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2023.06.05 06:12 psyopia This show reminds me a lot of The Endless and Resolution (movies)

Both of these are connected movies and they follow a cult who worships this entity which requires them to sacrifice themselves and then they’ll essentially come back in the next loop. It also gives small peaks into the lives of people who just happen to be on the land at the same time where it originally occurred and they get stuck there. Everyone has a different sort of loop too. They’re both really interesting movies. The Endless is follows the cult side of things. Resolution follows 2 friends who just happen to be in the wrong place at the wrong time.
The directors/creators are Justin Benson and Aaron Moorehead. They have some really out there movies. But the more this evolves the more I think of it. Wouldn’t be surprised if a cult like group is running all of this.
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2023.06.05 06:11 Don_Toasty420 I made an alteration on the one going around

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2023.06.05 06:11 Zaragoza14 21 [M4F] Arizona Online Anywhere - Looking for a genuine connection to build

So I’m going to just be blunt this time and say that I’m look for something real and honest with someone I want to get to know you and have late night deep conversations and all that other mushy lovey dovey stuff because I like that 😂 I want to watch movies anime’s or hell just even fall asleep on the phone with you I want someone who’s been craving something that’s genuine and isn’t trying to play with you so if that sounds like you DO NOT HESITATE TO MESSAGE ME. BUT of course I don’t want to scare you I do want to talk and just see if we can get to know each other I’m not crazy I am a vet clingy guy however if you’re a good communicator as I didn’t really have much of it but if you enjoy being around me and I do you then theoretically it should work out 😅
I enjoi all kinds of things like gaming skateboarding basketball drawing i even a one point I liked writing poetry 😂 I love a person who gets excited about showing me their interest hobbies shows and ect I love anime although I haven’t been watching much lately I just want someone who’s interested in having fun in just getting to know each other if I’m being honest I love a person who teaches me stuff it’s really attractive to me 😅
But with most of that out of the way I appreciate you reading this if you did and I hope your day/night is going amazing
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2023.06.05 06:10 Zaragoza14 21 [M4F] Arizona Online Anywhere - Looking for a genuine connection to build

So I’m going to just be blunt this time and say that I’m look for something real and honest with someone I want to get to know you and have late night deep conversations and all that other mushy lovey dovey stuff because I like that 😂 I want to watch movies anime’s or hell just even fall asleep on the phone with you I want someone who’s been craving something that’s genuine and isn’t trying to play with you so if that sounds like you DO NOT HESITATE TO MESSAGE ME. BUT of course I don’t want to scare you I do want to talk and just see if we can get to know each other I’m not crazy I am a vet clingy guy however if you’re a good communicator as I didn’t really have much of it but if you enjoy being around me and I do you then theoretically it should work out 😅
I enjoi all kinds of things like gaming skateboarding basketball drawing i even a one point I liked writing poetry 😂 I love a person who gets excited about showing me their interest hobbies shows and ect I love anime although I haven’t been watching much lately I just want someone who’s interested in having fun in just getting to know each other if I’m being honest I love a person who teaches me stuff it’s really attractive to me 😅
But with most of that out of the way I appreciate you reading this if you did and I hope your day/night is going amazing
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2023.06.05 06:10 Killer0nTheRoad What do Al and serial Killers have in common?

What do Al and serial Killers have in common?
I was just looking for a poster for my room and this popped up
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2023.06.05 06:08 GlobalHornyTraveller 26 [M4F] Edmonton/online - Distract me from the job search

Hey! Like everyone here I'm mostly just looking for some people to chat with for a bit and pass the time however we decided. I am pretty used to internet friends being temporary, but I have made time friends that have lasted years. So if you are into talking regularly, I'm very much down with that.
I recent graduated so am looking around for jobs to try and pay off my student loan I took to go study in Germany for a bit pre covid. After that, I'm not sure if I'm going to go straight into grad school for library/archive stuff, or maybe disappear to Japan for a bit to teach English, or who knows. I recent fell in love with scuba diving and have thought about maybe learning to sail for the next few years and the sailing around from dive school to dive school helping out. But who the heck knows. Equally possible I find some office job I do until I'm in my 60s.
As for how I spend my time, I try to keep up on reading and writing as much as possible. I find when I have both as a strong habit, everything in life tends to feel a bit brighter. I also try to work out daily (though I like eating an entire pizza to much for it to ever show to much lol). Right now I've been focusing again on running and body weight stuff as a rehab a back injury. But hoping to get been to lifting heavy circles soon again! I usually describe myself as a nerdy jock. I love media (movies, TV shows, anime, games, etc) and tinkering Ruth tech, but can also talk for ages about F1, hockey, both footballs, etc. Though I love learning new things so if you have a hobby you are into, let me know!!! I'm happy to explore it.
I usually write way to much so I guess I'll try to wrap this up here. If anything piqued your interest, I'm obviously happy to chat! I've been told before that people worry about time zones or age differences. Both really aren't a big deal to me, as long as you are over 18. Some of my best internet friends were much older then me, and my sleep schedule is so messed up that I often am awake in Asian or European timezones lol. So feel free to send me a message whenever you wish end I hope you find some fun people to chat with!!!
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2023.06.05 06:07 sourcact 24 F4M Canada - looking for my person

Gender: Female (afab)
Pronouns: she/her
Age: 24
Orientation: ace (sex-averse), man-attracted, alterous, grey-ro
Location: Alberta, Canada. I prefer other Canadians!
Looking for: A long-term alterous relationship. While I love connecting with people, I'm looking for someone who is more relationship-oriented! Honestly, I want a best friend to love or soul mate that is not confined to societal standards or allo-normative goals
About me: I'm a bubbly ambivert who values emotional intimacy and all sorts of conversations. I am very affectionate and love open communication. Really into talking about everything and just connecting. Also, I'm BIPOC and spiritual. As long as there is mutual respect, it's all good! Not very outdoorsy, but I love traveling and exploring new cities. I like learning about languages and cultures and have way too many pop culture references. Always on the hunt for the next binge-able show. I like to dabble in different mediums of art.
Hobbies: cartoons, listening to music (mostly alt and indie) and writing my own lyrics, TV shows, movies (raunchy comedies, reading, painting, upcycling clothes, writing
DMs are open!
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2023.06.05 06:07 Whodis916 I am TIRED of our friends taking advantage of us

I(30 M) and my SO(27 F) are ALWAYS taken advantage of by our friends. We have a weekly game night on Saturday. We always meet at a friends place as they have a house, and three out of 7 of our group live there.
However, my and my SO can host as well, as our apartment complex has a nice area for parties that has great AC, bathrooms, coffee, water, even a little kitchen.
Now that we have gotten through the backstory, let's proceed into just how they take advantage of us:
1 - We all agreed to see a movie together in theaters. I volunteered to get the seats, implying that that they would pay me back. Keep in mind, I never once said that I would pay for others' tickets, and it would be around $100+ dollars for minimum 8 tickets(we had a plus one). Never ONCE did they ask how they can pay me back. They met and my SO at the theater thanking me for buying everyone's tickets. I was caught off guard and just said sure, thinking that I would clear this up later as we were running late for the movie.
  1. We often order food together through Doordash, Postmates, you get the picture. I have had to ask the group TWICE to pay me back. One time they tried to not pay me! Only my SO sent me money for my food. And when they DO send me money, it's an arbitrary amount! I send the receipt to the group, so there is NO excuse to just send me $20 when you can clearly see on the receipt that your food was $18 and you still owe me for your portion of the tax AND delivery on top of that.
  2. Today, we were offered to host game night from one of our friends. I'm sick and recovering from a foot injury, and my SO just twisted her ankle a few hours before time, so I would be sitting this one out and my SO can't drive. Nope, they can't make it to us. They have to make sure that there dog eats dinner exactly on time(she has no issues with food, they just baby her). Don't worry, they waited until we agreed on it and set up and brought everything to the game room before telling us that they would really rather do it at their place because of the dog. God FORBID they lift a finger for us!
  3. One of the friends does crochet. When she started her business, she just asked my SO what her favorite color was. She told her Green, not thinking literally anything of it as it wasn't followed by anything. Next week she shows up with this crocheted thing(no idea what it is, my SO doesn't use it), and told her that it would be $20. Very confused and thinking that she misheard her(because why would a friend try to take advantage of you), she paid her. Later that night, she told me that she never once agreed to buy one of her crocheted things.
There are MANY more small things, but this is the general idea of what we are dealing with. I'm so fucking tired of how selfish they are, and I feel like our kindhearted nature is now being taken advantage of.
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2023.06.05 06:07 sektrONE Streamer/DAC/Amp Recos for KEF R3 Meta?

Putting together my first HiFi system starting with the KEF R3 Metas and looking for guidance on the rest of the system.
The speakers will be used 60/40 music/movies and I ultimately plan to get a sub and run this as a 2.1 system once I free up some more cash, but for now will be 2.0.
I’m looking to be able to stream from Tidal and also run my TV through the speakers - this leads me to believe I’ll need a streamer, DAC (heard most built-in streamer DACs are poor) and amplifier, or potentially one of the all in one systems (Naim Uniti, Cambridge Evo, etc.)
I’d like to keep the rest of the system under $3500 CAD (preferably under $3000).
Please throw some suggestions my way! I’d love someone to tell me the all-in-ones are great and the way to go (a single box sounds nice), but my gut tells me you’re paying a premium.
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2023.06.05 06:05 Nurse_Soup friends??

Hey there! I'm really excited to meet new friends online who share my hobbies and interests. I absolutely love playing video games, watching movies, and diving into the world of anime and Star Wars. These things bring me so much joy and I'm hoping to connect with like-minded folks who feel the same way. Whether we team up for some epic gaming sessions, chat about the latest films and TV shows, or geek out over the amazing Star Wars universe, I'm ready for some awesome conversations and to build genuine friendships. Let's embark on this adventure together and create lasting bonds based on our shared passions!
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2023.06.05 06:04 Rabbidraccoon18 20M - feeling lonely. Need a fri end to talk to.

I don't really have any close friends. I have a few online friends, but they only talk to me when I message them first. They never reach out to me on their own. I understand that people are busy and have their own lives, but it would be nice to know that they care enough to check in on me every once in a while. It doesn't have to be anything major, just a quick text or a message on social media to say hello.
Not having close friends is really starting to take a toll on me. I feel lonely and isolated, and I'm starting to have negative thoughts about myself. I know that I should be able to be happy on my own, but it's hard when I don't have anyone to talk to or share my life with.
I want to have someone who cares about me and who I can care about in return. I want to have someone who I can count on, and who I can be there for when they need me. I know that I have a lot to offer, and I would be a great friend. I'm just looking for someone who is willing to give me a chance. If you're down for a conversation feel free to dm me.we can talk about anything you want. Whatever you're comfortable with. Any topic of your choice.
I have a couple hobbies too. Maybe we might have something in common and we can connect over that. I enjoy doing a lot of things in my free time, such as cooking delicious meals, playing video games, binge-watching tv shows, movies and anime, reading all kinds of comics, novels, manga and books and cycling around the neighborhood. I also have a sense of adventure and I would love to go camping by myself someday. But most of the time, I just like to stay at home and laze around. thanks for reading so far. Hope you have a nice day. :D
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2023.06.05 06:04 Nurse_Soup friends?

Hey there! I'm really excited to meet new friends online who share my hobbies and interests. I absolutely love playing video games, watching movies, and diving into the world of anime and Star Wars. These things bring me so much joy and I'm hoping to connect with like-minded folks who feel the same way. Whether we team up for some epic gaming sessions, chat about the latest films and TV shows, or geek out over the amazing Star Wars universe, I'm ready for some awesome conversations and to build genuine friendships. Let's embark on this adventure together and create lasting bonds based on our shared passions!
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2023.06.05 06:04 Gist_it Chuck Todd, host and moderator of NBC's 'Meet the Press', will step down

Chuck Todd, host and moderator of NBC's 'Meet the Press', announced he will step down in September.
Transition of hosts: Todd will hand over hosting duties to NBC's chief White House correspondent, Kristen Welker. * Todd has been hosting the show since 2014, taking over from former host David Gregory. * Welker expressed her gratitude and said she's "humbled and grateful" to take over.
Reflecting on his role: Todd shared his love for his job, "helping to explain America to Washington and explain Washington to America." * He said, "this is going to be my final summer here at Meet the Press."
New role for Todd: He will remain at NBC as chief political analyst and will focus on long-form journalism. * Meet the Press debuted in 1947 and is America's longest continuously running TV show.
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2023.06.05 06:04 BoozeGetsMeThrough Across The Spider-Verse

Eric is coming in hot on the movie and Andrew and Stephen seemed to really like it other than the the cliff-hanger ending. It could make a very fun show tomorrow.
What did everyone here think?
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2023.06.05 06:03 Mysterious-Start-113 I can’t tell if American culture presents a warped view of male sexuality or if my db is worse than I thought

I (30M) have been in a relationship with my wife (33F) and we’ve been married for 2 years. Unfortunately, our db ramped down very slowly so I didn’t realize how bad it had gotten until the last couple years, where we reached absolutely no sexual activity for a year and a half.
We do watch TV together, though, and I didn’t realize how much social pressure there is on men to have basically lots of sex. Recently we watched New Girl all the way through. I love the show and I think it’s hilarious, but it was painful for me to watch a show where every episode somehow is centered around sex and every relationship is built on the foundation of a good sex life. Going into the show I thought it would be a lot more innocent and it’s somehow one of the most sex-obsessed sitcoms I’ve ever seen.
Today I’ve been in a bad mood, questioning everything. My wife asked if I wanted to watch an episode of Succession, and though I kind of wanted to be alone I agreed because at least it’s not the most sex obsessed show I’ve ever seen. But somehow, in this one episode in particular, there’s a joke where a main character teases a random person about how he’s not satisfying his wife and it’s his fault and he’s probably not getting any because of it.
I feel like I’m working on being deprogrammed over here. I thought that media depictions of sexuality were outliers. Now I’m wondering if normal couples have sex even weekly, if not multiple times a week. My wife asked me once how often I’d like to ideally have sex and I told her once a month. She replied with “oh, that’s not as bad as I thought.” (We didn’t start having sex once a month after that.) But now I’m sitting here thinking that it would be nice to have sex once a month while people are out there with sex multiple times a week being the norm. I just don’t know how to process this.
I’m sure this kind of seems like two separate posts, and I’m probably rambling, but I guess the connection is that in the past I thought that the frequency and importance of sex in media was vastly exaggerated, and now looking at it through a lens of acknowledging my db I realize both a) how much pressure there is for a man to be a “successful sex-haver,” lest they be a loser instead, and b) that these have possibly been pretty normal depictions of sex and I haven’t realized it.
On top of that, I just find all these shows upsetting some of the time, and I wonder what my wife is thinking when she laughs at a joke about someone “not getting enough” while I’m sitting right there and being reminded that I’m a failure in society’s eyes.
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2023.06.05 06:03 DaimonKaito666 Need help Unable to detect time zone

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2023.06.05 06:03 Jellybean_Pumpkin What do you do when cartoons aren't fun anymore?

I used to watch anything and everything on TV. Anime, adult oriented cartoons like Rick and Morty, kids cartoons like Bluey, classic shorts like Loony Toons or Tom and Jerry, you name it. Now...everything is just so boring. It's all so same-y. I realized when I saw Across the Spiderverse this weekend. It was phenomenal...but I didn't have any fun...I think it may have to do with the superhero fatigue. When I do miraculously find something that tries something new, it was cancelled, or is so niche and no one has heard of it, or cares to give it a chance.
It's not just cartoons though, it's everything. Books. I used to love all kinds of movies too. From horror to comedies, everything...but since the 2010s everything is either a superhero movie or Oscar bait. Cartoons were the only things that I could consistently enjoy.
So what do you do when animation just doesn't interest you anymore?
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2023.06.05 06:02 Soleone Want to learn self defense?

Because my teacher hasn't really been doing any advertising in the last few years I wanted to try find some more students to join us. If you are interested in martial arts, particularly Wing Chun kung fu, or just want to stay fit consider checking this opportunity out!
I got interested when I watched the first Ip Man movie many years back and feel so blessed to have found this school. It's a very laid back mentality without any aggressive attitude and a super safe environment. At the same time there is not only a focus on the forms of the martial arts, but also on actual application and self defence.
We are training every Tue and Thu between 6:30pm to 9pm at 111 Cooper St (downtown, close to Elgin St and Capitol Hill). Monthly fee is $100, but the first week is free and first month is 50% off. Alternatively you can also pay per lesson.
Feel free to reply here for public questions, or message me in private, contact my Sifu on the website, or just show up when you have time.
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2023.06.05 06:01 LucyAriaRose NEW UPDATE: AITA for telling my friend to stop using my life to get petty clout and to live her fantasy somewhere else?

I am still not the Original Poster. That is u/throraway_23. She posted in AmItheAsshole. This is an short update to my previous BORU post here.
New Update marked with ***\*
Mood Spoiler: still bizarre but even more sad
Original Post: April 14, 2023Hi all, first time posting so sorry for any mistakes.
I (17f) have eight older brothers. Without getting into too much detail, there's a few adoptions and half siblings in the mix but I'm close to all of them and while my life can be crazy sometimes, I wouldn't trade them for the world. It's also relevant that I don't have either of my parents in my life and haven't since I was 11.
The issue involves my close friend, (17f) who I've known since we were 4. For about a year now, she's been consistently posting on social media about her "best friends suuuuuuper hot older brothers" and "the terrible tale of how she ended up in a love triangle with her best friends brothers" and it's seriously annoying.
She's never really had anything to do with my brothers, they know her as "my little sisters friend" and nothing more so I really don't get where this is all coming from. Over the last few weeks however, it's gotten so much worse. She'll actively tell stories to people at our school about the "steamy romance that is her life" and it's bringing me a lot of unwanted attention.
I've tried to talk to her about it but she always says that she'd never do anything to hurt me and she's just "living her life" which doesn't even make sense? I've mentioned it so many times that I've started to avoid hanging out with her because I know my brothers will come into it and I'll have to ask her to knock it off again.
Everything came to a head yesterday. We went out with some friends and 4 of my brothers dropped us both off. When we got inside half of the girls in the group immediately started talking to my best friend about the "good looking guys in the car" and whether those were the hot men she was talking about.
I snapped and yelled "Those are my brothers and I swear to God (friends name) if you don't stop using my life to get petty clout I'm cutting you off. Quit living your fantasy through me, do it somewhere else." and left, which I feel like was really harsh and probably could've waited until we were in private.
She called me later to tell me she wanted space from our friendship because I was become jealous, needy and controlling ever since she got close with my brothers, which isn't even remotely true. all of my brothers so far have told me to just stop being friends with her, but she's been really important in my life for a long time and I don't want to ruin what we have, but at the same time I don't want to keep letting her use my life for her fantasy. AITA?
Relevant Comments:
Did you check with your brothers to make sure there was no hookup or anything misconstrued?
"I have said that I already spoke to them and they were disgusted to say the least. My brothers are all in their 20's, so it's not only weird but it's also illegal. She's also never been around them long enough for something like that to happen."
How does she act when your brothers are around?
"She's always been flirty with them, which they never reciprocated and eventually they stopped being around when I had her over because of the comments. She isn't close with them at all, and I've asked her to stop a few times but she never does. The one time I asked her why she was doing this she told me to stop being controlling so I really don't know where this came from."
More about OOP's background:
"I don't know the full deal with my parents, even when they were around they weren't really active in my life but when I was 11 they lost a custody battle for me over drug use I think. I'm really not sure, it isn't something I like knowing so I've only ever asked to be told the basics. I know 8 older brothers is a lot, but I wouldn't say they're "hot" so to speak. I think people are more attracted to the 'movie romance' idea."
Why are you friends with her?
"I've been friends with her for over ten years so it's not easy to let that go, plus she's the only friend I have. I have friendly acquaintances, but no other friends. She only started acting like this about a year ago and I thought it was normal I guess? So I didn't really do anything because it didn't hurt anybody, or at least I thought it didn't."
OOP is voted NTA
Update Post: April 16, 2023 (2 days later)
Hi everyone, I have a small update for those who'd like to hear it, and I'd also like to say thank you to all the people who gave advice and opinions.
So the first thing I did was have a proper talk with my brothers about everything that's been going on. I showed them the post and all the comments I received, and they took a minute to read them before speaking. One of my brothers "Sam", assured me they had never been flirty, romantically interested or sexual with my friend at any point in time. There was never a time when any of them were alone with her for more than a minute.
Not gonna lie, that made everything so much easier, I was terrified one of them was going to admit to having done something with her. We also talked about her recent behavior's, I told them about what she'd been saying and then Sam spoke up.
He said that in the past, they had heard my friend intentionally telling people strange things about me in order to make it seem like I wasn't a person who you'd want to be friends with. (They'd overheard these conversations at my house when I wasn't around or doing something and she was waiting for me.) Things like "She's too clingy" or "She's controlling" to even telling people I'd slept with one of my brothers. It hurt. A lot. So you guys were right, she has been isolating me from people.
After our talk, I needed to get some air so I went for a walk. My friend ended up calling me and I answered. I know, stupid, but I was hurt and wanted to know if she really had done those things. The conversation went like this:
HER: "Listen, (my name) we've been friends for a long time and I don't want to hurt you but this friendship has become really toxic."
ME: Are you serious? I know what you've been saying about me. You're a liar and a creep and the only toxic thing in this friendship is you.
HER: I've literally never lied to you in my life, so I don't know what you think I've said or done but you're wrong. It's not my fault people don't want to be you're friend because you're weirdly possessive.
ME: You literally told people you were dating my brothers, that's gross and really messed up.
HER: This is what I mean, you aren't acting like yourself anymore. I feel like ever since we got older, you've started to become obsessed with attention. I don't like this version of you, it isn't my best friend.
I hung up after that and now I feel like shit. She was my best friend, I have no idea what to do next because she hasn't stopped blowing up my phone since the call. I want to block her but I just can't do it. I feel like an absolute failure. So yeah, that's where I'm at right now. I don't have a clue what I'm going to do next, I want to tell her parents but what would I even say?
"You're daughter's fetishizing my brothers?" I have literally no evidence whatsoever and I don't know what she's told them about me. Who knows. Any advice would be appreciated, since my brain isn't working right now and all I've been doing is crying.
****NEW Post: May 26, 2023 (7.5 weeks from Original Post)***\*
So hi, me again. I don't actually know if anyone's still interested in what's happening but I thought I'd update just for those who've followed me.
Long story short, I took your advice. I called my (ex) friend and told her the following.
"I don't want you in my life anymore." And that was it. I know some people told me to set her reputation of fire because why not, but I feel like that would do more harm than good. And if she ever does grow up, I'm sure she doesn't want this whole drama fest to be tied to her forever.
The first few days after that phone call were hectic. I couldn't stop crying, which made me feel pathetic, and I overall just felt lost. I haven't really made friends at school, most people think of me as a weirdo who dropped her best friend of ten years because she was jealous of her own brothers. So I guess lunch in the bathrooms from now on.
I also got calls from my ex friends sister, who called me some names and ranted about my brothers "loved ex friend so much and that I was such a cow for separating them", so I guess she's sticking to her story.
So yeah. That's kind of it. I'm just spending time with myself and my bed.
I don't know if I'll update again, but for now that's it. Thanks again everyone.
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2023.06.05 06:00 LucyAriaRose AITA for spending a lot of time in my bunker away from my family?

I am not the Original Poster. That is u/ThrowRABunkerMan. He posted in AmItheAsshole
Mood Spoiler: Hopeful
Original Post: May 22, 2023
My grandfather was an incredibly talented man who also suffered from paranoid schizophrenia, and he was convinced that the nuclear apocalypse was going to end the human race at some point, so he built his own bunker and then buried the entrance because he was convinced that both the KGB and the CIA were watching him and wanted to keep the bunker a secret. Yes, he was a crazy man. My dad inherited his house but never lived there, so when I had my first child in 2018 and got married in 2019, my dad made me an incredibly generous offer for the house. I bought computers that were more expensive than the house.
The bunker became kind of an urban legend, mostly because my old grandpa used to tell a lot of crazy stories, but out of curiosity I went looking for it and found the entrance. THE OLD MAN REALLY DID IT!
So, thanks to being stuck at home during the uneventful 2020 and 2021, I started remodeling the bunker to look less like a Fallout Vault and more like my own man cave. Everyone loves it, especially the kids (My nephews and friend's children). So the house is decorated to my wife's taste, while I can do whatever I want in the bunker, play gaming, fix computers, set up a whole home server, work from home, etc.
However, lately she has been complaining about me being distant and spending a lot of time there and less time with her and our child. She is pregnant again, so she said she was worried, but I just promised to spend more time at the house. After a few weeks that wasn't enough for her and she accuses me of abandoning her.
I'm asking for judgment here because I'm trying to be there for my family, but this bunker feels like it's the only thing that's really mine and where I can actually have a break, but my wife has said she's going to seal the entrance otherwise I might miss the birth and not even notice. Should I just move all my stuff into the house and forget about it? Am I really being neglectful, or is this just her pregnancy hormones talking?
To be clear, I do help with the house chores and spend time with my son when I'm there and I have an intercom in the bunker so my wife can just call me if she needs anything and I'll go up there immediately.
ETA: Everybody is asking me this. I spends at least 6 hours at the Bunker on week days. I work there so I think is reasonable, and at least 4 hours on weekends. But yeah, ur right, I need to make arrangements.
I forgot to mention: Our son goes to kindergarten so my wife has time to work and sometimes be alone at home.
ETA 2: Guys, I swear I'm taking notes. I'm just trying to understand what I should change about myself and how to talk to my wife about this. Remember that I spend at least 6 hours WORKING, not scratching my belly. My manager allows me to log out early if I finished my work for the day but can't log out if I've been working for less than 6 hours. I also spend time talking with my team on Slack.
ETA 3: So many of you are picking up on my language. I would appreciate if you explain calmly why my choice of words is so bad so I dont fuck things up when I speak to my wife.
Mini-Update: I had a talk with my wife. Overall I think it went well since she told me everything, but there are so many raw emotions right now and I was sent to sleep in the spare room. She had no mercy on me but we needed this talk so we can have a clear path for our future together.
Relevant Comments:
More about the bunker:
"The entrance is like 900 feet away from the house. There was also a tunnel connecting it to a hidden place on the basement but it collapsed I don't know how many years ago, so we sealed it."
"Yes, the city inspected it and is ok. I didn't bother with the tunnel because it seems to be badly built and there was a risk that could keep collapsing if we tried to fix it. We also had to add more columns and reinforcements to make sure it won't collapse. I was recommended to have yearly inspections."
Clarify- you say you work AND game? Are you doing those at the same time?
"No bro, when I mean working, I mean having a fight with my IDE until shit works, and when I mean networking, I mean talking to my team on Slack. Speaking to your team is as important as doing the work itself. Also can be spent reading doc. Then after finishing, I can game for like an hour before going up."
"Yeah, I see how bad it sounds. Year sometimes can be 2 hours, but hear me out. I usually don't play online games, but single player games with a linear story and clear objectives. So is easy to do the "Till next check point" (Tho modern games can be saved at whatever point) and log out.Yeah I think I should stop doing this or do it inside the house."
Where did you work before you had the bunker?
"Before getting married I just went to the office everyday but had my main computer in the bedroom. When we first moved into this house, I got a room to place my computers. During this time yes, had more contact with my family but it was harder to make it feel like an "office"."
OOP is resoundingly voted YTA
UPDATE (Same Post): Most likely May 23 (next day, based on comments and web archive)
I talked to my wife. I asked her to be very honest and I promised to let her talk until she was done. First of all, it's not just about the time I spend in the bunker now, but she felt completely alone taking care of our little baby while I spent almost all of my free time remodeling and building and when it's done I'm just down there. I explained to her that it was basically my office now, she understood and apologized and then continued to explain herself. I'll just quote the gist of it because we talked for hours.
"I haven't been my own person since my first pregnancy, I feel like a doll, every day is the same, I'm bored, frustrated, angry, just when I thought it might get easier, I get pregnant again, how many years until I can just be me again".
"You have a big hole underground where you can play and not care about the word, I haven't read a book in years, I can't read 2 pages without falling asleep"
"Yes, the house looks nice, but what about a place for me? I don't want a Kindle, I don't want audiobooks to listen to while cooking or driving, I want a PHYSICAL collection, where do I put them? When was the last time I went to a library? When was the last time you gave me something made of real paper?"
(For context, she's always been a bookworm, loves books and the aesthetic of having shelves full of them, but it's true she hasn't read in a long time, I gave her a Kindle for our anniversary and I pay for her audible subscription, I thought those would be good substitutes, but they're not)
"Stop thinking that a screen can solve everything, I need you with me, I married a human, not a sim, download some emotions.
"I want to write again, but how? When? Will you read my first crappy drafts or just take a look and say it's okay?"
"Can you have our son in the bunker for a few hours a day? He's bored here, he won't be bored down there."
It was hard, but I needed it, and she needed it.
I'm going to move my gaming consoles into the house and see if I can set up SteamLink to stream games from my gaming PC to our TV or something. We agreed to go on dates outside the house, and I'm going to take on more responsibilities around the house.
I want to address something. I was told by my parents that I had to "help" with the house, "help" with the kids. But then I come to Reddit and it turns out that "helping" is a problem.
You talked a lot about mental load, this was the first time I heard about it, who was supposed to teach me that? "Helping", not having addictions, being loyal and always being there seemed like what every good husband does, now I realize it was just the bare minimum. I feel like I have to relearn everything, and it's hard to realize that I'm a bad husband and father for thinking that the bare minimum was all I needed to have a long and happy marriage. I became a reddit villain by being clueless, but I accept that.
I'll see you again soon, thank you all.
Update Post: May 29, 2023 (1 week from OG post)
Hey guys, I hope you remember me. I'm the bunker guy. Not much has happened in terms of big events, but things are getting better.
After the talk I had with my wife, I started taking more responsibility around the house. I've been taking on as much as I can so she can rest. Except I'm a terrible cook, so I have some frozen and instant food that I just heat up and call it done, but I've been taking our son to school and picking him up, spending more time with him in the Bunker (he loves it), I've been gaming in the living room because I moved my consoles there and successfully set up Steam Link. So overall, my wife is sleeping more and has a few hours to just do nothing. She is much calmer now. She said she loved being able to just chill on the couch and not have to worry about anything. This pregnancy has been rough on her emotions so I'm glad to see her like this.
She also spent some time with me in the bunker, doing her own work, sleeping, or just hanging out. She even got The Sims and started playing again. The first thing she did was build an almost exact replica of our house. We also did a lot of cuddling down there and even had sex. I have to admit, I'm loving every second of this new dynamic, even though there are still a few things that need to be changed and tweaked.
I offered to build a room for her in the bunker, but she says it gets a little claustrophobic after a few hours and she likes sunlight, so that was declined. Then I suggested building a shed for her. She said nothing, but after a few hours showed me a shed she built on The Sims, a hexagonal brick structure with a U-shaped couch in the middle, a door, and bookshelves on every wall, connected to the main house by a fenced-in path. I think it looks nice, so I will send it this week to the same people who helped me rebuild this bunker so they can convert it to CAD.
Nothing is perfect yet, I have a lot to learn and haven't started couples counseling yet (that will be in about 2 weeks) but I am trying my best, I have been an idiot for way too long and have a lot to make up for. Thank you all again.
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2023.06.05 05:58 TwistedSnoopy The vicious cycle of self doubt

It's crazy to think about what gambling can do to your brain and your overall wellbeing. And you should think about it, constantly!
We all got into gambling for different reasons. We all have those stories we think back to about where it all began. For some it was exposure at an early age, others a friend showed us, one day at a horse track, etc. But how it started is not important. What's important is to focus on right now and who you are outside of a gambler. You need to disassociate it with your personality and ultimately how you view yourself.
For me, I was only really able to start tackling my gambling issues when I realized how much it embodied who I am and how I think. I remember my therapist once asking me "do you think gambling is your core problem or is there something else that triggers you to gamble?". The chicken and the egg metaphor. It sounds silly I know but when I really thought about it and replayed my life through my mind (over several months), I made the decision that gambling is not the problem, it just makes all my problems and my life much worse. I was never truly happy even younger (maybe slight depression) but once I started gambling it filled that void. It never made anything better, in fact much worse, but I came to accept it.
The girl I liked stopped talking to me, I had a rough day at work, my plans fell through, I'm lonely, etc. etc. etc. Gambling was always there for me. The dopamine rush from placing a bunch of bets before a full day of sports filled my time and head and allowed me to continue to live in a fake reality where I didn't have to tackle my real issues head on. When I won, it felt great but only for a short time period. Sometimes I would go on a win streak and realize I'm not even betting for the enjoyment anymore, it's only because I can't control myself. I had already made enough to support myself but couldn't fight the urge to stop. Even if I had 1-2 weeks of wins, rhe moment I had a red day is when I lost it. All rationale goes out the window, even if I was still up overall and should feel good about it, I didn't. I would fixate on that one loss, that one bad beat and it would eat at me until I lost it all. Over and over again. The cycle would go on for 10+ years.
I mention this last part because it is critical to how gambling influences how we think. It's always negative. The chemical imbalance from gambling distorts how you view yourself and the world and simply makes life less enjoyable. When you gamble, you feel shame and guilt, you don't want to tell others about your losses, you lie about where money went or what you were doing, you get agitated easily, you close yourself off and you're afraid to seek help. And ultimately you take it out on yourself. You blame yourself for giving into your sins for the 1000th time, you call yourself stupid, you wonder why you're so isolated and incapable of being normal. This is the cycle that causes us to keep gambling, we don't know anything else.
If you really want to tackle your gambling issues, you need to start treating yourself better. You need to accept that it's not easy and there will be mistakes along the way. You need to accept that you're powerless alone and will benefit from talking to others. You need to address the underlying issues and triggers that cause you to gamble to begin with. YOU NEED TO LOVE YOURSELF.
Next time you have a bit of extra money laying around, do something for you. Buy those new pair of shoes you've wanted, take yourself out to a nice dinner, go watch a movie. It doesn't matter just do it for you. You deserve to be happy.
"Sometimes you're flush and sometimes you're bust, but when you're up it's never as good as it seems and when you're down, life goes on."
Thanks for listening. Just trying to cope with the urges and remain sober. Best of luck to everyone!
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2023.06.05 05:58 chromejda Just Finished All Metal the Gear Solid Games For the First tIme And…

Just finished all the MGS games over the span of this year, I went into the franchise blind knowing pretty much nothing about the series.
I played in this order: 1,2,3,PW,5, and ending off with 4. I pretty much had no expectations going into these games.
All I can say is:
Easily the best video game franchise I’ve ever played. Never been this thrown for a loop emotionally playing a series of games in my life. Part of me is happy that I got around to playing this series but im also pretty sad that it’s over, I almost wish the games never ended.
Before playing these games, Nier: Automata held the title as my favourite game of all time for a long time, but has since been topped by MGS4 (which i know is an unpopular choice from lists ive seen!) but I genuinely think this is one of the best pieces of media I’ve consumed narratively period, even more than some movies and shows I’ve watched. Watching the way Snake’s story unfolds, all the batshit crazy plot twists, themes and hardships that you witness first-hand in the franchise threw me for a loop, not to mention the gameplay loop itself is really refreshing and fun compared to a lot of other modern games that I usually play. Even MGSV for as confusing and weird of a game that was had some of the best cutscene-work ive seen in gaming, though I wish the story wasn’t told through casette tapes so much.
I know this post is a rambling mess but I’m curious to see how everyone else’s first time playing the series was? How you felt playing each game etc. If I had to rate my favourite game in each series best to worst I’d probably say its 
  1. MGS4
  2. MGS3
  3. MGS 2
  4. PW
  5. MGS1 & MGSV tied.
I think its really cool that Konami is remaking 3 as I definitely think that this is a must-play franchise for those who havent. I’m definitely gonna go back and replay every game again after I give myself a few days to reflect and process my time with the series as there’s still a lot of questions I have with a few plot points in the story.
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