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So, May 1st 2023, i got bitten and scratched by a stray cat (he didn't seem to have rabies, was eating drinking, acting normal but for precaution i got the vaccine series) I got 4 shots + immunoglobin. since then, i have been having nonstop anxiety. i have had a side effect with the rabies vaccine and its joint pain which doesn't make my anxiety any better. I have constantly been on edge and worried. At first I had zero clue that joint pain was a normal side effect to the vaccine and because of that I went back to the ER twice to be told by doctors that i'm ok, i have no need to worry and that my joint pain is completely normal. I was put on anti anxiety medication because the doctor I saw said my anxiety could also be contributing to the pain i've been feeling. I cant shake this feeling no matter what I do. I have been nonstop hoping when I wake up in the morning that my pain is gone. I think the joint pain has gotten slightly better. I just want to feel normal again

Just looking for DDR5 and BIOS troubleshooting partners :) Trying to figure out if anyone has been able to get the DDR5 to run at the advertised speeds of at least 5600? There was a new BIOS release this past week, O5TKT1CA, which sadly hasn't seem to change anything for me. I'm Looking for someone who may have tested out the Custom XMP Profile and gotten anything higher than 4400Mhz.
I tried using Intel's Extreme Tuning Utility (XTU) but sadly, no option for memory tuning. I thought it was able to tune memory outisde of the BIOS but Im guessing you have to have it on in the BIOS first, which doesn't work.

Had my bathroom redone. The exhaust fan is a Panasonic FV-0511VF1; no humidity sensor, just a fan. The wall timer is also new, whatever the nice one was at Home Depot.
I take a shower, turn on the exhaust, and it spins up for like 10-15 seconds, then shuts down fully for 10-15 seconds, then repeats, and repeats, and repeats. If I look out the window and up, when it's running, the louvers on the vent move up; air is actually moving out, so that worked.
The timer doesn't seem to count down correctly while it's doing this, so it may go for 2-3 hours like this.
Wondering if it's likely the fan (miswired?) or the wall switch (bad switch?)
Any ideas?

Hello all,
36 year old here. About 5 months ago I began having joint pain, stiffness, and swelling that hopped from arm to arm. I went in for some blood test and came out with a high (although not high compared to some I've seen in this sub!) RF at 71. Since then I have been patiently waiting to see a rheumatologist. My doctor is fairly positive it's RA (runs in the family).
Things have significantly declined. I now feel it in all joints except my hips. Most days I am unable to do basic things like opening jars or chopping a vegetable. Probably 4/7 days a week it is so bad I have great difficulty standing up, I can't lift my arms up (my shoulders feel like they are going to fall out of their sockets), and my wrists clicking sends shockwaves of sharp pain. I went back to my family doctor last week to see if I could see a rheumatologist sooner due to this progression. Despite what I believe were her best efforts, they said it will be another 2-3 months. I'm in Canada and the average wait time in my province for "urgent" (the only level above that is septic emergency) is about 220 days ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
I'm incredibly frustrated and, with the way it has progressed thus far, am very concerned about how bad it will be by September. What I'm hoping you lovely folks may be able to tell me is what I can do between now and then to help myself. I have not been taking NSAID's due to a potential interaction with something else I'm on, but I may (with medical guidance) take the risk.
What I have been doing that hasn't helped much: forcing myself on short walks, applying heat, contrast baths, normal baths (which I can barely get out of at the end), massages, Lakota roll-on, pretending everything is completely fine, hand exercises I found online...
Things I've read a bit about: anti-inflammatory diets, turmeric, swimming (bit nervous about this one as too much arm movement results in worse days), wax hand baths, cbd oil/gummies.
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If anyone has any new suggestions or success with anything I've mentioned, I'd love to hear it. At this point meds aren't an option until I can be seen. I am willing to try pretty much anything. I also don't know if there are things I shouldn't be doing because I'm untreated (like too much exercise??).
Thank you for reading this very wordy post!
Disclaimer: I know this isn't a medical advice sub so just looking for things I can look into!

I was just at the tiger game. They lost to the d-backs 5-0 and are in a 8 game losing streak. Sound dismal right? But when miggy hit a double and tied Cobbs number of multi base hits, the crowd roared. At that moment nothing else mattered, not that they were being shut out, not that they weren't going to the division, not that they had the worst OPS in the sport. All that mattered was the moment, was the achievement by Cabrera a guy whose been struggling for years.
Th3 majority of baseball isnt about the end its about the journey to the end. Live in the moment! Breathe in breathe out. This may not be the season we had wanted but don't let that take your joy of the game away. Don't let that take your cheers for altuve away. Don't let that take the leap in your heart away after abreu hits a home run.
Baseball is the most beautiful sport on earth, for just one second forget everyone and just cheer on your team even when it's not logical becuase that's the beauty of baseball its illogical, beautifully broken, and yet wonderfully hopeful!

I have to take 60mg of Latuda daily with at least 350 calories. I was on 40mg previously, and with the increased dose, I’m getting drowsy and really restless when I take the medication during the day. I’ve noticed it’s easier to sleep away the side effects by taking my medication close to bedtime, but that means I have to consume at least 350 calories just before I’m going to bed.
I’d been doing IF until I started noticing the side effects, and now my eating schedule’s up in limbo. I’ve been more sedentary the past few weeks due to a health issue, so the drowsiness may just be extra prominent right now since I’m not moving as much as I usually do.
Would eating this many calories 30-60 minutes before bed put me at a disadvantage for weight loss?

Engaging in fraudulent activities related to the sale of drugs, where individuals pretend to sell drugs, take money from others, and fail to deliver the promised drugs, can have serious legal consequences in the United States. It is important to note that this response is based on the general understanding of U.S. law, and specific penalties may vary depending on the jurisdiction and circumstances of the case.
Engaging in such fraudulent behavior can potentially result in the following legal charges:
Fraud: Perpetrating a fraud by pretending to sell drugs and taking money without delivering the promised drugs may fall under various fraud-related charges, such as wire fraud, mail fraud, or bank fraud. The penalties for these offenses can include fines and imprisonment, typically ranging from several years to decades, depending on the severity of the fraud. Theft: Taking money from individuals by promising to sell drugs and then failing to deliver can also be charged as theft or larceny. Penalties for theft offenses vary based on the value of the money or property involved and the specific laws of the jurisdiction. They can range from fines to imprisonment, with more severe penalties for larger amounts of money or repeat offenses. Drug-related offenses: Engaging in the sale or distribution of drugs, even if the drugs are not actually delivered, can also lead to charges related to drug trafficking or drug distribution. The penalties for drug-related offenses depend on the type and quantity of drugs involved, as well as previous convictions. They can include significant fines and lengthy imprisonment.

Every now and then this sub mentions non-disclosure agreements (NDAs): signed, not signed, released in respect of shenaniMeghans.
I thought it might be useful to note a few salient points about NDAs.

1. As the name suggests, an NDA is an agreement not to disclose information.
   
2. Because this is an agreement, it requires something called consideration - basically something in exchange for keeping silent. I won’t reveal your secret; what’s in it for me?
   
3. Following from # 2, it‘s clear that NDAs are for information where it’s worth giving someone something to remain silent. Generally this means that NDAs are most common in commercial situations: trade secrets; how a business operates; the identity of the purchaser of a company. Another example is personal information that would be of value - that of celebrities or the Royal Family.
   
4. It’s worth mentioning that employment contracts usually have a confidentiality provision - ie anything you encounter in your job is confidential. This is may be stated specifically in the employment contract; if not, it’s implied.
   
5. Confidentiality can be waived by the owner of the information - if the owner agrees, the information may be disclosed.
   
6. For completeness, confidentiality doesn‘t apply in certain circumstances, eg where the owner has agreed to disclosure as per # 5 above, or if the information‘s already publicly known.
   

This is why, amongst other things:
- No former Sussex employee’s come out with dirt on them. They’d have been bound by the confidentiality provisions in their employment contracts. This includes Palace staff as well as, presumably, the people they’ve taken on since then.
- Posts about what Meghan wears - such as the Dior Instagram or by some unknown jeweller about some cheap piece of crap she’s wearing on her latest arranged pap encounter - must have been done with her permission, as providing the service (the dress, the jewellery) is information of value (ie to the public): see # 3. A common trade-off would be: I provide you with the item for free (consideration, remember?) if you let me post it on social media. Quid pro quo.
- When Meghan said in The Cut interview: ‘I’ve never had to sign anything that restricts me from talking [about the Royal Family]’, that was a very disingenuous statement. Following from # 2 and 3, it’s safe to assume that families don’t make family members sign NDAs - it would be bizarre to regulate a family like a commercial enterprise (even if it might be known as The Firm) - family ties and loyalties would see that secrets are kept. Of course, it was obvious that Meghan was just making a thinly veiled threat - which she probably couldn’t live up to. If she disclosed some security matter, legal action would be taken. If it’s just that the King travels with a childhood teddy bear - who cares?
Feel free to chip in or ask questions.

Gf and I are purchasing a house in the West Main Hill area. Looking for a full-service landscapeexcavator. We need to regrade and re-slope a majority of the lawn and have some landscaping done to help mitigate rain (not that it's a problem this summer... * sad lol *). We think there may be some tree removal that has to accompany it as well, so if they do both that's an absolute win.
We're also looking for recommendations for chimney & fireplace repair. Just a decades long neglected fireplace that we would like to use without burning our new house down.
We are totally fine with "my friend who does this sorta thing" as long as we know it'll be done right.

I faced some criticism on this forum last week for expressing the concern that Harry showed signs of what might be a learning disability. During his cross-examination, Harry showed signs of difficulty reading. Per the Mayo Clinic, dyslexia is a learning disorder that involves difficulty reading due to problems identifying speech sounds and learning how they relate to letters and words (decoding). Also called a reading disability, dyslexia is a result of individual differences in areas of the brain that process language.
Harry also showed signs of what might be a processing disorder. This article describes various kinds of learning disabilities and processing disorders. It describes dyslexia as a processing disorder. http://idahotc.com/portals/23/docs/ld_processing_disorders.pdf
Several group members have been at pains to tell me not to confuse learning disabilities and processing disorders with intellectual disability. I was not attempting to assert intellectual disability as the reason for Harry's difficulties reading. I was frankly surprised that I had to defend myself so vigorously.
But the more I read about learning and processing disorders, the more Harry reminds me of Peter Sellers' role in a film called Being There, in which a man mistaken believed to be a mysterious but persuasive political advisor, Chauncy Gardner, is revealed to be an intellectually disabled man named Chance who has spent his life working as a gardener. When people meet the well-dressed man, introduced by Washington DC insiders to one another, they are prepared to think of him as brilliant and worldly-wise. They are charmed by the analogies he appears to draw between political life and gardening. It is only because he is introduced to them by other people of prestige that they listen to him with great expectations, oblivious to his intellectual disability.
Is Harry another Chauncy Gardner? Have people always deferred to him and taken his words at face value, without recognizing that, irrespective of his birth into the BRF, irrespective of the fact that he may also have a learning disability that makes it hard for him to read, Harry is intellectually disabled?
Would an intellectual disability explain the fact that Harry did not seem to know how a court works? That as a litigant he was expected to prove his assertion that the press had hacked his phone in the specific instances which his team brought to court? Would it explain his bizarre belief that unless a newspaper has already admitted to hacking, they must be entirely innocent? And the flip side of the coin, that if they have admitted to a single instance of hacking, they must be hacking Harry's phone "on an industrial scale"?
People are saying that Harry has been a useful tool for people like Hugh Grant and Elton John. Are they taking advantage of an intellectually disabled man? Is Meghan? And are we all overlooking that disability because we were prepared to see only the cheeky chappy? Dead convinced that he used to be a cheeky chappy? Impossible for him to be an arrogant, surly, mean-spirited, ill-natured intellectually disabled person instead?
To all of you who want to tell me not to confuse learning disabilities with intellectual disabilities, I KNOWWWWW. But now you are making me wonder if he has both sorts of issues. Thank you for calling my attention to the possibility that he not simply dealing with dyslexia/ADHD/paranoia. Thanks for alerting me to the idea that he may be intellectually disabled as well.

Was traveling on a Mumbai to Kolkata Indigo flight 4 days back. I had pre-booked a meal, which I got delivered sometime later on the flight. I didn't want to have it at the time, so I put it in my backpack. Later when I got home, I unpacked and started to have it. At this point of time, I noticed the use by date(pic) on the cover. I had to double check it, as a difference of 29 days was shocking. I then put up a message tagging indigo on twitter. The following day, I get a reply from Indigo asking for a call. Later an indigo SM person calls me and apologizes and says that Indigo is going through a investigation process to find out how this lapse happened. Said they would provide a Rs 1000 voucher for it. I replied they should find out how a lapse as severe as almost a month can happen, & their resposibility doesn't end with the voucher. To which person said- ki they will check it out and take steps. However, ei incident etotai serious and so many people could and may have been affected, based on what they served as possibly rotten food. So I did a follow up call again around three days back. Unsurprisingly, their investigation was still ongoing. Again the person promised necessary steps will be taken and again asked if I wanted a refund of flight. I told them to hang that and find out who's responsible and to take necessary steps. Person says all steps will be taken by next 48 hours and I will be informed via call. I later googled, and this isn't the first time their passengers have faced this(check twitter). This is very serious reveal of quality of airlines food. I guess there's no point taking any action as nothing much will change, except maybe some babu for govt regulation might get rich, through it. But created this post just to warn/alert ppl who are not aware of the scenario, to prevent the tension/anxiety (and much worse) people in that flight may have had to go through.

My 14-year-old Aussie mix is in remission from Lymphoma. He was found to have CHD by imaging last year and has been on 7.5mg/day since then. His onconologist prescribed it after his cardiac assessment. The vet has told me she will not renew his prescription unless he gets more imaging at the 1-year mark. The imaging is around $500 with anethesia, etc. Is this really necessary? I am correct in thinking that there is no way he would need to stop Vetmedin? What is the downside to keeping him on 7.5mg vs. upping it? Wouldn't it be worse for him to take nothing compared to a dose that may be too low? If he was 5 years old with no other health problems, I could see spending the money, but at his age and health history, it seems a bit much. Thank you!

Hi! I'm 19 male (caucasian/european). Last year I took dercutane 30mg/day during 6 months aproximately. Now I m not taking any medications. I have never smoked, neither used drugs, I don't drink. I have moderate myopia -5.5/-5.25. Since one year and a half I am in suspected of glaucoma. As far as I know, I am healthy.
One year and a half ago, by Novemeber 2021, I decided to compare how different was my vision with each eye separately to see if my my myopia had increased in each of them. When I did this, I realized that I did not perceive colors exactly the same with both eyes. With one eye I saw colors somewhat more "dull", with cooler tones than with the other eye, which perceived colors somewhat more vivid and warmer. The difference was minimal, and really had no implication in the quality of my vision, maybe I had been this way all my life and I had never noticed it, but it was something that scared me. I thought that maybe it was something transitory and I let a few weeks go by, but I kept noticing it and I made an appointment with the ophthalmologist. At that time, I had been taking dercuntane (isotretinoin) 30mg/day to treat acne for 5 months. I had blood tests and everything was apparently fine. But I thought that dercutane could be the cause of that differences in color perception since it is a drug with many side effects.
A few days later, during the ophthalmologic tests everything was going fine, until they took my eye pressure which came out slightly high, but they told me that it could be a false result because my cornea is quite thick and that could give higher values than the real ones. I had a fundus examination and the doctor saw something in the optic nerve that alerted him, and I was referred to the glaucoma specialty. At that moment I started to get very anxious thinking that maybe I could be losing my vision and that this difference in the way of perceiving colors could be a symptom of it. At that moment I decide to interrumpt the treatment with dercutane since all my acne had already healed, and the dermatologist gave me permission to do it even though I had not completely finished the cycle of the medication. In the following weeks I had several ophthalmologic tests such as OCT scans and a campimetry. The OCT scans showed "alterations in the retinal nerve fiber layer" and the campimetry showed results within the normal range.
The doctor did not give me any treatment and decided that the best thing to do would be to repeat these tests every 6 months, which I did. Both tests came out the same, always with small fluctuations but with very similar results. I have been having check-ups every 6 months for a year and a half now, and according to the doctor, everything it is stable and I should not worry, but I cannot avoid doing it. The doctors told me something that I didn't quite understand about the fact that these alterations reflected in the OCT scans may be due to my myopia, since I have relatively high graduations of -5.5 and -5.25 in each eye. I have been tested for visual acuity several times and it come out fine with glasses, also I have been tested for color blindness due to the difference in color perception and the results come out fine with each eye, as well, contrast perception tests are also correct.
A year ago, I also went to the neurologist to have a visual evoked potential test done because of this slight difference in perception in each eye, and the obtained results were completely normal. I also got done an MRI scan of the brain which was also normal except for a litle finding which was "partially excavated empty sella turcica" , asymtomatic and with no relevance according to the doctor.
Yesterday I had another checkup in which I had a macular OCT, and they took my eye pressure. The OCT results, always show some kind of alteration that worries me a lot. It has remained stable all this time (it hasn't gotten worse since doctors started checking my retina one year and a half ago). To the moment the doctor say that I don't need to be treated.
I attach my latest OCT scans and other tests performed. Some test are in spanish, but I can translate them if needed.
May the litle differences in color perception be caused by the retinal alterations showed in the OCT scans, or are normal diferences in vision? Do the performed tests show worrisome results? Should I be worried, or should I relax about it? Should I do something more for my eye health?
My current visual aquicy and refractive errrors: https://imgur.com/UU1AdYc
23 June 2022 tests (dilated pupils):
- OCT optic nerve: https://imgur.com/a/nTLuu9Q
-Campimetry : https://imgur.com/a/4TsARYx
4 January 2023 tests (dilated pupils):
-OCT Optic nerve : https://imgur.com/a/iRNznav
-OCT macula: https://imgur.com/a/rqqMSxw
- Campimetry : https://imgur.com/a/A12378u (in one eye it shows a bordeline case, the doctor told me that it is posbily caused by refractive errors, but I don`t know what to think.)
8 June 2023 test (non dilated pupils)
- Intraocular pressure meditions: https://imgur.com/mDVyhY5 (values vary too much depending on the technique. Which one is more reliable?)
-OCT macula: https://imgur.com/hW1vjch (as the pupils were not dilated, the doctor told me that the given results are a litle artifacted)
Thanks a lot for reading this!

Greetings!
I was a big fan of Trillian back in the day, and I had high hopes for XMPP. Now it seems that Matrix may be the successor we need. .
What I want to do is integrate Signal Messenger, and SMS, into one system, that I can access from either desktop or mobile. I see Matrix can do that with bridges.
So I have some questions...

1. Logging and privacy. I want to centrally log EVERYthing that goes in and out over both SMS and Signal, centrally, so I have a global conversation log preserved in Matrix so a new client will see the past conversation history. HOWEVER, I also want chat to be encrypted so no 3rd parties can monitor it. From what I can tell, this would require either a. self-hosting my entire setup (which isn't a problem), or b. using a hosting platform for the Matrix server but self-hosting the bridges to Signal and SMS (since Signal uses different crypto than Matrix). Is that correct? What's the best architecture to use?
   
2. Multiple identities. This would be most valuable if I could use one system to talk to both IRL / work type people (with whom I use my real name), and also online type people (with whom I use an alias), while also preserving isolation/privacy (IE, online people don't see my real name; work people don't see my online alias). How can I do that? Would I have to set up two copies of the app / two servers?
   
3. Beeper. It looks just like Trillian was, and from what I can tell it uses Matrix as its backend. Their self host install even says run Synapse as the server. So is it accurate to say, what Beeper does is just write a custom GUI client, help maintain various bridges, and also operate their own Synapse servers for their users? In short, Beeper more or less is Matrix and I can get the same functionality by running Synapse / Element (just without the fancy branding)?
   

Thanks in advance!

Hello! My name's Joshua, I'm 23, and from a small town in Illinois. Hence why I think dating is kinda hard, my dating pool is fairly small to begin with.
Anyways, a bit about myself. Appearance wise I'm 5'11, weigh 200ish, and I think I have 10 tattoos now I'm honestly not sure but I plan on filling in all the blank spaces eventually. But here's a few pictures of me https://imgur.com/a/05cma2n
I'd describe myself as a caring individual, although I'm definitely not the best at expressing myself. I was homeschooled for my last 6 years of schooling so my social skills definitely took a significant hit unfortunately, although I am consistently getting better.
I'm the kind of person that has absolutely no problem doing things by myself and I'm absolutely shameless about it. If I want to go try a new restaurant and nobody wants to join than it's their loss anyways! I try to have that general mindset on things.
I genuinely like being able to help pretty much anyone with anything they may be working on. Need help with a college paper? Fuck if I know the subject but let's try it out! Need a new recipe or just help baking in general? I got that too. Someone stuck on the side of the road with a flat tire? I'm pulling over and giving em a hand! Everything's easier with a little help.
I also really enjoy teaching pretty much anything. I may not know everything but I do know a couple of things about a lot stuff. Maybe I just like hearing myself talk? Idk but either way I enjoy it.
I'm left handed! Not really important in capacity but just a random fact about me for ya.
But let's move on to some hobbies of mine.
Hiking/camping/fishing/hunting. Is it fair to fit all of these into one section? I just really like being out in nature, it's amazing to get away from endless seas of cornfields.
Gaming. I built a PC earlier this year and have been throughly enjoying playing on it. I originally built it solely for the game Ready or Not. I have also been slowly building my steam collection but could always use more suggestions/someone to play a few games with.
Cooking. I just really like cooking. My mother would cook all the time and with me being homeschooled for so long I had just started helping and just kinda started liking it a lot. My mother is a way better cook than I but I can at least keep myself well feed.
Traveling! Traveling is just another great way to see something other than cornfields. I'm honestly not a huge fan of the city life and tbh I hate driving in the city. I grew up in a town of 300 so it's just so different than what I know/am most comfortable with.
Machining. I find machining just super interesting in all honesty. It's really amazing the tolerances that can be achieved with the tools we have today. It's also insane how perfect people can make things by hand! Just the amount of time and dedication it takes to be that good at something is amazing.
Anyways this has gotten way longer than I expected it to. If you got this far and want to send me a message than please do so and try to include some information about yourself.

I hit a hundred days free from self-harm. I know we already said our goodbyes- I just wanted to say thank you. Thank you for making me realize the extent of my self-harm, I'm getting help and genuinely facing the issue for once. You probably in the long run have saved my life. For the longest time I just accepted that yeah,, I may die from cutting too deep or an infection, without seeing the issue in that.
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When you said what you said when you came over it made me reflect… self-harm I always saw as a way to sustain. To protect myself and manage stress. But losing you (even if it was my decision) and hearing how much this hurt made you realize how just… fucked it is. Even though it wasn't your responsibility to do so.
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I don’t want to be hurt anymore- and I don’t want to hurt anyone else like I hurt you. I’m sorry for everything. Dead stop. I can use the excuse that I was addicted or that I was dealing with things- but that doesn't erase that I made no full effort to stop. Harm reduction tactics only go so far when there's no intention to stop. Even when you told me I should bandage/take care of my cuts, I ignored you and brushed it off. Now, I will always be thankful for you helping me change my perspective, even if you're not in my life anymore.
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I am still sorry I put you in a position to feel responsible for and anxious over it. I did not mean to, but that doesn't stop the effect it had regardless. I also know now that I pushed it so far because I without realizing thought, if I could hurt myself and you would stay, that I wouldn't be abandoned by you. Despite you proving over and over again that you were devoted to me.
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I am also sorry for my inconsideration of your obvious distress over something very fucking understandable to be distressed over and brushing off how much pressure you were under when I would ask you to let me self-harm or when I got drunk and would try to. You should not have been put in the position where you felt obligated to be my "savior" and helpless to do anything because I would not let you.I hope you're healing from the hurt I inflicted, and if you aren't that's okay.
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Be gentle on yourself and take your time. I'm just sorry there's something to heal from.You don't need to accept my apology- just wanted you to have closure or just reassurance- and maybe selfishly want to air out my guilt.
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I will always regret what I did to you but it's not on you to fix that. If anything, it's your trauma (or wtv you want to call it) to say how you want to deal with it and what you want to hear from me about it (if anything), not mine to capitalize on.
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I also wanted to tell you I was clean, I guess,, sorry that this is like a book long and I'm just talking about myself
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But I hope you're doing well, I miss you a lot. I wish I could have figured this out before breaking up with you, maybe if I had controlled this better all the stressors that lead to the end would've never happened. my heart still yearns for you, and I feel empty without you. I know this will pass, but I just want the hurt to stop.
Love you,
A

I was on my pc when my sister, who's in her late 30's, came into my room to ask me to watch my niece for her. I got up and said "sure but not in my room" because my niece always likes to mess around with my pc's buttons and wires. However, my sister took it the wrong way and said it was fine and closed the door hard on my face. This really upset me but I didn't do or say anything, just sat back in my pc.
After some time passes my mom entered my room and I tried explaining the situation to her. She cut me off and got really upset with me and gaslit me, saying that my sister never closed the door "that hard", that I "had an attitude" and my sister was pregnant so she got emotional and cried. at this point, I got upset and said "just cuz she's pregnant she can treat me like shit?" I know i may have overreacted here, but I was just so upset my mom was acting so defensive against me. so my mom ran and got up in my face, shouting in my face that I was being so rude and left. then my dad came in trying to talk to me and I told him I didn't wanna talk because I was already so upset. He then was telling me that everyone agrees that I was being very inconsiderate, selfish and that I was making a big deal out of nothing.
At that point, I was having a full blown panic attack. I left the family group chat and have decided to give everyone the silent treatment (which will definitely go downhill) I feel like I'm going crazy trying to decide if I was the asshole or not. so, AITA?