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Open Letter to Myatt's Fields Park Project (discrimination against volunteers)
2023.06.10 20:49 IamParked Open Letter to Myatt's Fields Park Project (discrimination against volunteers)
 | To Myatt's Fields Park Project - Chair, Executives, Staff and Trustees, submitted by IamParked to u/IamParked [link] [comments] when I was brought along to Myatt's by a neighbour in the summer 2022, I thought this might be a place where I can continue to heal while learning to deal with workplace related issues in a SAFE environment to re-learn getting back into work. I spent years isolated in traumatic grief and having had to look after my parents one-by-one until they deteriorated each with dementia and their own trauma and grief. Burying my dad next to my brother, never imagined I would not be able to bury my mum a few years later during the pandemic lockdown. I thought I could get out of isolation, back into working with people in a safe place until I'm ready to get back into “proper” employment” again. I was wrong. I have lost my family one by one over the last 8 years. My brother's death was extremely traumatic. And as this didn't seem enough for the universe, the pandemic had to hinder me burying my mum. Lost my job, am still unable to work without getting triggered of workplace bullying and anxiety attacks. Losing my mental health. Losing hope. Getting up with the end of my life on my mind and going to bed with the end of my life on my mind. Like in Ricky Gervais Netflix series “Afterlife” where he plays a widow who always keeps his “Superpower”, that if everything fails, he just skips out of life. I have nothing to lose anymore and live with my Superpower. I made mistakes, tried to rectify it, but failed again. I understand that people everywhere are overwhelmed. Anybody's story of loss, trauma, sickness is uncomfortable for society and for people who are either healthy, in the middle of life, or successfully overcame trauma, loss and illness. And anyone who feels they dealt better with loss and trauma makes the mistake to compare themselves to other sufferers. Don't cross that line! But the more grief and trauma one has, the more society wants them silent. I am not silent, I CAN'T be silent because of HOW everything unfolded and how I was left alone in the worst time of my life. No initial support, no help and the deep blackness of trauma. A Stern Rebuke to a charity enlisting volunteers for “Well-being” Are you Myatt's not embarrassed and ashamed of yourselves in how you treat, not only free labour (volunteers), but volunteers with mental and physical health issues? Are you not ashamed of yourselves? NOT inducting volunteers. NOT doing health and needs checks. And then quickly fixing things after it was called out by the very volunteer who is fncked up mentally, whoom you try to get rid of, and seems to care more about safety then all of you combined! We current and former volunteers have NO rights like paid employees have. And the Myatt's Fields Park Project has been THE WORST volunteer experience in my life. Yes, you are THE MOST generous (trips, Sunday lunch, vegetables, teaching on plants etc.) which I mentioned in my other blog. But what is that if as a volunteer I feel my dignity stepped upon and for staff to not want me to be there as it's inconvenient for them? I have volunteered most of my life since my late teens in different countries and many different projects: working with the homeless, with the elderly in art/painting sessions in nursing homes, helping support free services (free haircuts, manicures, meals) with dignity to sex workers and their children, free clean-ups after hurricane debris and fallen trees in people's yards etc. etc. etc. The Myatt's Fields Park Project had me so hurt at times that my mental health took a nose-dive again. And for that I suffer further discrimination as if it was my fault feeling distressed! It has led me to the decision to never ever give my free time, skill, experience ever again to any charity or general project. I've had enough after years of volunteering and the last experience with Myatt's. Are you not ashamed of yourselves to take advantage of volunteers while your staff sit for hours every week in the office in winter or the cool depot space in summer while volunteers outside labour away in the sun, cold and rain? Some who are a little older outside, unsupervised and in danger to suffer health issues. A stroke, heart attack etc. at an higher age can happen any time! Are you paid staff members not ashamed?! Are you not ashamed of yourselves for bad-mouthing a paid colleague and even worse some volunteers, and also bad-mouthing volunteer to other volunteers? Are you not ashamed to rush an elderly volunteer with walking difficulties on the day-trips to the point the volunteer couldn't sleep at night for fear they'd be late for the next trip, and then tell me as a volunteer who was concerned for the person that I should relax and not take control. Or as you all knew from the beginning that I have PTSD and triggers, that if I'm triggered that I should not come to trips. Are you not ashamed? Have you read the Equality Act on dignity? The amount of times I was hurt in my dignity and another volunteer being stressed about Fab. talking for hours with most of us sitting there bored, in silence and getting headaches from the one-man show. Are you not ashamed? Apathy on Safety Issues When I pointed out serious health and safety concerns between summer 2022 and spring 2023: Nails/screws sticking out of a shelf on eye-level, almost poking my eye when I put blue paper into the dispenser underneath the shelf, as we never had anything to dry our hands with and no staff member acting on these issues. Your 2 staff members (volunteer coordinator and greenhouse manager) just seeming clueless (or careless?), not even knowing where a tool box is upon request to pull the nails and screws out. Both staff who work at Myatt's one for 4 years, the other for 10 years and they tell me the don't know if Myatt's have a tool box! Me having to raise this with Tori again and bring my OWN hammer from home with the “fork” to pull out all the nails/screws in the presence of Tori. I really did and do care that NO-ONE gets injured by things that can be avoided! You Myatt's fields executives can afford private health care, WE volunteers rely on the broken NHS if we get injured! I am currently not even climbing a 4 step-ladder to avoid any unnecessary accidents to not have to wait 5 hours to be seen in A&E. I REALLY care that people and myself don't get hurt! Do you? Or is all this just for show to look good with the government and sponsors? For me to raise for WEEKS that there's poo smeared on the public lady's toilet wall. Raising this with Ra. as the volunteer coordinator and my direct “line manager”, who as usual just guessed that this might be under Lambeth Council, but didn't action on it whatsoever. Me not being inducted for a year, not knowing who's who and who to report things to! Four weeks later the poo still being there and yet AGAIN going to Ra's line manager Tori to find out how this can be removed as this is not only a health risk, but plainly disgusting! Only then I was informed to pass this on to the Park Manager El. who's now also the Health and Safety Manager / interim Director. Then it got fixed. And only then I learnt who to go to for safety issues. I could of just ignored everything like you all do! What an inconvenience I am for Myatt's. Are you not ashamed that a volunteer cared more about safety issues than staff do? Pointing out to Tori several safety issues like blocked/hidden fire extinguishers. Tori didn't seem bothered too much either and asked me what could happen fire-wise there. As I was standing next to the fridges and freezers I pointed to those and reminded Tori that Grenfell Tower fire happened from a refrigerator. Her facial expression then showed that the penny finally dropped. To have to explain to upper leadership of Myatt's that ANYTHING can happen to ANYONE at ANYTIME for ANY reason is beyond me! And the absolute MINIMUM we can do is eliminate these safety issues I mention above and below. The kitchen oven that started the fire alarm. The following week a person from the community cooked and approached Ra. that the oven needs cleaning as it could cause a fire. Ra. just with a “shrugging-shoulder” attitude as usual saying that a professional cleaner might have to come in, and that was that. No further action or passing it on to whoever responsible to fix things. So, I passed it on again having been there the previous week when the fire alarm went off thinking they just overcooked the chicken, but now I leanrt it was due to the oven not being cleaned and covered in burnt debris. I raised this with Tori AGAIN, who to my shock then told me I shouldn't listen to the lady who cooked and raised this SERIOUS safety issue. I was shocked yet again on Myatt's apathetic attitude towards serious health and safety issues. But as Tori saw my urgency in this, pointing out that if an EHO would visit, Myatt's would not be doing well, the Park Manager then went to work and things got fixed within short time. ONLY mentioning the government checks got the message across, NOT health and safety issues, not people potentially getting hurt. No, only government gets the message across. After everything got fixed, Myatt's then contacted Lambeth Council to do a check, and received 5 stars. Bravo! But as Fab. continued to cook despite being told not to due to poor hygiene, and me being so stupid again to raise this again, the procedure got started to get rid of me. Let a volunteer help you put things in place that YOU Myatt's neglected, then look good in the public, and Tori leaving with a clean slate, and then get rid of me who helped you raise the standard and create a safer space for all. Are you not ashamed of yourselves?! Ra. lying across the dining room table to get a free massage from a person who occasionally volunteers but has their partner going through cancer treatment caring for family. Are you not ashamed of yourself? Tori's words to me when I raised issues being rebuked, talked bad about, sent out as Fab. Was angry, “As long as the results come out”. In other words, as long as the mission to get vegetables and seedlings etc. to the community, you close your eyes to what your staff, especially the greenhouse manager do, no matter how upset volunteers get. I always wondered why Fab. kept some vegetables, especially large ones out on the depot floor for weeks and weeks until they started rotting, instead of giving those to the community and/or volunteers in this cost-of-living crisis. It took me almost a year of observance that this might be because he might want to portray to Myatt's that he is “producing” vegetables, while in reality the garden outside often looked very meek. For staff and trustees to vote to give me a letter of warning, jumping over stage 1 straight int stage 2 going against your own policy and using an “expired” (forgiven) incidence to start the procedings to get rid of me because the Health & Safety Manager was upset when I mentioned the Food Gov should I get food poisoning again. Are you not ashamed? And then I raised a grievance on this as you went against your own policy while trying to penalise me for going agsint your policy which I didn't even know. And grievance hearing held by your new Development Manager Pat. In such a dodgy and flawed way, bombarding me with questions, some questions irrelevant to throw me off course and not get to the grievance against Myatt's itself. This was a TYPICAL toxic corporate HR hearing to protect the organisation, no matter how much the volunteer suffers. This leading me to a breakdown in the hearing as I was triggered from the workplace bullying and HR meetings I went through. The way Pat. handled the hearing was BRUTAL, cold, careless, gaslighting and flawed. No compassion from Pat. and El. the note taker who should have never been present in the meeting as she was part of the grievance. Not allowed to read and sign the hearing notes at the end of the hearing, as is usual in grievance hearings. Later that evening me contemplating to end my life and falling back into mental health problems I thought I overcame. Are you not ashamed of yourselves?! Finally Maybe you paid staff, executives and trustees should humble yourselves and come down from your high horse and stop pretending to have integrity and honesty “as best as possible”. You have shown no honesty and no integrity! Maybe you should reflect on HOW any volunteer might feel and what bad treatment could do to and with them mentally and physically. I don't pretend to have integrity and honesty “as best as I can”. I HAVE integrity and honesty! I don't need to write it down anywhere because I LIVE it! You didn't and don't deserve volunteers like me who truly CARE about safety issues and making people feel welcome. You don't deserve volunteers in general. You don't deserve free labour in your systemic attitude towards safety issues as well as volunteers with mental and/or physical health issues. You don't deserve any of us. And I and other volunteers deserve better. We already have no rights, no or little money, often no health. We scrap by financially and with health issues and hope that the little bit we give in our free time could help us heal somewhat. You should be ashamed! I updated the ADHD vs Narcissism blog as this was a thorn in your eye even though I never mentioned Myatt's. I mention you now! The grievance hearing had me over the edge and gave me the final pain in my dignity and mental health struggles, and I will now speak openly. I do again sincerely apologize for any mistakes and text/email I did. But I will also not continue apologizing. I have lost everything dear and important to me. But I have not lost my voice, and will always use my voice after trying EVERYTHING internally. I am a free person as best as I can be in my anxieties, hopelessness, triggers, mental boundaries with PTSD … and I use whatever freedoms I have been granted under the law. And I will express myself, I will explain my struggles, I will share my traumas, my losses, my experiences until the last day. https://value-people.weebly.com/open-letter-to-myatts-fields-park-project.html < https://preview.redd.it/2vfkcq79l85b1.jpg?width=694&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=846bc0229c1f3566c05bfda4741f542995b94e23 |
2023.06.10 20:44 MycologistIcy8233 Club Activities, Chapter two: 1+1+2gether forever
Sayori and Mitsuki were on their home from school, the orange and red leaves crunching in under their feet, the wind hitting their faces. Sayori was with a purpose and Mitsuki reclunctantly staggered right beside her. Sayori was humming a familiar tune, one she heard Monika playing one time, her eyes closed as she took in the feeling of the air and sounds of birds and bugs chirping.
She opened her eyes and looked at Mitsuki, as wide eyed as ever, a big smile on her face. "Hey, Mitsuki," She called, causing Mitsuki's vacant stare to turn into a intentive expression as he looked over at Sayori, "Can you help me with my math homework? I can't understand it at all and it's due tomorrow!" Sayori whined. Mitsuki rolled his eyes. "Sayori, this is why you study! I am not helping you." He responded, Sayori gasped in shock. "What?! Why? You're such a meanie!" Sayori complained. "Well, you need to learn your lesson on your own! Besides.. I don't have time for that.." Mitsuki responded with harsh bluntness.
Sayori stopped moving, crossed her arms, and pouted.. before she had an idea. "Please, please, pleeeeeease?" She begged, staring up at him with puppy dog eyes. Mitsuki sighed. "Fine.. I guess I have no choice.." He rolled his eyes, he felt a little warmer when he heard Sayori's excited gasp. "Really?? Yay!" Sayori jumped up and down. Mitsuki couldn't help but smile a bit, but he quickly put on a serious expression again. "Yeah, whatever.." Mitsuki responded, mentally hitting himself in the face as his eyebrows twitched.
Of course Sayori would be able to trick me like this.. she's known me for YEARS.. why wouldn't she know what I couldn't resist... Mitsuki's thoughts were distracted, though by a loud, painful THUD! When Mitsuki looked over and down he saw Sayori faceplanted into the ground, leaves scattered in her hair. "Oh my god, Sayori!" He instinctively ran up and lifted her off the ground.
She had a red bump on her forehead, her hair was even MORE messed up, and she had tears in her eyes as she held her head. "Owww..." Sayori whined. "Sayori, you need to be more careful!" Mitsuki scolded, though his intense stare softened as he added, "..You always manage to get yourself hurt." Sayori let out a nervous giggle. "Ehehe, I'm sorry.. I totally just lost track of my feet! I'm so stupid, hehe.." She looked down. "Oh, Sayori.. it's fine. You sound like Yuri right now, apologizing for things that aren't apologize worthy." Mitsuki responded, getting a laugh out of Sayori before she spoke again. "Yeah, I do sound like her.. whoops, hehe!" She shrugged, her usual carefree smile on her face, leading a surge of mixed feelings to run through Mitsuki.
He paused, thinking back. "You're still not that much different than when we were kids.. still so clumsy and yet you still keep a smile on your face like nothing ever happened." He smiled a bit, "I don't know how you do it." Sayori winked. "It's my special secret! You won't know~" Sayori teased, and Mitsuki rolled his eyes once again. "Oh, shut up, Sayori.." He chuckled a little as he gave Sayori a gentle nudge, before pausing for a moment. "Anyways, we should go to my house so we could work on that homework assignment.. and also fix those wounds." Mitsuki said, averting his eyes. Sayori smiled. 'Okay, sure!" Sayori cheered, bouncing back up as Mitsuki flashed a concerned and nervous expression as she did so.. unsurprisingly she whined due to the pain in her head. "Owie!" Sayori clasped her head with her hands as she shut her eyes tightly.
Mitsuki's eyes widened. "Sayori! Don't do that.. walk slowly." Mitsuki stated, slightly shaking his head as he stared at Sayori. "Oh right, sorry~" She laughed at herself as she slowed down. She decided to take in the scenery. Looking at the red, yellow, and orange leaves. "The trees sort of look like fire trees." Sayori noted aloud, causing Mitsuki to look at her funny. "What?" Mitsuki questioned, raising an eyebrow. Sayori flushed. "Ehehe, nothing, nothing! Just thinking aloud, y'know?" Sayori quickly explained, waving her hands around, her cheeks flushed. Honestly, it was all quite adorable to Mitsuki. "You're weird, Sayori." Mitsuki retorted, rolling his eyes and smiling a bit. Sayori pouted. "Hey, that's mean, Mitsuki!" Sayori huffed, before crossing her arms and turning her head, faux irritation on her little pouty face. "Oh, you know it's true." Mitsuki said, causing Sayori to gasp, putting her hands on her chest at the audacity!
She let out a small "Hmph!" before avoiding his eyes, pouting even harder. Mitsuki stared at her for a moment before laughing.. and soon Sayori broke her composure and began laughing too. They both had a laughing fit before calming down a bit.
Their banter and randomly moving conversation flowed like water, with Sayori dominating happily as they headed on home. The wind nice and chill and the crunching of leaves gracing each step. It was refreshing.
Sayori wouldn't trade this for the world.
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She opened her eyes and looked at Mitsuki, as wide eyed as ever, a big smile on her face. "Hey, Mitsuki," She called, causing Mitsuki's vacant stare to turn into a intentive expression as he looked over at Sayori, "Can you help me with my math homework? I can't understand it at all and it's due tomorrow!" Sayori whined. Mitsuki rolled his eyes. "Sayori, this is why you study! I am not helping you." He responded, Sayori gasped in shock. "What?! Why? You're such a meanie!" Sayori complained. "Well, you need to learn your lesson on your own! Besides.. I don't have time for that.." Mitsuki responded with harsh bluntness.
Sayori stopped moving, crossed her arms, and pouted.. before she had an idea. "Please, please, pleeeeeease?" She begged, staring up at him with puppy dog eyes. Mitsuki sighed. "Fine.. I guess I have no choice.." He rolled his eyes, he felt a little warmer when he heard Sayori's excited gasp. "Really?? Yay!" Sayori jumped up and down. Mitsuki couldn't help but smile a bit, but he quickly put on a serious expression again. "Yeah, whatever.." Mitsuki responded, mentally hitting himself in the face as his eyebrows twitched.
Of course Sayori would be able to trick me like this.. she's known me for YEARS.. why wouldn't she know what I couldn't resist... Mitsuki's thoughts were distracted, though by a loud, painful THUD! When Mitsuki looked over and down he saw Sayori faceplanted into the ground, leaves scattered in her hair. "Oh my god, Sayori!" He instinctively ran up and lifted her off the ground.
She had a red bump on her forehead, her hair was even MORE messed up, and she had tears in her eyes as she held her head. "Owww..." Sayori whined. "Sayori, you need to be more careful!" Mitsuki scolded, though his intense stare softened as he added, "..You always manage to get yourself hurt." Sayori let out a nervous giggle. "Ehehe, I'm sorry.. I totally just lost track of my feet! I'm so stupid, hehe.." She looked down. "Oh, Sayori.. it's fine. You sound like Yuri right now, apologizing for things that aren't apologize worthy." Mitsuki responded, getting a laugh out of Sayori before she spoke again. "Yeah, I do sound like her.. whoops, hehe!" She shrugged, her usual carefree smile on her face, leading a surge of mixed feelings to run through Mitsuki.
He paused, thinking back. "You're still not that much different than when we were kids.. still so clumsy and yet you still keep a smile on your face like nothing ever happened." He smiled a bit, "I don't know how you do it." Sayori winked. "It's my special secret! You won't know~" Sayori teased, and Mitsuki rolled his eyes once again. "Oh, shut up, Sayori.." He chuckled a little as he gave Sayori a gentle nudge, before pausing for a moment. "Anyways, we should go to my house so we could work on that homework assignment.. and also fix those wounds." Mitsuki said, averting his eyes. Sayori smiled. 'Okay, sure!" Sayori cheered, bouncing back up as Mitsuki flashed a concerned and nervous expression as she did so.. unsurprisingly she whined due to the pain in her head. "Owie!" Sayori clasped her head with her hands as she shut her eyes tightly.
Mitsuki's eyes widened. "Sayori! Don't do that.. walk slowly." Mitsuki stated, slightly shaking his head as he stared at Sayori. "Oh right, sorry~" She laughed at herself as she slowed down. She decided to take in the scenery. Looking at the red, yellow, and orange leaves. "The trees sort of look like fire trees." Sayori noted aloud, causing Mitsuki to look at her funny. "What?" Mitsuki questioned, raising an eyebrow. Sayori flushed. "Ehehe, nothing, nothing! Just thinking aloud, y'know?" Sayori quickly explained, waving her hands around, her cheeks flushed. Honestly, it was all quite adorable to Mitsuki. "You're weird, Sayori." Mitsuki retorted, rolling his eyes and smiling a bit. Sayori pouted. "Hey, that's mean, Mitsuki!" Sayori huffed, before crossing her arms and turning her head, faux irritation on her little pouty face. "Oh, you know it's true." Mitsuki said, causing Sayori to gasp, putting her hands on her chest at the audacity!
She let out a small "Hmph!" before avoiding his eyes, pouting even harder. Mitsuki stared at her for a moment before laughing.. and soon Sayori broke her composure and began laughing too. They both had a laughing fit before calming down a bit.
Their banter and randomly moving conversation flowed like water, with Sayori dominating happily as they headed on home. The wind nice and chill and the crunching of leaves gracing each step. It was refreshing.
Sayori wouldn't trade this for the world.
2023.06.10 20:44 OfEstablishment 23 [M4F] Germany/ Western Europe - looking for a solid relationship (Romantic/Platonic)
Hello there,
I hope you are enjoying the weekend.
I'm an introverted guy... I find it really hard to get intimate with someone... I have friends, really good ones, but no close ones. I suspect it's because I will die before I really open up to anyone. I want to change that, but habitually I am not able to do that physically, so I am taking this route.
Why I am posting here?
This platform offers me the opportunity to advertise to the other person what I am looking for and what they'd be getting into.
What I am seeking?
Someone I can be vulnerable with, I don't really know what it's like to be really vulnerable with a person but I want to give it a try as I am missing that connection.
It can be a friendship or more than that. I titled this post as M4F because I am single and would like to be with someone romantically and also I need to balance my friend circle by adding a female presence and pov.
I would really be fully content with a purely platonic relationship irrespective of gender as I value friendship more than any romantic relationship I had or would have. Obviously a good romantic relationship is a better friendship first.
Anything I am hoping to get from here, is intended to be solid and not just peripheral.
Who am I seeking?
Someone kind, empathetic, and understanding. Someone who is not judgmental and can accept me for who I am.I have given a description which I think should be enough for you to know if you'd like me.
Who am I?
As I said, I'm an introvert. I am pretty sure I have ADHD(not diagnosed).
If I am out and with people, I have this unease of going any step further than just acquaintances. I am friendly, and people are friendly to me more often than not, but it's probably because I live in Germany, lol. I am not shy, but I am distant and like my space.
Engineer(doing master’s)
Vegetarian
Liberal and a centrist(but I love practical socialism)
Reject the idea of materialistic inheritance.
An atheist(except not arrogant enough to claim I know there is no God)
I mostly eat what I cook.
I love Cats and Dogs(do not have pets 😔).
Kind and paradoxically selfish.
I enjoy cycling and going on short treks.
I love being in nature.
Smoker(intentions to quit), 420 friendly.
Do not drink anymore.
Idealize reciprocity.
Don't like to sugar-coat things, do not like to play games.
Very loyal(never betrayed even a friend)
Trust issues(working on it)
Bad fashion sense.
I am physically active but do not go to gym.
Literature I like – HP(love it madly), GoT, The office, Curb your enthusiasm, Seinfeld, Friends, Fauda, etc. Thriller and Spy shit is one genre I actively look for.
I left some things intentionally(to protect my identity) or unintentionally.
What is attractive to me?
Women! Lol
Traits - Caring, loving, respect for space, understanding, curious, independent.Physically – Someone who is relatively physically fit, nothing too much.
I am a sucker for a good smile.
How do I look?
I am about 172 cm and 72kg.I would give myself no more than 6 out of 10.
Big no's for me -
Conservative, religious, unreasonable.
Endnotes-
Shared interests are always a plus, but I am open to exploring new things and learning from each other, but nothing too out of my way.
I am not looking for anything casual or just a fling. I want something meaningful and long-term, but I am also not in a rush. I believe in taking things slow and getting to know each other first.
If any of this resonates with you, feel free to reach out. I am open to chatting and seeing where things go.
Thank you very much for taking the time to read my post.
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I hope you are enjoying the weekend.
I'm an introverted guy... I find it really hard to get intimate with someone... I have friends, really good ones, but no close ones. I suspect it's because I will die before I really open up to anyone. I want to change that, but habitually I am not able to do that physically, so I am taking this route.
Why I am posting here?
This platform offers me the opportunity to advertise to the other person what I am looking for and what they'd be getting into.
What I am seeking?
Someone I can be vulnerable with, I don't really know what it's like to be really vulnerable with a person but I want to give it a try as I am missing that connection.
It can be a friendship or more than that. I titled this post as M4F because I am single and would like to be with someone romantically and also I need to balance my friend circle by adding a female presence and pov.
I would really be fully content with a purely platonic relationship irrespective of gender as I value friendship more than any romantic relationship I had or would have. Obviously a good romantic relationship is a better friendship first.
Anything I am hoping to get from here, is intended to be solid and not just peripheral.
Who am I seeking?
Someone kind, empathetic, and understanding. Someone who is not judgmental and can accept me for who I am.I have given a description which I think should be enough for you to know if you'd like me.
Who am I?
As I said, I'm an introvert. I am pretty sure I have ADHD(not diagnosed).
If I am out and with people, I have this unease of going any step further than just acquaintances. I am friendly, and people are friendly to me more often than not, but it's probably because I live in Germany, lol. I am not shy, but I am distant and like my space.
Engineer(doing master’s)
Vegetarian
Liberal and a centrist(but I love practical socialism)
Reject the idea of materialistic inheritance.
An atheist(except not arrogant enough to claim I know there is no God)
I mostly eat what I cook.
I love Cats and Dogs(do not have pets 😔).
Kind and paradoxically selfish.
I enjoy cycling and going on short treks.
I love being in nature.
Smoker(intentions to quit), 420 friendly.
Do not drink anymore.
Idealize reciprocity.
Don't like to sugar-coat things, do not like to play games.
Very loyal(never betrayed even a friend)
Trust issues(working on it)
Bad fashion sense.
I am physically active but do not go to gym.
Literature I like – HP(love it madly), GoT, The office, Curb your enthusiasm, Seinfeld, Friends, Fauda, etc. Thriller and Spy shit is one genre I actively look for.
I left some things intentionally(to protect my identity) or unintentionally.
What is attractive to me?
Women! Lol
Traits - Caring, loving, respect for space, understanding, curious, independent.Physically – Someone who is relatively physically fit, nothing too much.
I am a sucker for a good smile.
How do I look?
I am about 172 cm and 72kg.I would give myself no more than 6 out of 10.
Big no's for me -
Conservative, religious, unreasonable.
Endnotes-
Shared interests are always a plus, but I am open to exploring new things and learning from each other, but nothing too out of my way.
I am not looking for anything casual or just a fling. I want something meaningful and long-term, but I am also not in a rush. I believe in taking things slow and getting to know each other first.
If any of this resonates with you, feel free to reach out. I am open to chatting and seeing where things go.
Thank you very much for taking the time to read my post.
2023.06.10 20:41 bStewbstix So soft and warm
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2023.06.10 20:37 Grand-Earth2594 is artificial intelligence a threat to humans?
Introduction: In recent years, the rise of artificial intelligence (AI) has been nothing short of remarkable. From self-driving cars to facial recognition technology, we're seeing AI systems being integrated into our lives at an unprecedented rate. However, with this advancement comes a growing concern: is AI a threat to humans? While some experts warn of the dangers of AI, others argue that the benefits of these systems far outweigh the risks. In this article, we'll explore both sides of the argument and examine the potential impacts of AI on human society.
Presentation: The Pros of AI: Proponents of AI argue that these systems can provide a wealth of benefits to society. For example, AI can be used to automate mundane and repetitive tasks, freeing up people's time for more meaningful work. Additionally, AI can assist with medical diagnoses and drug development, leading to faster and more accurate treatments for patients. AI can also help us address some of the biggest challenges facing humanity, such as climate change, food scarcity, and energy conservation. By analyzing large amounts of data and identifying patterns, AI can help us make more informed decisions and find new solutions to complex problems.
The Cons of AI: On the other hand, many experts warn of the dangers of AI. One of the main concerns is that if unchecked, AI could pose a threat to human safety and security. For example, there is a risk that AI could be used for malicious purposes, such as cyber attacks, espionage, or even warfare. Additionally, as AI becomes more advanced, there's a risk that it could surpass human intelligence and start making decisions that are detrimental to our interests. There are also concerns around job losses, as AI systems are able to perform many tasks that were previously carried out by humans. This could lead to widespread unemployment and economic instability.
Conclusion: In conclusion, the question of whether AI is a threat to human society is complex and multifaceted. While there are certainly risks associated with AI, it's important to remember that these systems also have the potential to bring about great benefits. As such, it's vital that we approach the development and deployment of AI with caution and prudence, taking steps to minimize the risks while maximizing the rewards. Only through careful planning and collaboration can we ensure that AI is used in a way that serves the needs of humanity, rather than posing a threat to our future.
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Presentation: The Pros of AI: Proponents of AI argue that these systems can provide a wealth of benefits to society. For example, AI can be used to automate mundane and repetitive tasks, freeing up people's time for more meaningful work. Additionally, AI can assist with medical diagnoses and drug development, leading to faster and more accurate treatments for patients. AI can also help us address some of the biggest challenges facing humanity, such as climate change, food scarcity, and energy conservation. By analyzing large amounts of data and identifying patterns, AI can help us make more informed decisions and find new solutions to complex problems.
The Cons of AI: On the other hand, many experts warn of the dangers of AI. One of the main concerns is that if unchecked, AI could pose a threat to human safety and security. For example, there is a risk that AI could be used for malicious purposes, such as cyber attacks, espionage, or even warfare. Additionally, as AI becomes more advanced, there's a risk that it could surpass human intelligence and start making decisions that are detrimental to our interests. There are also concerns around job losses, as AI systems are able to perform many tasks that were previously carried out by humans. This could lead to widespread unemployment and economic instability.
Conclusion: In conclusion, the question of whether AI is a threat to human society is complex and multifaceted. While there are certainly risks associated with AI, it's important to remember that these systems also have the potential to bring about great benefits. As such, it's vital that we approach the development and deployment of AI with caution and prudence, taking steps to minimize the risks while maximizing the rewards. Only through careful planning and collaboration can we ensure that AI is used in a way that serves the needs of humanity, rather than posing a threat to our future.
2023.06.10 20:37 sunsplant How to tell my mother to stop putting work onto me?
Hi everyone. To start off, my mother (52 F) and I (20 F) have been through a lot together with the seperation of my father. He was a narcisst and generally emotionally unstable and we were his mode of taking his anger out. Generally not a fun person to be around. A couple of months ago they divorced and with my father being the breadwinner of the house, my mother thought we would have to leave to move into a cheaper house but was able to swing the bills with the job she has that makes 3x less the amount of money my father has. Money is generally low, but she still makes it work. As the eldest daughter I feel obligated to step up, and I have since my brother was born I graduated highschool a year early, got accepted straight into a university and am almost done with finishing my pre-nursing requsites. I work full time and have a decent car that I pay a loan for.
What I'm trying to say is that I feel like I have a lot on my plate. I still live at home and have been trying to move out because since the divorce, my mom has gotten back into dating and she's met a guy. This week alone, she's been at his house for 5 days and I have been with my siblings taking care of them.
She does this to me a lot and I expressed to her over Memorial day weekend that I didn't want to keep doing this because I feel like a lot of my own time is spent with them. I feel guilty for my dad's emotional absence, and I feel obligated to step up...
It's honestly taken a toll on my mentally and I am just exhausted. I've always felt this way and now am coming to be more aware of it. I feel like my mother is so wound up in her relationship she just pushes the slack she doesn't put forth onto me and it doesn't feel fair at all.
When I told her I felt like she's asking too much of me she immediately downplayed it and just totally dismissed my feelings, then said that she needs time to unravel too. I understand where she's coming from and can sympathize because their entire marriage (it was not a good one) was my entire life... I witnessed everything unwillingly. How do I go about this? I'm at a loss.
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What I'm trying to say is that I feel like I have a lot on my plate. I still live at home and have been trying to move out because since the divorce, my mom has gotten back into dating and she's met a guy. This week alone, she's been at his house for 5 days and I have been with my siblings taking care of them.
She does this to me a lot and I expressed to her over Memorial day weekend that I didn't want to keep doing this because I feel like a lot of my own time is spent with them. I feel guilty for my dad's emotional absence, and I feel obligated to step up...
It's honestly taken a toll on my mentally and I am just exhausted. I've always felt this way and now am coming to be more aware of it. I feel like my mother is so wound up in her relationship she just pushes the slack she doesn't put forth onto me and it doesn't feel fair at all.
When I told her I felt like she's asking too much of me she immediately downplayed it and just totally dismissed my feelings, then said that she needs time to unravel too. I understand where she's coming from and can sympathize because their entire marriage (it was not a good one) was my entire life... I witnessed everything unwillingly. How do I go about this? I'm at a loss.
edit: typos
2023.06.10 20:32 IelReaglia A PvP Battle Gone Wrong (Or Right?)
I just had to share this unexpected turn of events that took place in our recent D&D 5e game. Let me preface this by saying that I play a high-level Halfling Divination Wizard, and boy, did things take an interesting twist during a 3v1 PvP battle encouraged by our DM.
Before the encounter, I'd cast Contingency on myself. The plan was to trigger the spell Far Step once I cast Thunder Step, and little did I know just how crucial this decision would be. As the party's martial classes - a Fighter, a Hexblade Warlock, and a Rogue - surrounded me, I could feel the tension in the air.
The battle began, and thanks to my trusty Shield spell and a Portent roll, I managed to avoid taking any significant hits early on. As the party surrounded me proper, I unleashed a 7th level Thunder Step. The damage rolls were quite high, and the opponents' saving throws, partly thanks to yet another fortunate Portent roll, were abysmal. Then, my Contingency triggered, activating Far Step immediately. I of course teleported even further away from danger within the same round. It was a move they didn't see coming.
I was then easily able to hide from my bewildered opponents. After another round of teleporting to leave them with no idea of where I was, I cooked a Delayed Blast Fireball & put a Fire Shield on myself. Then, allowing them to find me, I let loose that cooked mote of fire, hitting them pretty hard...
When the smoke cleared and the dust settled after only 2 more rounds, I emerged as the sole victor of the battle. The sheer disbelief on the faces of my companions was palpable, mixed with a tinge of frustration and resentment. The game continued, but the atmosphere had shifted. They were upset with my unexpected reaction (which was to try my best not to die) and mainly because I had won against the odds, contrary to what the DM had envisioned for the story.
To be fair, I must commend our DM for not redacting anything throughout the game. We strictly adhered to the rolls of the dice, which created a truly immersive and unpredictable experience. Encounters were designed to be to the death, adding an extra layer of intensity to our campaign.
However, it seems my character's victory has left a sour taste in the mouths of the other players. While I understand their disappointment, I believe it's essential to remember that D&D is a game where the outcomes are shaped by chance, strategy, and a touch of luck. My victory was the result of careful planning, clever spell choices, and the fickle whims of fate. And, of course, a desire for my character's survival, given all of the time invested in him.
Curious to hear some thoughts on this...
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Before the encounter, I'd cast Contingency on myself. The plan was to trigger the spell Far Step once I cast Thunder Step, and little did I know just how crucial this decision would be. As the party's martial classes - a Fighter, a Hexblade Warlock, and a Rogue - surrounded me, I could feel the tension in the air.
The battle began, and thanks to my trusty Shield spell and a Portent roll, I managed to avoid taking any significant hits early on. As the party surrounded me proper, I unleashed a 7th level Thunder Step. The damage rolls were quite high, and the opponents' saving throws, partly thanks to yet another fortunate Portent roll, were abysmal. Then, my Contingency triggered, activating Far Step immediately. I of course teleported even further away from danger within the same round. It was a move they didn't see coming.
I was then easily able to hide from my bewildered opponents. After another round of teleporting to leave them with no idea of where I was, I cooked a Delayed Blast Fireball & put a Fire Shield on myself. Then, allowing them to find me, I let loose that cooked mote of fire, hitting them pretty hard...
When the smoke cleared and the dust settled after only 2 more rounds, I emerged as the sole victor of the battle. The sheer disbelief on the faces of my companions was palpable, mixed with a tinge of frustration and resentment. The game continued, but the atmosphere had shifted. They were upset with my unexpected reaction (which was to try my best not to die) and mainly because I had won against the odds, contrary to what the DM had envisioned for the story.
To be fair, I must commend our DM for not redacting anything throughout the game. We strictly adhered to the rolls of the dice, which created a truly immersive and unpredictable experience. Encounters were designed to be to the death, adding an extra layer of intensity to our campaign.
However, it seems my character's victory has left a sour taste in the mouths of the other players. While I understand their disappointment, I believe it's essential to remember that D&D is a game where the outcomes are shaped by chance, strategy, and a touch of luck. My victory was the result of careful planning, clever spell choices, and the fickle whims of fate. And, of course, a desire for my character's survival, given all of the time invested in him.
Curious to hear some thoughts on this...
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2023.06.10 20:30 SwissCheese4Collagen The Nosrtrils McBeardsley Power Hour:
 | Happy Fri-Yay, Snarkers! OfNostrils has a piping hot slice of her new life as a mother of three served up for us today on the Tube. No word on if she actually believes that she has three kids now, but in true OfNostrils fashion, the literal first thing you see of Actually Gunner this week is him in the sink-tub. He made it a whopping three weeks before getting his bath time filmed. In this bath guys, le sigh. Actually Gunner is laying against a fuzzy pillow, yawning as the kitchen sink faucet runs onto his side. He is covered by a washcloth up to the armpit, but unless this is OfNostrils’ version of How to Bathe a Newborn we really don’t need to see this. Someone needs to tell her she can actually bond with her child without filming it for the world. Anyways let’s get to this week’s vlogisode. submitted by SwissCheese4Collagen to SnarkyRecapsBySwiss [link] [comments] Giddy-Up is still not a fan of the name Gunner. Austina yells \"hi friends\" outside to the birds. She must be entering her Disney princess phase. We open with Actually Gunner laying on Nostrils’ lap as Giddy-Up flits around to kiss the baby. Austina yells hi friend out the window, as Giddy-Up says he calls Actually Gunner “stranger”. OfNostrils asks Nostrils to fill us in on where Actually Gunner has to go tomorrow. Nostrils tells us they have to go to the dentist, to laser Actually Gunner’s lip tie, but OfNostrils has to remind him that it’s the “laser” at the dentist. Austina asks for a new food of some sort, it’s unclear what it is and of course OfNostrils pays more attention to the baby and not the two-year-old quickly telling her she can just eat that one. Welcome to The Big Show kid, the sister mom life is wearing on her already. Giddy-Up tries to relate, OfNostrils is in update mode, not film the children incessantly mode. OfNostrils tells us that Actually Gunner is five days old, which means this is from a couple weeks ago, as Giddy-Up says he’s five also. OfNostrils is quick to tell him that five years is Not the same as five days. Things are tough all over for Giddy-Up and Austina. OfNostrils simpers for the camera and tells us that it’s been so great adjusting, the kids are gentle and they love him, before turning serious about the dentist and the lip tie, and probable tongue tie. I wonder why she didn’t just ask for God’s help with it? Either way the doctor actually couldn’t tell whether he had an actual tongue tie and so now they have to go to the dentist. They are excited that he gained 5 ounces in two days after losing the 5 ounces he lost in the three days after birth. I mean, if memory serves me Baby Swiss lost almost a pound and was back to her birth weight seven days old so I’m not sure why this is such a big deal. Oh, because the doctor told her that it would take two weeks but that she’s doing great nursing. She says “I’m like ‘ah’ so encouraging”. I really want to know why she’s acting like this is her first baby ever. Did she not nurse the other two? Did Perm the Dairy Queen not let her know OfNostrils can tap into super lactation DNA to become a new Dairy Queen? It’s like when queen bees split a hive. Apparently though, our fledgling Dairy Queen OfNostrils suspects that the discomfort is the result of a tongue tie. The appointment will be early in the morning she will “let us know how it goes”, I don’t know how I’m supposed to feel suspense over something that 1) I don’t really care about and 2) that has already happened and will be resolved within 10 minutes. I feel like the way she does these videos is she just films every day and then post the highlights every Friday, which is what leads to this weird half-live half-serial format where she asks us to interact with something that has already happened. A.G. is gaining despite his tongue and lip ties. Austina isn't missing a thing and gets up early to see her brother. The kids had literally rolled out of bed. I swear she woke everyone up to say bye to A.G. The next morning, Actually Gunner lays on his parents’ bed as Austina perches nearby. OfNostrils asks Austina “who is this” and Austina climbs up on the bed and says “Gunner James” which the captions turn into “elected jeans”. Nostrils stays home with the two older kids, who run out of the house and back into it in various states of undress, as OfNostrils is on her own with Actually Gunner for his early-morning dentist appointment. We’ve gotten rid of the drone and we get what I hope is dash cam footage instead of drone footage, although if snhe held the phone to the dashboard as she drove along a country road I wouldn’t be surprised either. Ofostrils sacrifices getting coffee because “didn’t have time”, have they ever made a right choice like this before? Skip the coffee, keep the dental appointment for the six day old? “Bubba” has a thick lip tie on the top, and a tongue tie. They go take Actually Gunner back for the procedure really quick, and it should be a 2 to 4 week healing time. He also shouldn’t have a speech impediment as he gets older and they will see how it goes. Actually Gunner does excellent during this procedure and is sleeping, while also being possessed by Nostrils McBeardsley himself. Seriously we think Austina looks like her father, this kid looks like he’s gonna grow a beard worthy of a Civil War drummer in about week. Actually Gunner is able to eat well and OfNostrils is glad that the procedure worked. She’s thankful, he’s happy, she’s happy, and now she has to keep up on doing what the doctor told him to do. I hope for Actually Gunner’s sake she’s much better about this than she was about those iron pills she was supposed to be taking for the majority of her pregnancy. I guess her coffee maker is broken? At least it's a quick fix for the kid's sake. He's sleeping and OfNostrils is happy “Several” days later, she is at the two week mark. I don’t know if she can’t subtract 5 from 14, or if she didn’t even try to figure it out. In however many days it is Giddy-Up has become of building builder, by stacking his blocks. Oh, and OfNostrils took the last week off for our sakes, so we could catch up on her “birth videos” that she stretched out and padded with old footage “and what his name is”. Pfft. Like she hadn’t been telling us everything the entirety of the time on different platforms. She goes on to say that she liked taking the break which, we all know she didn’t really take a break from vlogging, she just posted a day later one week. She was still sticking the camera in the kids’ faces, all three of them. She posted on two Fridays out of three, so she was editing and filming the entire time. Also, Nostrils has been super busy at work so OfNostrils has already had all three kids home all day by herself. She repeats adjusting has gone super well, due to her easy recovery and also due to Actually Gunner’s calmness. Nostrils holds Actually Gunner as OfNostrils films. She asks him who he thinks Actually Gunner looks like, and Nostrils says that Actually Gunner looks a little bit like Giddy-Up but ultimately that he’s really got his own look. No he doesn’t, he looks exactly like Nostrils McBeardsley. Both parents estimate Actually Gunner is roughly 10 pounds. Boy, I’m surprised they don’t actually just get out the fish scale and put it on the back of the onesie to check. Nostrils The Next Generation hop around as Actually Gunner lays on pillows on the couch. OfNostrils has 2 U pillows put together and a coffee table pushed next to the couch. She can afford a Doona but not a bassinet for the living room? OfNostrils asks Giddy-Up and Austina if they want to set up the pool outside. Giddy-Up wants to add soap, OfNostrils bursts his bubble and says no. Giddy-Up has lost a couple more teeth, and runs off as OfNostrils calls herself “mom” when she says she’s going to help them set up both pools. May 31 for anyone keeping track of the timeline in this vlogisode \"How has the transition been\" she asks. How many times is she going to ask them this? Giddy-Up is taking no chances No privacy for the soon-to-be-napping Giddy-Up puts on a full-size innertube to go down a plastic child’s slide into a pool maybe 6 inches deep. Both pools are wading pools, and OfNostrils warns Austina to not put dirt in the pool. Austina wasn’t planning on it, she was putting it into a skillet and making mud pie thank you very much. Now we cut to nap time, and Austina asks for a stuffed animal. Once she them settled, they sharply cut to “a few days later” OfNostrils asks Actually Gunner if he wants a bath? She proceeds to turn the water on to give Actually Gunner a bath, and he yawns through it so I guess he’s okay with it. Next up is a clumsy cut to Austina and Giddy-Up in the back seat dancing in their car seats. Don’t show Perm and Sperm…or Jana. OfNostrils films from the front seat as they take the kids to the park. The trip to the park is long enough that Actually Gunner needs to be fed while Nostrils stops to “run inside and pick up” a truck part. The truck part gets driven past on a forklift so I’m not sure if they’re going to haul it somewhere else before the park or just take it with them everywhere. It looks like a bumper for what it’s worth. These waterfall showerheads are getting ridiculous, also Car Seat Dance Party I couldn't get a clear shot of it, but when Nostrils put Austina down he kind of flung her into Giddy-Up at the end of the slide Nostrils forgot the mic was hot. At least I hope so, otherwise he's gotten too comfy on camera. Once they are at the park, Actually Gunner hangs out in the stroller while Giddy-Up and Austina run around. OfNostrils follows Giddy-Up into a boat type tunnel thing, as Austina runs behind her. Nostrils squeaks down the slide with Austina on his lap and Giddy-Up next to him, then tells Giddy-Up “no, we aren’t” when Giddy-Up wants to go in a boat. Cut to Austina in a toddler swing and Giddy-Up in what I think is a swing for kids with physical disabilities. Anyways, Austina is chattering away and says “it’s nice to be here”. Next up is a big double slide, that splits and Giddy-Up slides down to cheers from his mother. Austina is also all the way up at the top but OfNostrils tells Nostrils that “she’s trying to walk up”, either way no one went up to help the 2 year old onto the slide. The stepping rocks up to the slide are almost as big as she is, so maybe their next angle is Austina the Explorer and she teaches Bible verses instead of Spanish vocabulary words when she gets to the top of the slide. Ya’ll saw it here first, but so help me if they actually do something like that. Austina finally appears to slide down, and is pulling herself by the sides of the slide. OfNostrils tells her to “pick your legs up, put them up in the sky”, when “lean back a bit” is a much easier way to convey that message. Nostrils tells the world that that slide gave him the ultimate wedgie. That wasn’t the slide that did that pal, that’s your karma for naming the baby Gunner fucking James. Nostrils tells Austina that she is good at climbing. She already knows this and the next shot shows her skittering out of the slide at top speed before running over to the stroller for some hugs after her zippy trip down the metal. She sticks her lower lip out as Nostrils takes his turn shoving the camera in her face, who says this isn’t an equal marriage? Nostrils asks if it was scary and Austina clearly tells him no, but that she laid on her back. Her shirt probably rode up some and she got a bit of a friction scrape. We zoom in on Actually Gunner’s sleeping self as Giddy-Up asks to go to another Slide Park one day because he liked it. Next is a cut to the car where Nostrils holds Actually Gunner up to the AC vents because it’s hot. Actually Gunner is just along for the ride as his peach fuzz blows in the frosty air. OfNostrils asks Giddy-Up what his favorite slide was and he stutters through a couple as he tries to remember all of them. Austina drinks her water and looks out the window as OfNostrils swings the camera back to the front to show of her iced iced baby, who is probably cooled off enough to go back into the car seat and go home. She wasn't scared of the slide, she said so. Random shot of sleeping two week old, 5 year old asks to go find all the slide parks. unedited because his face says he's not loving it Austina declined to comment, not that she was asked. That’s all from the McBeardsley’s this week, and I am pushing The !s tomorrow (Saturday night). Kath!s Kometitive Nature must win above all, but she missed the Fri-Yay cut-off time. Better luck next week, Kath! As for the rest of you lovely folks, I’ll catch y’all later! |
2023.06.10 20:29 sunsplant AITA for refusing to watch my siblings for my mother
Hi everyone. To start off, my mother (52 F) and I (20 F) have been through a lot together with the seperation of my father. He was a narcisst and generally emotionally unstable and we were his mode of taking his anger out. Generally not a fun person to be around. A couple of months ago they divorced and with my father being the breadwinner of the house, my mother thought we would have to leave to move into a cheaper house but was able to swing the bills with the job she has that makes 3x less the amount of money my father has. Money is generally low, but she still makes it work. As the eldest daughter I feel obligated to step up, and I have since my brother was born I graduated highschool a year early, got accepted straight into a university and am almost done with finishing my pre-nursing requsites. I work full time and have a decent car that I pay a loan for.
What I'm trying to say is that I feel like I have a lot on my plate. I still live at home and have been trying to move out because since the divorce, my mom has gotten back into dating and she's met a guy. This week alone, she's been at his house for 5 days and I have been with my siblings taking care of them.
She does this to me a lot and I expressed to her over Memorial day weekend that I didn't want to keep doing this because I feel like a lot of my own time is spent with them. I feel guilty for my dad's emotional absence, and I feel obligated to step up...
It's honestly taken a toll on my mentally and I am just exhausted. I've always felt this way and now am coming to be more aware of it. I feel like my mother is so wound up in her relationship she just pushes the slack she doesn't put forth onto me and it doesn't feel fair at all.
When I told her I felt like she's asking too much of me she immediately downplayed it and just totally dismissed my feelings, then said that she needs time to unravel too. I understand where she's coming from and can sympathize because their entire marriage (it was not a good one) was my entire life... I witnessed everything unwillingly. Am I the asshole for telling her no? I'm unsure of where to go with this.
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What I'm trying to say is that I feel like I have a lot on my plate. I still live at home and have been trying to move out because since the divorce, my mom has gotten back into dating and she's met a guy. This week alone, she's been at his house for 5 days and I have been with my siblings taking care of them.
She does this to me a lot and I expressed to her over Memorial day weekend that I didn't want to keep doing this because I feel like a lot of my own time is spent with them. I feel guilty for my dad's emotional absence, and I feel obligated to step up...
It's honestly taken a toll on my mentally and I am just exhausted. I've always felt this way and now am coming to be more aware of it. I feel like my mother is so wound up in her relationship she just pushes the slack she doesn't put forth onto me and it doesn't feel fair at all.
When I told her I felt like she's asking too much of me she immediately downplayed it and just totally dismissed my feelings, then said that she needs time to unravel too. I understand where she's coming from and can sympathize because their entire marriage (it was not a good one) was my entire life... I witnessed everything unwillingly. Am I the asshole for telling her no? I'm unsure of where to go with this.
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2023.06.10 20:23 81420161 I've been offered in an incredible residency to work exclusively on my art for the better part of a year, but it would mean ending a long-term relationship. I don't know what I want.
Hi, I’m in my early 30s. I’ve been offered a creative/arts residency in a city that’s decently far from where I live now (about a 6-hour drive). My gut is torn over whether to accept it or not. The terms of the residency would be: -they will provide a room rent-free in a house share with two other artists in my field doing the same residency. the house is equipped with a studio with equipment and software for what we do, plus a gym, kitchen and co-working space. -in exchange, they would ask that I quit any work I’m doing that’s not directly related to the creative field (i.e. take a leap and start making money only creatively) -I would be allowed to leave the city but they’d ask that I keep it to a minimum. I didn’t ask what the limit for leaving is but I asked if I could take trips home every 3-4 weeks for a potential planned medical thing and they said no I'm hesitant to accept because: 1) I’m in a long-term relationship (over two years). It’s my first every LTR and I feel like my BF and I are compatible in so many ways. My BF has said in no uncertain terms he will end the relationship if I accept the residency as he doesn’t want to do long-distance for this period of time. (It’s most of a year.) 2) If I were sure this would be a great career move, it would be a hard but easy decision for me to leave my BF. I love him, but I wouldn’t want to date someone who was standing in the way of my career over a temporary situation where we could still see each other sometimes. However, I’m not sure, and I’m worried about what will happen if I basically implode my life for this opportunity (quit a job I’m happy in, leave a relationship I’m mostly happy in, and lose my housing in the city I’m currently living in) and then the residency program turns out to be BAD. My biggest fears:
1) I'm from the city I live in now and have never really lived anywhere else for an extended period of time. This feels like a relatively risk-free way to try living in a new place, and frankly I'm getting tired of how competitive and expensive my city is. I feel like everyone is jumping over each other to get opportunities. I'm a little tired of live performance and have been interested for a while in putting more emphasis on creating digital stuff / social media. A program like this that's in a more remote place with less going on so I have room to sit alone and write would be perfect for this
2) They're offering a room where I could be alone and undisturbed which is out of my reach in my city. Rent has skyrocketed the past few years. I can afford my rent now but BF and I are sharing a one-room apartment, we both work remote most of the time, and it is AWFUL. Yes I could get a co-working space or there's solutions like putting up barriers but I really just want to be able to roll out of bed and journal for an hour without anyone saying anything to me. I'm introverted and my social battery is constantly being drained in this living situation. Rent has gotten so bad that even if I left my BF's apartment, I'd have to pay an extra $500 a month just to have my own room in an apartment share on the absolute lowest end if I found a deal, but it would probably be closer to $700 to 800 more a month. I really want space to breathe.
I just did the math and with my typical current expenses minus rent and utilities, I'd be losing about $12,000 over the period without an income (I'm guesstimating that food & drink will be cheaper but that I'd be spending way more on gas than I currently do on public transportation). That same amount would net me about 7.5 months of Airbnb rental in a rural area I love where I'm comfortable driving. I almost would rather just make my own little "mini residency" where I rent a place one month out of the year and continue to work, but scale it back slightly. My BF isn't thrilled about me going away for an entire month, but he'd accept it.
TL:DR: I got offered a residency that would pay my rent in a smaller town but with some restrictions including quitting my job so I could focus 100% on art - but they wouldn't pay my other expenses. Also, if I take this opportunity my long term BF would break up with me rather than do long-distance, and I will definitely lose momentum that I've built up in the highly competitive city where I live now and have to shift my focus – which I'm interested in doing, but also feels scary! I'd appreciate any insight on how to make this decision.
I'm considering an alternative step of turning down this residency and instead renting a cabin for one month. This would cost me about $1,600. If I take the residency I would have to spend about $12,000 out of my savings unless I magically start making $1,000+ a month creatively, which is unlikely based on what I know about my field. It would be taking a huge gamble on myself to accept and I'm not sure that I'm ready.
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- LONG-TERM CAREER RISK: I was adrift for a lot of my 20s and my job history is very patchy. I got the job I have now by knowing someone and it’s honestly the first job I’ve worked where I truly feel like the company culture “gets” me and cares more about me as an individual than blood sucking me dry for their own profit. I like the people and the vibe, and it feels like there’s room for growth. I don’t know if I could get a job like this again.
- SHORT-TERM FINANCIAL RISK: If the program doesn't want me to do "regular" work, then I'd be taking a huge risk in assuming that I can make enough creatively to pay my other expenses. The program wouldn't pay for anything other than housing - not food/car insurance/gas/etc. I have made some money doing things like creative coaching, paid feedback, etc but I've made more like in the low hundreds a month and my monthly expenses without rent would be at least $1,000. I have a lot in savings but this could potentially deplete at least 1/3 of my emergency fund. Based on what I know about career prospects in my industry, it's highly unlikely that I would make back enough money to replace my lost professional income. Most people in the industry never make a profit from it
- POSSIBLY WORSE OPPORTUNITIES: I’m currently in the #1 city in the country, probably the world, for live performance in my creative field. I’ve worked my way up for the past few years to the point where I have my own thing I’m producing on a regular basis that’s starting to get a small but sure following. I’m getting the opportunity to perform once a week at a place that may start paying me eventually, possibly even within the next year or two. My BF pointed out that if I leave to go be in a more remote place for such a long time period I’ll lose the momentum I’ve built up in this city and potentially be putting myself in a worse situation.
- RED FLAG ON THE PROGRAM?: My BF says that his friend, who's further up than us, says the specific person running this program has a bad reputation for taking advantage of young people and acting like more of an authority than he is, and that he's generally seen as a laughingstock. I have to admit that offering rent only, and not paying for other necessities like food, but requiring participants to quit their non-artistic work for the program feels a bit like a red flag to me though I can't quite put my finger on why
- DRIVING: I have a car but I'm not a confident driver. Where I live now there’s ample public transportation. If I took the residency, I would need to drive frequently. I’ve visited the city it's in before and there’s a bad combination of aggressive drivers and poorly designed/confusing highways.
1) I'm from the city I live in now and have never really lived anywhere else for an extended period of time. This feels like a relatively risk-free way to try living in a new place, and frankly I'm getting tired of how competitive and expensive my city is. I feel like everyone is jumping over each other to get opportunities. I'm a little tired of live performance and have been interested for a while in putting more emphasis on creating digital stuff / social media. A program like this that's in a more remote place with less going on so I have room to sit alone and write would be perfect for this
2) They're offering a room where I could be alone and undisturbed which is out of my reach in my city. Rent has skyrocketed the past few years. I can afford my rent now but BF and I are sharing a one-room apartment, we both work remote most of the time, and it is AWFUL. Yes I could get a co-working space or there's solutions like putting up barriers but I really just want to be able to roll out of bed and journal for an hour without anyone saying anything to me. I'm introverted and my social battery is constantly being drained in this living situation. Rent has gotten so bad that even if I left my BF's apartment, I'd have to pay an extra $500 a month just to have my own room in an apartment share on the absolute lowest end if I found a deal, but it would probably be closer to $700 to 800 more a month. I really want space to breathe.
My thought process
Right now, I'm leaning towards turning down the residency for all of the above reasons, but my heart is torn over it. I feel like if I had gotten this just a little bit earlier while I was still adrift it would have been perfect, but I might be more interested in it for the person I was then and how little I had going on, and now, I have too much that I'd be giving up if I accept.I just did the math and with my typical current expenses minus rent and utilities, I'd be losing about $12,000 over the period without an income (I'm guesstimating that food & drink will be cheaper but that I'd be spending way more on gas than I currently do on public transportation). That same amount would net me about 7.5 months of Airbnb rental in a rural area I love where I'm comfortable driving. I almost would rather just make my own little "mini residency" where I rent a place one month out of the year and continue to work, but scale it back slightly. My BF isn't thrilled about me going away for an entire month, but he'd accept it.
TL:DR: I got offered a residency that would pay my rent in a smaller town but with some restrictions including quitting my job so I could focus 100% on art - but they wouldn't pay my other expenses. Also, if I take this opportunity my long term BF would break up with me rather than do long-distance, and I will definitely lose momentum that I've built up in the highly competitive city where I live now and have to shift my focus – which I'm interested in doing, but also feels scary! I'd appreciate any insight on how to make this decision.
I'm considering an alternative step of turning down this residency and instead renting a cabin for one month. This would cost me about $1,600. If I take the residency I would have to spend about $12,000 out of my savings unless I magically start making $1,000+ a month creatively, which is unlikely based on what I know about my field. It would be taking a huge gamble on myself to accept and I'm not sure that I'm ready.
2023.06.10 20:14 Zagaroth [No Need For a Core?] - Ch 095: Laying out the sixth floor
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A few days after Kazue and Mordecai finished the fifth floor they had a set of visitors from Riverbridge which included a couple of surprises. One of those surprises was the inclusion of Brongrim and Nainvil with the set of guards coming in for training. The dwarf and half-orc had managed to negotiate a supervised parole where they worked for the city guards, and part of that duty was going to include training at the dungeon.
The other surprise was a visit from their sister-in-law, Hainako. Moriko’s little sister had been sent with a few sets of medicines for Kazue to try and report back on efficacy. Once satchel and note were delivered she hung out with them in the war room so she could watch the training group move through the dungeon.
The group had two recruits with only a basic level of training, which bogged down the team a bit. Mordecai sent out instructions to keep the challenge down to a minimum, but even so they only barely managed to scrape through the fourth floor and it was clear that they weren’t getting through the fifth floor. Mordecai was glad that they’d shown the good sense to call it off there, he’d have considered intervening if they’d tried to drag the newbies through the fifth floor, the chances of an accidental death were too high.
One side benefit of this particular group coming through was that Mordecai finally got to see what an expert gunner looked like. Brongrim’s fighting style was a skirmishing type that mixed pistol and short sword, and it allowed him to cover his reloading with attacks from his blade. It only worked because he also had his waxed-paper bullets readied in specialized bandoleers. You had to have everything set up for it, it wasn’t the sort of thing you could do on the fly and Mordecai could see where you had to dedicatedly practice certain movement combinations to bring gun and bandoleer into the right alignment without interfering with the rest of your movements. Still, the biggest flaw he could see in guns was the need to reload each shot that way, not that crossbows were any better really. Bows and slings both had much more fluid actions to ready the next piece of ammunition, but they also took more time to master, and neither could be used with only one hand.
Nainvil’s technique was a more straightforward style that focused on a two-handed grip for power, but with a light enough sword that he could free a hand for other uses and still be able to swing. That wasn’t a new variant for Mordecai, but all the styles and techniques of their visitors were being studied by the laganthros. Even if Mordecai knew most of them, there was no good way for him to try and teach every possible style, so he kept to the basics and let them practice and train to find their preferences. Though some of the works Moriko was bringing back included older copies of technique scrolls, maybe he should encourage Betty to study those and start her own school for laganthros.
They were the mundane type, with no learning enchantments or anything, but for the most part he preferred those anyway. Learning what you are actually doing was usually better than just having a combo or technique implanted in your head.
But that was for much later as the wagons were going much slower than Moriko on her own. For now, he made arrangements for everyone to have someplace to sleep for the night, including a private room for Brongrim and Nainvil. No special prizes however, since the group didn’t clear the dungeon. Getting bonuses for clearing everything was going to get harder as they grew, and Mordecai was fine with that. Technically it wasn’t required, he just liked doing it, but it also wasn’t something he wanted to be dealing with constantly.
Now he could turn his attention to something else that Hainako had brought with her. It was a commission and payment for a set of equipment, with some interesting measurements for the armor and cloak. Traxalim was who had sent the commission with her, but according to the note he was relaying the commission from someone else. The work wasn’t particularly hard, but some of the materials were unusual, and the payment included samples of them: Wyvern hide for the armor, Worg fur for the cloak.
The request also wanted a pair of daggers long enough he’d almost call them short swords, except that the specifications for the armor were for someone rather tall and lanky. The instant return enchantments for the daggers were a fairly common design so it was no trouble adding those to each dagger as well.
On top of that was a full gear set complete with an Expanded backpack. It had just about everything one could want for exploring the world and surviving in a range of environments. It was like baby’s-first-adventuring-kit, except most folk couldn’t afford this level of gear when they first stepped into the world of explorers and mercenaries.
It wasn’t enough to keep someone incompetent alive, but it would make the job easier for someone new at it. And all the major components had a rather interesting insignia attached or inscribed in some way: A wolf with three horns. He had no idea what that meant.
But it didn’t matter, the dungeon had gotten some new materials to add to their repertoire, some more raw materials for the laganthros to work with, and a few new small animals that had been easy to carry in a cage this far. It was a fair trade. By the time the group was awake the next morning the dungeon’s part of that trade was complete. And when they had left, it was time to begin on the sixth floor. “Are you ready love?” He asked Kazue.
.
This was a bigger section to do all at once than she’d done before, but after talking it over with her husband Kazue rather liked the idea. They’d gone straight down so far, each floor looping back under the floor above it, but now that they were down this deep there was no reason to not also expand horizontally. The end of the fifth floor was approximately under the end of the first floor, this left them ‘pointing’ back under the mountain. So this time when she gathered energy to push their home complex down, she also pushed ‘out’.
There were a couple of design changes as well. Looping back and forth had made it simplest to bring the two paths back to each other at the end of each floor, and they’d used the stairwells down to keep them isolated. But there was no simple stairway between the fifth and the sixth this time. While the last door for each side could still either lead forward or reroute back up to the start of the sewer path, the forward paths merged into a meandering and slowly widening tunnel.
The tunnel opened up onto a wide, well-lit cavern that was almost meadow-like, excepting only that the ground cover was of a similar makeup to fungal floor five. At the far end of the meadow was a basin that would become a vast lake once filled, and at the shores of this lake-to-be was a large village once more occupied by laganthros. Only this time it was set to be a more well-rounded village, with a clear mix of potential combatants and noncombatants. A well-trod path lead toward this village, complete with a sign saying “Lapin Lake Village”.
At the other end of the basin that was slowly filling with water the lake was split by a large peninsula that ended at the far wall. This signaled the divergence of the paths again, with two underground rivers splitting off from either side of the peninsula. This entire setup meant that at this stage people could decide to switch paths, though they would be obligated by the rules of the new path that they chose.
This did run some risk that someone might try and trick their way this far by taking the non-combat route to conserve their resources before switching, but they would still need to be well-armed to tackle further combat so it seemed unlikely that she or Mordecai would be unable to spot them and call them out on it. And they did intend to offer it up as an option for those who had cleared the fifth floor of the combat route previously and that were in good favor with the dungeon.
The village itself was the first challenge in progressing, as the laganthros were going to be building docks and boats, and the boats could be either sold or rented with a guide who would help pilot them. For the absolute cheapskates, they could even do a short rental to get them to the peninsula, where there were plenty of both normal and mushroom trees to potentially harvest and make their own rafts or boats from.
This was also an optional challenge and reward as some of the vegetation and fungi here were rare or valuable, if you knew how to identify and harvest it.
As for the rest, well, for the moment they had a pair of fairly simple rivers that led to another lake, though this one just had a sandy shore to pull up onto. Filling the floor out was a future endeavor, but the layout was ready. And now their home was even further under the mountain itself.
Kazue had been careful with this by using a trick Mordecai showed her, probing ahead with their mana as she sought to claim more territory. Running into worked stone or large caverns would have felt different and let her pull back before she fully claimed that area. Even if they had a perfect map of the dwarven kingdom, and right now they had no map at all, there was always a chance that something else lived down here.
Well, actually, there had been plenty of that. But those were all simpler underground creatures, and she’d been able to invite them into her dungeon’s ecosystem or as inhabitants. Kazue surveyed her work and was quite pleased with herself. Mordecai approved as well, but she realized then that he’d been partially distracted while she worked on their next level. Before she could ask about what had taken up his attention, his mental voice became excited.
“Kazue! Take a look at this. Focus on the aura of any of your dire rabbits on the first floor. Look at the whole thing.” He seemed to be eagerly anticipating something, so she followed his instructions with curious confusion.
What he wanted her to see quickly became obvious. Some of their mana was flowing into all of their inhabitants, enough to leave her a little hollow feeling given how much they’d just spent, but it was having an interesting effect, one that was most dramatic in the simplest creatures. She could see energy sparkling along the pathways of their brains, the individual components compacting into more efficient forms, then multiplying and creating more complex pathways.
Their auras fluctuated in response to these changes, their very spirits being altered by this physical change until suddenly collapsing into a denser, stronger form of spiritual energy. Every single one of her wonderful creatures now had a spark of true sentience in them, complete with the rise of a soul! A quick check verified it even applied to the clockwork creatures in the library and the spiders on the fifth floor, though not the simpler, reactive vegetative fungi.
This was great! They’d always been able to communicate ideas and concepts to all their inhabitants, but this would allow deeper, language-based communication! Though closer examination revealed that the mental capacity upgrade only barely breached that level, it would in many ways be like talking to a not particularly bright child. On the other hand, the upgrade seemed to affect all but the smartest of her inhabitants to some extent. Which meant Horace and a small percentage of the laganthros.
Hmm. And Mordecai seemed pleased but not particularly surprised. Kazue’s thoughts focused on him with suspicion only to be met with amusement, so her avatar stirred from where they were cuddled on their bed and bit into his shoulder.
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The other surprise was a visit from their sister-in-law, Hainako. Moriko’s little sister had been sent with a few sets of medicines for Kazue to try and report back on efficacy. Once satchel and note were delivered she hung out with them in the war room so she could watch the training group move through the dungeon.
The group had two recruits with only a basic level of training, which bogged down the team a bit. Mordecai sent out instructions to keep the challenge down to a minimum, but even so they only barely managed to scrape through the fourth floor and it was clear that they weren’t getting through the fifth floor. Mordecai was glad that they’d shown the good sense to call it off there, he’d have considered intervening if they’d tried to drag the newbies through the fifth floor, the chances of an accidental death were too high.
One side benefit of this particular group coming through was that Mordecai finally got to see what an expert gunner looked like. Brongrim’s fighting style was a skirmishing type that mixed pistol and short sword, and it allowed him to cover his reloading with attacks from his blade. It only worked because he also had his waxed-paper bullets readied in specialized bandoleers. You had to have everything set up for it, it wasn’t the sort of thing you could do on the fly and Mordecai could see where you had to dedicatedly practice certain movement combinations to bring gun and bandoleer into the right alignment without interfering with the rest of your movements. Still, the biggest flaw he could see in guns was the need to reload each shot that way, not that crossbows were any better really. Bows and slings both had much more fluid actions to ready the next piece of ammunition, but they also took more time to master, and neither could be used with only one hand.
Nainvil’s technique was a more straightforward style that focused on a two-handed grip for power, but with a light enough sword that he could free a hand for other uses and still be able to swing. That wasn’t a new variant for Mordecai, but all the styles and techniques of their visitors were being studied by the laganthros. Even if Mordecai knew most of them, there was no good way for him to try and teach every possible style, so he kept to the basics and let them practice and train to find their preferences. Though some of the works Moriko was bringing back included older copies of technique scrolls, maybe he should encourage Betty to study those and start her own school for laganthros.
They were the mundane type, with no learning enchantments or anything, but for the most part he preferred those anyway. Learning what you are actually doing was usually better than just having a combo or technique implanted in your head.
But that was for much later as the wagons were going much slower than Moriko on her own. For now, he made arrangements for everyone to have someplace to sleep for the night, including a private room for Brongrim and Nainvil. No special prizes however, since the group didn’t clear the dungeon. Getting bonuses for clearing everything was going to get harder as they grew, and Mordecai was fine with that. Technically it wasn’t required, he just liked doing it, but it also wasn’t something he wanted to be dealing with constantly.
Now he could turn his attention to something else that Hainako had brought with her. It was a commission and payment for a set of equipment, with some interesting measurements for the armor and cloak. Traxalim was who had sent the commission with her, but according to the note he was relaying the commission from someone else. The work wasn’t particularly hard, but some of the materials were unusual, and the payment included samples of them: Wyvern hide for the armor, Worg fur for the cloak.
The request also wanted a pair of daggers long enough he’d almost call them short swords, except that the specifications for the armor were for someone rather tall and lanky. The instant return enchantments for the daggers were a fairly common design so it was no trouble adding those to each dagger as well.
On top of that was a full gear set complete with an Expanded backpack. It had just about everything one could want for exploring the world and surviving in a range of environments. It was like baby’s-first-adventuring-kit, except most folk couldn’t afford this level of gear when they first stepped into the world of explorers and mercenaries.
It wasn’t enough to keep someone incompetent alive, but it would make the job easier for someone new at it. And all the major components had a rather interesting insignia attached or inscribed in some way: A wolf with three horns. He had no idea what that meant.
But it didn’t matter, the dungeon had gotten some new materials to add to their repertoire, some more raw materials for the laganthros to work with, and a few new small animals that had been easy to carry in a cage this far. It was a fair trade. By the time the group was awake the next morning the dungeon’s part of that trade was complete. And when they had left, it was time to begin on the sixth floor. “Are you ready love?” He asked Kazue.
There were a couple of design changes as well. Looping back and forth had made it simplest to bring the two paths back to each other at the end of each floor, and they’d used the stairwells down to keep them isolated. But there was no simple stairway between the fifth and the sixth this time. While the last door for each side could still either lead forward or reroute back up to the start of the sewer path, the forward paths merged into a meandering and slowly widening tunnel.
The tunnel opened up onto a wide, well-lit cavern that was almost meadow-like, excepting only that the ground cover was of a similar makeup to fungal floor five. At the far end of the meadow was a basin that would become a vast lake once filled, and at the shores of this lake-to-be was a large village once more occupied by laganthros. Only this time it was set to be a more well-rounded village, with a clear mix of potential combatants and noncombatants. A well-trod path lead toward this village, complete with a sign saying “Lapin Lake Village”.
At the other end of the basin that was slowly filling with water the lake was split by a large peninsula that ended at the far wall. This signaled the divergence of the paths again, with two underground rivers splitting off from either side of the peninsula. This entire setup meant that at this stage people could decide to switch paths, though they would be obligated by the rules of the new path that they chose.
This did run some risk that someone might try and trick their way this far by taking the non-combat route to conserve their resources before switching, but they would still need to be well-armed to tackle further combat so it seemed unlikely that she or Mordecai would be unable to spot them and call them out on it. And they did intend to offer it up as an option for those who had cleared the fifth floor of the combat route previously and that were in good favor with the dungeon.
The village itself was the first challenge in progressing, as the laganthros were going to be building docks and boats, and the boats could be either sold or rented with a guide who would help pilot them. For the absolute cheapskates, they could even do a short rental to get them to the peninsula, where there were plenty of both normal and mushroom trees to potentially harvest and make their own rafts or boats from.
This was also an optional challenge and reward as some of the vegetation and fungi here were rare or valuable, if you knew how to identify and harvest it.
As for the rest, well, for the moment they had a pair of fairly simple rivers that led to another lake, though this one just had a sandy shore to pull up onto. Filling the floor out was a future endeavor, but the layout was ready. And now their home was even further under the mountain itself.
Kazue had been careful with this by using a trick Mordecai showed her, probing ahead with their mana as she sought to claim more territory. Running into worked stone or large caverns would have felt different and let her pull back before she fully claimed that area. Even if they had a perfect map of the dwarven kingdom, and right now they had no map at all, there was always a chance that something else lived down here.
Well, actually, there had been plenty of that. But those were all simpler underground creatures, and she’d been able to invite them into her dungeon’s ecosystem or as inhabitants. Kazue surveyed her work and was quite pleased with herself. Mordecai approved as well, but she realized then that he’d been partially distracted while she worked on their next level. Before she could ask about what had taken up his attention, his mental voice became excited.
“Kazue! Take a look at this. Focus on the aura of any of your dire rabbits on the first floor. Look at the whole thing.” He seemed to be eagerly anticipating something, so she followed his instructions with curious confusion.
What he wanted her to see quickly became obvious. Some of their mana was flowing into all of their inhabitants, enough to leave her a little hollow feeling given how much they’d just spent, but it was having an interesting effect, one that was most dramatic in the simplest creatures. She could see energy sparkling along the pathways of their brains, the individual components compacting into more efficient forms, then multiplying and creating more complex pathways.
Their auras fluctuated in response to these changes, their very spirits being altered by this physical change until suddenly collapsing into a denser, stronger form of spiritual energy. Every single one of her wonderful creatures now had a spark of true sentience in them, complete with the rise of a soul! A quick check verified it even applied to the clockwork creatures in the library and the spiders on the fifth floor, though not the simpler, reactive vegetative fungi.
This was great! They’d always been able to communicate ideas and concepts to all their inhabitants, but this would allow deeper, language-based communication! Though closer examination revealed that the mental capacity upgrade only barely breached that level, it would in many ways be like talking to a not particularly bright child. On the other hand, the upgrade seemed to affect all but the smartest of her inhabitants to some extent. Which meant Horace and a small percentage of the laganthros.
Hmm. And Mordecai seemed pleased but not particularly surprised. Kazue’s thoughts focused on him with suspicion only to be met with amusement, so her avatar stirred from where they were cuddled on their bed and bit into his shoulder.
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2023.06.10 20:05 mobius_I Removed from r/narcissism and hope this can live here
I need some advice about something that happened. This will be a bit long, but I believe I need to give some background to set the stage.
I'm about 2 years out of my 15 marriage with a covert narcissist. Obviously I can't armchair diagnose, but I've spent these two years working with a therapist and psychiatrist that specialize in recovery from narcissistic abuse and managing cptsd. I feel like I have a PHD in cluster B abuse at this point. I still have to maintain a small amount of contact with my ex wife and it's to the point where I can call out exact things she will say and do to try and maintain some form of power and control/ supply from me by following exactly what a narcissist would do. I'd say I have a 90% success rate in this regard. This is all to say that my obsessive research and work with knowledgeable professionals has led me to be able to see these cycles of abuse from miles away.
My journey to learning about these cycles of abuse began when my then wife and best friend of 25 years had an affair which ultimately led to me leaving her 2 years later. I won't go into details, but that was the first time that both my wife and friend's mask fully dropped, and it was actually all of her projections that I was gaslighting, manipulating, cheating, etc. that caused me to come across information on narcissism.
Trying to process all of this eventually led me to recognize, after years of therapy, that I had multiple people in my life that have high levels of narcissistic traits, and that the aforementioned friend was probably a malignant narcissist and possibly even a sociopath. He was always very overt but at the time I just thought he was an a**hole for the 25 years of our friendship.
A few months ago, he contacted me out of the blue. The initial contact was extremely creepy on his part and I broke down and told him that I know he probably has some sort of cluster B personality disorder, and that I know what he is doing is trying to hoover me back. Surprisingly, he agreed that he might be a sociopath and that he was 100% hoovering. He obviously has some sort of self awareness although ironically still says him messing around with my wife was my fault. There is still zero remorse or accountability.
Having the two biggest people in my life discard me simultaneously with an affair was brutal to say the least. My recovery has been the hardest thing I've ever had to do in my life and I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy.
Today I had a strange experience. I was on facebook and a picture of him getting married came across my feed from his mother. My heart literally sank and I had an extremely physical reaction to seeing it. I took a step back to analyze what I was actually feeling and realized I felt despair for what that poor woman was going to go through in her life. I don't cry often, but my eyes literally welled up seeing this stranger and knowing what was in store for her.
I know it's probably pointless and stupid to do, but I have an all encompassing urge to reach out to this stranger and give her resources to understand the cycle of abuse and the traits of cluster B personality disorders. I also have the urge to reach out to him to say that if he actually wants a somewhat healthy marriage he should go to therapy immediately and begin working on controlling his behaviors. As I said before, he is well aware that I know who he really is and has acknowledged that.
I have no connection to either of them at this point and couldn't care less if she thinks I'm crazy. In my brain I word it in such a way that she can come to her own conclusions but would have the resources to recognize it. If I had understood this form of abuse early on I know my life would have turned out very differently. I even feel like being open and honest that I contacted both parties about it might make things seem a bit less crazy?
I fully see how strange it would be for a complete stranger to reach out but I can't help but think it could change a life. My current internal obsession is wanting to scream to the world about the damage this type of abuse causes in the victims. I'm aware of how ridiculous this all is and that it's 100% my problem, but I can't shake it. I guess I need someone to talk me off the ledge or something like that.
Can anyone help!?
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I'm about 2 years out of my 15 marriage with a covert narcissist. Obviously I can't armchair diagnose, but I've spent these two years working with a therapist and psychiatrist that specialize in recovery from narcissistic abuse and managing cptsd. I feel like I have a PHD in cluster B abuse at this point. I still have to maintain a small amount of contact with my ex wife and it's to the point where I can call out exact things she will say and do to try and maintain some form of power and control/ supply from me by following exactly what a narcissist would do. I'd say I have a 90% success rate in this regard. This is all to say that my obsessive research and work with knowledgeable professionals has led me to be able to see these cycles of abuse from miles away.
My journey to learning about these cycles of abuse began when my then wife and best friend of 25 years had an affair which ultimately led to me leaving her 2 years later. I won't go into details, but that was the first time that both my wife and friend's mask fully dropped, and it was actually all of her projections that I was gaslighting, manipulating, cheating, etc. that caused me to come across information on narcissism.
Trying to process all of this eventually led me to recognize, after years of therapy, that I had multiple people in my life that have high levels of narcissistic traits, and that the aforementioned friend was probably a malignant narcissist and possibly even a sociopath. He was always very overt but at the time I just thought he was an a**hole for the 25 years of our friendship.
A few months ago, he contacted me out of the blue. The initial contact was extremely creepy on his part and I broke down and told him that I know he probably has some sort of cluster B personality disorder, and that I know what he is doing is trying to hoover me back. Surprisingly, he agreed that he might be a sociopath and that he was 100% hoovering. He obviously has some sort of self awareness although ironically still says him messing around with my wife was my fault. There is still zero remorse or accountability.
Having the two biggest people in my life discard me simultaneously with an affair was brutal to say the least. My recovery has been the hardest thing I've ever had to do in my life and I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy.
Today I had a strange experience. I was on facebook and a picture of him getting married came across my feed from his mother. My heart literally sank and I had an extremely physical reaction to seeing it. I took a step back to analyze what I was actually feeling and realized I felt despair for what that poor woman was going to go through in her life. I don't cry often, but my eyes literally welled up seeing this stranger and knowing what was in store for her.
I know it's probably pointless and stupid to do, but I have an all encompassing urge to reach out to this stranger and give her resources to understand the cycle of abuse and the traits of cluster B personality disorders. I also have the urge to reach out to him to say that if he actually wants a somewhat healthy marriage he should go to therapy immediately and begin working on controlling his behaviors. As I said before, he is well aware that I know who he really is and has acknowledged that.
I have no connection to either of them at this point and couldn't care less if she thinks I'm crazy. In my brain I word it in such a way that she can come to her own conclusions but would have the resources to recognize it. If I had understood this form of abuse early on I know my life would have turned out very differently. I even feel like being open and honest that I contacted both parties about it might make things seem a bit less crazy?
I fully see how strange it would be for a complete stranger to reach out but I can't help but think it could change a life. My current internal obsession is wanting to scream to the world about the damage this type of abuse causes in the victims. I'm aware of how ridiculous this all is and that it's 100% my problem, but I can't shake it. I guess I need someone to talk me off the ledge or something like that.
Can anyone help!?
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2023.06.10 20:03 PenguinTyc00n [H] Shiny Pogo Mew, gen 6-9 events, shiny galar birds, vivillons [W] PayPal (£)
[Svirtual] Hey guys, wanting to buy a couple games so getting rid of some events! I have one ultraball backpack code. Looking to part with it for $20 + fees (payment in gbp).
Unclaimed Shiny Mew from the 151 PoGo event, currently on step 3/4. If custom OT isn't a hard task, I can do that.
I also have some events! All self redeemed, no clones, WC proof available. Happy to send more pokemon info before we confirm a sale if requested!
I also have these events but their dates do not match WCs as I wasn't intending on parting with them so didn't care if the dates matched or i do not have redemption proof (for older ones) as I have changed mobile device in recent years and was unable to transfer media. For more questions or to see pokemon info, just ask!
3x original, partner, hoenn and sinnoh 1x the other 4
Unsure of prices on any of these things so show me an offer or link me to other deals you've seen!
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Unclaimed Shiny Mew from the 151 PoGo event, currently on step 3/4. If custom OT isn't a hard task, I can do that.
I also have some events! All self redeemed, no clones, WC proof available. Happy to send more pokemon info before we confirm a sale if requested!
| Pokemon Event | OT | ID |
|---|---|---|
| Articuno | Crown | 220218 |
| Zapdos | Wild | 220311 |
| Moltres | Armor | 220415 |
| Victini | Victory | 220818 |
| Shiny Zamazenta | Arthur | 211022 |
| HOME stamp Melmetal | HOME | 808809 |
| Shiny Zeraora (shield stamp, no WC proof but HOME mystery gift) | HOME | 200630 |
| Articuno | Aldora | 03116 |
| Shiny Tapu Koko | Melemele | 170428 |
| Diancie | NOV2014 | 11064 |
| Pumpkaboo | Spooky2014 | 10014 |
| Magikarp | Lunar | 170128 |
| Meowth | Happy | 08196 |
| Torchic | XY | 10123 |
| Volcanion | Helen | 10016 |
| Amoongus | 백종윤 | 200809 |
| Porygon2 | VGC20 | 200822 |
| Gastrodon | カ・エール | 200822 |
| Genesect | ゲッチャレ | 201120 |
| Marshadow | ゲッチャレ | 201120 |
| Volcanion | ゲッチャレ | 201120 |
| Zarude | Jungle | 201225 |
| Pikachu | KIBO | 210101 |
| Torkoal | クララ | 210718 |
| Shiny Toxtricity | Rock Star | 210219 |
| Pikachu | GF | 210227 |
| Eternatus | Galar | 221118 |
| Volcanion | Mythical22 | 220909 |
| Marshadow | Mythical22 | 220909 |
| Genesect | Mythical22 | 220909 |
| Sirfetch'd | サトシ | 200705 |
| Lucario | サトシ | 200412 |
| Gengar | サトシ | 200308 |
| Dragonite | サトシ | 200126 |
| Clefairy | おつきみ２２ | 220910 |
| Victini | Victory | 220818 |
| Dracovish | サトシ | 210108 |
| Gastrodon | Eric | 220624 |
| Clefairy | Jirawiwat | 220618 |
| Dracovish | Marco | 220422 |
| Shiny Zacian | Lancer | 211022 |
| Coalossal | Wolfe | 210813 |
| Chansey | ミスド | 201204 |
| Charizard | 지우 | 200930 |
| Pokemon Event | OT | ID |
|---|---|---|
| Tapu Lele | Akala | 181130 |
| Tapu bulu | Ula'ula | 190222 |
| Tapu Fini | Poni | 190524 |
| Zarude | Jungle | 201113 |
| Palkia | アラモス | 070714 |
| Ash pikachu's | Ash | 201023 |
Unsure of prices on any of these things so show me an offer or link me to other deals you've seen!
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2023.06.10 20:02 ExternalCrisisTime Advice on feeling guilt for taking Mental Health leave?
I'm going to keep it vauge because, knowing my luck, someone from my company will be on here.
I've been in my current managerial position now for two years. It's a non-profit, one of the largest in the country and is the second most profitable store by a large margin. In other words, it's absolutely manic. I was head hunted for the position two years ago and brought on to sort out an absolute shambles of a messily run store. Think zero care for rules and regulations, zero incident reports despite the store being an entire health hazard, regular theft and some of the worst, rudest and shoddy customer sales attitudes I've seen in a decade. (And I've had some seriously crappy jobs!)
Anyway, within a year, (with the core teams help) we all managed to get the store to a much better place. I slowly got rid of incompetent staff, let go of volunteers that were stealing and pushed for more staffing to help take the stress off the main core workers. (Who are awesome btw!)
Now as a non profit, each store is designed to be run by volunteers purely. Which, in theory, works if you have a small store that is easy to manage. Not with our store. It's huge, we do deliveries and collections so a lot of heavy lifting and manual labour is involved. Not unusual to hit 24k steps in a single day on the shop floor.
However, I came in after COVID restrictions, which meant we had lost 80% of our volunteer base ( elderly, immuno compromised, etc) as handling second hand items ran a far higher risk of contracting COVID 19. The store was struggling big time, it was five times the size of a normal store. Staff were unhappy, overworked and the previous manager had already left due to mental health reasons. (This is important to remember later!..)
I worked hard. I mean extraordinary hard, to get that store to a much better place. I held volunteer rally's, open days, coffee mornings, and went round local colleges giving talks about volunteering and the circular economy and encouraging work placement positions with us. I found local government grants to hire people on 20hr contracts in exchange for extra social welfare payments. I pushed for monthly and annual reports, budget plans, allowances and made interior improvements and exterior housing repairs that had needed to be done years ago.
I held staff meetings to find out what they wanted or needed (turns out training wasn't something the company offered AT ALL.) Then pushed for, and GOT additional annual training courses, better canteen facilities, even daily tools and equipment! Everything there was broken, tired or a donation.
It paid off, and I'm happy to say that in addition to having a really amazing core team, better working conditions and more qualified team members, the store is up 58% in PURE PROFIT ALONE. I mean, that in itself is pure insanity.
People are actually taking lunch breaks, using thier holidays and sick days and are generally happier. (I hope! ...at least, they could be lying to my face. There's always that fear. 🤦🏼♀️)
The only part thats getting worse...well... is me.
I'll admit, I'm not the best on mental health. I take care of all my staff FAR better than I ever take care of myself. (Not feeling well? Then straight home and bed rest, and take lots of fluids. If I'm sick...well then, I'm a piece of trash that deserves to die. lol)
I have a tendancy to go 100 miles an hour and not stop unless I'm dying. Which in fact, almost happened last year when I stupidly attempted to work through a bout of sickness that landed me in hospital for a week.
I love the job, but have realised that even if I give it 110%, it will never be enough. I've had zero support from my regional manager. All my results for additional support were ignored or refused. I'm the only paid member of staff there, so when we started opening back up on weekends, there was just this assumption that I'd do a 6 day week. (Which I did, stupidly, for 4 weeks straight, which led me to becoming severely burnt out.)
After that, I started going to therapy. Both to deal with my own anxiety and to cope with the stress of work. I've recently took a week's holiday from work to rest and honestly, just couldn't. Staff didn't show up, my manager rang me several times (no, I didn't answer.) And I found I just slept the entire week as I just wanted to rest.
After confiding in both my GP and my therapist, ice decided to take a months leave for Mental Health. The idea of going back into the chaos on Monday has my in tears all weekend and my heart just sinks.
I know it's time to move on but I have this overwhelming sense of guilt for leaving my team in the lurch. I know that if it was anyone else, I would fully understand and support it but because it's me, I feel like I'm somehow not entitled to it?
Like I don't want to inconvenience anyone or be a bother but I hit every number on the burnout assesment by my therapist apart from no.11 "are you participating in any dangerous new activities?" And that's purely because I'm so goddam tired and exhausted all the time!
I sleep from 7.30 till 8am some days and still feel like a dead weights on my chest. I can't switch off my brain and I'm constantly worried about work, if they're struggling, if there's enough staff, are we hitting targets.... It just won't stop.
I've a plan....to use the month to seriously job hunt, take care of myself and really, really take care of my mental state but....I can't help but feel like I'm failing somehow? That I'm letting work down? I know it'll go on without me, as any company would, but I feel like a child about to be told off for taking leave.
I don't know what to do anymore..
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I've been in my current managerial position now for two years. It's a non-profit, one of the largest in the country and is the second most profitable store by a large margin. In other words, it's absolutely manic. I was head hunted for the position two years ago and brought on to sort out an absolute shambles of a messily run store. Think zero care for rules and regulations, zero incident reports despite the store being an entire health hazard, regular theft and some of the worst, rudest and shoddy customer sales attitudes I've seen in a decade. (And I've had some seriously crappy jobs!)
Anyway, within a year, (with the core teams help) we all managed to get the store to a much better place. I slowly got rid of incompetent staff, let go of volunteers that were stealing and pushed for more staffing to help take the stress off the main core workers. (Who are awesome btw!)
Now as a non profit, each store is designed to be run by volunteers purely. Which, in theory, works if you have a small store that is easy to manage. Not with our store. It's huge, we do deliveries and collections so a lot of heavy lifting and manual labour is involved. Not unusual to hit 24k steps in a single day on the shop floor.
However, I came in after COVID restrictions, which meant we had lost 80% of our volunteer base ( elderly, immuno compromised, etc) as handling second hand items ran a far higher risk of contracting COVID 19. The store was struggling big time, it was five times the size of a normal store. Staff were unhappy, overworked and the previous manager had already left due to mental health reasons. (This is important to remember later!..)
I worked hard. I mean extraordinary hard, to get that store to a much better place. I held volunteer rally's, open days, coffee mornings, and went round local colleges giving talks about volunteering and the circular economy and encouraging work placement positions with us. I found local government grants to hire people on 20hr contracts in exchange for extra social welfare payments. I pushed for monthly and annual reports, budget plans, allowances and made interior improvements and exterior housing repairs that had needed to be done years ago.
I held staff meetings to find out what they wanted or needed (turns out training wasn't something the company offered AT ALL.) Then pushed for, and GOT additional annual training courses, better canteen facilities, even daily tools and equipment! Everything there was broken, tired or a donation.
It paid off, and I'm happy to say that in addition to having a really amazing core team, better working conditions and more qualified team members, the store is up 58% in PURE PROFIT ALONE. I mean, that in itself is pure insanity.
People are actually taking lunch breaks, using thier holidays and sick days and are generally happier. (I hope! ...at least, they could be lying to my face. There's always that fear. 🤦🏼♀️)
The only part thats getting worse...well... is me.
I'll admit, I'm not the best on mental health. I take care of all my staff FAR better than I ever take care of myself. (Not feeling well? Then straight home and bed rest, and take lots of fluids. If I'm sick...well then, I'm a piece of trash that deserves to die. lol)
I have a tendancy to go 100 miles an hour and not stop unless I'm dying. Which in fact, almost happened last year when I stupidly attempted to work through a bout of sickness that landed me in hospital for a week.
I love the job, but have realised that even if I give it 110%, it will never be enough. I've had zero support from my regional manager. All my results for additional support were ignored or refused. I'm the only paid member of staff there, so when we started opening back up on weekends, there was just this assumption that I'd do a 6 day week. (Which I did, stupidly, for 4 weeks straight, which led me to becoming severely burnt out.)
After that, I started going to therapy. Both to deal with my own anxiety and to cope with the stress of work. I've recently took a week's holiday from work to rest and honestly, just couldn't. Staff didn't show up, my manager rang me several times (no, I didn't answer.) And I found I just slept the entire week as I just wanted to rest.
After confiding in both my GP and my therapist, ice decided to take a months leave for Mental Health. The idea of going back into the chaos on Monday has my in tears all weekend and my heart just sinks.
I know it's time to move on but I have this overwhelming sense of guilt for leaving my team in the lurch. I know that if it was anyone else, I would fully understand and support it but because it's me, I feel like I'm somehow not entitled to it?
Like I don't want to inconvenience anyone or be a bother but I hit every number on the burnout assesment by my therapist apart from no.11 "are you participating in any dangerous new activities?" And that's purely because I'm so goddam tired and exhausted all the time!
I sleep from 7.30 till 8am some days and still feel like a dead weights on my chest. I can't switch off my brain and I'm constantly worried about work, if they're struggling, if there's enough staff, are we hitting targets.... It just won't stop.
I've a plan....to use the month to seriously job hunt, take care of myself and really, really take care of my mental state but....I can't help but feel like I'm failing somehow? That I'm letting work down? I know it'll go on without me, as any company would, but I feel like a child about to be told off for taking leave.
I don't know what to do anymore..
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2023.06.10 20:00 Embarrassed-Mouse-49 The loss
As I swung open the door to the emergency room, with panic in my eyes. My mind went back to work just half an hour ago. … It had started off as a normal day. Me getting up at 6am to get ready for work. My wife hadn’t been feeling all too well the last couple of days but it wasn’t too bad, she was still able to go to work. This morning however as I kissed her goodbye, she just let out a groan and. Kept her eyes closed, just telling me to leave her alone.
I had thought nothing of it as I left the house and went off to work. As usual, it was a boring drive to work, surprisingly the traffic was light and I had hit all green lights. So I made it to work a little earlier than usual. It put me in good spirits.
I grabbed somebody bland office coffee and went to my desk and sat down. I was IT help desk for a large corporation that will stay anonymous. As I put the head set on my head I heard the phone start to ring, my day officially starting. …. I breathed in lungfuls of air as my eyes scanned around the emergency room, my mind im suddenly a blank. I briefly wasn’t sure what to do until my eyes landed on the emergency room front desk.
I hurried over to the desk, my eyes filled with panic. Today had been going so good, why oh why had this been happening. When I reached the desk I placed my hands on top of it and looked at the brunet nurse behind the counter.
I asked for my my wife, trying to keep the panic out of my voice but failing. A sad look came over the nurses face, telling me she had been brought in 2 hours ago.
She picked up the phone and paged the emergency room doctor to come to the front desk … I pressed the end button on the computer, ending the phone call. I took off my headset and placed it on the table. 4 hours had passed since the start of my shift, the morning had just flown by. One call had come in after another, keeping me busy.
Finally it was time for lunch! Management didn’t allow us to use our personal phone while we were working so I had stashed it in my pocket and hadn’t looked at it since I started my work day.
As I stretched and got up out of my seat, I took out my phone and headed to the lunch room to grab some lunch…
You have 20 missed calls.
I froze in place, Lucy behind me nearly walking right into me. She complained, but I barely heard her. I looked and looked at my messages
7:30am Christina: I am having sever cramps. I can’t go into work today.
8:30am Christina: I am vomiting something might be wrong…
930am there is blood everywhere! Where are you Mike!
Several calls and messages had been left on my phone, after going through them the last one was from the hospital saying Christina had been admitted and was currently in surgery and that he needed to come immediately.
This was an half an hour ago … I sat down in the waiting room chair, nearly hyperventilating at this point. It seemed like hours had passed since the nurse had called for the doctor.
Finally I saw a doctor come into the waiting room, him asking for Mike.
I sprang up to my feet and hurried over to him. Eagerly waiting to find out what was happening to Christina.
When I finally approached him he looked at me sadly and my heart dropped, I knew what he was going to say.
I am sorry, he said. But your wife had a miscarriage.
I was not one to get emotional, but when I had heard those words, my heart dropped, I nearly fell to the floor. I couldn’t believe what I was hearing. We had tried to have a baby for years and when Christina announced she was pregnant we were both ecstatic.
We had names already picked out for our baby girl. She was going to be name Abigail. The nursery had already been painted and decorated. Everything was set up, only 3 months left to go in the pregnancy. … I quickly told my boos that I had an emergency and that I needed to leave. I didn’t really hear his answer, and I really didn’t care. I ran out of the office and got to my car in record time. I started to car and sped out of the parking lot.
I sped all the way to the hospital, calling my wife’s phone over and over again. Only getting her voicemail each and everytime, I am pretty sure I went through a couple of red lights and am surprised I wasn’t stopped for speeding. I just had the worst feeling in the pit of my stomach knowing that when I got to the hospital that the news was not going to be good.
My tires screeched as I pulled up to the emergency room waiting area, turned off the engine and ran up to the doors of the hospital. … After i had finally calmed down enough, the doctor told me that she had just come out of the recovery room and was now resting in a regular room and that I was able to see her.
The walk to the room was not very long, but with each step, time seemed to stretch, seconds seemed to take minutes, minutes seemed to take hours. When I finally reached the door, my hand hovered over the door handle. I could hear the sounds of weeping on the other side.
I finally worked up the courage and opened the door. Christina’s back was towards me, and as I entered the room, she didn’t even turn to look at me. I approached the bed my hands hovering in the air above her body, unsure what to do next.
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I had thought nothing of it as I left the house and went off to work. As usual, it was a boring drive to work, surprisingly the traffic was light and I had hit all green lights. So I made it to work a little earlier than usual. It put me in good spirits.
I grabbed somebody bland office coffee and went to my desk and sat down. I was IT help desk for a large corporation that will stay anonymous. As I put the head set on my head I heard the phone start to ring, my day officially starting. …. I breathed in lungfuls of air as my eyes scanned around the emergency room, my mind im suddenly a blank. I briefly wasn’t sure what to do until my eyes landed on the emergency room front desk.
I hurried over to the desk, my eyes filled with panic. Today had been going so good, why oh why had this been happening. When I reached the desk I placed my hands on top of it and looked at the brunet nurse behind the counter.
I asked for my my wife, trying to keep the panic out of my voice but failing. A sad look came over the nurses face, telling me she had been brought in 2 hours ago.
She picked up the phone and paged the emergency room doctor to come to the front desk … I pressed the end button on the computer, ending the phone call. I took off my headset and placed it on the table. 4 hours had passed since the start of my shift, the morning had just flown by. One call had come in after another, keeping me busy.
Finally it was time for lunch! Management didn’t allow us to use our personal phone while we were working so I had stashed it in my pocket and hadn’t looked at it since I started my work day.
As I stretched and got up out of my seat, I took out my phone and headed to the lunch room to grab some lunch…
You have 20 missed calls.
I froze in place, Lucy behind me nearly walking right into me. She complained, but I barely heard her. I looked and looked at my messages
7:30am Christina: I am having sever cramps. I can’t go into work today.
8:30am Christina: I am vomiting something might be wrong…
930am there is blood everywhere! Where are you Mike!
Several calls and messages had been left on my phone, after going through them the last one was from the hospital saying Christina had been admitted and was currently in surgery and that he needed to come immediately.
This was an half an hour ago … I sat down in the waiting room chair, nearly hyperventilating at this point. It seemed like hours had passed since the nurse had called for the doctor.
Finally I saw a doctor come into the waiting room, him asking for Mike.
I sprang up to my feet and hurried over to him. Eagerly waiting to find out what was happening to Christina.
When I finally approached him he looked at me sadly and my heart dropped, I knew what he was going to say.
I am sorry, he said. But your wife had a miscarriage.
I was not one to get emotional, but when I had heard those words, my heart dropped, I nearly fell to the floor. I couldn’t believe what I was hearing. We had tried to have a baby for years and when Christina announced she was pregnant we were both ecstatic.
We had names already picked out for our baby girl. She was going to be name Abigail. The nursery had already been painted and decorated. Everything was set up, only 3 months left to go in the pregnancy. … I quickly told my boos that I had an emergency and that I needed to leave. I didn’t really hear his answer, and I really didn’t care. I ran out of the office and got to my car in record time. I started to car and sped out of the parking lot.
I sped all the way to the hospital, calling my wife’s phone over and over again. Only getting her voicemail each and everytime, I am pretty sure I went through a couple of red lights and am surprised I wasn’t stopped for speeding. I just had the worst feeling in the pit of my stomach knowing that when I got to the hospital that the news was not going to be good.
My tires screeched as I pulled up to the emergency room waiting area, turned off the engine and ran up to the doors of the hospital. … After i had finally calmed down enough, the doctor told me that she had just come out of the recovery room and was now resting in a regular room and that I was able to see her.
The walk to the room was not very long, but with each step, time seemed to stretch, seconds seemed to take minutes, minutes seemed to take hours. When I finally reached the door, my hand hovered over the door handle. I could hear the sounds of weeping on the other side.
I finally worked up the courage and opened the door. Christina’s back was towards me, and as I entered the room, she didn’t even turn to look at me. I approached the bed my hands hovering in the air above her body, unsure what to do next.
2023.06.10 19:58 P0MP3I1 DCore: The Observatory - Chapter 2
Chapter 2: A Feeling For Home
After a few hours and weighing a few more of my options I found a suitable place for my core, on top of a shelf!
To be a bit more specific a shelf resting in the furthest room of my dungeon, the room itself had no windows and only one door making it the most defensible option. Moving it seems simple enough now that I had Tama. She seems to listen to orders more directly than the cats that the spawner continuously makes.
The graceful scion drops from the old stool she had been napping on and carefully took the core delicately between her teeth and set off to the designated room.
I did not that as Tama padded through the hallway a number of other cats took formation behind her, despite not having been ordered to. It quickly became clear Tama herself was directing them, as with a few muffled meows and a firm stomp of her paw the cats quickly set to work dragging a few bits of old cloth and ruined cotton into onto the shelf. Once the improvised bed was finished Tama leapt onto my new perch and gently laid my core in the center of the bedding.
"Excellent work Tama!" I praised towards her. Even if I wasn't sure she heard me word for word, I could tell she felt the praise as she took a second to pose.
The next order of business was categorizing what information I had, and prioritizing my next few steps for expanding my 'facilities.'
My cats and slugs have tags that list them as denizens, the frogs and beetles are labeled as invaders. Their interactions are my source of major income, with mana being drawn in whenever my units defeat theirs. An important note however is that nothing seems to be lost when my units are killed, but it was pretty clear to see in a more fast paced situation when all hands are needed, the cost of rapidly fielding replacement units would add up quickly.
I also have access to a few traps that can be scattered around my controlled zones.
-
Bile Sack
Detectability - High
Activation Chance - Moderate
When an intruder approaches, the sack will expand and burst after a short moment. Intruders will be covered in sticky bile and slowed.
-
The idea of covering some poor sap who blunders into this place with sticky bile didn't exactly sit right with me, but my sense of self preservation and long ingrained RTS tactics told me adding a few of these would be necessary. For just a small trickle of mana each I put a few of the grotesque pods around the door to my core, as well as a few in the hallway for good measure.
My next trap I would do without, security be damned.
-
Vile Ichor
Detectability - Low
Passive Presence
An opaque purple ichor will ooze from nearby walls and crevices and coat the ground. This ichor is highly flammable and slippery.
-
I want this place to eventually become a library or study of some kind, not a death trap! So for now I snub the rather malicious trap and return my focus back to my dungeon.
Having watched the cats deal with frog infestation in my upper floors, I felt a bit guilty when I looked back down to the slugs. The gooey little mollusk soldiers, keeping the seemingly growing swarms of beetles at bay.
The cost for a Slug Scion was still rather high, but the actual cost to upgrade the spawner was just a little less so. But seeing the little things try so hard, I bite the bullet and make the purchase. The reaction was a bit more volatile than just spawning Tama however. The coral like hive of the slugs snapped and crackled as it grew slightly, the slugs it began to produce were also quite a bit bigger than before, now about the size of a soda can.
The new slugs were also a little bit faster and they surged into the line of beetles with a vigor. Were before there was a rickety stalemate, now the slugs were driving back the chitinous swarms with ease! The large slugs water jets just splatter even the large beetles in one shot now, their smaller kin following in close groups around them and pick off the stragglers.
The small counter attack made for an excellent show as the slugs manage to push the swarms back out of the borders of my dungeon. I can still sense them actively swarming just outside my bounds, but they seem notably more hesitant to enter now.
While I don't have a scion to praise just yet, I instead make sure to give the little guys a bit of extra attention for a while.
With my borders now guarded and my core secured, I could finally take a breath. Up until this point I've been too distracted with all of my new functions and responsibilities, I hadn't taken enough time to fully get a good idea as to where I am or what I am.
I understand I am now a dungeon and that it's my duty to maintain and protect my controlled territory. But apart from some old ruined furniture and my denizens, I have no idea what else is in store for me in the place. The angel had said that I couldn't go back to Earth, so I doubt I'm anywhere familiar, but at the same time this building looks like it was made by people for people. The chairs and tables look to be about right for humans proportions, I can even see old faded tapestries and paintings but their details are too far gone to make out what may have been on them.
I want to turn this place into a library or similar institution, but I have no idea if the natives of this world can even read any languages I know! I've been browsing through my options and I can see that I have the ability to designate a room to a specific function, but none of them are for a library or study.
Workshop and Abbey
I don't see any point in having a workshop, as I doubt my cats and slugs would be very efficient on the assembly line.
But the idea of having an abbey doesn't seem so bad. I wasn't the most devout person back on earth, but I always did enjoy reading various books on religion, philosophy, and any sort of theistic concept really.
Tossing the idea around in my mind I thought about where I would even assign said abbey. Most of the rooms I had access to were about the size of a medium or smaller bedroom. My cores 'Sanctum' as it had been labeled was only about 4 feet on all sides.
As I drifted room to room, trying to pick one out for the abbey, I noticed that at each of the majors ends of my borders I had unique options.
I could expand myself?
Sure enough, as I felt along the walls of my dungeon I was given 3 options. The first was the option to expand outward and into the open expanse of this new world, the cost was rather high but it would be within my range after a few more days of bug stomping.
Next I had the option to take a new wing of the complex I was already apart of. I could afford this option right now, but it would leave me a bit light in the pockets. I also didn't know if this was the entire remaining space of the complex or just another wing. But it was more tempting than expanding outside, as I needed actual rooms for my library to eventually come to life after all.
The last option did not appeal to me at all however, down and also outside. I had to check to make sure it was a separate choice from the first but sure enough it was. I could feel that choosing this path would grant me a very large space, at a very high cost, and that it would not automatically conjoin with the first exterior expansion.
Filing the three options away for later, I also held off on purchasing the Abbey room as well. This seemed like a bit much for me. Even if I had the frogs and beetles managed, I had no idea what was waiting past my current borders. Would I get new denizens or invaders, and given my current financial situation, would I be able to afford them.
No, I needed to be careful and keep pace with myself, this wasn't a race. I still have a scion I need to get, as well as upgrade both spawners a few levels each.
ALERT - INTRUDERS APPROACHING
I was grateful I no longer had to worry about my asthma, or I would have been in a lot of trouble.
From next to, what was the closest approximation to my front door, Tama stood with her fur on end. Nearly every cat, save for Tama, darted into a hiding space. My brace scion stood ready to face whatever was approaching the old wooden door from the other side.
I ordered what few slugs weren't needed to hold the line, to move to protect the core. By now I could hear the muted sound of voices from the other side of the door. I couldn't make out anything being said, but I could tell there were multiple people just outside.
I eyed my mana again, I was so close but so far from being able to spawn my other scion!
________________
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After a few hours and weighing a few more of my options I found a suitable place for my core, on top of a shelf!
To be a bit more specific a shelf resting in the furthest room of my dungeon, the room itself had no windows and only one door making it the most defensible option. Moving it seems simple enough now that I had Tama. She seems to listen to orders more directly than the cats that the spawner continuously makes.
The graceful scion drops from the old stool she had been napping on and carefully took the core delicately between her teeth and set off to the designated room.
I did not that as Tama padded through the hallway a number of other cats took formation behind her, despite not having been ordered to. It quickly became clear Tama herself was directing them, as with a few muffled meows and a firm stomp of her paw the cats quickly set to work dragging a few bits of old cloth and ruined cotton into onto the shelf. Once the improvised bed was finished Tama leapt onto my new perch and gently laid my core in the center of the bedding.
"Excellent work Tama!" I praised towards her. Even if I wasn't sure she heard me word for word, I could tell she felt the praise as she took a second to pose.
The next order of business was categorizing what information I had, and prioritizing my next few steps for expanding my 'facilities.'
My cats and slugs have tags that list them as denizens, the frogs and beetles are labeled as invaders. Their interactions are my source of major income, with mana being drawn in whenever my units defeat theirs. An important note however is that nothing seems to be lost when my units are killed, but it was pretty clear to see in a more fast paced situation when all hands are needed, the cost of rapidly fielding replacement units would add up quickly.
I also have access to a few traps that can be scattered around my controlled zones.
-
Bile Sack
Detectability - High
Activation Chance - Moderate
When an intruder approaches, the sack will expand and burst after a short moment. Intruders will be covered in sticky bile and slowed.
-
The idea of covering some poor sap who blunders into this place with sticky bile didn't exactly sit right with me, but my sense of self preservation and long ingrained RTS tactics told me adding a few of these would be necessary. For just a small trickle of mana each I put a few of the grotesque pods around the door to my core, as well as a few in the hallway for good measure.
My next trap I would do without, security be damned.
-
Vile Ichor
Detectability - Low
Passive Presence
An opaque purple ichor will ooze from nearby walls and crevices and coat the ground. This ichor is highly flammable and slippery.
-
I want this place to eventually become a library or study of some kind, not a death trap! So for now I snub the rather malicious trap and return my focus back to my dungeon.
Having watched the cats deal with frog infestation in my upper floors, I felt a bit guilty when I looked back down to the slugs. The gooey little mollusk soldiers, keeping the seemingly growing swarms of beetles at bay.
The cost for a Slug Scion was still rather high, but the actual cost to upgrade the spawner was just a little less so. But seeing the little things try so hard, I bite the bullet and make the purchase. The reaction was a bit more volatile than just spawning Tama however. The coral like hive of the slugs snapped and crackled as it grew slightly, the slugs it began to produce were also quite a bit bigger than before, now about the size of a soda can.
The new slugs were also a little bit faster and they surged into the line of beetles with a vigor. Were before there was a rickety stalemate, now the slugs were driving back the chitinous swarms with ease! The large slugs water jets just splatter even the large beetles in one shot now, their smaller kin following in close groups around them and pick off the stragglers.
The small counter attack made for an excellent show as the slugs manage to push the swarms back out of the borders of my dungeon. I can still sense them actively swarming just outside my bounds, but they seem notably more hesitant to enter now.
While I don't have a scion to praise just yet, I instead make sure to give the little guys a bit of extra attention for a while.
With my borders now guarded and my core secured, I could finally take a breath. Up until this point I've been too distracted with all of my new functions and responsibilities, I hadn't taken enough time to fully get a good idea as to where I am or what I am.
I understand I am now a dungeon and that it's my duty to maintain and protect my controlled territory. But apart from some old ruined furniture and my denizens, I have no idea what else is in store for me in the place. The angel had said that I couldn't go back to Earth, so I doubt I'm anywhere familiar, but at the same time this building looks like it was made by people for people. The chairs and tables look to be about right for humans proportions, I can even see old faded tapestries and paintings but their details are too far gone to make out what may have been on them.
I want to turn this place into a library or similar institution, but I have no idea if the natives of this world can even read any languages I know! I've been browsing through my options and I can see that I have the ability to designate a room to a specific function, but none of them are for a library or study.
Workshop and Abbey
I don't see any point in having a workshop, as I doubt my cats and slugs would be very efficient on the assembly line.
But the idea of having an abbey doesn't seem so bad. I wasn't the most devout person back on earth, but I always did enjoy reading various books on religion, philosophy, and any sort of theistic concept really.
Tossing the idea around in my mind I thought about where I would even assign said abbey. Most of the rooms I had access to were about the size of a medium or smaller bedroom. My cores 'Sanctum' as it had been labeled was only about 4 feet on all sides.
As I drifted room to room, trying to pick one out for the abbey, I noticed that at each of the majors ends of my borders I had unique options.
I could expand myself?
Sure enough, as I felt along the walls of my dungeon I was given 3 options. The first was the option to expand outward and into the open expanse of this new world, the cost was rather high but it would be within my range after a few more days of bug stomping.
Next I had the option to take a new wing of the complex I was already apart of. I could afford this option right now, but it would leave me a bit light in the pockets. I also didn't know if this was the entire remaining space of the complex or just another wing. But it was more tempting than expanding outside, as I needed actual rooms for my library to eventually come to life after all.
The last option did not appeal to me at all however, down and also outside. I had to check to make sure it was a separate choice from the first but sure enough it was. I could feel that choosing this path would grant me a very large space, at a very high cost, and that it would not automatically conjoin with the first exterior expansion.
Filing the three options away for later, I also held off on purchasing the Abbey room as well. This seemed like a bit much for me. Even if I had the frogs and beetles managed, I had no idea what was waiting past my current borders. Would I get new denizens or invaders, and given my current financial situation, would I be able to afford them.
No, I needed to be careful and keep pace with myself, this wasn't a race. I still have a scion I need to get, as well as upgrade both spawners a few levels each.
ALERT - INTRUDERS APPROACHING
I was grateful I no longer had to worry about my asthma, or I would have been in a lot of trouble.
From next to, what was the closest approximation to my front door, Tama stood with her fur on end. Nearly every cat, save for Tama, darted into a hiding space. My brace scion stood ready to face whatever was approaching the old wooden door from the other side.
I ordered what few slugs weren't needed to hold the line, to move to protect the core. By now I could hear the muted sound of voices from the other side of the door. I couldn't make out anything being said, but I could tell there were multiple people just outside.
I eyed my mana again, I was so close but so far from being able to spawn my other scion!
________________
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Phase 1) Creating A Meaningful NicheEvery day I hear people going on and on about trying to find their niche.I also hear people talking about how they don’t know how to combine what they love talking about with what will sell.You already have the answer. You just don’t have the clarity.
Phase 2) Content StrategyThere is one thing that separates those who make it in the digital economy and those who don’t.It’s the quality, articulation, and perceived originality of their content.The content you post has to make sense to the people you attract.Everyone has a different voice and tone that they resonate with. That they are congruent with and trust.It has to change their thought patterns or behavior — that’s what makes you memorable.That’s what separates you from the sea of people posting surface-level copy-cat style posts.Example and putting my money where my mouth is:
Phase 3) Crafting Your OfferMost people are sitting on a goldmine of skills, experience, and knowledge (that they can use to help people 1-2 steps behind them).That is what people pay for.Considering 95% of the market are beginners… if you are good at something, you can help them get to your level (no matter how “basic” you think the information is).Do you not watch basic content all day anyway? People don’t want new information, they want to be reminded of what works.
Phase 4) Marketing StrategyYou aren’t making money because you aren’t promoting yourself or your offer.That is literally the only way to make money. Have something desirable and consistently put it in front of peoples’ faces.In Phase 4, I will show you how to systemize, automate, and be consistent with simple promotions.You will be able to make money without having the chance of forgetting to do it (or letting fear of failure get in the way).
Bonus) The Creator Command CenterThe Creator Command Center is a Notion template that houses all of the systems.This is how you will manage your brand, content, offer creation, marketing strategy, and systemized promotions for consistent sales.Bonus) Live Product Build & LaunchIn the first Digital Economics Cohort, I built out my course The 2 Hour Writer.I have videos showing how I build it with the strategies in phase 3 and 4.There is a bonus module that shows how I had an $85,000 launch that resulted in my first $100K month.I did this to prove the strategies inside Digital Economics work if you stick to the plan.And, this past Black Friday, I blew my that monthly high out of the water in 4 days.That’s the power of these strategies if you stay consistent with your life’s work. |