28 people officially many were shot.
The Freedom to tour the country that Macky Sall was offered by Abdoulaye Wade is what Macky Sall is denying Ousmane Sonko.
The 3rd mandate that Macky Sall thought for is what he is denying us all.
Abdoulaye Wade never asked for the police to shoot at civilians, under his presidency killing in broad daylight wasn't a thing, he may have been a bad tyrant but Macky Sall infinitely a hating arrogant good for nothing that is acclaimed as Political Genius a lapdog if anything.
A warzone atmosphere against unarmed civilians.
The government issued an order for the internet to be cut off
Everybody is using vpns to keep the outside informed. Today, June 4th the mobile data were cut off only wifi network worked in order to keep protesters at home.
A terrible rumour that spent chills down my spine earlier today a senegalese citizen called on live tv saying he saw DEAD BODIES IN REFRIGERATED TRUCKSS BEING THROWN AT SEA near the Diamalaye Beach. The senegalese citizens are enquiring about it. Some people have confirmed through text but I am yet to believe it until photo or video proof is shown. We are talking about mass execution I will not believe it until I see proof of it.
This a very long and tedious thing to write and I'm doing it because I am afraid the Senegalese people will be cut off from the world and die in the dark.
The sound of an entire nations going silent is something I have witnessed once and I hope I never do.
ECOWAS took a neutral stance may the wrath of God be upon them.
For once in my lifetime I wish for Military Coup if it means the killers will be stopped. Please save the longest lasting WEST African democracy.
Please Spread the word under #FreeSenegal. A senegalese fearing for his freedom.

What Happened?

• PAGASA formally declared the start of the rainy season in PH Manila Times
• PH government launched the eGov PH Super App, a one-stop shop platform for national and local government services that will streamline processes and transactions and bring ease of doing business Philstar
• GCash expands to UK, France, Germany, and Italy GMA News
• Bureau of Animal Industry (BAI) said vaccine against African Swine Fever (ASF) was proven effective from the clinical trials in six farms in Luzon GMA News
• PAGASA said expect around ten to 15 tropical cyclones to hit the country from June to October CNN
• DSWD said beneficiaries of the government’s food stamps program would be required to get enrolled in the job-generating programs of DOLE and TESDA GMA News
• Cebu City created a special body tasked to supervise and regulate motorcycle taxis, locally known as “habal-habal,” which continue to thrive as a means to avoid traffic congestion Inquirer
• Philippines receives over 390K bivalent COVID doses from Lithuania Philstar

World

• Tanzania declares end of deadly Marburg virus outbreak GMA News
• Archaeologists in Armenia unearth a Bakery complete with 3,000-Year-Old Flour Smithsonian
• China accuses US of ‘provocation’ after near collision of warships CNN
• Philippines and Singapore signed a humanitarian assistance and disaster relief (HADR) agreement Manila Times
• Experts warn against rapidly changing bird flu virus Manila Times

Extra

• When Life Gets Busy, Focus on a Few Key Habits Harvard Business Review
• Tim Cook uses a 1-sentence mantra to process criticism—without it, he ‘wouldn’t be able to function’ CNBC
• How to Break Up with Your Bad Habits Harvard Business Review
• 67-year-old millionaire regrets not teaching his kids these 6 top money lessons when they were young CNBC

Read today's newsletter here

Thanks for reading Kape at Balita!

Subscribe on my email newsletter for free for daily relevant news

I had a huge fight with my wife last night. I have a new relationship of 2 months now next to my wife. Last week i had sex with my girlfriend and the condom broke which we didn't noticed until it was too late. Currently she isn't using any birthcontrol because of "reasons", both a understandable one and personal choice of hers that i don't really understand but respect none the less. She is together with her doctor currently looking into a hormoneless non IUD solution because she doesn't feel comfortable with those. Anyway, after our mishap she a morningafter pill the very next morning despite her knowing she'd be very sick the next few days but it being worth it. My wife initially responded well to the news of the mishap because we have an agreement that this is a risk we knowingly take everytime we have sex with our other partners. However she started freaking out when i learned that my girlfriend was supposed to ovulate 2 days after the mishap and immediately started demanding me to not stick my you know what into you know where until my girlfriend started using either a birthcontrol pill or IUD even though we've had a previous agreement which i honored when was off birthcontrol when we were trying to get pregnant of our son and she was only using a condom (which also broke one time and i was stressed she would get pregnant she'd of her boyfriend instead of me her husband. Any other form of birthcontrol is off the table for my wife. I spoke about this with my girlfriend and she now feels pressured by my wife and she doesn't want to be put into that situation, which i can understand. However we agreed to hold off on penetrative sex until she explorer all options of birthcontrol acceptable for her. But there is a chance that there won't be one until she can savely start taking hormones again. She doesn't know right now when that moment will be. And for us personally not being to fully have sex in the longer run will be detrimental to our relationship. I talked to my wife again after my discussion with my girlfriend and told my wife how my girlfriend feels, but she's hammering down on her demands and our discussion spiraled out of control into a big fight and she even started threatening me with divorce and her taking out her IUD and start getting pregnant with her boyfriend.
I really feel being put on the the choppingblock with both hands and having to choose which to cut off. Ofcourse i'll choose for my wife and child but there's a good chance there'll be a lingering resentment between us. I feel lost.

What Happened?

• PAGASA formally declared the start of the rainy season in PH Manila Times
• PH government launched the eGov PH Super App, a one-stop shop platform for national and local government services that will streamline processes and transactions and bring ease of doing business Philstar
• GCash expands to UK, France, Germany, and Italy GMA News
• Bureau of Animal Industry (BAI) said vaccine against African Swine Fever (ASF) was proven effective from the clinical trials in six farms in Luzon GMA News
• PAGASA said expect around ten to 15 tropical cyclones to hit the country from June to October CNN
• DSWD said beneficiaries of the government’s food stamps program would be required to get enrolled in the job-generating programs of DOLE and TESDA GMA News
• Cebu City created a special body tasked to supervise and regulate motorcycle taxis, locally known as “habal-habal,” which continue to thrive as a means to avoid traffic congestion Inquirer
• Philippines receives over 390K bivalent COVID doses from Lithuania Philstar

World

• Tanzania declares end of deadly Marburg virus outbreak GMA News
• Archaeologists in Armenia unearth a Bakery complete with 3,000-Year-Old Flour Smithsonian
• China accuses US of ‘provocation’ after near collision of warships CNN
• Philippines and Singapore signed a humanitarian assistance and disaster relief (HADR) agreement Manila Times
• Experts warn against rapidly changing bird flu virus Manila Times

Extra

• When Life Gets Busy, Focus on a Few Key Habits Harvard Business Review
• Tim Cook uses a 1-sentence mantra to process criticism—without it, he ‘wouldn’t be able to function’ CNBC
• How to Break Up with Your Bad Habits Harvard Business Review
• 67-year-old millionaire regrets not teaching his kids these 6 top money lessons when they were young CNBC

Read today's newsletter here

Thanks for reading Kape at Balita!

Subscribe on my email newsletter for free for daily relevant news

What Happened?

• PAGASA formally declared the start of the rainy season in PH Manila Times
• PH government launched the eGov PH Super App, a one-stop shop platform for national and local government services that will streamline processes and transactions and bring ease of doing business Philstar
• GCash expands to UK, France, Germany, and Italy GMA News
• Bureau of Animal Industry (BAI) said vaccine against African Swine Fever (ASF) was proven effective from the clinical trials in six farms in Luzon GMA News
• PAGASA said expect around ten to 15 tropical cyclones to hit the country from June to October CNN
• DSWD said beneficiaries of the government’s food stamps program would be required to get enrolled in the job-generating programs of DOLE and TESDA GMA News
• Cebu City created a special body tasked to supervise and regulate motorcycle taxis, locally known as “habal-habal,” which continue to thrive as a means to avoid traffic congestion Inquirer
• Philippines receives over 390K bivalent COVID doses from Lithuania Philstar

World

• Tanzania declares end of deadly Marburg virus outbreak GMA News
• Archaeologists in Armenia unearth a Bakery complete with 3,000-Year-Old Flour Smithsonian
• China accuses US of ‘provocation’ after near collision of warships CNN
• Philippines and Singapore signed a humanitarian assistance and disaster relief (HADR) agreement Manila Times
• Experts warn against rapidly changing bird flu virus Manila Times

Extra

• When Life Gets Busy, Focus on a Few Key Habits Harvard Business Review
• Tim Cook uses a 1-sentence mantra to process criticism—without it, he ‘wouldn’t be able to function’ CNBC
• How to Break Up with Your Bad Habits Harvard Business Review
• 67-year-old millionaire regrets not teaching his kids these 6 top money lessons when they were young CNBC

Read today's newsletter here

Thanks for reading Kape at Balita!

Subscribe on my email newsletter for free for daily relevant news

Hi /Hershey ,
Recently, Reddit has announced some changes to their API that may have pretty serious impact on many of it's users.
I myself have used Reddit is Fun for many years now and in solidarity am planning to join other subreddits in light of recent news.
What's Happening
Third Party Reddit apps (such as Apollo, Reddit is Fun and others) are going to become ludicrously more expensive for it's developers to run, which will in turn either kill the apps, or result in a monthly fee to the users if they choose to use one of those apps to browse. Put simply, each request to Reddit within these mobile apps will cost the developer money. The developers of Apollo were quoted around $2 million per month for the current rate of usage. The only way for these apps to continue to be viable for the developer is if you (the user) pay a monthly fee, and realistically, this is most likely going to just outright kill them. Put simply: If you use a third party app to browse Reddit, you will most likely no longer be able to do so, or be charged a monthly fee to keep it viable.
Many moderators are going to be significantly hindered from moderating their communities because 3rd party mobile apps provide mod tools that the official app doesn't support. This means longer wait times on post approvals, reports, modmails etc.
NSFW Content is no longer going to be available in the API. This means that, even if 3rd party apps continue to survive, or even if you pay a fee to use a 3rd party app, you will not be able to access NSFW content on it. You will only be able to access it on the official Reddit app. Additionally, some service bots (such as video downloaders or maybe remindme bots) will not be able to access anything NSFW. In more major cases, it may become harder for moderators of NSFW subreddits to combat serious violations such as CSAM due to certain mod tools being restricted from accessing NSFW content.
Open Letter to Reddit & Blackout
In lieu of what's happening above, an open letter has been released by the broader moderation community, and /Hershey will be supporting it.
Part of this initiative includes a potential subreddit blackout (meaning, the subreddit will be privatized) on June 12th, lasting 24-48 hours or longer. On one hand, this is great to hopefully make enough of an impact to influence Reddit to change their minds on this.

Hi everyone! I’m currently a fresh grad student who will go on to work in the investment bank as a programmer (no, I’m not investment bankers, just a programmer)
One of the rules that I heard before is that it is really hard to buy stocks while working, as you have to report to compliance departments, wait for replies, etc which can take times.
My question is, then how do people who work in IB invest? I know that every companies have 401(k) plan, which is more of the retirement savings. Are there any other way people invest, such as buying stocks in other people’s name (which I think it’s illegal still?) or some other alternative methods?
Thank you!
Ps. I’m a fresh grad, so ofc buying a house is not a valid strategy for me right now, especially in NYC :(

I hereby volunteer to document and record all military and political proceedings directly or indirectly involving the Most Serene Republic of Yippee, should our nations current leader, Accomplished Ant, bestow upon me the honorable title of “Minister of Military and Political Events”. If accepted by democratic vote? (I’m not sure how we do that here), I will publish a weekly report on all important occurrences in an easy to read, neat and tidy autism friendly format. Thank you for your time.

Brace yourselves, this is gonna be a long one.
Table of Contents
1…… The Main Goal
2…… What I’m Seeking
3…… Personality
4…… Interests
5…… Physical Characteristics (with pics)
6…… Expectations of You
7…… Living Situation
8…… Deal Breakers
9…… Closing Remarks
(1)
The Main Goal:
Well if you’re browsing this subreddit then much like me, you were alone this weekend and I’m sure you’d like to change that as much as me. I won’t lie, I am going through a rough part of my life right now. It’s difficult for me to find the energy for anything at the moment and I’m just really seeking affection in general, anything that will give me a push. I don’t want to be that person who brings everyone down but I could really use someone to talk to right now. I’d really like to find someone who’s similar to me so much to the point that we do everything together and talk about everything while not having to pretend to be interested. I want someone with whom we can mutually spew our emotions onto and have those feelings reciprocated. Not an emotional punching bag, but an emotional teddy bear to hug and cuddle until everything feels better as many times as we need. There’s people who I’m sure have told you the same, they’ll be there no matter how many times you need the support, no matter how many times the insecurities and bad thoughts come back but they don’t mean it. I will be the exception, I’m not so ignorant to think some nice words and tales of relating to you will magically forever heal whatever ails you then get mad when you seek the same support again. Mental ailments are rarely temporary and I don’t care about someone because they’re perfect, caring about someone means being there no matter how many times they need you to be. It doesn’t feel like a chore, it doesn’t get old, and it never will.
(2)
(2.a)
What I'm Seeking:
I will upfront let you know if I’m clicking better with someone else or if you’re the one, I’m not here to tread the sea of fish or keep my options open, I’m here for one singular person.
(2.b)
Relationship:
A relationship is difficult for me right now, it’s been nearly half a year since I got out of my last relationship and the reasons for it ending are partially responsible for how I’ve been feeling and why it’s so hard for me to seek the comfort I so desperately crave. I will tell you about it but for the sake of not treating the entirety of the internet as my therapist, it’ll be in private. I really need the comfort of intimacy and the warmth of someone who cares. I'm not going to feel better if I just sulk and don’t move on. This is my attempt to get better, I’ll admit I’m not great right now and I don’t expect you to be either. If we can help each other heal, then I’d be more than happy :) A relationship isn’t just being there for when someone’s at their best. Even if a relationship is hard at the moment, I do want a life partner and I don’t want to be alone. Things aren’t going to get easier without you so I don’t want to hesitate. I view my other as an equal, I don’t like categorizing us into specific roles. We take care of each other and treat each other how we like to be treated, whatever that is, it's as simple as that. I don't care if you're "successful" or not, living simple lives with our days filled with love is the ultimate measure of success to me.
(3)
Personality:
(3.a)
On the Surface:
As you can tell I can be rather… stoic but that’s largely due to my current stressors, I truthfully am goofy and fun loving but I just can’t find it in me right now. I want to return to that but without someone to light up my world it’s been difficult to just have fun and enjoy stuff. I’m definitely more introverted, you won’t catch me at any parties or really outside at all. I definitely prefer being home though the occasional outing is not out of the question and one day I’d like to travel to other countries because I think that kind of perspective is important.
(3.b)
The Core of My Being:
I like being a spectator to it all and if we bear witness to humanity burning or its miraculous recovery, I want to watch it with you. I enjoy watching humanity advance, less so when it devolves but I want to watch it to the end nonetheless. I’m both a realist and someone who lives with my head in the clouds dreaming of scenarios or worlds that don’t exist. I’m saying that I enjoy a good narrative and can suspend my disbelief to enjoy something but you won’t catch me refusing vaccines or ignoring blatant facts for the sake of some pseudo science or witch doctor’s remedy. I’m an atheist but I do not rule out existence after death, not because I’m agnostic but because due to the nature of potentially infinite time at some point after how many googol years with a googol amount of 0s after that, something’s bound to replicate your consciousness perfectly at some point. It’s actually a really fascinating topic I like talking about. If infinite time and infinite possibilities exist, does non existence exist? Though that’s an awfully existentially dreadful thought process considering the ramifications of infinite existence and infinite possibilities during said infinite existence. I would say I’m confidently left leaning and I don’t think I could truly get along with anyone right leaning, at least America’s definition of right leaning. Left and right seems to have just become; do people deserve to suffer or do they deserve to live good lives? Being political is not something I expected to become but how can you not be when crimes against human rights are being passed on a daily basis and at the end of the day, everything’s political. Oftentimes I imagine the perfect moment as relaxing with my significant other playing games or cuddling in a cold room under blankets.
I value that special someone above all of the existential thoughts, the bad of the world, the good of the world, they practically become my world. So many worries wash away when I’m with them. I don’t know if that’s the defense mechanism my brain created to not feel bad 24/7 but if it is, I’m currently without it.
(3.c)
Insecurities:
I talk of philosophy and politics here but really I spend most of my time just playing games, watching stuff, and trying to not be sleep deprived. I’m also nowhere near as well spoken, heck sometimes I feel like my speech is broken. I won’t claim to be something I’m not, I sit at home while I complain about the world doing nothing about it wishing I had someone here with me. I’m not noble nor do I really want to be, I have morals I uphold but much like most other hypocrites I acknowledge that my comfortable life is built on the suffering of others without doing anything about it. Why? My sleep problems? Am I depressed? Is that why I have no energy to do anything? Do I just think nothing I could do could help? I can’t nail it down myself, maybe it’s a mix of everything, maybe I’m just a bad person. I have always told myself that if I had wealth I would help people but if I get that kind of wealth will I just become a wealth hoarder who tries to justify my riches as something I earned rather than something given to me through incredibly lucky circumstances? If I do help people is it because I’m a good person or out of guilt? Will I die alone? I feel like I drive everyone away with my clinginess, I get paranoid often and need reassurance often. It’s something I want to work on, something I’ve been trying to work on. Hearing that someone cares about me just never gets old. I value self awareness even if it’s painful.
(3.d)
Socializing:
I’m definitely a socially anxious/awkward mess, especially around strangers. I do feel a large amount of anxiety in public, people can’t tell by looking at my face since I kind of go stone faced in an attempt to block everything out but yeah you’ll notice that if we go out in public. Growing up my pediatrician said I was probably autistic, never got a formal diagnosis so that’s just great. But yeah that explains why I can’t make eye contact with people, I kinda just stare at the ground and avoid their gaze at all costs. A lot of these social struggles go away to a great degree once I know you for a bit but yeah I apologize for how terrible I am at socializing at first. Don’t let my social struggles fool you though, I love cuddling and being close with my person.
(3.e)
Sexuality:
I am a heterosexual male, though I’m not very masculine like at all. I may even be a bit feminine sometimes. Not that I believe any activity or manner of acting belongs to a gender but I don’t know how else to describe it. I’m definitely super affectionate and love it when my partner is too. I am open to dating demi people but I do have a libido so I don't think asexual would work out.
(4)
Interests:
(4.a)
Video Games:
As stated before, I do spend a lot of my time playing video games. It’s been hard lately with me having no energy but I really do want to play more games and have a good time playing them with you! I primarily play on PC though I do have a switch. I’m primarily into platform fighters, roguelikes, open world, survival, and sandbox games. As for single player story games, I enjoy watching them through twitch or youtube but for the most part I don’t play them myself. I’d watch you play them though!
Here’s a list of games we can play:
-Minecraft (Java)
-Risk of Rain 2
-Gunfire Reborn
-Roboquest
-7 Days to Die
-Phasmophobia
-Rust
-Unturned
-Bloons TD 6
-Platform fighters: Super Smash Bros. Melee, Slap City, Multiversus, Flash Party, Fraymakers
Whatever you want to play I’ll give it a shot! I will say that League bores me to death but I’ll play it for you :) I try to avoid MMOs, not because I don’t like them but because of how addicted I can get to them. I enjoy learning games in-depth so MMOs can be a fast track to addiction.
I recently got Kerbal Space Program 2 and ehhh not really worth it right now but hopefully later it will be? I’m super excited for Tears of the Kingdom! In the far off future I’m excited for Rivals of Aether 2 which is a platform fighter releasing in 2024, let me know of your most anticipated releases and I’ll see if I could play them with you!
Also I never got into FPS games but I could totally see myself playing like CoD with you or Escape From Tarkov. Any FPS really, I’m down.
I am a fan of Pokemon but with how things have been lately I don’t know how long that will last. Pixelmon is a common Pokemon mod I play for Minecraft if you want to play that! Also if I say I want to play something with you I mean it but there are often times when no matter how much I want to I'm just drained and can do little more than lay in bed so please don't think I'm making an excuse.
(4.b)
Science:
I really enjoy keeping up with the latest advances in pretty much everything, it could be biology, technology, astronomy, anything! I love seeing progression and I love talking about it! Really I could go on and on about what I’m obsessing about that day. I particularly love technology, ask me for my laptop specs I dare you. When I was little I always wanted to be a scientist of any kind but then insomnia and fear of college stuff hit me like a truck aaaand that’s the end of that dream.
(4.c)
Anime:
You got me, I like anime but I’d like to think my tastes are benign.
Here’s some of my favorites I can list from the top of my head:
- To Your Eternity
- Vinland Saga
- Spice and Wolf
- Re:Zero
- Mob Psycho
- Dr. Stone
- Attack on Titan
- Spy x Family
- My Hero Academia
- Ranking of Kings
- Demon Slayer
Okay I can go on and on but I will say I don’t like pointless fan service and the spamming of cliche anime moments. I mostly enjoy action and anything well animated if it doesn’t have a potato story. Heck Demon Slayer could be my top 3 out of season 2’s animation alone. I don’t watch slice of life often or romance but I would with you!
(4.d)
Misc:
I’m not going to go on and on about the tiniest little things when the main ones are covered but I’ll watch pretty much any show with you and anything really. I like random youtube videos that explain some kind of lore or mystery, sometimes mini documentaries too.
As for food I looove sushi and I’m a sucker for fast food. Okay and candy, definitely candy.
I used to play tennis but haven’t really had the opportunity nor friends to play it with and I’m way too socially anxious to seek it out. Also I will say that when we move to something like discord I type waaaay more casually. I’m not going to expect long paragraphs back and forth like we’re writing English papers for each other, I do enjoy long conversations but seriously don’t worry about having to put the utmost effort into every response, I just like making good first impressions I guess.
(5)
(5.a)
My Physical Characteristics:
I’m 5’8 (172cm), 128 pounds (58kg), with curly brown hair and blue eyes. I like keeping my hair long in the winter and cutting it in the summer. I’m pretty slim in general so if you’re looking for someone large, that’s not me. I don’t work out but my work is pretty physical so at least I’m not totally inactive. I don’t have the urge to work out or gain muscle but I do want to maintain my slim figure so if I start losing control of that I’ll work out. I like to keep my face shaved because I don’t think I look good with a beard/mustache so if you’re into those I apologize. I have an average amount of body hair? I’d prefer to be completely shaved but it’s easy to lose motivation with that battle, if you prefer shaved then I’d have no problem complying. Anyways here’s what I look like: https://imgur.com/a/MZZgf2t
(5.b)
My Physical Preferences:
Having physical preferences makes me feel shallow, if I could make myself not have them I would but unfortunately that’s now how that works. I don’t care if you’re shorter or taller than me and I don’t care if you weigh more or less than me. All I ask is that you’re slim-average weight. I would never ask for someone to be something I’m not. I don’t care about tattoos or piercings.
(6)
Expectations of You:
I am not looking for someone “exciting” or someone to “keep me on my toes” I’m not looking for someone to cater to my every whim or anything like that. I don’t care if you’re “boring” or if you aren’t “successful”. I know it’s a common thing for people to not want a “boring” relationship and to seek something argumentative or something with constant challenges but I just want to be with you. During the exciting times, the boring times, and everything in-between, all of it will be great with you! Maybe we do argue sometimes or maybe there will be challenges but that will never be something I purposefully seek out and I don’t want that to be something you seek out either. I will not play tricks on you and I will not play mind games, I expect the same from you. We all have personal measures of success we may or may not have lived up to but what I care about most is our commitment to each other. If we have each other we can get through tough times, near the ends of our lives I want us to look back and feel that this life together was worth more than anything. That’s not saying I want us to be haphazard, I don’t want us to make poor decisions for the sake of yolo and I want us to always be rational, especially with each other. I want you to be someone I can trust to make decisions and weigh the options with a level head, I’ll try my best to live up to the same for you. Most of all I want empathy, understanding, someone to feel the utmost comfort and trust in.
(7)
Living Situation:
Currently my life is pretty relaxed, I work 3 times a week as a night shift stocker. I currently live in a 2 bedroom apartment with my roommate but we’re looking to move into someplace larger by the end of the year if everything works out. The internet is weirdly great for Ohio too like I have fiber and later this year we’re supposed to be getting dedicated fiber so that’s neat. I’m not attached to Ohio so the ultimate goal living location wise is probably moving to a country that won’t send you into a lifetime of dealing with the repercussions from one medical emergency.
(8)
Deal Breakers:
Might as well make this simple and make it a list.
- Anti-vaxxers
- Unironically believing astrology
- Right wingers
- Hard drugs (occasional 420 and alcohol is fine, may even join you)
- Wanting children, there was a time when I was younger when I wanted children but with the state of the word that’s a definite no and I feel like I wouldn’t be able to handle the stress. I’d love a stress free life with as much time with you as possible.
- Homophobic
- Transphobic
- Racist
- Super Religious
- Don’t be a bigot and don’t deny facts.
(9)
Closing Remarks:
Well you made it, I was thinking that finding someone I’d be willing to put a lifetime of effort into at least required this much effort. If I think of anything more I’ll update the post. Also about timezones, it really doesn’t matter where in the world you are. I don’t have a sleep schedule and I have most of the week off from work so it really doesn’t matter.
I request that in your response you do put effort into it, it doesn’t have to be anywhere near as long as this but at least enough so I know that you read this and enough about you so I know why you saw potential compatibility. I will seriously read all of it and respond the best I can. I do also request a pic included in your response (sfw please) or one soon after we start talking to prove identity, I’ll send identity proving pics too. As long as this post is up, you can send a reply!

Brace yourselves, this is gonna be a long one.
Table of Contents
1…… The Main Goal
2…… What I’m Seeking
3…… Personality
4…… Interests
5…… Physical Characteristics (with pics)
6…… Expectations of You
7…… Living Situation
8…… Deal Breakers
9…… Closing Remarks
(1)
The Main Goal:
Well if you’re browsing this subreddit then much like me, you were alone this weekend and I’m sure you’d like to change that as much as me. I won’t lie, I am going through a rough part of my life right now. It’s difficult for me to find the energy for anything at the moment and I’m just really seeking affection in general, anything that will give me a push. I don’t want to be that person who brings everyone down but I could really use someone to talk to right now. I’d really like to find someone who’s similar to me so much to the point that we do everything together and talk about everything while not having to pretend to be interested. I want someone with whom we can mutually spew our emotions onto and have those feelings reciprocated. Not an emotional punching bag, but an emotional teddy bear to hug and cuddle until everything feels better as many times as we need. There’s people who I’m sure have told you the same, they’ll be there no matter how many times you need the support, no matter how many times the insecurities and bad thoughts come back but they don’t mean it. I will be the exception, I’m not so ignorant to think some nice words and tales of relating to you will magically forever heal whatever ails you then get mad when you seek the same support again. Mental ailments are rarely temporary and I don’t care about someone because they’re perfect, caring about someone means being there no matter how many times they need you to be. It doesn’t feel like a chore, it doesn’t get old, and it never will.
(2)
(2.a)
What I'm Seeking:
I will upfront let you know if I’m clicking better with someone else or if you’re the one, I’m not here to tread the sea of fish or keep my options open, I’m here for one singular person.
(2.b)
Relationship:
A relationship is difficult for me right now, it’s been nearly half a year since I got out of my last relationship and the reasons for it ending are partially responsible for how I’ve been feeling and why it’s so hard for me to seek the comfort I so desperately crave. I will tell you about it but for the sake of not treating the entirety of the internet as my therapist, it’ll be in private. I really need the comfort of intimacy and the warmth of someone who cares. I'm not going to feel better if I just sulk and don’t move on. This is my attempt to get better, I’ll admit I’m not great right now and I don’t expect you to be either. If we can help each other heal, then I’d be more than happy :) A relationship isn’t just being there for when someone’s at their best. Even if a relationship is hard at the moment, I do want a life partner and I don’t want to be alone. Things aren’t going to get easier without you so I don’t want to hesitate. I view my other as an equal, I don’t like categorizing us into specific roles. We take care of each other and treat each other how we like to be treated, whatever that is, it's as simple as that. I don't care if you're "successful" or not, living simple lives with our days filled with love is the ultimate measure of success to me.
(3)
Personality:
(3.a)
On the Surface:
As you can tell I can be rather… stoic but that’s largely due to my current stressors, I truthfully am goofy and fun loving but I just can’t find it in me right now. I want to return to that but without someone to light up my world it’s been difficult to just have fun and enjoy stuff. I’m definitely more introverted, you won’t catch me at any parties or really outside at all. I definitely prefer being home though the occasional outing is not out of the question and one day I’d like to travel to other countries because I think that kind of perspective is important.
(3.b)
The Core of My Being:
I like being a spectator to it all and if we bear witness to humanity burning or its miraculous recovery, I want to watch it with you. I enjoy watching humanity advance, less so when it devolves but I want to watch it to the end nonetheless. I’m both a realist and someone who lives with my head in the clouds dreaming of scenarios or worlds that don’t exist. I’m saying that I enjoy a good narrative and can suspend my disbelief to enjoy something but you won’t catch me refusing vaccines or ignoring blatant facts for the sake of some pseudo science or witch doctor’s remedy. I’m an atheist but I do not rule out existence after death, not because I’m agnostic but because due to the nature of potentially infinite time at some point after how many googol years with a googol amount of 0s after that, something’s bound to replicate your consciousness perfectly at some point. It’s actually a really fascinating topic I like talking about. If infinite time and infinite possibilities exist, does non existence exist? Though that’s an awfully existentially dreadful thought process considering the ramifications of infinite existence and infinite possibilities during said infinite existence. I would say I’m confidently left leaning and I don’t think I could truly get along with anyone right leaning, at least America’s definition of right leaning. Left and right seems to have just become; do people deserve to suffer or do they deserve to live good lives? Being political is not something I expected to become but how can you not be when crimes against human rights are being passed on a daily basis and at the end of the day, everything’s political. Oftentimes I imagine the perfect moment as relaxing with my significant other playing games or cuddling in a cold room under blankets.
I value that special someone above all of the existential thoughts, the bad of the world, the good of the world, they practically become my world. So many worries wash away when I’m with them. I don’t know if that’s the defense mechanism my brain created to not feel bad 24/7 but if it is, I’m currently without it.
(3.c)
Insecurities:
I talk of philosophy and politics here but really I spend most of my time just playing games, watching stuff, and trying to not be sleep deprived. I’m also nowhere near as well spoken, heck sometimes I feel like my speech is broken. I won’t claim to be something I’m not, I sit at home while I complain about the world doing nothing about it wishing I had someone here with me. I’m not noble nor do I really want to be, I have morals I uphold but much like most other hypocrites I acknowledge that my comfortable life is built on the suffering of others without doing anything about it. Why? My sleep problems? Am I depressed? Is that why I have no energy to do anything? Do I just think nothing I could do could help? I can’t nail it down myself, maybe it’s a mix of everything, maybe I’m just a bad person. I have always told myself that if I had wealth I would help people but if I get that kind of wealth will I just become a wealth hoarder who tries to justify my riches as something I earned rather than something given to me through incredibly lucky circumstances? If I do help people is it because I’m a good person or out of guilt? Will I die alone? I feel like I drive everyone away with my clinginess, I get paranoid often and need reassurance often. It’s something I want to work on, something I’ve been trying to work on. Hearing that someone cares about me just never gets old. I value self awareness even if it’s painful.
(3.d)
Socializing:
I’m definitely a socially anxious/awkward mess, especially around strangers. I do feel a large amount of anxiety in public, people can’t tell by looking at my face since I kind of go stone faced in an attempt to block everything out but yeah you’ll notice that if we go out in public. Growing up my pediatrician said I was probably autistic, never got a formal diagnosis so that’s just great. But yeah that explains why I can’t make eye contact with people, I kinda just stare at the ground and avoid their gaze at all costs. A lot of these social struggles go away to a great degree once I know you for a bit but yeah I apologize for how terrible I am at socializing at first. Don’t let my social struggles fool you though, I love cuddling and being close with my person.
(3.e)
Sexuality:
I am a heterosexual male, though I’m not very masculine like at all. I may even be a bit feminine sometimes. Not that I believe any activity or manner of acting belongs to a gender but I don’t know how else to describe it. I’m definitely super affectionate and love it when my partner is too. I am open to dating demi people but I do have a libido so I don't think asexual would work out.
(4)
Interests:
(4.a)
Video Games:
As stated before, I do spend a lot of my time playing video games. It’s been hard lately with me having no energy but I really do want to play more games and have a good time playing them with you! I primarily play on PC though I do have a switch. I’m primarily into platform fighters, roguelikes, open world, survival, and sandbox games. As for single player story games, I enjoy watching them through twitch or youtube but for the most part I don’t play them myself. I’d watch you play them though!
Here’s a list of games we can play:
-Minecraft (Java)
-Risk of Rain 2
-Gunfire Reborn
-Roboquest
-7 Days to Die
-Phasmophobia
-Rust
-Unturned
-Bloons TD 6
-Platform fighters: Super Smash Bros. Melee, Slap City, Multiversus, Flash Party, Fraymakers
Whatever you want to play I’ll give it a shot! I will say that League bores me to death but I’ll play it for you :) I try to avoid MMOs, not because I don’t like them but because of how addicted I can get to them. I enjoy learning games in-depth so MMOs can be a fast track to addiction.
I recently got Kerbal Space Program 2 and ehhh not really worth it right now but hopefully later it will be? I’m super excited for Tears of the Kingdom! In the far off future I’m excited for Rivals of Aether 2 which is a platform fighter releasing in 2024, let me know of your most anticipated releases and I’ll see if I could play them with you!
Also I never got into FPS games but I could totally see myself playing like CoD with you or Escape From Tarkov. Any FPS really, I’m down.
I am a fan of Pokemon but with how things have been lately I don’t know how long that will last. Pixelmon is a common Pokemon mod I play for Minecraft if you want to play that! Also if I say I want to play something with you I mean it but there are often times when no matter how much I want to I'm just drained and can do little more than lay in bed so please don't think I'm making an excuse.
(4.b)
Science:
I really enjoy keeping up with the latest advances in pretty much everything, it could be biology, technology, astronomy, anything! I love seeing progression and I love talking about it! Really I could go on and on about what I’m obsessing about that day. I particularly love technology, ask me for my laptop specs I dare you. When I was little I always wanted to be a scientist of any kind but then insomnia and fear of college stuff hit me like a truck aaaand that’s the end of that dream.
(4.c)
Anime:
You got me, I like anime but I’d like to think my tastes are benign.
Here’s some of my favorites I can list from the top of my head:
- To Your Eternity
- Vinland Saga
- Spice and Wolf
- Re:Zero
- Mob Psycho
- Dr. Stone
- Attack on Titan
- Spy x Family
- My Hero Academia
- Ranking of Kings
- Demon Slayer
Okay I can go on and on but I will say I don’t like pointless fan service and the spamming of cliche anime moments. I mostly enjoy action and anything well animated if it doesn’t have a potato story. Heck Demon Slayer could be my top 3 out of season 2’s animation alone. I don’t watch slice of life often or romance but I would with you!
(4.d)
Misc:
I’m not going to go on and on about the tiniest little things when the main ones are covered but I’ll watch pretty much any show with you and anything really. I like random youtube videos that explain some kind of lore or mystery, sometimes mini documentaries too.
As for food I looove sushi and I’m a sucker for fast food. Okay and candy, definitely candy.
I used to play tennis but haven’t really had the opportunity nor friends to play it with and I’m way too socially anxious to seek it out. Also I will say that when we move to something like discord I type waaaay more casually. I’m not going to expect long paragraphs back and forth like we’re writing English papers for each other, I do enjoy long conversations but seriously don’t worry about having to put the utmost effort into every response, I just like making good first impressions I guess.
(5)
(5.a)
My Physical Characteristics:
I’m 5’8 (172cm), 128 pounds (58kg), with curly brown hair and blue eyes. I like keeping my hair long in the winter and cutting it in the summer. I’m pretty slim in general so if you’re looking for someone large, that’s not me. I don’t work out but my work is pretty physical so at least I’m not totally inactive. I don’t have the urge to work out or gain muscle but I do want to maintain my slim figure so if I start losing control of that I’ll work out. I like to keep my face shaved because I don’t think I look good with a beard/mustache so if you’re into those I apologize. I have an average amount of body hair? I’d prefer to be completely shaved but it’s easy to lose motivation with that battle, if you prefer shaved then I’d have no problem complying. Anyways here’s what I look like: https://imgur.com/a/MZZgf2t
(5.b)
My Physical Preferences:
Having physical preferences makes me feel shallow, if I could make myself not have them I would but unfortunately that’s now how that works. I don’t care if you’re shorter or taller than me and I don’t care if you weigh more or less than me. All I ask is that you’re slim-average weight. I would never ask for someone to be something I’m not. I don’t care about tattoos or piercings.
(6) Expectations of You: I am not looking for someone “exciting” or someone to “keep me on my toes” I’m not looking for someone to cater to my every whim or anything like that. I don’t care if you’re “boring” or if you aren’t “successful”. I know it’s a common thing for people to not want a “boring” relationship and to seek something argumentative or something with constant challenges but I just want to be with you. During the exciting times, the boring times, and everything in-between, all of it will be great with you! Maybe we do argue sometimes or maybe there will be challenges but that will never be something I purposefully seek out and I don’t want that to be something you seek out either. I will not play tricks on you and I will not play mind games, I expect the same from you. We all have personal measures of success we may or may not have lived up to but what I care about most is our commitment to each other. If we have each other we can get through tough times, near the ends of our lives I want us to look back and feel that this life together was worth more than anything. That’s not saying I want us to be haphazard, I don’t want us to make poor decisions for the sake of yolo and I want us to always be rational, especially with each other. I want you to be someone I can trust to make decisions and weigh the options with a level head, I’ll try my best to live up to the same for you. Most of all I want empathy, understanding, someone to feel the utmost comfort and trust in.
(7)
Living Situation:
Currently my life is pretty relaxed, I work 3 times a week as a night shift stocker. I currently live in a 2 bedroom apartment with my roommate but we’re looking to move into someplace larger by the end of the year if everything works out. The internet is weirdly great for Ohio too like I have fiber and later this year we’re supposed to be getting dedicated fiber so that’s neat. I’m not attached to Ohio so the ultimate goal living location wise is probably moving to a country that won’t send you into a lifetime of dealing with the repercussions from one medical emergency.
(8)
Deal Breakers:
Might as well make this simple and make it a list.
- Anti-vaxxers
- Unironically believing astrology
- Right wingers
- Hard drugs (occasional 420 and alcohol is fine, may even join you)
- Wanting children, there was a time when I was younger when I wanted children but with the state of the word that’s a definite no and I feel like I wouldn’t be able to handle the stress. I’d love a stress free life with as much time with you as possible.
- Homophobic
- Transphobic
- Racist
- Super Religious
- Don’t be a bigot and don’t deny facts.
(9)
Closing Remarks:
Well you made it, I was thinking that finding someone I’d be willing to put a lifetime of effort into at least required this much effort. If I think of anything more I’ll update the post. Also about timezones, it really doesn’t matter where in the world you are. I don’t have a sleep schedule and I have most of the week off from work so it really doesn’t matter.
I request that in your response you do put effort into it, it doesn’t have to be anywhere near as long as this but at least enough so I know that you read this and enough about you so I know why you saw potential compatibility. I will seriously read all of it and respond the best I can. I do also request a pic included in your response (sfw please) or one soon after we start talking to prove identity, I’ll send identity proving pics too. As long as this post is up, you can send a reply!

I have been married for almost 7 years. I was in a very vulnerable place when we first got together and he became my person. A few months prior to meeting him, I had attempted suicide and lost most of my friends. I was a sophomore in college and I did not have many friends to begin with and it scared people away. I was so lonely and he was the only one I opened up to (after a few months - no emotional dumping) that didn’t turn the other way.
He has always had anger problems. He has never physically been violent with me. His abuse is emotional. I have gone to therapy off and on (currently been seeing my therapist for 8mo) and tried various medication changes. He has a pattern of having an outburst of frustration or passive aggressively telling me something that he wants changed. Once I am defensive, he pushes the argument, won’t let me leave or “take a break”. I get emotional, super emotional. He tells me my feelings are wrong, why what I heard was wrong, how my thoughts are wrong.
It has been this way throughout our marriage. There are seasons of better or worse. Usually the better seasons are when I close up. I don’t feel attracted to him anymore and his random compliments feel pointed to get sex. It’s better to get it over with most of the time because if I say not tonight, he is usually grumpy or overly sexual until I do. I will never forget the time he said I looked beautiful and that he loved my body but then after sex, I was in the bathroom about to shower and he asked if I had talked to my doctor about weight loss.
I have always been heavier since the emotional stress of my suicide attempt but his constant negating comments about my weight, leave me feeling beyond insecure and ugly. I want to feel loved and I want to feel sexy. I have always been scared to leave, I don’t have a lot of other people besides him and financially I would not have been independent.
Over the last two years, we had a baby, I was diagnosed with preeclampsia after having my son which resulted in a stroke and surgery, my dad died unexpectedly, and my place of work is closing. It has been stress after stress and he continues to tell me that he doesn’t understand how I am more sensitive and emotional at times.
I have been working on how I can control my own emotions and feelings and how owning that is empowering. I realize that I am not being fulfilled physically or emotionally by him. I have never cheated on him or even wanted to. I recently crossed paths with someone who is younger than me that I find very attractive. I haven’t fantasized about someone like this since high school. I cannot stop thinking about him. He doesn’t make me feel like I have to be someone different. We have never been alone together and I have no idea if he is interested in me in that way.
I don’t want to be selfish and act on something that could ruin my marriage but I also don’t think he is ever going to change. Again I don’t know if this younger guy is interested in me like that but he has said some flirty things. It could also just be his personality. Being older than him and being married, it is hard to know how much he is interested and if he is, how can I even ask that? I know it sounds terrible to ask how to know if a guy is into you, I know I should be faithful, but I want to feel loved and I want to feel wanted.

Here is the scenario:
I had a permanent crown procedure on my molar (very back, top right, my right) about 8 months ago. Since then, I've been periodically revisiting the dentist with whom I had the crown done and have had my bite adjusted 6 or seven times in total. He told me this was highly irregular. To this day I still feel discomfort when I chew on that side of my mouth and have not fully recovered, there is a lingering tenderness when I bite down on that tooth, and the sensation vanishes upon release. I gave it a lot of time between adjustments too, about 4 - 5 months in between two adjustments at one point, but the tenderness level plateaued and never fully went away. I'm relatively certain of the cause, the crown is still too high and when I compare the molar with the crown to the corresponding one on the other side, the groove in the tooth simply isn't deep enough. I can precisely feel the difference in abrasion from when I tap my teeth together on one side to the other. They did an x-ray of my molar about two weeks ago, and luckily there was nothing indicating decay or need for a root canal.
Having said that, when my dentist stuck the blue paper in my mouth (which he has countless times at this point), there hardly is any evidence of occlusion on the crowned tooth at all. I think this must be a fluke. I really want to try another dentist to see if they can properly address the situation, because I get the feeling that my current one is very unwilling to continue adjusting my bite, as he seems to be impatiently downplaying my issue and constantly questions why I keep coming back. I've only just recently started seeing this dentist as well. I think I'd be okay seeing him for general cleanings and checkups, he is the most convenient dentist for me location-wise and seems pretty reputable all things considered, but for this situation specifically I really want to make an appointment with another professional. Please advise!

I originally just replied to the the post of the guy complaining about engineers being cold and no one wanting to hire graduates. I figured it's an old post now and it got removed by the mods anyway, but I'd like him/her or others feeling discouraged with finding a position in an engineering field to see what I have to say. (As someone who took a while to find a career of my own)
Response to "Why are engineers so cold and unsympathetic":
Why don't you list out what you're currently doing to try to get a career in this field instead of just complaining that you can't? You know, so people can give you advice. You're not hearing what you need to hear because you don't ask (especially when you just whine about it) and no one is going to tell you what you want to hear. I know plenty of people who went through college with me that never found a job in an engineering field. Just having a degree doesn't cut it. Companies don't hire degrees, they hire people. With that in mind, if you can't find a job, it's time to start looking at what you're doing wrong instead of assuming that companies just refuse to hire graduates.
1.) You're getting a "fuck you" attitude from people because you have a "fuck you" attitude. Read your post again and tell me that doesn't come off as entitled. Having a degree doesn't mean you just deserve to get a job with that degree. I spent tens of hours studying for each position I applied for. Treat interviewing like a full-time job. Engineering is a broad field. If you apply to a position you better know exactly what that position entails and be prepared to talk about it in technical terms and relate any experience you have from school, work, life to that position. 2.) Yeah, having internships helps. Students who have had internships have real world experience that hiring managers can drill into to determine if you're a good candidate. Without an internship, what are they supposed to ask you? How well you did group projects? Those people that are interviewing went through college too and they know that half of college is basic group projects that don't really mean anything in the real world. Having multiple internships is even better. It means that you're desirable as a worker because why else would you land multiple internships? Even if it's with the same company, it's proof that they wanted you back. 3.) Cutthroat? Yeah, there's a lot of jobs and an equally lot of people applying to those jobs, including other graduates like you. If people you went to school with are now working in an engineering field and you're still not, just saying it's cutthroat isn't a good excuse. You're vying for a professional job in a STEM field. Did you think you weren't going to face competition for employment? 4.) What stage of the process are you getting stuck at? Are you not even getting interviews? Time to update your resume or work on your skill-sets. Are you not making it past a recruiter? (You've got serious issues if you can't impress a recruiter, especially if they're the ones contacting you initially) It means that after talking to you, they don't even think that you're impressive enough of a candidate to bring to a hiring manager. That's seriously an issue and it means you're either so devoid of any engineering skills or knowledge that they can pick up on it OR you suck at talking to people or presenting yourself as a good candidate. Are you not getting a second interview after the initial interview? Maybe you need to coach yourself on common questions that hiring managers ask in that field or just basic interviewing skills. If you're making it through multiple interviews, you're at the point where it's just a matter of time before you find the right match, but you may need to be applying to more places than you think you are.
I spent an average of 10-20 hours preparing for each position I applied for once I got an interview date scheduled. I watched countless youtube videos of recruiters talking about what they're looking for, hiring managers talking about what they're looking for, coaching myself on questions that I got asked in previous interviews, etc. I'd review the theory behind common skills required for the position I was applying for so that I could talk about it in depth if it came up. I made sure that I could explain everything on my resume, that I could competently talk about what I did during my internships and group projects. I hate interviewing and I don't consider myself a good public speaker, so if you're like me, this isn't optional, you need to be practicing interviewing skills.
Just a caveat, but I did eventually find an amazing position with a great company that I love. Sure, it's a high stress career, but I earn it every day and I've been rewarded for my efforts along the way and I work with an amazing engineering team and an equally amazing manager. In saying that, I did not have a job lined up when I graduated because of personal issues getting in the way at the time. I was delivering pizza, interviewing for engineering positions on my days off, and I hated my life at the time. (There is nothing wrong with delivering pizza, a job is a job and I'm not above it, but it obviously wasn't what I wanted.) While being a pizza delivery driver after college, I remember getting past a second interview, being brought in to a company headquarters, and given a practical knowledge exam where I was grilled on theory and actual specifics of what I'd be doing in that position. I left feeling like I did well, but I did not get the job. I was devastated at the time because I felt like I was so close, but the dream was once again gone and it was back to delivering pizzas the next day. The starting terms of that position was that I was going to join furloughed and the pay was only $54,000 salaried. (This was in the middle of the pandemic) I look back now and laugh that it's one of the best things that's happened to me because of where I am now in my career and life. So if you're feeling discouraged, the only thing you can do is to literally not give up.
Everyone in an engineering career has had a different experience. This is just my experience shared with you. Others may disagree or have their own advice, feel free to share in the comments. I can guarantee you though, that complaining on reddit to a bunch of engineers isn't going to help you get a job. A bunch of engineers in various stages of their career and life that are sitting on valuable advice that could help you if you'd only ask instead of complain.

Just got a Tandem pump less than a month ago. Currently numbers are above 250 and have been for the past 6 hours, no matter how much I correct and control IQ is on. I haven't eaten in those past 6 hours either. This is the second infusion set where numbers went high and stayed that way and insulin didn't seem to be delivered and/or effective. The last time I had to resort to an injection to finally get it to go back down (defeating the purpose of the pump). I know coming to Reddit isn't the same as asking a doctor but given that this has happened twice in 3 weeks, do you think I'm doing something wrong when applying the infusion set or something so that the pump isn't working correctly, or does this just happen sometimes? It seems too frequent for comfort that it's been twice in 3 weeks and it's frustrating.

I’m sorry if this is formatted incorrectly or if I leave out details to not let myself be found out
Back in 05, during undergrad, I met this absolutely wonderful person while we were both RAs in our respective dormitories. For two years we dated on and off and we just somehow couldn’t fully connect. Something always felt off with her. She’d mssg me super amazing things like how amazing I am and such ( how would this not sound amazing to somebody)? Although when in person she’d act strange and sort of aloof.
I always chalked it up to immaturity or being shy. For two years we’d meet up every now and again and sleep together and she’d rush off. I was young so I didn’t want to play that jealousy card and figured she may also just want it to stay casual. Absolutely nothing wrong with that. I felt insanely lucky to even have the opportunity to be around someone who I found so absolutely beautiful. (She had the most perfect skin and piercing blue eyes that I still see in my dreams).
Years would pass after we “ended things” and never saw her again. But every year or so she’d mssg me on fb just to see or let me know she somehow thought of me. Every time all these years I’d also randomly just go back to those few date night that we shared. So it was kind of great to know she somehow thought of me. ( I say this because to me, I’m absolutely a ridiculously hideous man compared to how stunning she is. I’m a 3 compared to her being a literal 10. She was absolutely funny when she opened up and that would make me feel like I was the only one on the earth being able to even sit beside her).
Fast forward two weeks ago and a random mssg popped up on my fb and sure as day it’s her. She indicated that she had another dream about me and that she had to let me know. This time however, I’m currently in a relationship and live with my partner (bought a house together. Even moved to Texas from the Midwest.).
Since I didn’t think anything of it and figured she’d just make her comment and disappear like she always did, I kept the conversation going. Little by little she began stating how she still thinks about why we never ended up together (this was news to me as I always thought she just didn’t want to be with me completely). While interacting I find out she is neurodivergent so she mentions that perhaps while we were together that she maybe thinks that’s why she always seemed to be “off” and why we didn’t fully “connect”. ( I know very little of this so I have no proof and am not judging this comment from her)
This weekend she openly admits she is still in love with me and I was taken back because I basically left all of this behind assuming I just wasn’t enough. She is married with children yet she told me this.
I could never think of even remotely wanting this to be a thing, but I’m mostly just needing to vent because this was so big to me as a 21 year old and now being 40 it’s thrown a huge curve ball at me. I’d never follow through with this or even placate the idea.
I guess my question is, has anyone ever been in this situation and how does your world not shatter knowing a massive what if? My god my brain is running thousand of miles an hour of all those moments I still remember about her. But I don’t want them anymore. How I wish back then it could have been.
I have no one on earth I could talk to about this. And I hate it.
Edit: I will absolutely state I don’t want to be with this person. I never in my wildest dreams think someone would ever openly admit something like this to me. Especially from almost 20 years ago. I must end it. Before this gets worse or blows up to ruin what I have.

If inclined, consider the idea of dunking one’s head face first into a bowl of ice water. One might observer how the body attempts to rectify the situation and the balance in you that comes after controlling the situation, always breathe first in through your nose, out through mouth.
For me, nitrous was a part of my life but it is no more. In nitrous I explored what it meant to asphyxiate, what it feels like to die, what it meant to become less and more unconscious, or how my body was ready to deal with the array of self destructive investigations that day.
In those times when my consciousness went out, only to be clicked back on as the air from my environment (and not the turkey bag with a mouth piece full of nitrous) slowly regained control over the abyss. When the light came back on and in times since under many circumstances, I visualized my child brain which never got to develop right (due to a bitch complication I had breathing difficulties and came out blue subsequently spent weeks in the hospital). In those moments when I come back to awake, it reset the base level circuitry where all connections converge. Forming new connections that I associate with positive and blessing, associations in part thanks to realizations from the dmt plant medicine, a therapist, a caring family, an awesome and supportive spouse, friends, and ketamine.
Since then I realized nitrous scratched an itch in me that I never understood. But as I dug deeper I discovered my subconscious deepest traumas, but it didn’t have to be like that for me if I could’ve found the right information.
Few lessons besides the obviously: Don’t use the compressed oxygen, can lead to permanent damage in the air sacs of your lungs. Once ok but do not incorporate into a habit of “getting higher this time” and it being a needed step.
Stop using alcohol mouthwash, kills good bacteria that make nitric oxide (not nitrous) from nitrites in beets (beet root powder gets the blood flowing btw)
Remember that your body really only knows what the pressure and quantity of cO2 is. The key is really all about partial pressure which isn’t well understood. Your body gets confused before it suddenly becomes aware we aren’t breathing as rapidly as it projected, and if the projection was lazy your breathing rhythm can get super out of whack! Blowing through a straw down into a cup of water is a cheap way to retrain your parasympathetic nervous system so as not to reinforce this new condition as a habit which is enforced with less resistance, (assuming one is inclined to be mixing nitrous with hallucinogenic substances that appear to increase neuro plasticity and perhaps play a role in neuro genesis) given the nitrous ability to release dopamine which is the neural pathway trainer.
Posture matters, be symmetrical, pitch your shoulders inflate your tummy.
Breathing nitrous through your mouth is one of the metabolically expensive parts related to abuse, because of the complex interactions of nitric oxide in your nasal cavalry (among over blood pressure and flow issues caused directly by the effects of the drug)
If you’re not just interesting in turning consciousness down, but simply the bounds of your consciousness, nitrous and dmt in my opinion are on opposite sides of the spectrum.
TLDR: when you’re done abusing nitrous (for the night or for life) simulate the experience you just induced by dunking your head under cold ice water, only rule is first breathe in should be in through the nose. This will help reset your nervous system and breathing, if you mouth breath during the night (wake up with dry mouth) tape your mouth shut for 1-7 days with micro pore tape to train your body.

I'm currently in my second week of a ten week internship for a Navy shipbuilding company and I'm going through kind of a rough patch.
TLDR: I feel like I fell for a trap. I'm paying close to $800 a month for a 3 BR apartment split between 5 guys with no pantry or suitably sized bathrooms. What makes it better is that I don't mesh with them in the slightest. Their personalities are not my type and their sleep schedules are driving me insane.
I'll walk you through how I got where I am. , the internship is 14 hours away from home, and I don't have any family around here nor did I have enough money to get my own place, so I decided to ask the company for help in finding housing for the summer. They said that they hired a company to help provide intern living and that I should contact them for arrangements. So I did--I completed the application and moved forward.
Now mind you I'm a pretty quiet and introverted person in general, and usually pretty paranoid of others too. I have never been comfortable in a living situation where another stranger was involved. I've definitely NEVER EVER been comfortable living without my own room and constantly get overwhelmed whenever I can't find peace and quiet for at least some portion of my day. But this company that my internship had hired only offered arrangements that one way or the other involved having two people share a room, and it was really my only hope for living this summer.
Well I didn't get any information about who my roommates were, which apartment complex they sorted me into, when I could move in, etc. until a week before my move-in date. They sent me a lease on an afternoon near the end of the semester and wanted me to get it done before 4:00 that day.
Fast forward to move-in day, I meet my first roommate and he seems pretty chill. A bit stuck-up but having been in engineering I was used to it and didn't think too seriously of it. I meet my next roommate later that day (this is the one I was going to share a room with) and he seemed really nice but loud. I didn't meet my third roommate until the next day and he seemed incredibly quiet. My fourth roommate was nice and the fifth roommate (who came way later) seemed a bit strange but not too bad.
Well, turns out that all of them have abhorrent personalities and they're not really suited for my taste. I disagree with most of what they believe in on a very personal and fundamental level. I have heard every one of them (except the third, quiet roommate) say very racist things, insult the LGBTQIA+ community, insult each other in very hurtful ways, talk about their girlfriends or girl interests in not super respectful tones, brag about well they do in school, complain about how boring their job as an intern is or how hard their school is, etc etc etc. They hog the kitchen, don't clean their dishes (one of them has left mochi dough and eggshells in there for two days now), and don't go out and do anything out of the house. They sit at home all day or they go to the gym. I'm honestly for none of that and just the sheer luck that I'm paired with such insufferable people is just wow.
We also have to get up somewhat early for our jobs (around 6 AM) and because of this every one of my roommates (especially the one I share a room with) goes to bed around 10. My mind unfortunately does not quiet down until around 11:30 or 12 and so sometimes I'll stay out in the living room, reading or writing or drawing or whatever until I'm tired enough to sleep. Well, the guy I share a room with sleeps incredibly INCREDIBLY lightly (I mean like even the sound of the door opening wakes him up and we have soaked the hinges in WD40) and in the morning will always complain about how little sleep he gets. I have started coming in early and just sitting on my phone for hours so I don't wake him up. And he also doesn't wear headphones or take melatonin or anything. I hate to be this guy, but I will be him--even with you waking up you probably get around 7 hours of sleep, which is PLENTY ENOUGH to go sit at a desk and twiddle your thumbs for 8 hours (which is how our jobs are). I can do it on two hours of sleep and I don't meal prep or work out every day or wake up with the sun and I drink loads of coffee every morning. He tried to lecture us about how we were in our prime time for mental development that we should get enough sleep. Bro come on I'm just here to make money without causing any trouble. I'm not bending my sleep schedule for you.
I have eight weeks left. Only eight weeks. But god these past few weeks have felt so long and I don't know what to do besides suck it up and keep pushing.

Hey guys, I got a condo from SMDC back in 2019 for around 5.5m because an agent said there was a promo where the monthly amortization was only 12k.
At this time, my salary was doubled from 15k-30k. So my mom was pretty excited to invest and we got the good ol sweet talk from an agent.
Anyways, now I’m making around P140k a month. Will that be enough to afford it once I get it financed?
Currently: -25 years old -paying less than 4k for bills -no kids -but, I got a car loan (P27,945/mo.) for 4 years.

I'm currently trying to do the Equivalent Exchange sidequest, where you need to collect different items from npcs in world tour. However, these are usually locked behind mission objectives, like hit with punches 10 times, knock down 3 times, etc. Unfortunately, my character is too strong at this point that the weak npcs get instantly killed before I can get the missions done. Are there any items or ways to lower my damage output, or do I just have to accept my fate and wait for the game to catch up?

Hey yall, I have been wondering on what the cheapest way would be to get 32 channels into my computer and was leaning X32. I have mixed with it live times a many for work but have never used it in the studio. I figured this sub has the most experience with that range of consoles and was hoping some of y’all could let me know your opinions.
I currently have 2 Focusrite L56’s into an Audient ID44 via ADAT to give me 20 tracks but have been having some issues with cracks and pops over ADAT.
Ideally I would like to do 32 channels in one unit. I have seen X32 racks as low as $800 in my area and S16 snakes around $500. I think think they might be the best option to get some more channels but don’t know if it will sound worse than what i’m using now.
Thanks!!

I've had my Mars 3 for a few weeks. Ran calibration prints from 2.5 sec down to 1.6. I'm currently running everything default except the layer height is .035 and bottom layers bumped to 8. My prints are successful but I'm feeling that at 1.75 sec the exposure time is low - seems like a lot of people are closer to 2 sec. I've done some at 2.5 and they were super crisp but really brittle and probably overexposed. Could my printer just work the way it does? It seems like they're semi-consistent in the exposure times but vary from machine to machine.