I wanna preface this by saying that I know that this will get me doxxed, but I genuinely don't care; feel free to connect with me on LinkedIn or follow me on Insta :) As such, this will be my one and only post, and I will not be responding to any hate but feel free to pm and I might respond ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)
Demographics

• Gender: Non-binary
• Race/Ethnicity: Burmese/Myanmarese
• Residence: TX
• Income Bracket: $100k+ (most schools didn't give me any aid)
• Type of School: Large public schools in the suburbs of a big city that often sends ~5 students to HYPMS (I literally learned this acronym today lmao)
• Hooks (Recruited Athlete, URM, First-Gen, Geographic, Legacy, etc.): LGBTQ+ (?) & Burmese/Myanmarese (idk if this this a hook lol, kinda new to this)

Intended Major(s): applied as anthropology (especially biological) but also expressed an interested in human rights and selected that as an alternate where available
Academics

• GPA (UW/W): 4.0/4.6 [104.4844 on the 100 point scale where Pre-AP is up to 105 and AP/Dual Credit is up to 110]
• Rank (or percentile): top 1% (out of a little less than ~600)
• # of Honors/AP/IB/Dual Enrollment/etc. & Senior Year Course Load:

Pre-frosh	Freshman	Sophomore	Junior	Senior
Honors IPC (counted as regular in GPA tho)	Pre-AP Eng 1	Pre-AP Eng 2	AP Eng Lang	AP Eng Lit
Honors Geometry	Pre-AP Alg 2	Pre-AP Pre-Cal	Communications (req class)	Multi Calc
Honors Algebra 1	Pre-AP Bio	AP CSA: Language	AP Calc BC	AP Chem
Honors Spanish 1 (counted as regular in GPA tho)	Regular World Geo	AP CSA: Math	AP Bio	AP Chem Lab
	Summer Health	Pre-AP Chem	AP Bio Lab	Theatre 1 (required)
	Summer PE	Pre-AP Spanish 3	AP Env Sci	AP Research
	Regular Spanish 2 (pre-ap not available)	AP CSP	AP Physics 1
	Pre-AP Comp Sci	AP Seminar	AP US History
	Regular Business Elective		Summer Dual Credit Econ
			Summer Dual Credit Gov
			Summer Dual Credit Sociology
			Summer Dual Credit Psych
			PE

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Standardized Testing
List the highest scores earned and all scores that were reported.

• SAT I: 1570 (770RW, 800M)
• AP/IB: couldn't take sophomore year APs because of housing instability
  • 5s on all the ones I took (AP Bio, AP Physics 1, APES, APUSH, AP Calc BC, AB Subscore, AP Lang)

Extracurriculars/Activities
List all extracurricular involvements, including leadership roles, time commitments, major achievements, etc.

1. CEO & Sole-founder of International 501(c)(3) organization
   1. Formed 30+ chapters, helped conduct tens of thousands of preventative care tests, helped tens of thousands of people across 19 countries, formed partnerships with a couple of UN bodies
2. Representative & Young Ambassador at the United Nations
   1. Spoke at a bunch of UN events, co-authored a couple of publications sent to the UN at the time of application, hosted a big UN event
3. Social Media Chair of Youth Branch of a State Wide Political Campaign
   1. Helped manage group of hundreds of members and lead social media team to reach 7 million people and gain 20k followers in a couple of months
4. Cancer Bio Research @ World's Best Cancer Hospital
   1. Just talked about my research
5. Suicide and Homeless Youth Hotline Volunteer
   1. Helped people escape abuse, rape, & grooming
6. School's First In-Class TA & Lab Aid for like all science classes
7. Family Responsibilities (caretaking)
8. Religious School Student Body President
9. Group of the rest of my research projects (medial, public health, social science)
10. Helping educate a group of refugees and nationals and providing them with education

Updates (what I think got me in)

1. Presented before and consulted for a major UN Committee on a specific issue before the Committee met with country leaders from which the issue focused on (I was the youngest person in the briefing)
2. Published a total of 13 first-authored papers between the time of applying and the time of decisions coming out (most were report based); all published before the White House, UN Women, WHO, UN Population Fund, UN Human Rights, Commission on the Status of Women, COP, etc.
   1. these were all individual updates as they got published
3. Progressed to finalist stage of a UN equivalent to the 30 under 30 (luckily decisions came out today -- I was rejected lol)
4. Won a $10,000 Competition
5. Finalist for a $5,000
6. Coca-Cola Scholar (also updated them about being a regional finalist)
7. Consulted for the governments of the UK, EU, and NZ (helped shape a couple pf laws-- a bunch of instances of these)
8. Hosted a big UN Event with a lot of attendees
9. Invited to some high profile UN events
10. Won a $1,000 scholarship
11. Won a $200 scholareship
12. Addressed Human Rights Council x7
13. Semifinalist for school-specific $400,000 scholarship (T20)
14. Finalist for school-specific $400,000 scholarship (T20)
15. Finalist for school-specific $250,000 scholarship (T20)
16. Finalist for a major LGBTQ scholarship
17. Vandy MOSAIC
18. $430,000 scholarship from global T20
19. Joined the largest pro-democracy coalition as the social media chair
20. Joined the youth board of the largest US global health charity and 4th largest in the world
21. Semi-finalist for $12,000 scholarship
22. Semi-finalist for $36,000 scholarship
23. Student Ambassador of one of the largest Human Rights Orgs in the world
24. Meeting with the head of a large UN agency
25. Co-author of a publication for my research work (to be accepted at a big journal -- think Nature, Cell)
26. Helped pass a law in my city
27. Interviewed and featured in a big magazine
28. Offered a $30,000 grant to have a segment of a TV show made about the NPO I founded
29. Working with the White House to organize and event
30. Meeting with a UN Ambassador and former head of state
31. Consulted for US government on asylum
32. Approved to host a UN side event

Awards/Honors
List all awards and honors submitted on your application.

1. Big role/position at the WHO and get to lead some of the largest NGOs on the planet and UN agencies in work on adolescent health
2. Big role/position at the UN refugee agency for my work to support the well-being of refugees in my area
3. UN award for community work
4. Patent pending on a device that uses salvation reactions to cook food so you don't have to use open-fire methods of cooking
5. Coca-Cola semifinalist

Letters of Recommendation
Research Mentor: "To simply put, [REDACTED] is extraordinary. He is a born leader. The best student and scholar I’ve interacted with over the past two decades of my academic training and research career."
APES & Pre-AP Chem Teacher: "His singular ability to lead those around him through compassion and overcoming so many obstacles in his life has truly defined him as the best student that I have had the pleasure of teaching."
AP Bio Teacher: I genuinely don't know. I've known her for a while and I serve as a TA for her class and have spend hours and hours before and after school, but I genuinely don't know-- could be okay or good.
Counselor: I've met her like twice lol probably generic and just a copy and paste of my resume lol
Interviews
Harvard: He was a really cool former teacher who I think thought I was interesting. Our interview was a couple of hours and it was really great, BUT I didn't talk much about my ECs, really just talked about my goals and perspectives rather than my accomplishments
Princeton: He was a cool guy. We talked for a couple of hours. He seemed really, really impressed by my UN work and seemed to like me.
Yale: Cool guy. Seemed to really like me and talked about how he saw himself in me as a fellow POC. Talked for a couple of hours.
MIT: Cool guy. Really impressive. I think he thought I was great, just not a great applicant to MIT. Asked me a physics question which I got wrong. Talked for a couple of hours.
Georgetown: My interviewer was like hella impressive. Former lawyer. We connected well. He thought I would be great for GTown. Talked for a couple of hours.
Rice: Terrible. I didn't prepare and didn't have great answers. Interviewer was very STEM (I'm not) and didn't seem too interested in my activities. Cut off interview at 30 mins.
Penn: I thought it was really good lmao. I had a lot of fun and we went way over the schedule time and she thought I would be perfect lmao.
WashU (scholarship interview): Timed interview but I felt great. Interviewers were super sweet; laughed at my jokes and made me feel great :)
Brown (video interview): Low key kinda funny; did like a day in the life where I made pancakes for my brother and had a big interview
Berkeley (special program interview): I was not prepared and it was during school hours so I kinda joined 1-2 mins late. I also kinda just read out my application essay as a response for a couple of questions. They didn't seem impressed.
Emory (scholarship interview 1): I got cut off by the virtual timer each time, but I felt quite prepared I think and I think I had great responses
Emory (scholarship interview 2): Really great group interview; gave some great responses. I thought I was resourceful and the interviewers seemed to like me too :)
Emory (scholarship interview 3): Also a group interview; we created something really great and wonderful. Went out of my comfort zone but created something many thought was great. I also met with 2 of my interviewers before and after and both thought I was very articulate and thought I was insightful during the interview.
Essays
Common App Essay: (11/10) I honestly loved it lol. It was a conflict of "he" vs. "they" and I thought it was great and really showed who I was. It was also really fun and engaging to read and not too long. Everyone I spoke to LOVED it A LOT so I guess that has to mean something lol
Supps: I really liked a lot of mine and put a lot of time into them. Many of them were really funny or really deep and conveyed the duality of my personality. I will say tho, in the application process, I applied to a bunch of schools I wasn't a fan of, and, as a result, my sups were very rushed. How much I cared about the school and spent on the supp really reflected my admissions decision (except for 1)-- see parentheses below for info on this.
Decisions (indicate ED/EA/REA/SCEA/RD)
Acceptances:

• Stanford
• Columbia (John Jay Scholar as one of the top 25-30 admits + likely letter)
• Brown PLME (I'm not pre-med lol-- applied a joke so this was a pleasant surprise)
• Vandy (MOSAIC admit)
• Rice (with $60k scholarship)
• WashU (full tuition scholarship)
• JHU
• Duke
• All the UC Schools (many regents, trustees, and the big scholarships)
• Emory (full ride scholarship + free week vacation + full funding for all summers)
• Georgetown (got into Walsh!)
• NYU
• Duke Kunshan (got a $145k scholarship without doing the essay and sleeping through the interview)
• UT Austin + 2 honors programs (didn't apply for scholarships)

Waitlists:

• UChicago (didn't want to go "where fun goes to die" so I copied my Harvard essay and applied a couple hours before the deadline)
• UPenn Wharton (I'm not a business girly and I forgot to change an essay about how much I love anthropology and philosophy so I was expecting a rejection lol)
• Northwestern (spend an hour on it and want't the biggest fan of the campus + academic environment)
• Dartmouth (decided not to finish app after getting a couple of early acceptances; not into the whole rural vibe)
• Cornell (wasn't into the rural vibe so I BS'ed this)

Rejections:

• Harvard (spent quite a bit of time on these -- kind of a bummer)
• Yale (wasn't a big fan of the school + location so I didn't care too much about the essays)
• MIT (spend 1 hour on the entire application because I'm not into the STEM lifestyle so I was accepting it)
• Princeton (heard a lot of bad stuff and I'm not into a super academic environment so I didn't try on this essay)
• USC

Together for 7.5 years. We were having a lot of issues for the most part and things got really difficult the last 1.5 years since his mum entered my life. She caused me a lot of distress and he has a really complicated relationship with him. She pretty much controls the energy and dynamic of the whole family and everyone is scared of upsetting her. Without realising I became like her in my own relationship. I see this now that I am out of the relationship. He wasn’t entirely innocent the whole relationship, he hurt me in so many ways and I really think we triggered each others biggest and deepest wounds without the skills or tools to know how to repair. There was a lot of love but it got difficult.
Fast forward to now (it’s been 3 months but a total of 6 since we agreed that the relationship should end). I did want to try and fix things. I suggested couples therapy for an entire year and even at the end of the relationship but he’s scared and avoidant so didn’t want to. I guess technically he would be the dumper since I changed my mind after the initial conversation.
Anyway, a couple of weeks ago we exchanged a few texts and he told me he got me a gift from his travels and that he wants to give it to me. This kind of messed me up and sent me down this spiral I’m on now. I messaged him yesterday following a conversation with my therapist so that I can finally cut the string that is tying me to him. I suggested just meeting up to talk but turns out he’s abroad and suggested we grab lunch the day after he’s back. I didn’t expect him to suggest lunch to be honest.
I hate that a part of me got my hopes up but the other part of me is just frightened that he will not say what I hope he would. I didn’t want to meet him to tell him I want him back but that I need him to not buy me things or say or do anything that will set me back from moving on.
I feel like I should prepare what I want to say but these things can’t be scripted right.
Anyone here been in a similar situation? How should I prepare?

Throwaway for obvious reasons - fairly sure I have family on this subreddit so hey, thanks guys. Just need to get this off my chest properly as although my friends know about it, I can’t bother them about it.
Obvious warning for SA talk, CSA and so forth.
My ages from back then are a little hazy, as are a lot of the memories. They tend to be out of order in my mind a lot, so please bare with me. I try not to think about my life back then.
I think I was 10 or 11. I was always kind of an awkward girl. I leaned more towards gaming and was very much a “tomboy” in the eyes of my family and my peers. I was also just quite anxious, and it all escalated. I have four older brothers, and I was the only and youngest girl. I won’t go into too much about them, except I got on well with all of them most of the time. Some arguments here and there. Being berated for being short or just being a girl - but that’s normal.
One of them, lets call him D, is my second oldest brother of the four. He’s also awkward, socially withdrawn, and he shared a room with another brother (we’ll call him T).
T and D don’t get along very well. They share a room, that’s the extent of the brotherly love there. D annoys T a lot. T is also autistic, and likes his own space but the house wouldn’t allow it. I was in a box room.
One day, me, T, D and my dad are at my grandmothers. T is playing on the TV, so I go to the back room where D is playing on his 3DS. I ask if I can play with him. He says sure. I sit on the inflatable bed and we decide to play Mario Kart. He tells me, “we should make it into a game.” And well, Im competitive. I ask him what it was. He says: “If you win, I’ll get you a donut. If I win, you strip.”
I don’t remember if I did it. Anything else from that specific day was erased. That terrifies me. That was instance once of bad things that occurred with D.
Another instance was when I came out as bisexual. I had a girlfriend. I was around 11 or 12 and it was innocent. He quizzed me. “Have you kissed her? Have you touched each other yet?” And so forth. I was uncomfortable. He told me I should bring her over one time. I refused.
He lent me his 3DS once when mine had broke. 3DS’ have a camera function. Me, being a child, went on it. I went into his camera roll. Lesbian porn. Some of the people looked young. Really young. I told my parents and they said it was normal. I said okay.
We had a hot tub in our backyard. This one is also terrifying to me. My cousins were younger than me. D was there. We were just sitting and then D starts asking if I found them attractive. I said no. Awkward laughter. He kept pushing it. Asked my cousin to kiss me. I said no. She did it anyway. He enjoyed it. I hate myself for being any way involved in them doing that. They were just kids. I doubt they remember. I hope to god they don’t.
He made comments to his friends about wanting to gag me because I was talking through a movie. I was eleven. Told them I look pretty gagged. They laugh. I don’t understand.
He had a tablet that had photos of me as a child.A toddler. Naked or nearly so. When I found it, I deleted all the photos. They belong to nobody.
And then he touched me.
Family holiday at my other grandparents house. Me and him are upstairs. Watching youtube in bed - I can’t even remember what. I was wearing these leggings I was gifted for my 11th birthday. I had a blue top with a peace sign on it. He starts to touch me. I don’t know what’s happening. I didn’t know of intimacy like that - I saw the photos on his 3DS but it wasn’t that. I don’t know how to react. I didn’t know it was wrong for him to do that. I didn’t know how to say no.
We get called for dinner. He asks me not to say anything. I don’t. Not until we’re home.
I tell my parents. They don’t believe me. I go to Childline. They call the police. Police investigate. I’m told I dreamt it, that I was looking for attention, and that’s that.
I start hurting myself. My family stopped talking to me. My anxiety and depression developed and I avoided school due to bullying. I wanted attention and validation and I got it from men online.
I am still so angry. The attempts I could’ve avoided as well as the pain if they had listened more.
I’m 19 now. Away from that home. With better people. Yet still, I find myself seeking validation and love from strangers. Still get nightmares about him. I’m still scared to even see him again.
In short, fuck you for not believing me. I will live with this forever. And he gets off scot-free.
I hope you get what’s coming to you.

for context, i have pretty clear skin because of this routine. i started my skincare journey about a year and a half ago. I started off with just the CeraVe cleanser and moisturizer (sometimes throwing in TO hyaluronic acid+niacinamide) and honestly it looked great. but i wanted that extra umph that really gave me that glass/mochi skin look. my skin isn’t PERFECT, but i’m pretty content. BUT, here’s what i need help with. I struggle with closed comedones on my forehead, often get weird breakouts (usually just one big pimple) on my cheek near my nose. i also want more glow! so if you have any advice on how i can achieve those things, it would be greatly appreciated<3

I'm looking to get myself an ebike however I noticed I'm borderline for most of the bikes rider limit. I've been tempted by the Carrera Impel 3.1 due to the current sale on at Halfords but am concerned being at the upper limit will drastically reduce the range.
I don't expect to get anywhere near 75miles but would be content with about 30-35miles using a mixture of power settings on a full charge.
I'm primarily buying it for commuting to and a bit miles each way to work and it's largely flat/towpath however it is a gradual incline coming home. I'd also be looking to use the bike for fun and recreation so I'd like to use full power from time to time too.
Has anyone any alternative recommendations, comments or suggestions for me?
I'm based in Belfast if that helps.

First I want to say, I haven't tested these yet gaming. I know, I know... It's technically a gaming headset. But I figure folks purchasing these are also very interested in using them for music as well as all the other aspects of the device. I will update this after gaming a bit more in the coming days.
Build quality: Solid. Much better than any headset I have ever had my hands on. In fact I'd say it's better than any headphones I've ever had as well. Very impressed. Ear pads are nice and thick but the material isn't as nice as other pleather materials and doesn't seem to breathe much.
Build Quality rating: 9/10
Comfort: Not great. The adjustment strap only has 3 settings and none of them work for me. There is no up/down adjustment on the head piece like most headphones and headsets have. I settled for using the middle setting on one side and the smallest on the other side. The smallest setting is way too tight on my head. the middle setting it feels like the headphones are sitting too low on my head with the tops of my ears touching the pads. Also, the headset is pretty heavy at around 500g. The pads are reasonably comfy and thick but they are made of pleather and get a little toasty. The clamping force depends on the strap setting and it apparent but not horrible. After a few hours this headset is way more comfortable than you'd expect after having read everything I just wrote. So while comfort isn't the best, it's not terrible either.
Comfort rating: 7/10
Features: Good but not the best. No ANC - that's fine, I don't need it. But competitors in this price range do have it. Sidetone works reasonably well and is an interesting addition. The built-in EQ settings are nice to have. The buttons and dials included on the headset are good - the dials have clicks and change in small increments. The buttons are solid. The Windows app is OK - pretty basic. Makes updating firmware super easy, has preset EQ. Would like to see something a bit more robust like SteelSeries Sonar though as I think this headset would benefit a LOT from parametric EQ tunes. Wireless works great and is very good quality.
Features rating: 8/10
Wireless: The wireless connection is solid but the range claim of "up to 3x traditional 2.4Ghz" is perhaps a little exaggerated. It cuts out in the same areas of my home that my 7 year old 2.4Ghz SteelSeries Siberia 800 does but it is still decent. The audio streaming quality is excellent as far as I can tell. no buzz, humm or background noise. The headset connects no problem to the USB dongle on both PS5 and PC. I have not noticed any significant audio lag which is a huge deal for me. Bluetooth to my phone and PC (not using dongle) is excellent as well.
Wireless rating: 9/10
Mic: Amazing for a headset. Noise suppression is good even without the active noise suppression turned on. Tested with a buddy that said I sound WAY better then with my old headset. Also ran a test and listened to myself. This is one the best built-in MIC's on a gaming headset I've ever hear. The mic is also detachable which is nice. Even the on-board mic's sound better than most gaming headsets I've heard.
Mic rating: 9.5/10
Audio: Excellent for a gaming headset. MUCH better than my old SteelSeries Siberia 800. I can tell immediately these are Planar Magnetic and not your run of the mill gaming headset drivers. However, I am comparing them directly to audiophile Planar Magnetic headphones that I have tuned with a parametric equalizer. So in that realm they are not nearly as impressive. For music I daily a pair of Sundara (2020 revision) running through JDS Atom DAC+/Amp+. I'm using Equalizer APO with Oratory1990's Harman curve profile with some minor tweaks. That setup, IMO, is amazingly good with imaging and clarity in every genre from the bass all the way through to the treble. Amazing mid presence without being "warm". It's hard to explain but suffice it to say I can jack up the volume on virtually any kind of music and not get fatigued, but even at lower volumes the detail is still there. The Maxwell is a totally different story. There seems to be quite a V-shape built into the tuning. The mids are suppressed quite a bit. The bass and treble are decent but the highs are quite fatiguing. I am not a true audiophile so it's hard to explain, but when I put on my Sundara I just get so much detail from the whole range whereas with the Maxwell I lose a lot of detail and a little clarity. It's not that the bass is overpowering or muddy which is the case with my Siberia 800, it's just that it gets beat to shit by my Sundara setup. To be fair, the Maxwell may EQ well but I don't see how to do that outside the tools Audeze has included as it's all built into the headset itself. There is no fine tuning the EQ in their app that I can see, only presets. Each preset seems to be a tweak of the default "Audeze" setting rather than a whole different tune. So Bass boost brings out more bass without impacting the rest of the sound while Treble boost does the same.
Compared to my old gaming headset the audio quality is amazing. Compared to my music headphones the audio is just OK. So I think if you're coming from any mainstream "gaming headset" to this you will be impressed. If you're coming from something like the HD58x, especially if you have that thing dialed in, you may not be quite as impressed. Not that the Maxwell isn't putting oujt good sound because it is. I think it's just the way it's tuned. Clearly the drivers are good and capable of very high quality audio reproduction. Not really a fair comparison I'm making but if you are expecting this superb audiophile wireless Planar Magnetic headphone out of the box and already have a high quality setup you may be a little disappointed.
Imaging - good but not greatSoundstage - mehTreble - good but fatiguingMids - lackingBass - good but not greatClarity - good, great in some ways, lacking in others
Also want to note that the wireless audio sounds a bit different than USB. Not sure what it is but I think wireless using the dongle sounds better than direct USB connection.
Audio rating: 7.5/10 compared to my Sundara setup. 9/10 compared to other gaming headsets.
There you have it. My initial impressions. I'm going to go play some games now and see how it is. As a gaming headset alone I think the Maxwell is already a fantastic option even before I play any games with them. I also haven't tested the 3D audio stuff but I am in the camp that simulated surround sound is sort of gimmicky. I always got better directional audio out of stereo mode than with any of the virtual surround stuff. And the Maxwell already has better imaging and soundstage than the vast majority of gaming headsets out there.
Just remember I'm comparing these to actual audiophile headphones that have been tuned for music. EQ may really bring these to life in terms of the audio quality. I'm not a huge fan of the Audeze tune. If I didn't have my Sundara setup I think my perception of the audio here would be skewed much higher but switching between them I am not nearly as impressed. Beats the shit out of my old gaming headset though.

I just started testosterone a little under a week ago, and for a bit it felt like I was finally making progress in life. But I still have no idea how I'll ever move out.
I have no driver's license and nobody ever has the time to take me driving; I also have a disability that makes driving difficult. And I live rurally, so there's basically nowhere to work; the only business within reasonable walking distance is a family business. I've considered learning to bike, but the roads out here are either surrounded by trees on either side, or they have inclines/declines that are way too strenuous to bike near-daily.
My best bet is to move into town and get a job there, but I have no idea where I'd find a place to stay. My partner's house is technically available, but I don't think I'd feel safe transitioning there. I don't really have any friends I can ask to stay with either.
I'm open to getting a license in the future, but it's probably not going to happen until I have a job and can maybe take driving classes (though I know those are going to be expensive).
Even if I got lucky and could move out, the stress of leaving my cats and siblings, and even my parents (despite being closeted to them) makes me feel awful.
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If anyone has practical advice I wouldn't be against listening. Again, I just feel stuck.

Hello everyone!
I took a break from airsoft for a bit, have come back and am reevaluating things.
I am looking to sell the two mentioned items atm, prices are OBO and do not include shipping. Please feel free to contact me with any questions!
EMG Strike Industries SBR, blue accents. I haven’t really used this much, I got it a few months back and tested it and it works. I have the inspection tag still in box. Retails $375 and currently sold out- looking for $270
CYMA Plat AR-47 Again another item I bought on a whim secondhand. Works as of my testing, comes with 5 mags (though I didn’t thoroughly test each individually) and sling. Asking for $175 for the package.
Mostly looking for cash and am open to offers, but open to trades as well. My biggest wishes right now are an M1100, maybe certain shell ejecting versions of the 870, SVD(U), anything besides barebones M4’s really. Feel free to pm/dm any questions or offers.
Thanks for reading!

Hello everyone. My fish(african cichlid) is sick and needs help, please someone tell me what is wrong or some recommendations on how to treat them. Please bear with me this will be lengthy.
Last week (the 24th) when I went home I noticed my fish was not its usual self. It was paler than usual, gills somewhat more red, some of its scales in its lower back were pushed out, it seemed like it had a hard time breathing and its stomach was barely sinking/concaving inwards. My parents did not notice a difference especially in the stomach but my sibling agreed it was acting strange. I did a 25% water change and usually it does not care when the siphon enters the water but that day it just kept chasing it and trying to shake against it.
The next day I knew something was wrong because the stomach was more notable, they were staying in the corner of the tank, they were not eating/pooping, and I was told they were not eating much for a few days. I know nothing about fish medicine so I bought a bunch of stuff: API General Cure, Seachem Garlic Guard, Seachem Focus, and Seachem Metroplex.
At this point I was not sure what was wrong because I was reading so many things and there were symptoms that matched everything. Like was it swim bladder disease, a parasite, infection, hole in the head, simply constipated, stressed?? And I am still not sure.
Last Saturday, I gave him the first dose of API general cure and added some aquarium salt. Still would not eat or poop. And the gills were no longer red but he now stayed near the top of the water. Sunday, I can notice more of the belly and usually I keep the flow of the hand on the filter high but I noticed he was kinda weak and being pushed back by the flow (broke my heart), so I turned it down.
Monday I had to go back to school and my sibling was in charge of him, they made sure to give the final dose of the general cure. Garlic guard arrived in the mail and my sibling soaked some pellets in it. Fish only ate 2 (I think this was the last time he ate).
Thursday comes around, gills are kinda pink, has not eaten the pellets with garlic guard or peeled+chopped peas that were added into the tank. Kinda leaning to the side.
Friday (the 31st), it has gotten bad. My mom called me saying she's worried since he's swimming on his side and is staying hidden in its barrel/ house.
Sibling calls me to confirm he's not eating/pooping and when it swims it can kinda do so normally but when it stops it starts to go sideways(basically laying down completely sideways). He's also breathing very fast and just does not look like he's doing well.
I am currently on my way home right now but I don’t know what to do or what is causing it.
I was thinking its constipation caused by overfeeding but then why is he on his side? Bladder disease/issue? But what does that mean? How do I fix it? I saw someone talk about epsom salt but will that not harm him? Should I stop using aquarium salt? I’m trying to give peas for fiber but he won’t even eat at all, and idk if I should keep trying to feed him because he's not pooping. Does the stomach indicate a parasite, bacterial infection, or because he's not eating?? Is there a fish vet I can call or something? I tested my water multiple times and it's all good.
Should I add the MetroPlex+focus+garlic guard? Anything you recommend?
I don’t know what to do. PLEASE help me. I do not care what I have to spend or if I have to skip classes, I just want him to get better, I don’t want to lose my little guy.

Hello everyone. My fish(african cichlid) is sick and needs help, please someone tell me what is wrong or some recommendations on how to treat them. Please bear with me this will be lengthy.
Last week (the 24th) when I went home I noticed my fish was not its usual self. It was paler than usual, gills somewhat more red, some of its scales in its lower back were pushed out, it seemed like it had a hard time breathing and its stomach was barely sinking/concaving inwards. My parents did not notice a difference especially in the stomach but my sibling agreed it was acting strange. I did a 25% water change and usually it does not care when the siphon enters the water but that day it just kept chasing it and trying to shake against it.
The next day I knew something was wrong because the stomach was more notable, they were staying in the corner of the tank, they were not eating/pooping, and I was told they were not eating much for a few days. I know nothing about fish medicine so I bought a bunch of stuff: API General Cure, Seachem Garlic Guard, Seachem Focus, and Seachem Metroplex.
At this point I was not sure what was wrong because I was reading so many things and there were symptoms that matched everything. Like was it swim bladder disease, a parasite, infection, hole in the head, simply constipated, stressed?? And I am still not sure.
Last Saturday, I gave him the first dose of API general cure and added some aquarium salt. Still would not eat or poop. And the gills were no longer red but he now stayed near the top of the water. Sunday, I can notice more of the belly and usually I keep the flow of the hand on the filter high but I noticed he was kinda weak and being pushed back by the flow (broke my heart), so I turned it down.
Monday I had to go back to school and my sibling was in charge of him, they made sure to give the final dose of the general cure. Garlic guard arrived in the mail and my sibling soaked some pellets in it. Fish only ate 2 (I think this was the last time he ate).
Thursday comes around, gills are kinda pink, has not eaten the pellets with garlic guard or peeled+chopped peas that were added into the tank. Kinda leaning to the side.
Friday (the 31st), it has gotten bad. My mom called me saying she's worried since he's swimming on his side and is staying hidden in its barrel/ house.
Sibling calls me to confirm he's not eating/pooping and when it swims it can kinda do so normally but when it stops it starts to go sideways(basically laying down completely sideways). He's also breathing very fast and just does not look like he's doing well.
I am currently on my way home right now but I don’t know what to do or what is causing it.
I was thinking its constipation caused by overfeeding but then why is he on his side? Bladder disease/issue? But what does that mean? How do I fix it? I saw someone talk about epsom salt but will that not harm him? Should I stop using aquarium salt? I’m trying to give peas for fiber but he won’t even eat at all, and idk if I should keep trying to feed him because he's not pooping. Does the stomach indicate a parasite, bacterial infection, or because he's not eating?? Is there a fish vet I can call or something? I tested my water multiple times and it's all good.
Should I add the MetroPlex+focus+garlic guard? Anything you recommend?
I don’t know what to do. PLEASE help me. I do not care what I have to spend or if I have to skip classes, I just want him to get better, I don’t want to lose my little guy.

Everywhere I go is inaccessible, including my own home. This feeling is likely increased lately due to me experiencing barrier after barrier, but I can not take it anymore. I feel like I am living in some cold, inconsiderate world, and/or I am just some kind of outlier.
People are not very open or understanding as in the past, and even those who are providing care for me, lack basic understanding or compassion.
I can not function. My anxiety is so high as I live in constant worry about what I am going to miss. Noone wants to provide accommodations or alternatives, or no one knows about them or cares to look into them. Even in legal cases such as my apartment, it just gets put off. I could literally DIE and noones cares or takes it seriously.
The technological industry pisses me off even more I think. Simple things that could improve so many Deaf and HOH lives are just not an option for who knows why, other than corporate greed, when many hearing folk would also use many of these features as well.
Basically all within the past week, maybe two:
- I still can not get my fire alarm to work with my smart lights (near hopeless). My landlord was basically useless to try and get a strobe light, nor would it even cover my entire place. I have been trying to figure out my own solution for years now. There have been a couple of fires recently (most recent being 1-2 weeks ago) and yet I had no awareness.
- I've spent hours and hours once again (every few months I try at it once again to no luck) to try and sync things like my phone and my lights, even for simple things like notifications
- I still can not get my doorbell to work with my lights
- I can not make the phone calls I need and no longer have someone accessible to assist. Relay is hopeless and they just send me a keyboard smash of text. I have tried numerous companies to try and find a solution so I could deal with everything but have had no luck. It's a vicious cycle of being told to call when I am reaching out for the sole purpose of getting an accessible way to call, but them just thinking that somehow I will be able to call if that is my only option. The phone calls are piling up and I am starting to fear that the severity of repercussions will continue to rise as I can not attend to anything including even things like my taxes.
- I need things in my apartment changed as I keep running into issues being unable to hear things, ie. water, but feel that is as likely as the strobe we discussed years ago and even since then.
- My colleague above me completely disregarded my needs and inquiries, even with an explanation. I have been unable to participate in certain aspects of things such as meetings or group activities and events due to inaccessible formats or locations. I asked about an upcoming matter and location details and was brushed off. Instead of them looking into it, they just said in a nutshell we'll find out when the time comes. That "it'll be a new experience for all of us" attitude, despite me communicating that it matters as I can not hear in certain settings and have been unable to in the past. Why am I going to plan to be involved in, and others plan for my involvement in such, when I can get there and find out yet again I can not participate?
- I have been told by acquaintances / neighbours etc. in casual conversation that I should just always wear my HA's, even at night; how?!, I need to hear better, and have been called deaf or that I can't hear anything as a casual insult/putdown. Even if I could hear fine, I am not going to hear everything, no one can - but I miss some small thing happening lately, and suddenly it's "because your [I'm] deaf or "don't hear anything".
My week has been horrendous. Any words would be helpful right now. I'm really just struggling and feel defeated and no one really understands me; I feel so isolated and alone. Obviously I will keep pushing on through all of this, I just need some place I can be understood and exist unapologetically.

If you loved me, you’d be here.
Who knows, maybe staying far away is your way of showing love. 🤷‍♀️
I feel like I don’t even know you.
How did I have a child with someone I don’t even know?
Now it’s too late. So many lies and so much deceit has been involved, I don’t even know if you happen to know who you really are. Which story am I going to get next. Which excuse. Are we having fun yet? Isn’t enough, enough? I don’t care anymore.
I’ve come to expect you lying to me and letting my hopes down. I don’t dream of you being on the other side of the door knocking anymore. I stopped answering my door for just about everyone nowadays, anyways.
I’ll probably never see you again, realistically speaking.
You’d of already shown up if I were going to. I don’t even know if I really care anymore. Part of me wants to see you, part of me wants to forget you’re alive and go back to thinking you’re dead.
Part of me still hopes one day I’ll come home from work and see you sitting on my front steps, like the vision I saw in my mind months ago.
Part of me wants to give up and no longer be here because maybe when I’m gone you’ll realize what you lost. Part of me wants to be selfish and take the option of you ever coming back by ending my own life permanently. I hope whoever you’re with is worth it.
I hope you love that person very much. You must, because if you didn’t you’d be here, with your little boy and I. You’d be here and we’d be making plans about our future. I don’t see any future for me anymore, so that means I don’t see one for “us”, either.
I stopped wishing for a life spent with you, and have gone back to begging god to just allow me to die so I can be with Dave.
He’s the only one who ever really loved me. It was only by death he would’ve ever left my side. He even loved my ugly personality. Yeah…I don’t think I’ll ever forget those words you said that day you left. I play it back frequently in my head, crystal clear as if it were a movie.
A lot of things you said stuck with me. Talk less to people. The only paths that people like us have are death or prison. How I am not a nurse and should go work at Walmart or McDonalds.
One day I’ll get my roses from you. I’ll probably be dead by that time, though.

My buddy came by today with a coworker. Spur of the moment after midnight type shit. At the end of the night he tells me guess who I saw? Obviously it was her, my ex fiancé. She told him to send me a picture of them.
My buddy obviously declined. Of course, he still asked me if I want to see….nah, why would I do that to myself? My buddy says they’ve been dating for a month now. Ok. What am I suppose to do? Next topic please. I’ve been with my new girls nearly a year now. So we cheers and discuss something else.
It was 15 years together with you. I was terrible to you…you reacted accordingly. After all was said and done…you left. Ok so that’s life. I don’t need an update on your life girl, you left me. I know you and I will always wish you the best.
Anways, I’m with a someone new. But you already knew that. I still don’t get why you came by that night last July. I still don’t get why you stayed around getting cozy with my family. I still don’t get how you expected me to react when my gf came by after her shift at work. Aren’t you just tired of all the drama? That’s why I had to block you. I never thought I could do it. I didn’t do it cuz I wanted to, I had to for my sanity. You blocked me, and only unblock me so you could toy with me. But I’m not like that and I won’t let you keep doing that.
I’m too old to be playing these games. Just a few days ago We got each other rings…and that night I had a dream and you were in it. You couldn’t stop crying. We talked but all I did was stand there…perhaps our 15 year connection is finally severed. I dunno. All I know is I don’t like dreaming, if it means I got to see you again. That’s not right to the new woman in my life.
You left me, so I’m not surprised this is how my mind works. Obviously it’s harder for the one who gets left behind.
But life is not always about bad news. I am going to make it official in a few weeks. I’m not gonna lie, it doesn’t feel good to know you’re with someone else…but if I am blessed enough to find someone who I hope wants me forever, then who I am to judge when others are just as blessed. He will treat you well I hope.

Since being diagnosed with ADHD, I can’t really mask as well as I used to, mostly because I didn’t know I was masking before.
I’ve studied to be a lawyer for nearly 5 years now, I’m at the point where I can start applying for jobs BUT I can’t UNSEE any of the problems that come with working in an office anymore.
-Inefficiencies -Clear bullying within the office but nobody can say anything? -Incompetent, and I mean literally does not know how to do the job-people being managers -A lot of planning to talk about plans? -Office politics- having to keep a record of every interaction/ goal you achieved- otherwise you won’t get promoted -Clients that think you’re life revolves around them- so much unnecessary pressure
It’s gotten to the point where a lot of corporate benefits don’t even appeal to me. Free meals- that just means you want me to start working from breakfast till dinner. Even though you aren’t paying me for those hours🤦‍♀️
I’m not sure what to do. I love studying law, and I think I’d be a really good lawyer.
I just need less of all that above 👆and more meaningful, impactful work and Wednesdays off to catch up on errands like going to the bank, food shopping. The weekends isn’t enough 🥹
How do you guys deal with your job post diagnosis?

Hullo there,
Not sure what I’m looking for really. Just nice to be away from the students for two minutes!
Planning out what I’m going to do over the next two weeks!
Optional conversation starters:
1) How to queue properly. 2) coffee or tea? 3) what is the best gift you have ever received? 4) how would you survive the zombie apocalypse? 5) are there any rules you love to break? 6) why is bread square but they make sandwich meat round?
About me: Likes - cycling - hiking - boxing - reading - playing instruments - baking and cooking - history - the occasional game, but nowhere near a gamer.
Dislikes - odd numbers - sprouts - not having object permanence - vacuuming / hoovering because I always get distracted and suck something up and blow up the hoover.

Hello,
I am currently pregnant (8 wks) and am in dire need of assistance. I recently lost my job due to a 3 week hospitalization (I was septic and nearly lost my life), which caused me to lose my vehicle and I'm now being evicted. I have no place to go. I haven't had anything to eat in nearly two days. have no family to request help from. I can't even make it to any of my upcoming doctor's appointments. I also have a fur baby who is out of food. At this point, I'm honestly scared that we're going to starve/end up homeless.
I have CashApp, PayPal, and Venmo. If anyone has at least $20 dollars they can spare so I can feed myself and fur baby - would be greatly appreciated. Anything helps!
Thank you in advance 💜

Hullo there,
Not sure what I’m looking for really. Just nice to be away from the students for two minutes!
Planning out what I’m going to do over the next two weeks!
Optional conversation starters:
1) How to queue properly. 2) coffee or tea? 3) what is the best gift you have ever received? 4) how would you survive the zombie apocalypse? 5) are there any rules you love to break? 6) why is bread square but they make sandwich meat round?
About me: Likes - cycling - hiking - boxing - reading - playing instruments - baking and cooking - history - the occasional game, but nowhere near a gamer.
Dislikes - odd numbers - sprouts - not having object permanence - vacuuming / hoovering because I always get distracted and suck something up and blow up the hoover.

I’ve reached the stage that I can’t wait to find the woman that will tough everything out with me, the one I can hopefully start a family with soon and be proud of in everything she does... You’ll see my amazing yet sappy intro below, but also understand it’s 100% me and that I never say anything I don’t mean. I know what I want and I can only hope that when my person stops dead in their tracks at this post, that they don’t let the opportunity slip by, lol.
I’m 24 and from the Midwest. I’m also 6’10” and average build so if you like tall guys then I guess I get a boost! I feel weird yet confident in this world as a guy in his lower 20s already looking for the one but I know what I want... I want to find that woman that makes me a better man and makes life more and more intricate and beautiful with every day. I also learned to not be afraid of being 100% straightforward with what I want, I have to be forward about wanting a family more than anything, my love for God, and knowing what other values are important to me. I respect all religions and would be happy if you were Christian, Hindu, Jewish, or Muslim. I think faith in something higher grounds us all and makes sure we have similar values in mind. I value honesty and communication more than anything in a relationship as well. A few things I’ve learned about myself are that I won’t do long term long distance. Obviously it might be for a little while, but an in person where we can build is of high importance to me.
I love reading, writing, baseball and football, and my passion is film/movies. I also have my undergrad in astrophysics and I am attending the University of South Dakota for my PhD in nuclear physics. I used to think I was introverted but recently that’s turned towards great extroversion since I think I’m getting more and more used to the man I am. Also, if you ask any of my friends they’ll say I have the biggest heart... even if it does hurt me at times. I always wear my emotions on my sleeve and growing up an only child I value every relationship I make.
I do like talking on discord, WhatsApp, or just a plain old phone number only because I get more reliable mobile notifications, but I can understand if you want to stay here longer to get to know each other.
I don’t have too many surface level wants, I care 100 times more what’s on the inside but slim to average build and 18-30 would be for the best! And I love tall girls obviously cause I’m tall as well but short girls are just as great too! It’s just that I know some tall girls find themselves unattractive which is wild😅 Please PM instead of chat and I hope to hear back!

I’ve reached the stage that I can’t wait to find the woman that will tough everything out with me, the one I can hopefully start a family with soon and be proud of in everything she does... You’ll see my amazing yet sappy intro below, but also understand it’s 100% me and that I never say anything I don’t mean. I know what I want and I can only hope that when my person stops dead in their tracks at this post, that they don’t let the opportunity slip by, lol.
I’m 24 and from the Midwest. I’m also 6’10” and average build so if you like tall guys then I guess I get a boost! I feel weird yet confident in this world as a guy in his lower 20s already looking for the one but I know what I want... I want to find that woman that makes me a better man and makes life more and more intricate and beautiful with every day. I also learned to not be afraid of being 100% straightforward with what I want, I have to be forward about wanting a family more than anything, my love for God, and knowing what other values are important to me. I respect all religions and would be happy if you were Christian, Hindu, Jewish, or Muslim. I think faith in something higher grounds us all and makes sure we have similar values in mind. I value honesty and communication more than anything in a relationship as well. A few things I’ve learned about myself are that I won’t do long term long distance. Obviously it might be for a little while, but an in person where we can build is of high importance to me.
I love reading, writing, baseball and football, and my passion is film/movies. I also have my undergrad in astrophysics and I am attending the University of South Dakota for my PhD in nuclear physics. I used to think I was introverted but recently that’s turned towards great extroversion since I think I’m getting more and more used to the man I am. Also, if you ask any of my friends they’ll say I have the biggest heart... even if it does hurt me at times. I always wear my emotions on my sleeve and growing up an only child I value every relationship I make.
I do like talking on discord, WhatsApp, or just a plain old phone number only because I get more reliable mobile notifications, but I can understand if you want to stay here longer to get to know each other.
I don’t have too many surface level wants, I care 100 times more what’s on the inside but slim to average build and 18-30 would be for the best! And I love tall girls obviously cause I’m tall as well but short girls are just as great too! It’s just that I know some tall girls find themselves unattractive which is wild😅 Please PM instead of chat and I hope to hear back!

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