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Questioning my identity

2023.06.08 17:38 NexusParagon42 Questioning my identity

I'm a 20-year-old male and I've never even thought that I could be anything outside of that because I just never really gave much thought to titles because it always kind of rubbed me the wrong way to be tied down to gay or straight or bi or whatever. I'm just me and I am complex so it won't be summed up in a word.
Though recently I've started to realize that maybe having a word to call yourself and moreover having a community that knows how it feels to be not quite like everyone else might be nice.
So I for basically my entire life have not really liked being called he/him or a boy or anything of that sort and recently it got much more alarming because people started to call me a man since I'm in legal adult territory now and it just feels so wrong. I hate when someone refers to me as a man because it just makes me feel almost slimy, like, “Stop calling me that it doesn't sound right!” But I never really said anything to anyone because I was under the impression that my feeling weird isn't cause enough to tell people to start seeing me differently and I don't want to be seen differently because I'm still just me. But I'm confused and rambling now and I just want someone with more experience to tell me what going on, please. Am I non-binary or do I just have a problem with certain words?
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2023.06.08 17:36 fullofstarlights Struggles with labels - bi v pan

For background, I’ve been bisexual my entire life and labeled myself as such (at least internally) since middle school after I started watching porn. So 20 years at this point. My partner and I recently started a kink and enm journey together, which was like a sexual awakening for me after entering a cis-het marriage and thinking that door was shut forever. When I started exploring my fantasies I realized that I had a lot of internalized transphobia and when I was able to shed that, I’ve come to recognize that I’m just attracted to people, in general, regardless of their gender identity. Aka I could be attracted to anyone (the phrase my husband uses to describe me is: I’m not attracted to everyone but I could be attracted to anyone). I felt it was important to label myself as pansexual on my feeld profile because my liberal self wanted to make it known that I’m not transphobic. It felt political, ngl - like more of a statement of my views on the binary construct than my sexual identity, not sure if that makes sense.
But I’m struggling with this label 😫 I am so attached to bisexual, and I know this might sound dumb but I hate how pansexual sounds. Like I hate saying “I’m pan” because “I’m bi” is so much sexier in my mind. I’m sure plenty of adults who realize they are bi later on life might struggle with moving from straight > bi, so that might be what I’m experiencing. The funny thing is my marriage is currently closed again, so I’m not even sure why this matters to me so much but it does. I do feel like I will tell my kids that I’m pan (when it’s time to have that conversation, which is another thing I’m unsure of how to broach, but that’s a topic for another day), again because I want to recognize my openness to the non-binary.
I wonder how NB/trans folks interpret the bisexual label. Like if to them, they assume that person is only interested in cis humans. And I think that is probably the case for many bisexuals. I wanted to open this up to discussion and hope others can relate, share their views, etc.
One thing, I do prefer the pansexual flag to the Bi one 🤣 I hate purple and really don’t like the bisexual flag (I also LOVE rainbows, so that’s the flag I always wave at parades and such but the flag topic is kinds superficial and just me being particular lol 🤪)
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2023.06.08 17:36 Individual_Mess3929 Metal Gear Remake Concepts Part 1

hese are concepts ideas I had for an Metal Gear (1987) remake which I would dub as Metal Gear Solid 6: Outer Haven. Metal Gear 2: Solid Snake (1990) would be called Metal Gear Solid 7: Zanzibarland. Both games would be long and give a lot of depth on Solid Snake's past and his relationship with Big Boss, Campbell and Gray Fox. Another game I would push for is Metal Gear Solid: The Philanthropy Chronicles.It would allow players to play as Solid Snake and his supporting cast after the events of Metal Gear Solid 2. Snake’s mission to continue taking out metal gears and track down the Patriots along with Revolver Ocelot. It would lead up to the events of Metal Gear Solid 4: Guns of the Patriots. I will be working on Metal Gear Solid 7: Zanzibarland concepts soon.
The concept for a Metal Gear Solid 6: Outer Haven (MGS6: OH):
I know its long as Metal Gear (1987) would have to be a game that is remade from the bottom up. A remake of Metal Gear 2: Solid Snake would be easier since it was a rock solid game. One wouldn't have to change much from it just expand on the story, elements and characterization it has already. I would love to get feed back from fans here.
The storytelling aspect is inspired by how MGS (1998) told its story. The game would start with Otacon, a ghost writer that wrote the novel of Snake’s exploits and those that work with Snake during Operation Intrude N313 telling the events of Metal Gear Solid 6: Outer Heaven to journalist they trust. We learn that Snake is paradon for his crimes and is buried as a war hero next to the grave of Big Boss. Given a Medal of Honor award and other awards from other countries for saving the world several times. The world is now knowing about his story and thus even more interested to learn of Snakes exploits during his youth. David Hayter voice being used as a recorded message from a dying Solid Snake giving accounts on what happened in Metal Gear Solid 6 and 7 along with most of his life. Snake hopes that his message and story will inspire others to be better and fight for what is right.
David Hayter wouldn’t voice a young Solid Snake as I feel a voice actor that is younger but can emulate David Hayter mannerism and his voice should do it. A young Solid Snake having a hint of innocence, nativity, vulnerability and self doubt at times.
David Hayter would voice Solid Snake in Metal Gear Solid 7: Zanzibarland since Snake is supposed to be older and wiser. David would be able to give us this voice range and kick it out of the park including the duel against the real Big Boss.
The year is 1995, the Soviet Union has collapsed and the Cold War is now over. The threat of nuclear war is gone and the world embraces this newfound peace. However, this peace is short-lived as there are those that don’t want it. The world is engulfed with the threat of terrorism and rogue states that want to get their hands on nuclear weapons. The free world is now being threatened once again. The US Government works to combat this threat with its covert U.S. Army unit known as Fox-Hound under the leadership of the legendary war hero known as Big Boss. However, when a government agent goes missing during a mission…The agent last reports a weapon that can shake the foundations of the world known as “Metal Gear”. Big Boss sends in a rookie but talented Fox-Hound agent known as Solid Snake to learn of this new weapon. Will Snake learn the truth about this new weapon or will the world find out what Metal Gear will do if it's unleashed?
Like MGS3 there would be a Virtuous Mission in MGS6:OH.
Main Mission:
This is where Snake goes to South Africa and has to get to Outer Haven which is a vastly HUGE heavily defended base. Potentially the best soldiers and mercenaries in the world work and defend the base. It is an official mission sponsored by Fox-Hound, NATO, CIA, NSA, UN and top members of the US Government. This means Solid Snake gets a load of equipment, gadgets and weapons for the mission.
Gameplay would be a mix between MSG 3 and MSG 4 and MSG 5. It takes influence from other games like Red Dead Redemption, Splinter Cell and Grand Theft Auto video games along with new mechanics. The concept is to give the game a war survival horror like vibe if you’re spotted by the enemy or having trouble surviving in the wilderness.
MSG3 gameplay elements
MGS4 Gameplay elements-
MGS 5-
Splinter cell element-
Grand Theft Auto elements-
New Gaming mechanics -
Snake’s Gadgets/Tools for the main mission where he gets official support
Movie Influence:
Game Music:
Venom Snake/Big Boss:
Supporting Characters
Kyle Schneider
Jennifer Schneider
Drago Pettrovich Madnar
Ellen Madnar
Tech (Original)
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2023.06.08 17:12 divinely_sad My childhood best friend's has the same chart as me except one gate difference.

I'm a 6/2 Projector with 25 gates and 4 channels. I got into HD mayhaps about 6 months ago. I've recently reconciled things with my childhood best friend who I've known since a baby when they were in their mother's womb. Had to step away from the friendship because they had a lot of healing that at the time I could not help with, could not mentally handle, and didn't appreciate how things were at the time. Now they seem to be healing and doing their best, which is amazing. The thing that makes me curious, is that I got their HD chart, and there's literally only one difference in our chart; I have gate 40 and they have gate 64. Everything else is the same. 24 gates, 4 channels, profile. In real life, we were both born female, identify as non-binary but I lean more feminine and they more masculine. There are some differences in our style and taste in sexual partners, but a lot of our mental and emotional issues are the same. And in the friendship dynamic, I've become some sort of... mentor or guide to them. It just sort of happened. But I'll admit that as though the value of my energy is less because the uniqueness of my chart is shared with this person. But also makes me wonder if they and I have a purpose we must fulfill together? What could this mean? And have any of you experienced this before? Having a hard time wrapping my head around it.
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2023.06.08 17:08 soph1ebyrne What is the term for this?

I’m AFAB, I’m non-binary but still feel a very small connection to being a woman.
For example, I would be 98% non-binary and 2% woman.
The terms demi-girl and demi-non binary are really confusing. What one might I be? If I’m any at all? Could I still just be non-binary with a small connection to my gender at birth?
Thank you for reading!
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2023.06.08 17:06 UltraChungus999 19m [relationship] [friendship] hi everybody, nice to meet ya

I hope everyone is doing swell! So, I’m coming on here because not only am I bored beyond belief I have no one to talk to😤😤 SO, guys gals and non binary pals, here are some reasons why you should talk to me I work with kids I’m good with animals (even tamed a wild squirrel) I go to the gym I love hiking I watch anime AND I WRITE
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2023.06.08 17:03 Blitz1293 'Woke' media: it's pros, it's cons, and it's legacy effort(?) Post.

This will mostly be me getting my thoughts out there, and I kind of want to get DGGs opinion on this, because I don't find a lot of people who share my perspective, I feel people as with most things lately, are torn between two extremes and I am somewhere in the middle. I'll be charitable with my definition as I don't think it's inherently bad, but I do think it's important to define it. I would define so called 'woke' media as music, television, movies or any other popular art that has strong or intrinsic progressive themes, or inspiration.
So for instance, Endgame is not woke. It has woke moments but that's really as far as it goes. Contrast that with another movie that I think is great (and I assume most of DGG agrees) and that's Everything, Everywhere, All at Once. It has a very progressive fabric, and clearly the people who made it had a progressive bend. I'm pointing that out because I think that's a fantastic movie, and properties like it are phenomenal, and buck the conservative narrative of "Go woke go broke". Not that I think many DGGers, or Destiny agree with that.
Now let's look at some bad 'Woke' things that came out semi-recently. The one that sticks out to me that is kind of personally upsetting is Rings of Power. I would say RoP wasn't bad because it's woke, it's bad because it's not well written, or particularly well acted or directed. It doesn't have much internal logic, characters are bafflingly stupid, and it's pretentious on top of all that. You could say Galadriel is bad because she's woke, but I would say she's just the female version of thousands of male characters who were supremely competent, and all their obvious flaws were either ignored or treated as strengths. I'm a huge Tolkien buff which is why this one in particular stings, but again I don't think the show was bad because it was woke, it was bad because of a myriad of poor creative decisions. Random Film Talk on YouTube did a pretty thorough breakdown of the shows structural flaws.
The other that always comes to mind that I think is bad EXPLICITLY because of how 'Woke' it is, was The Woman King. This movie is the exact opposite of Rings of Power. It's acted, directed, and shot well, and ignoring the historical inaccuracies, it's written well. However, as someone who is interested in history, this movie is the equivalent of Song of the South, or Gods and Generals. It is so offensively ahistorical it almost seems malicious. It makes heroes out of the slavers, rewriting history to make them seem like scrappy underdogs who were fighting against oppression (they weren't) and also make no mention of other attrocities that were committed by the Dahomey Empire, like FGM. But at least there was loads of girl boss energy. For another example, see Netflix's recent Cleopatra series. Both also engage in a really annoying trend of women only being empowered by basically becoming men. They can't be powerful in their femininity, they have to be masculine.
All that being said, it feels like we are at the peak of this artistic trend. I don't think it will go away, nor should it as I have said I don't think it's inherently bad. But I would also be lying if I said it wasn't getting a little obnoxious. Maybe I'm a little cynical because of how corpratized it's become, which makes it feel insincere.
I'm curious to get DGGs thoughts on this, and what your read of 'Woke' media is. Do you think it's a trend doomed to die? Do you think it will keep going until every character is a strong, non-binary, polyamorous, bi-bracial lesbian? How do you feel about 'woke' themes? Do you agree that it's more about how it's handled on the creators part? Looking forward to hearing your thoughts.
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2023.06.08 16:53 pgbeast If only

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2023.06.08 16:46 aidatoubab Are any of these appropriate for a mid-afternoon cocktail attire ceremony and reception?

Wedding is at 3 pm in a couple of weeks and in the southeast US. The venue is fancy, though the bride and groom are very laidback and likely don't care too much what I wear (venue is MOB's choice). Reception will immediately follow the ceremony. The invitation says cocktail attire but that guests are welcome to dress up further to take pictures around the venue.
Do any of the following options in my closet work?
  1. Farm Rio toucan dress (with heels, pearls, and a navy pashmina/wrap). Too casual?
  2. Vetta jumpsuit in french blue (with heels, fancy jewelry, etc). Too casual? I am not sure the pictures here do it justice. The muted color feels a bit casual, but the fabric is tencel and drapes well
  3. Everlane wrap dress - main drawback is that it's black (though could wear colorful jewelry)
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2023.06.08 16:38 The_Firmament The Use of "Non-Binary"

Hey all! The other day I read something where the author used the phrase, "non-binary orientations," when referring to sexualities like bi and pan. I was wondering if this was an acceptable use of the label?
Personally, I like it as it's a much easier shorthand than spelling out all the sexualities that apply, but I also want to be sure it's not seen as co-opting the word or misappropriating it from how it's used for gender. Is there a consensus? Is this something that's been happening and I'm late to the party? Big no-no?
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2023.06.08 16:38 tr4sh_luc1fer Remade cassidy! They are officially non-binary enjoy <3

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2023.06.08 16:27 PurfectProgressive Trans, non-binary students under 16 in N.B. need parental consent for pronoun changes

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2023.06.08 16:23 Murky_Pea8517 How to find high value younger boys?

Hello, I haven’t had many relationships but recently have wanted to try out the dating field again. I find that many youngers just don’t excite me. They’re immature, progressive, “non-binary”, have some sort of mental problem, or are just straight up liars. Have any other older men felt this? I don’t want to be a sugar daddy or anything like that which it seems like a lot of these boys are actively looking for.
I’ve tried grindr, scruff, daddyhunt, etc… but have yet to find a guy who catches my eye. Are in person events any better?
(Also for those of you who saw my last post I’ve begun to get over him thank you for the advice)
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2023.06.08 16:21 AutoNewspaperAdmin [CA] - Trans, non-binary students under 16 in N.B. need parental consent for pronoun changes Toronto Star

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2023.06.08 16:15 cruiseshipsghg Trans, non binary students under 16 to need parental consent for pronoun changes in N.B.

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2023.06.08 16:09 perplexed_jam Is it a bad idea to test out HRT?

After seriously exploring (therapy, trying makeup, fem clothes, thought experiments, attending pride events, even microdosing HRT) over the last 3 years, I believe I am non-binary/genderfluid.
I can’t stop thinking about HRT, and seeing it as a good thing. I have my doubts, mostly because I do sometimes enjoy my masculine appearance and think I’m handsome, and enjoy some social parts of being male.
But my desire to try HRT and experience femininity is so strong, and I think about it everyday. To me, it seems logical to try a full dose of HRT for a while. Long enough that I experience noticeable changes and breast growth. If I regret breast growth, I can just get surgery. I understand there may be scars or other visual indications, but in my eyes it is worth fully transitioning and then fully detransitioning so I can finally know what feels right.
Is this a bad idea? Am I downplaying surgery or being too loosey-goosey with HRT? Fear of permanent breast growth is the only thing holding me back (even though boobs sound nice). I want all other changes and don’t mind infertility, muscle loss, etc.
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2023.06.08 15:55 AutoNewsAdmin [CA] - Trans, non-binary students under 16 in N.B. need parental consent for pronoun changes

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2023.06.08 15:49 MeDicenSaraTomate I don't understand myself well

Hello, I have a doubt that generates a lot of anxiety and frustration. I am nb, female. Many times I wish I didn't have boobs because they get in the way of my tomboy look, but at the same time I enjoy my boobs during sex or when I suddenly feel like dressing "feminine". On the other hand, I have long hair, but sometimes I get frustrated because I want it very short, but I also like it long. My wife uses my "theythem" pronouns correctly, but in sex I feel like a "she" (my wife calls me "she" only in sex). However, I remember long ago feeling the need to have a penis in sex to penetrate, but now I no longer do. This all creates stress for me because I don't understand myself well, I seem to be a very complex and diverse person, I have even wondered if I am gender fluid, but I know I feel good with the term "non-binary". Does anyone else feel this way?
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2023.06.08 15:40 Shipshow Rebecca Sugar will be performing a few songs live on 6/10/23 (Saturday) for the Infloresce Records charity livestream for trans and non-binary composers

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2023.06.08 15:30 nooriginalideas1 Need some strength

Sorry in advance, this may be a long ramble...
I'm a 40 something woman, who after getting married, having a child and then getting a divorce, is finally finding their true feminist witch self.
When I was married I used to tread on egg shells and didn't stand for myself. Since getting divorced I have realised who he was, and who now I am, and am becoming. But he is my child's father and we are still friends, but I have the strength to call him out now.
Our child (AFAB) is a tween and a couple of years ago said they were non binary. I have tried to support them, embrace who they are, and after a few months of seeing how things were, I now use the name they want to be called, not their birth name, and have made steps to let schools and services know they should use their chosen name for anything none legal.
Their Dad has been against this, says they are too young to know who they are and by agreeing to "all this" I am locking them into it. My child and I have spoken many times about who we are can change as we get older, and if they start to feel female again then their name/pronouns can always change back. Nothing is immovable.
Recently they were pressured into sending some images to someone. They knew they shouldn't but felt threatened to do so. They told a safe guarding officer at school and I was told. Of course I would have hoped they could come to me, but I am so grateful they felt able to speak to someone. Fortunately they sent the images on instant delete/no screenshot possible.
I am supporting my child, and while there are some consequences, such as removal of electronics for a time, I am trying to use this as a learning experience and to build some more trust. We have spoken about never ever sending pictures, and them coming ro me so I can help, but I understand from the messages how scared they would have been.
Thier father is sympathetic to what has happened, but is ultimately treating this as proof they are too immature to make decisions, including about who they are. He never uses their chosen name/pronouns nouns.
I explained that we can feel pressured by people who we feel have power over us into doing things we don't want to do. He said "just call the police" I spoke through several of my lived experiences (names, groping, attempted sexual assaults on me) then had to explain why we don't report most of the time. Had to take him right back to boys pulling hair or looking up skirt and we get conditioned to not say anything after hearing "boys will be boys" for the n th time, or no point as nothing happens.
I need to be strong for my child, and will always be their fiercest advocate, I just feel let down that their father does not feel the same or that part of the battle is against him. It also makes me sad that if things don't change then in a few years my child will want to stop contact, and their father, for everything that he has been told, won't understand why, (ego driven narcissist)
My child has had counselling for a while, so they are being supported by others as well, the counsellor also believes my child has some adhd strains, which I will get refferal for. Dad doesn't belive that either. ("Not at all" possible, despite his nephew and my niece both being on the spectrum and he fully understand genetic implications)
Any words of advice or strength would be greatly appreciated. Sorry, this was probably more of a cathartic rant, but if you got this far, thank you x
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2023.06.08 14:51 heyostrangeworld Best State to Move To

I want to leave Florida because the anti trans bills are awful as well as the book bans and everything but I don’t know what states would be good for me? I am looking for another state to live in because I’m not ready to move countries. That seems a bit too much as a young adult who doesn’t know much to handle.
I am currently working towards my psychology degree and I am going to go to grad school to become a Therapist so 1) this will be a few years so I can finish school and 2) I would like someplace that treats therapists nice and pays them well because I have debts to pay.
Another thing I’m looking for is LGBTQ+ acceptance. I’m non-binary and queer so I would like to have community and not feel like the state is trying to take all my rights away and the rights of people around me like Florida is with the anti-trans and Don’t Say Gay bills. So with that, Probably a blue state or leaning blue state because they tend to be more accepting and I lean towards their beliefs in politics. (I say this to narrow it down not to cause a fight).
I prefer the suburbs (if anyone is like I know a state AND a city/town but I doubt it) and a chill (I don’t care for snow but I get I’ll have to deal with it in most states) but I don’t like heat over 75 degrees (though, again, I’m probably going to deal with it like I do now so these weather things aren’t strict boundaries).
I would greatly appreciate if you had ideas if states in the US and the reasons why you think they’ll be good for me. I’ve tried looking it up myself but I get overwhelmed and don’t actually know more than what the random lists say on stuff about most states because I haven’t been there. If you do choose to help me, thank you! I appreciate it!
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2023.06.08 14:50 mirmir113 Merkabah, probably. Happy pride month!

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