Tom the cat show


2021.02.20 04:03 Nafotabio TheTomGulleyShow

The ultimate space for fans of The Tom Gulley Show to discuss all things Tom Gulley. TROLLS WELCOME©! (j/k Tom actually really dislikes trolls) Keep your jabs above the belt in your personal battle of wits, and remember: CAN'T FIX STUPID

2021.05.25 20:34 HamHockShortDock ShowTheDamnCat

why you no show me the whole cat?

2014.06.22 14:39 danooli Pictures of cats showing off their bellies

Need more cat belly in your life? Who doesn't? This is the place to come to scratch that belly itch. Just roll over!

2023.06.08 17:17 Just_Another_Hero44 Marvel Snap Style Game for One Piece

A One Piece Snap game would be so much fun. There’s a few different aspects they could focus to make it unique to One Piece:
  1. Within the three locations, one is an island or location with its respective effect text, and the other two locations are each player’s ship, so they get to choose the ship/location effect there.
  2. There could be a bit more focus on either temporary or permanent transformative effects. For example,a Luffy card could have the effect text: Gear two- spend 1 energy to move locations or maybe one like Gear 3: spend two energy to knock(move) an enemy to another location. Another example (for permanent transformations could be a Kaido card with the effect: transform into a dragon, take up another slot for +4 power or maybe to destroy an opponents card at this location at random.
There could be so many interesting cards and effects with the powers in One Piece. Here are some other interesting card effect ideas that vary from Marvel Snap.
Law: shambles- on reveal: switch places with one of your cards or amputate: split an enemy card into two, taking up two slots. Where the randomly targeted cards power is split into two and partially put into a “body part” card that takes up a slot for your opponent
Tom: shipbuilding- on reveal: +4 power to this location if this card is on your ship
Big Mom: soul pocus- on reveal: absorb 1 power from each enemy card at this location
Mihawk: on reveal: bounce a random 3- cost back to your opponents hand
X-drake: when your opponent has filled this location, transform (into a dino with higher power)
Moria: on reveal- revive a card, with the same power, as a no effect zombie
Doffy: on reveal: switch a random 1-cost enemy at this location to your side
Mr.3- on reveal: all cards at location are waxed and cannot move
Chopper: on reveal: transform into a random chopper card (chopper has 7 different modes he could turn into with varied effects and power)
Nami: navigate- on reveal: pull a random ally card to this location (Or She could have mysterio’s effect with her mirage tempo)
Boa Hancock: on reveal: turn one enemy at this location into a rock
Urouge: ongoing: all negative power this card takes is added as positive power
Cards that could have similar effects to marvel snap cards:
Kuma- juggernaut Brook- bucky Shanks- killmonger Fujitora- debri Kizaru- vision Marco- deadpool Barto- armor Kelly funk- hulk buster Whitebeard- quake Don Chin Jao- rhino Branch- cloak Smoker- enchantress
There is so much potential with how this game could be unique as well as having a road map and structure to go off of already. What do you guys think?
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2023.06.08 17:17 415luna What are some reflections you had while watching this show? For yourself and/or your relationships.

I’ve seen several posts here that this show has really allowed viewers to look within their own relationship and themselves. Tbh, watching this was really eye opening surrounding communication and behaviors in a relationship. I’m in one myself, and it helped me to not ‘show up’ the way some of these casts do. This has to be my favorite season of a dating reality show as I’ve learned a lot from it.
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2023.06.08 17:16 SunBro0341 2004 4.0 WJ Exhaust Question

I was looking at the IRO 3" cat and exhaust system, but if the manifold isn't 3", then will it even provide anything beyond a "nice sound"? Is there any point in an exhaust upgrade like this besides aesthetics?
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2023.06.08 17:16 daniel112394 Vacant Land Beside Me - How to Claim that land?

Hello all. I live in Allegheny county and was wondering if anyone knew anything regarding what to do with vacant properties, squatter's rights, etc.
So I have a vacant property besides mine that consists basically of hills and woods. The hillside encroaches on my property and I always have to cut it back to ensure snakes and ticks stay out of my yard and away from my pets. Lately I've been thinking of acquiring it since I take care of it.
After looking at the county GIS, it shows the property last changed owners in 1906, and has multiple years of back taxes owed. I would normally reach out to the owner but it seems they've been dead for several years and now the property is in limbo. There are no structures on the property either. The lot would be slightly larger than my current lot.
My question is, what could I do to obtain this land? I know Allegheny county has the vacant lot repurposing program which I've looked into, but the parcel fee alone being 5 grand turns me off as the land probably isn't even worth that.
My neighbor says I get squatter's rights after 6 years but everything I read says 21 years. Is there anything I can do since it has multiple years of back taxes owed besides the vacant lot program? Any and all tips would be helpful.
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2023.06.08 17:16 Gandalv /r/Tampa will be going dark on June 12th & 13th in protest against Reddit's API changes which will kill 3rd party apps

Not quite a tl; is a "pretty" graphic with the info if you're into consuming your content in that type of format
What's going on?
A recent Reddit policy change threatens to kill many beloved third-party mobile apps, making a great many quality-of-life features not seen in the official mobile app permanently inaccessible to users.
On May 31, 2023, Reddit announced they were raising the price to make calls to their API from being free to a level that will kill every third-party app on Reddit, from Apollo to Reddit is Fun to Narwhal to BaconReader.
Even if you're not a mobile user and don't use any of those apps, this is a step toward killing other ways of customizing Reddit, such as Reddit Enhancement Suite or the use of the desktop interface.
This isn't only a problem on the user level: many subreddit moderators depend on tools only available outside the official app to keep their communities on-topic and spam-free.
What's the plan?
On June 12th, many subreddits will be going dark to protest this policy. Some will return after 48 hours: others will go away permanently unless the issue is adequately addressed, since many moderators aren't able to put in the work they do with the poor tools available through the official app. This isn't something any of us do lightly: we do what we do because we love Reddit, and we truly believe this change will make it impossible to keep doing what we love.
The two-day blackout isn't the goal, and it isn't the end. Should things reach the 14th with no sign of Reddit choosing to fix what they've broken, we'll use the community and buzz we've built between then and now as a tool for further action.
What can you do?
Complain. Message the mods of /, who are the admins of the site: message reddit : submit a support request: comment in relevant threads on /reddit, such as this one, leave a negative review on their official iOS or Android app- and sign your username in support to this post.
Spread the word. Rabble-rouse on related subreddits. Meme it up, make it spicy. Bitch about it to your cat. Suggest anyone you know who moderates a subreddit join us at /ModCoord. Boycott and spread the Reddit's competition! Stay off Reddit entirely on June 12th and the 13th- instead, take to your favorite non-Reddit platform of choice and make some noise in support!
Don't be a jerk. As upsetting this may be, threats, profanity and vandalism will be worse than useless in getting people on our side. Please make every effort to be as restrained, polite, reasonable and law-abiding as possible. Further reading
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2023.06.08 17:16 OtterStrawbs Colombia

Hi everyone!
I was wondering if anyone here has traveled to Colombia with their toddler and can share any insight on travel guidelines - specifically covid?
I know for 18yrs and up, you have to show proof of vaccinations and negative covid test within 48hrs. Just not sure if it's the same for children under the age of 2. Would love to visit my family in Jan of 2024
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2023.06.08 17:16 Vicar13 [GTA, ON] [H] Z97 Anniversary, i5-4690K, 4 x 4gb G-Skill DDR3-1600mHz, Deepcool Cooler [W] Cash, PayPal

Hi all,
Selling leftovers of a system that have been collecting dust for a year (not literally, I kept everything in bubble wrap + a plastic bag). It ran perfectly fine before I upgraded. I'd prefer not to split this apart. The cooler is obviously covering the CPU but I can take it off to show the CPU if someone insists but you'll need to re-paste it.
Mobo: ASrock Z97 Anniversary
CPU: i5-4690K
RAM: 4 x 4gb G-Skill DDR3-1600mHz
Cooler: Deepcool ... Gammax 400 or something? LOL, Can't remember what it was and I don't have the box, if someone could identify it that would be great.
I can meet anywhere in the GTA this weekend. $100 OBO, thanks!
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2023.06.08 17:15 Basic_Athletic I Tried 10 Different Ways To Seduce My Husband

I'm not here for any advice. I'm only here to vent. I need somewhere to let out my frustrations.
My husband (28 M LL) and I (27 F HL), have been married for 3 years and have been together for a total of 5 years. We have no kids since we both are 100% sure of being child-free.
When we first met, we had instant chemistry. I remember constantly wanting to spend as much time as possible with my boyfriend at the time and always having him on my mind when we weren't together. A few months into our relationship, we reached a point where we were both serious enough to start having sex. It was non-stop, passionate, and fulfilling. I couldn't get enough of him. It was quite common for us back then to have sex multiple times in the same day.
The relationship was good. We got married and moved in together. About a year into our marriage, sex slowed down. We went from having sex twice a day when we first met to now twice a month. :-(
I've tried everything. I've attempted therapy, but it was of no help. I managed to convince my husband to see a doctor, who reassured him that his biology is normal. I've had SSSOOOOO MANY polite conversations with him about it. I've asked if he has any sexual fantasies. I even kept an eye out to observe how often he watches porn, although I hardly ever see him doing so. At one point, I completely stopped bringing up the issue, until the deprivation became so overwhelming that my body "forced" me to address it again. My self-esteem plummeted to the point where I developed anorexia for a few months. Although I am naturally thin and health-conscious, I started eating so little that I unnecessarily lost weight, with a significant portion of it being fat-free mass. To my husband's credit, he was incredibly supportive and helped me overcome this issue, in addition to seeking more therapy. This was a year ago, and I have been in a better place since then. However, the lack of sex still persists.
In case anyone is wondering, no, he isn't gay or asexual, and no, he isn't cheating. I'm 100% sure.
I got so tired of receiving no sex from my husband that I thought I would try spicing things up to see if I could get him to respond. I decided to attempt 10 different ways of initiating sex, even though most of them were cliché. This spanned over a period of 2 to 2.5 weeks. Some of these attempts were made on consecutive days, while others were spaced about a day or two apart, depending on the timing.
  1. I spent all day getting a Brazilian wax all over my body, got my hair done, and did my own makeup and nails. I went to two different adult stores trying to find the perfect lingerie based on my husband's taste. I thought I found the perfect one. After buying the lingerie, going home, putting it on, and walking out of our bedroom to surprise him, he just flat out rejected me.
  2. I told him that I was taking a shower and whispered in his ear in a seductive way that I wanted him to join me when he had some free time. I then kissed him on the cheek and headed to the bathroom. However, he never did join me. I kept the shower going for an hour, which is about three times longer than I normally take, just in case my husband was to join me at the last moment.
  3. When he was sitting down on the sofa, I decided to sit on his lap and started kissing him without saying anything, hoping that it would lead to something more. However, he turned his head after 10 seconds. I didn't want the initial rejection to discourage me, so I laughed it off and tried again to continue making out with him two more times, asking for just 5 minutes of his time. However, he told me he was busy. I told him it was no problem and left the living room. About an hour later, despite my self-esteem being low at this time, I tried one more time. He kissed me for about 90 seconds before turning his head away.
  4. We were teasing each other, joking about how I wouldn't let him leave our house (it's an inside joke we often share). He mentioned that he needed to go out and pick up some groceries. Playfully, I blocked him in the hallway while we both laughed. I patiently awaited the perfect moment of distraction to spontaneously pull down his sweatpants and give him a surprise BJ. However, he pushed my head away, hastily pulled up his pants, and apologized, explaining that he wasn't in the mood, despite being fully erect. I didn't tell him this, but this incident left me in tears as he headed to the store.
  5. On the night of when neither of us had to work the next day, I made the decision to start kissing him while he was asleep. He woke up briefly but went back to sleep without even acknowledging me. This is something I had tried on him a few years ago, before we got married. Both times, he responded with so much energy and enthusiasm. I don't know why I thought it would work the same way it did originally when we were at the beginning of our relationship. I suppose it's just me trying to stay positive, despite all the failures up to this point.
  6. When we were both home, while he was in the living room and I was in the bedroom, I sent him naked pictures of myself and told him to come to our bedroom when he "wants to have fun." He texted back that those were nice pics and never entered the bedroom.
  7. I left him a note saying that he can do whatever he wants to me today. I included "literally anything. Anything goes." No response outside of thanks for the offer.
  8. I dressed in a midriff top and compression shorts as a "strip tease" for his attention. I tried touching him casually and bending over at times to get him to look at me. He never responded. I hardly wear these clothes anymore because my self-esteem is so low. This lack of attention didn't help. The main plan was that I would give him a full-body, deep tissue massage. After a full hour, I decided to take off my clothes quickly before he could realize it. Another reason why I picked these clothes is because I can take them off really quickly, and I don't need to wear a bra or underwear underneath. I essentially threw myself at him just to get rejected. I guess the massage was so good that it made him that tired...
  9. I cooked his favorite meal and dessert while wearing some lingerie. We both ate it and had a good time talking over dinner. But he said he wanted to watch his show. We watched it together while I'm still in lingerie. He never made a single move on me that night.
  10. My husband needed to pick up our dog from the groomer. I told him that he can relax and that I could do it, but it would cost him a "sex tax." I tried getting extra creative with this one and it came out as cringe. I ended up picking up our dog and got no sex.
I'm astonished that I put in so much effort, trying just as hard as I did during our honeymoon phase, only for it to result in utter failure. Facing constant rejection while striving to complete my bucket list, I persisted with the hope that maybe the next attempt would elicit a positive response, despite feeling undesired and contemplating giving up. It's disheartening that I had zero success.
After all of this, I started crying and begging for him to reciprocate, even if it was just 1%. He hugged me and apologized for making me cry. I accept his apologies, but we still have a dead bedroom.
It's about more than just sex. It's about wanting to be acknowledged by my own husband.
Sometimes, I feel so sexually starved for my husband that I experience a cramping feeling around my pelvis. This typically happens when I'm extremely in the mood and have been going without sexual activity. If any other women have experienced this phenomenon, please let me know. It's something that has recently started happening to me. As mentioned before, I'm not seeking relationship advice, but if any other woman has advice regarding this pain, I'm open to hearing it.
I can't believe that I have fallen so deeply in love and lust so hard for my husband, yet I can't seem to receive any physical affection in return. While other aspects of our relationship are great, our bedroom lacks intimacy. It's as if he wears a sign resembling those found at art museums, saying "look, don't touch." I would love to have my husband **** me every day if he was willing. Ugh... I wish I could permanently shut off my libido.
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2023.06.08 17:15 sassypantssassenach Rescue Buddies on Candy Crush Soda

Rescue Buddies on Candy Crush Soda
Anyone know how the "play with friends" option works? Bestie and I have been wanting to play together but it always says we are busy. At first we thought it was because we were at different levels in Rescue Buddies so I stopped playing until she caught up. However, it's still saying we are busy. And now it's showing that all my friends are busy even if Rescue Buddies just started. What in the world is going on??
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2023.06.08 17:15 No_Commission_3365 Free Dynasty Dispersal Drafts

Free Dynasty Dispersal Drafts
I run a series of free 24 team 9 cat h2h dynasty leagues. We will be looking to replace some inactive members for the upcoming season. These leagues are active and alot of fun. We run on fantrax (because where else would you host dynasty) and league comms via a discord server.
Dispersal Drafts dates are TBD but will begin once filled. The pools are looking really nice with names like Giannis, Shai, Embiid, KD, the 2023 #1 pick etc...
Send a message and I'll get you the full details for all the available dispersal pools.
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2023.06.08 17:15 lcmatt r/RugbyLeague Will Close on June 12th Indefinitely Until Reddit Takes Back Their API Policy Change

This subreddit will be joining in on the June 12th-14th protest of Reddit's API changes that will essentially kill all 3rd party Reddit apps.

What's going on?

A recent Reddit policy change threatens to kill many beloved third-party mobile apps, making a great many quality-of-life features not seen in the official mobile app permanently inaccessible to users.
On May 31, 2023, Reddit announced they were raising the price to make calls to their API from being free to a level that will kill every third party app on Reddit, from Apollo to Reddit is Fun to Narwhal to BaconReader.
Even if you're not a mobile user and don't use any of those apps, this is a step toward killing other ways of customizing Reddit, such as Reddit Enhancement Suite or the use of the desktop interface .
This isn't only a problem on the user level: many subreddit moderators depend on tools only available outside the official app to keep their communities on-topic and spam-free.

What's the plan?

On June 12th, many subreddits will be going dark to protest this policy. Some will return after 48 hours: others will go away permanently unless the issue is adequately addressed, since many moderators aren't able to put in the work they do with the poor tools available through the official app. This isn't something any of us do lightly: we do what we do because we love Reddit, and we truly believe this change will make it impossible to keep doing what we love.
The two-day blackout isn't the goal, and it isn't the end. Should things reach the 14th with no sign of Reddit choosing to fix what they've broken, we'll use the community and buzz we've built between then and now as a tool for further action.

What can you do as a user?

What can you do as a moderator?

Thank you for your patience in the matter,
-Mod Team
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2023.06.08 17:15 Werdwerdwerd23x3 Tokin’ Comedy Pride Edition is next Friday! W/ killer comics and Freebies!!!

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2023.06.08 17:15 lampxmoth69 i’m done

i have an amazing life, my boyfriend is awesome, my friends are awesome, my family is ok, i have a roof over my head, i’m losing weight, i have a lil kitty cat to look after me… but i do have bipolar 2 & asd….. so ofc my brain is not working properly and is making me wanna die. i feel… i just feel like everyone in my life secretly hates me or one wrong move and uh oh everyone wants me dead. i’ve lost so many friends over the years for various reasons some of which me just being a shit head some we just grew apart, but some really stuck with me.. i lowkey went through one of my really old friends reddits and i just cried remembering all the good memories and then i got to a post from this subreddit actually… i was friends with him for 6 years and not once did i ever see or think he was depressed, i was always the person in the group who is just a mess and everywhere i was addicted to self harm and i feel like i was a bad influence on him, and i know that’s so narcissistic to say but maybe if he hadn’t met me he wouldn’t have been introduced to self harm as bad. maybe if i was there for him we’d still be friends. but on the other side i’m bestfriends with his ex girlfriend and they were in a pretty toxic relationship and id never want to hurt her :( she’s awesome and my bestfriend ever and id never risk ruining that. and ANOTHER thing my parents aren’t letting me go to uni :) or even progress in life or get a job…. i’m 18. i just i really want everything to stop. i wanna finally be free.
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2023.06.08 17:15 autotldr Trump ups the ante, condemns ‘fascists’ in U.S. law enforcement

This is the best tl;dr I could make, original reduced by 61%. (I'm a bot)
Federal law enforcement has had plenty of critics over the years, but Donald Trump's vigorous and enthusiastic public smear campaign has no modern parallels.
In recent months, the former president has equated the FBI with "The Gestapo." He's told the public that the bureau is led by "Marxist Thugs." He's condemned the FBI as "Corrupt" and "Crooked." He's described FBI officials as "Mobsters" and a "Real threat to democracy." He's slammed the FBI as the "Fake Bureau of Investigation," before accusing the bureau of secretly paying people to "Steal" the 2020 election from him, as part of the FBI's plot to "Rig" the election and "Illegally change" the results.
As recently as two months ago, Trump even endorsed congressional Republicans defunding federal law enforcement.
About 10 minutes later, the former president repeated the line, insisting that Democrats "Are using the DOJ & FBI against me to Rigg the 2024 Election. ... Nothing about these Fascists is fair or honest."
Fourteen years later, does Trump genuinely believe that federal law enforcement has been infiltrated by fascists? Probably not.
Here we are, watching Trump raise the specter of "Fascists" in the FBI - because "Everybody still thinks that's a bad thing."
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2023.06.08 17:15 Metaphorse Clan Recruitment Thread - Rageaholics

Tired of not having a global chat?
Tired of not having anyone to talk to, show that sweet sweet drop to, or just have some fun banter?
Join our Clan "Rageaholics", we're a bunch of middle aged casual dweebs that have loved Diablo since Diablo 1 era.
See you in the Sanctuary!
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2023.06.08 17:15 GolfHopeful7174 Brachytherapy vs surgery

This was my recent post; Hello everyone i would like to start my summarizing all the facts: Patient: My dad, 53 years old PSA screening for the last 10 years bc of blood in urine results have always been good but the last one was 4,96 PSA followed up by a biopsy biopsy came back with cancer in 4 out of 14 samples CT scan showed no spreading to the body he will have a surgery in 1 month (biopsy alreadly was 1 month ago) the surgery will be done by a davinci robot Any thoughts on this? Would it make sense to contact multiple hospitals to ask if a sooner date for a surgery would be possible? Just tell me what you think of all of this! :) All the best
Now he has two options: - go for surgery on 7. July - go to an appointment for brachytherapy on 19. June (basically just talking with the doc, not starting the therapy yet)
His gleason is 3+3 with no spreading! And no metastasis (is this the right word, sorry for my english)!
Hes doesnt really know what to do know and hes really hoping for the doctor (brachytherapy doc) to give him good advice! But this brachytherapy isnt some sort of pseudo science right? Bc the guy that told him about this doctor is a little sketchy and he also had prostate cancer with 4+4 gleason and he says hes pretty much completely healed now (not sure about that) which seems a little too good to be true. My dad is mostly worried about his fertility (erections) and urination.
Has anyone got opinions on this? Thanks in advance
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2023.06.08 17:14 wow_simp What do i do after watching the original anime

I just finished the original berserk anime. Amazing show, ending was crazy. What do i do now. Most people i’ve seen said read the manga over watching the newer anime (and i hate cgi animes). But i’ve never read a manga before and i don’t know how many books there even are. From doing a quick search on ebay it goes from volumes 1-13 but it costs like 500$+. Is that the whole entire series in 13 books or are there more? I need to see more, and i’m sure this question gets asked every other day but i would love a true fans advice. Cheers
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2023.06.08 17:14 RexaRome324 The second wave of fallout is beginning (a possibly long vent)

I posted here months ago about how my mother sent my wife and I an anniversary card, for our marriage that she was not explicitly told about, and it was my final straw.
I didn't answer a single phone call from my mother from Thanksgiving to February. Didn't open a text or message on social media either, to avoid even giving her acknowledgment through a read notification. I deleted her emails the second they popped up in my inbox. Every message preview I could see without actually opening anything was along the lines of "Why won't you talk to us? We miss you. What did we do? Don't leave us in the last years of our lives."
I didn't hear from my father at all other than a single text on Thanksgiving chastising me for "not having 5 seconds to text me and your mom."
I went full no contact when my mother crossed yet another boundary. She called my office. I've never given her my contact information for my job, but it was easy for her to find. She called and asked to speak to me. I luckily wasn't in the office, but my assistant gave me the heads up the next day that she was in tears when she called, and left a message "Please tell her to call her mother back."
I saw red again, the same way I did when I got that anniversary card in the mail. That was the day I blocked her on everything. My personal phone, my email, social media. My wife blocked her as well, since she had developed a habit of sending messages to both of us in group chats, or texting my wife individually asking if we were okay. I left my dad's phone number unblocked though. Because I was still clinging to the hope that he would reach out one day and want my side of the story, or that he'd realize on his own what a monster my mother became. That, and on the off chance that if something serious did happen, my mother would use his phone to let me know.
I mourned for a few weeks. Mourned the loss of my dad mostly, because despite all the flaws and times he picked siding with my mother over protecting me from her, I still love him. I still saw so much of him in who I became as an adult. I mourned the childhood and teenage years I lost because of her narcissistic abuse, how it still carried on into my adult years.
But I was in therapy and healing. I had friends and a partner who supported me through it all. My in-laws opened my eyes to what a family can really look like, even when everyone doesn't get along. And it made me think more of the family that I was cut off from my entire life, largely because of my mother's control over our entire family.
I reached out to a cousin from my dad's side, a cousin I hadn't spoken to in almost a decade. I poured my heart out in a letter to her, how it's taken me this long to realize that I was choked out of being able to have a genuine relationship with her, our cousins, our aunts and uncles, because of my mother. I didn't air all the dirty laundry, but I gave her the short summary: I love my dad, the same uncle who loves you and you loved back, but he's married to a nightmare that's poisoning everyone around her, and I had to distance myself for my own well being.
My cousin responded, with welcome arms, basically saying "I know. This family isn't perfect. And there are parts that have done more damage to the others. But what matters is recognizing that and choosing to not continue that cycle. I'm here for you, and if you want to reconnect, whether it's just with me or everyone or somewhere in between, I'll help."
We talk frequently, and it's a breath of fresh air. The people who know we're in contact have been happy to hear that I'm happy and well, even though they don't know the finer details of how I don't have any contact with the brotheuncle they also loved.
It turns out reconnecting was needed. I got a call from my cousin in the last week, asking if I heard from my parents. I said no, truthfully. She told me one of our uncles was in the hospital, and when our cousin was visiting him, he ran into my mother in the parking lot. She told him my dad was in the hospital after a motorcycle accident, and had been for about a week.
I didn't get any kind of communication from my parents about it. I tried to give them the benefit of the doubt for a second; even though they know by now my mother is blocked, they might not know my dad isn't, but his phone might have been lost or damaged in the accident. But she didn't try to call from the hospital, or have someone from the hospital try to call me. She didn't call my office, where it's the one time it would have been appropriate to know.
She had no intention of telling me, and she had no intention of telling my dad's family either. If it hadn't been for my cousin approaching her in the parking lot, no one would have known. The entire family does now, since word travelled from cousin to aunt to uncle and back. But most of them don't know that I was kept out of the loop as well; the ones that do are appalled by it. As far as we all know, my dad was stable enough to be discharged later that same day, but nobody has heard anything else or was invited to check in on him at home.
I thought that was bad enough. But then my wife's birthday hit. I checked the mail and there was a card and a present from my mother for her. I hesitated looking at that card because I was half expecting there to be a sticky note saying "Tell RexaRome her father was in the hospital but he's home." But there was nothing. And it just messes with my mind that she can sit there and keep trying to play the game of the mother-in-law who will keep showing up because she loves us, but is still trying to do everything in her power to control me. She doesn't know that I know about the hospital, because she doesn't know that I've reconnected with them.
I'm at a loss with this. And I have a fear in the back of my mind with my own birthday coming soon, there's going to be a another bombshell.
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2023.06.08 17:14 Schomiak Anyone for a strike? Lol

I’ve had it with Streamate. If enough of us come together and pick a day or two to just not show up, maybe that should send a message. I’m also constantly hounding my regulars to get after support when they start complaining about the connection because they’re sick of this too. Streamate was great for awhile, it really helped me, but this is just getting too much.
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2023.06.08 17:14 Primary-Border8536 HOW MAKE HOUSE SMELL NICE

I have 3 cats, 1 elderly dog, a lazy BF, and a 7 month old baby.
Our house is very clean. I keep it very clean. I struggle with smells. I also have OCD so I’m pretty anal, but I want the house to SMELL nice. (on a budget)
Any tips, tricks, anything?!
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2023.06.08 17:14 Then_Employee7935 Welp

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2023.06.08 17:14 FckMeWithADictionary Any fics with aroace Tom Riddle?

So I've been thinking recently, and I realized that it'd be pretty cool to explore an aroace Tom Riddle. Since amortentia is a potion that induces romantic feelings, it seems more logical that Tom would have turned out to simply not have any romantic or sexual feelings instead of becoming the homicidal maniac that Voldemort canonically is.
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