Hello! I’m seeking some advice from “real people”, meaning I’ve spoken to a therapist, but I need a nudge in the right direction from people that are kind of on the outside of the situation and just “normal” non therapist real life people, if that makes sense. TW: SA !!!!!!!
Long story short, when I got pregnant with my first child, I remembered awful memories that happened between me and an uncle when I was probably around probably 6-8 years old. My brain blocked those memories out and for some reason they popped back up about 2 years ago. I told very very few people. This uncle moved away many years ago, and has never come back… until Christmas. He apparently got a divorce, so he visited for Xmas with his 2 small children that he gained full custody of. My husband, myself, and our child chose to not see them. Well.. now he’s planning on moving to the town we live in, to be closer to family. My therapist says I need to tell my family, period. What I’m seeking advice for is- I just don’t know how to tell them. I’m scared they either won’t believe me or won’t care. He’s already made plans to move here, living with a family member close by. If people do choose to believe me, I don’t want to be put THEM in an uncomfortable, in between position. I also don’t want to “punish” his children for something he did. My entire family is thrilled he’ll be closer and I don’t want to ruin the excitement. He was young when this all happened, he’s about 7 yrs older than me and this was many MANY years ago. He also seems to be a great single dad. I know that doesn’t make it okay at all, but I’m just saying nothing can be done about it now. Idk how to move forward. I know I can’t avoid him forever, especially with my family so happy he’s moving here and already trying to plan get togethers and celebrations.
My therapist expects me to be stronger than I think I’m able. I’ve told her I’m not ready and idk how, but she’s just pushing to get it out there asap. Therapy is only once a week and I just started going not long ago. So I’d love some outside, real people advice.

Just what the title says. My wife (F29) and myself (F28) have an almost 2 year old. Earlier today I was going out to run an errand and I wasn’t taking the little one. She asked me if I was taking the baby. I told her no because I wanted a few minutes to myself. The errand I was running was for my wife. She got mad cause she was going to go to bed(she works nights) and that I had just had a break. I went to the bathroom by myself which doesn’t happen often. I am a SAHM but I watch a friends child M-F and I have this child for at least 50 hours a week. So she would of had the two kids for 30 minutes. I do all the cleaning, cooking, laundry, grocery shopping, caring for the animals etc. I have no problem doing all that but I do all that with a child attached to me. So how to I explain that basic human needs aren’t a “break”? I haven’t talked to her since I got back from the errand cause I know I will be mean if I do and I don’t want to do that.

Hey there stranger :)
As said in the title, I'm a simple French guy living near Paris with my 8 years old son 🤗
A little about me, I'm a very passionate and nerdy guy, I play alot of chess, take care of my plants and aquariums, and enjoy cooking! I also like games and movies, I even got a Star Wars tattoo, and my favorite game is Mass effect. So yeah space and stuff is my jam 😅
Anyway I'm looking for a chill simple woman, physically I'm relatively tall, not really thin more of a dad bod, and apparently a sexy voice with my French accent so if you're into that I may be the one for you! I'd be happy to send some selfies if you want to see more of me, but there is some pictures of me on my profile if you want to stalk :)
Send me a chat request if you're interested in chatting, see you soon 🙊

Do you brush your teeth, start to finish in front of the mirror, or do you walk away while brushing, trying to do one more task as well? Do you work hard all day at tasks, but never accomplish much because you are constantly being internally pulled or pushed to another task? Do you arrive late because you procrastinate till there is only just enough time left to get ready, but only then absolutely have to clean or fix this or that too? I think many women have undiagnosed ADHD. I knew my life was finally, brutally falling apart, postmenopause, at age 52. I started to believe this was a snapshot of my decent into old age. Though I love my doctor and I had seen several therapists and a psychiatrist too during my adult years, no one had ever suggested that my struggles, self-hatred, emotional depression, and physical lethargy might be caused by ADHD. It was only a by coincidence that I saw a doctor on television describe ADHD and its possible variations. OMG. I realized that my entire life, I had been a flashing ADHD billboard of symptoms. I told my doctor and she handed me a simple test. Within 10 minutes, I broke down, handed her the completed test and said "I don't want to live like this anymore."
I have been on medication since that time and my life and health immensely improved. I was at type 2 diabetes' door and the medication reversed that outcome, simply because it allowed me to become more physically active. Most of us in this sub, know we have ADHD or are seeking a diagnosis. My heart goes out to the younger me and all the struggling women who have no clue that they have a condition that will fight them every step of way. The self-hatred while we mercilessly beat ourselves to achieve what others seemly do so simply. Yes, we develope masking mechanisms and a multitude of novel ways to get by, but in retrospect, I wish I had been handed that simple test at some point when I was struggling to raise 4 kids. Desperately asking myself - "Why couldn't I just be normal?" There are many accumulative and negative effects of undiagnosed and untreated ADHD, including all manner of mental and physical ramifications that also lead to a shorter lifespan. How can we affect a change and acceptance for Doctors to hand out a simple ADHD screening test, regularly given to all women and to all adults?

I’m 24f and I’m scared that I won’t ever be able to feel happiness again.
6 months ago I left a very sexually, physically and emotionally abusive relationship of 4 years. He almost killed me and also did a lot of other really bad things to me and he turned me into someone I don’t recognize anymore. Before meeting him I was a very happy person who was constantly smiling and laughing and I loved life so much. I’m now depressed, I have really bad anxiety, I have OCD, I have zero self esteem,I hate myself and I struggle alot with trauma and ptsd and daily panic attacks.
Two months after I managed to leave him and after 4 years of being sexually abused I was raped. I was beyond terrified of sex and very scared of guys and so being raped broke me. I had a mental breakdown and I was too scared to leave my house for 3 weeks straight. My fear of men got so much worse and I couldn’t even handle a random guy looking at me or being in the same room with one at school or at the grocery store.
I’m now able to leave my house but I’m still very scared of guys and going to school is very hard for me because there’s so many guys and I had a panic attack last week while writing a midterm because a guy sat beside me.
I’m honestly in so much pain and I tried to end my life three times after getting raped. I’m trying so hard to get better but I haven’t improved at all after numerous therapists over the past two years and different antidepressants/anxiety medications.
I feel so messed up and I just want to go back to the old me but I’m really worried I’ll never be able to and I’ll always feel this pain.
I would love it if anyone has any ideas about what I can do to fix me or if anyone has gone through similar situations and can give me any advice.
(English isn’t my first language so I apologize for any grammar mistakes or if something doesn’t make sense)

Outlet is year old, front load washer is 14 yrs old. Outlet is a 15 amp 120volt circuit. Never had an issue until now.
I’m using gfci because the outlet is next to the water source.
I was cleaning out the filter to my washer (bottom right, front of unit). After doing so, the washer now trips the outlet (coincidence?). It wasn’t messy, doubt water leaked on electronics.
Also, the washer does turn on, just that when I go to run it, it trips.
Thoughts why the gfci is tripping? Someone mentioned to me to swap out for non-gfci. But my question would come back to as why was it tripping in the first place.

I’m overwhelmed. Burned out. Losing my mind. I recently became a stay at home mom after getting laid off from my job in Oct 22 (6 months ago). This is so hard. I’m tired, burned out, everything in between. I didn’t expect it to be fun and daisies but I also didn’t expect it to be harder than my well-paying 14-year career that I had previously! Kids are boys: 6yr old and 1.5yr old
Will I or kids regret if I just take a trash bag and dump every toy that’s on the floor into a bag and throw it away? Or at least drop it in the garage for another future day? That seems like it would be satisfying.

Long post ahead, feel free to skip to the interesting parts or read it all the way through :)

My background

I started playing chess at the beginning of COVID, just like many others. I never really studied it actively but I was fortunate enough to have a fairly good intuition, I reached 2000 Lichess rapid in just two years after starting. By never really studying I actually mean it, I've studied basically no endgames at all, completed an embarrassingly low number of puzzles and have a worse puzzle rush score than some 1600s. The only real studying I've done is openings, and only those that I play actively while trying to avoid main lines.
I had never played anything longer than 10+0 online before joining my local chess club this January and participating in their 5+0 OTB Blitz nights. After getting to know some people there they really opened my eyes to how I'm actually not that terrible and encouraged me to play my first rated tournament. Which I did, early this month. It was a rapid tournament (rapid and classical affect the same national rating in my country) and I did quite well, scoring 3/5 points (and almost held a draw against a master, I was an exchange up for a pawn but time pressure caught to me since, as I said, I know no endgames at all). I got a rating of near 1800, which made me want to play more rated tournaments.

The tournament & its format

I heard of the tournament super late, only joined it two days prior, so I had no real time to prepare. The tournament consisted of four games over the weekend, time control being 90 minutes for the first 40 moves + 30 minutes after, with a 30 second increment starting from move 1. The pairings were based on a weird system where your rating "changes" after every round and your new opponent is the one closes to your changing Elo. I don't know if this system has any name in English, please do tell if it exists! This system basically guarantees that I don't have any impossible games but no free games at the same time. Finishing with 0 or 4 points would be very much a possibility.

Preparing for the tournament

My biggest concern when it comes to preparing for the tournament was the gaping holes in my opening knowledge. Since I've only played Blitz, a large amount of my opening knowledge consisted of tricky but objectively questionable lines that I was sure would get punished in classical play. Biggest concern of them all being my white repertoire against the Sicilian, I never learned any main lines and only played the Grand Prix with Nc3 and f4. I tried preparing some more solid but less theory heavy responses before the tournament, those being the Rossolimo and the Moscow against 2. Nc6 and 2. d6 respectively. I know, I know, not the easiest openings to play, but I really wanted to avoid the Open Sicilians in classical against players who have played them for their whole lives. In hindsight, I should have looked at more variations of the Sicilian as well as some d4/c4 positions since I hate playing those as black.

The games

All the games in a lichess study: https://lichess.org/study/f600z6uE

Game 1, black:

1. e4 e5
2. Nf3 Nf6
3. Nxe5 Nxe4 At this point my opponent went onto a long think. Like 20 minutes.
4. Qe2 Qe7 I was very happy to see the Qe2 line. I have most of my prep there and while it's most challenging for black, it's much more exciting than the more usual d4 lines.
5. Qxe4 d6
6. d4 dxe5 Spending a lot of time again here.
7. Qxe5 Qxe5+ An inaccurate move by my opponent, but also avoids a lot of the theory.
8. dxe5 Nc6 Again, my opponent thought for a long time. At this time I had more time than I started with while my opponent had probably spent half of his time.
9. Bf4 Bf5
10. c3 0-0-0 c3 is the best move if you want to attempt to hold the pawn.
11. Bb5 Nxe5! I anticipated this move and had calculated this explosive tactical response.
12. Bxe5 Rd5 My opponent could try to hold onto a pawn by playing Bxg7 next, but I was genuinely hoping to see it with how much activity it would give me.
13. Bd4 Rxb5
14. c4 Ra5 My first mistake. I calculated Bb4+ for quite a while but I couldn't find a line I was happy with. The problem being that basically no matter what, my g7 pawn hangs in the end and I didn't really want that. I had a feeling that Ra5 was inaccurate but I didn't want to risk it.
15. 0-0 Bd3
16. Rc1 Bc5 At this point my opponent only had like 5 minutes left while I had over an hour. I thought taking would be the only move as I felt like the g7 pawn was poisoned, so I was quite surprised when my opponent actually spent some minutes here.
17. Bxg7 Rg8 Apparently it wasn't poisoned after all. But still, I was happy with my position considering the massive time advantage and felt I had compensation for it. My bishops are very strong looking at the king and I'm preparing to double stack on the g-file.
18. Bc3 Ra6
19. Nd2 Rg6
20. g3 h5 Going all in on the attack, trying to abuse the fact that my opponent has very low time.
21. b4 Bd6
22. Nf3 Bxc4 I got my pawn back, the attack isn't as strong as I'd hoped but at least I'm not down a pawn anymore.
23. Ne5 Bxe5
24. Bxe5 b4 The wrong defense. I had totally underestimated the a-file weakness after a4
25. a4 a6 A terrible calculation mistake by me.
26. axb5 axb5
27. Ra7 Rc6 Yeah, my blitz brain took over and I played this move in seconds.
28. Ra8+ Black resigns.

Game 2, white:

1. e4 d6 I found my opponent's Lichess account before the game and he had played quite a bit of Alekhine's online, so I prepared some lines for that using OpeningTree. I was quite surprised when he played d6.
2. d4 Nf6 I had prepared a line that this could transpose into in the Alekhine's (e4 Nf6 e5 Nd5 d4 d6) but I couldn't attempt transposing since e5 dxe5 dxe5 Qxd1 would be terrible for white.
3. Nc3 g6
4. f4 Bg7 Going for an Austrian Attack, the same thing that I usually play as white online.
5. Nf3 0-0
6. Bd3 c6 I decided to play e5 here, since the last time I played against the Pirc OTB it ended in a disaster since I waited too long before playing e5.
7. e5 dxe5
8. fxe5 Nd5 I didn't want to take here, figured that I would be happy if he takes on c3 regardless of the doubled pawns.
9. 0-0 Nxc3
10. bxc3 Nd7
11. Bc4 b5 Bc4 was a mistake, but I clearly had the right idea. I was thinking of Qe1, a very familiar idea to me with an open f-file from the Grand Prix Sicilian, but I wanted to pressure the f7 square first with Bc4.
12. Bb3 Nb6
13. Qe1 e6 A mistake from my opponent. Bg5 really causes some issues, which I found
14. Bg5 Qc7
15. Qh4 Nd7 Here I'm already completely winning. Apparently Bh6 is crushing, but I went for the more obvious idea.
16. Be7 h6 Here, I sighed of relief. I finally knew for sure that I was winning and could start focusing on converting. I wasn't quite sure if he could try to save his rook by playing Re8. I was going to play Ng5 but I hadn't quite finished my calculations so him giving up the exchange was a relief.
17. Bxf8 Bxf8 Apparently I shouldn't've taken the rook even, but I don't count that as a mistake.
18. Nd2 c5 This move was so annoying. I can't take, I can't push c4. If I play a3 my bishop will get jailed for a very long time. I actually calculated Bxe6 but didn't see the Qe4 follow-up so I couldn't go for it (I was rooking at crazy Bxe6 fxe6 Rxf8 ideas).
19. a3 c4 And boom, most of my advantage is gone! But that's fine, I am still up an exchange and I was planning on converting this in the endgame anyway.
20. Ba2 Bb7 Another annoying move, going for the battery towards g2.
21. Rf2 Qc6
22. Qg3 Be7 And here it all went to shit. Funnily enough, my next move is even Stockfish's choice on low depth, but once it runs for a while, it realizes the terrible tactical issue with it. It's a double attack and I figured it's winning on the spot. Even my opponent didn't see it originally when he played his previous move, he admitted after the game.
23. Qf4 Bg5 That can't work, right? Qxf7 is completely crushing...
24. Qxf7 Kh8 ...or is it? I'm losing back the exchange here, am I not? Nf3 doesn't work, Rf2 doesn't work, Qxg6 doesn't work, Re1 doesn't work, but, wait a minute! Re2 saves the day! Re2 Be3 Kh1! and Rf8 Qxg6 Rg8 Qe4!! blocking the attack and either black trades the queens or I do on the next move!
25. Re2 Rf8
26. Qxg6 Rg8 As I played my next move, I left the table. When I came back, my opponent was still thinking, and my heart sank as I immediately saw the move that I had previously missed. And just seconds later, my opponent played it.
27. Qe4 Qb6 No way, he just slides his queen to the side with a DA on my queen. I can't block it with d5 since my d4 pawn is pinned by the queen. And my queen is trapped. The only safe square is g4 which loses to Be3. I threw it.
28. Nxc4 bxc4 The only real possibility
29. Rb1 Bxe4
30. Rxb6 Nxb6
31. Rxe4 Bd2
32. Rh4 Kg7
33. Rh3 Rx8
34. Rg3+ Kh7
35. Rf3 Rc7
36. Kf2 Nd5
37. Bxc4 Rxc4
38. Rf7+ Kg6
39. Rxa7 Bxc3
40. Ra6 Bxd4+ White resigns

I can't believe I managed to lose this game. I'm completely demoralized after losing my first two games.

Game 3, white:

1. e4 c5
2. Nf3 e6 And I'm out of prep already. I can't play the Rossolimo or Moscow against e6. What a terrible start.
3. d4 cxd4
4. Nxd4 a6 And here I'm actually out of prep. I didn't even know this variation has a name, that's how out of touch I am with mainline Sicilians.
5. Nc3 Qc7
6. Be3 Bb4 I tried to play the only things I know about the Sicilian, against the Najdorf you play Be3 so I figured it shouldn't be a bad move here either, I've heard people say that in many Sicilian starting positions there are quite literally dozens of playable moves for white. After Bb4 I already kind of regretted it.
7. Qd3 Nf6
8. f3 d5
9. exd5 Nxd5 Didn't see a real choice other than to take. Now I already have to bring my bishop back. What a terrible opening failure.
10. Bd2 Nxc3
11. Bxc3 Bxc3+
12. Qxc3 Qxc3+ I figured that if I wanted to have any chance, I should just trade things off and defend the endgame. Not sure if it was the best practical option in hindsight but Stockfish doesn't hate me for it at least ´.
13. bxc3 e5
14. Nb3 0-0 This I thought was inaccurate by my opponent, most of the pieces have been traded off so why castle? Your king will have to join the fight soon enough and it's not like I can attack it.
15. Bd3 Be6 Another weird move. I was actually kind of liking my chances at this point. I still had the feeling that Stockfish would show something stupid like -2 since my pawns are terrible, but I felt like the next move gave me quite a nice position. And it's actually pretty good in reality too.
16. Nc5 Bd5
17. c4 Bc6
18. Rb1 Ra7 What an ugly move Ra7 is. I was quite happy with my chances, finally, I felt like the game was finally back to a 3 result game.
19. Kf2 Rc8
20. Rhe1 f6 Here apparently I'm winning after Bf5. I considered it, but decided against it.
21. Ne4 Bxe4 Should take back with the bishop since Rxc4 loses to Bd5. I missed that.
22. Rxe4 Nc6
23. c3 Rc7 c3 not the most accurate move, but it's restricting the knight and giving my bishop some air.
24. g4 Ra8
25. Re3 Rd8
26. Ke2 Na5
27. Bf5 Kf7 And here's where things started to go wrong.
28. Rb6 Kf8 Luckily my opponent didn't punish my mistake by playing Rd2+. It's not easy to spot but quite devastating.
29. Be6 Rc6
30. Rxc6 Nxc6
31. Bd5 Ke7
32. Rd3 Rc8 I thought this Rd3 move was a huge mistake by me since the rook can't defend the c4 pawn anymore, which becomes apparent in a few moves. It's not bad in reality though.
33. Kd2 Na5
34. Kc2 Rc7
35. h4 Nxc4 Losing the pawn, yay! But maybe I can hold the endgame.
36. Bxc4 Rxc4 I shouldn't have traded. Now I'm gone from -1,5 to -5. The engine sees that the endgame is not holdable but humans aren't engines, luckily.
37. Kb3 b5
38. Re3 h6 I thought that if we traded rooks I could maybe hold the endgame, but as I said, I'm terrible at them. We both still had plenty of time so I was confident in my calculation though. But it's still losing.
39. Re4 Rc6 Apparently my opponent agreed with me.
40. a4 Kd6 Another miscalculation, I thought if we traded all the queenside pawns and the rooks it would be a draw. So that's what I went for.
41. axb5 axb5
42. c4 bxc4+
43. Rxc4 Rxc4
44. Kxc4 Kc6 I had realized that if my opponent just goes Ke6 here it's over, but he wanted opposition. Here, again, I thought this was for sure a draw.
45. h5 Kd6
46. Kd3 Kd5
47. Ke3 Ke6 Black can't keep the opposition anymore. There's still some win for the engine but for an intermediate player it's really not obvious.
48. Ke4 Ke7 At this point I thought for a long time, and this is probably the most embarrassing moment of this game. I thought that if I play Kf5 Kf7 I lose because I have to go Ke4 back but here I would have f4. I just played it a move too early.
49. f4 exf4 The final mistake of the game.
50. Kxf4 Kf7
51. Kf5 Draw agreed.

Game 4 will be added shortly, my hands are just tired from typing haha.

I'm pretty generic, I won't lie, my special interests are Minecraft, LEGOs, Pokemon, video games in general I suppose, and internet history. However, despite the special interest, I still have shorter periods of "disinterest" (namely, times when I just don't feel like actively playing Minecraft or Pokemon or doing research of some kind (idk about y'all but I have a severe need to hoard information and knowledge)).
Like if somebody brings up Minecraft or Pokemon around me, I'll still have that antsy-ness to start correcting people and telling them the "real truth" and fun facts about things nobody ever really seems to care about. But I don't really wanna ACTIVELY play the games. Is this normal for AuDHD? My imposter syndrome yells at me that "You aren't autistic, because you sometimes don't play your SI games!!" even though I've played Pokemon religiously since I was like 6 years old (22 now and still doing nuzlockes) and even though I literally ruined many social relationships in my life because I was too busy playing Minecraft literally nonstop, as much as I possibly could, since 2011 (seriously I fucking love blocks). I had family members around my age as a kid of course, and during their birthday parties I would even bring a laptop, ignore the other kids, and just play Minecraft! Wherever and whenever!
But nowadays I experience periods of time in which while I still care about the subject, I just don't really feel like playing it. In my head I tend to attribute this to the ADHD part, I don't want to grind in Pokemon or a Minecraft mod pack because well it is a grind a good amount of the time.
Is this like, normal for us? Does anyone else experience this? Am I just a big dumb faker like my inner voice is trying to tell me? I hate this imposter feeling a lot, even though in hindsight looking back on my life I should've realized I was autistic much sooner and things I thought were "more normal" than other people were actually just "more autistic" and matched my definition of "normal" better than what I saw or heard from neurotypical people. I literally wore the same outfit everyday until my comfort clothes had holes and rips, and then still keep wearing the same clothes! I still do wear basically the exact same outfit just with less holes now ahah.
Anyway sorry for that tangent, but yeah I really just want to know if anyone else experiences this or if it's common for people with AuDHD or whatever and yeah
Thanks

Hello guys my name is Kuzey im 13 years old and im writing this from turkey ill talk about the system in turkey first of all its bad i cant describe it in another words but its bad like pretty bad and ill explain you what is bad okay so you know we have a economic crisis going on from 1980s and its still going as a dollar is 19 Tl its like 19 times cheap everything here for u and its 19 times expensive for us that is all because of the government and the president but i can blame president because is just doing their job and working for president not for the people for the president and the president use her power the government for bad thing government are basically the dogs for president so lets talk about our previous topic now the school system there is elemantary school 4 year middle school another 4 year high school another 4 year then they do degree which is high licence its like 4 to 10 years and then there is doctorate which is you have dr. on your name and you can teach on school and so many people in turkey cant pass the high school because they fail at the classes and a basic people lives around 50 to 80 years in turkey so think about it half of it is gone but gone for what to live in a rent or maybe cant even rent you earn 500 dollars a month average in turkey and average house is about like 400-600 dollars think about it what we gonna do cant even feed our selves i can say they literally treat us like slaves and because of we have economic crisis you think turkey is cheap but its not its just for you people i mean a europians if that is clear ill tell more about the system also guys this system is pretty well going on every country but because of we have crisis its the worst here okay now im gonna talk about the system and what is school, school is the place you learn some things lessons right if that is clear then why wont they teach us how to make money why wont they teach us how to be rich because of the system the government pays them to teach regardless non sense things to make more slaves on their country the country that they are controlling also the school is like a prison we cant say or comment about the things that teachers say we cant leave when we want we have to do what they say we have to eat a specific meal its like a prison and they treat us like prisoners to make us slaves not gaining money they just make us work for the goverment and the goverment to president...

Hello!
I was wondering if anybody here has any unused codes for the digital editions of their coursebooks? They're found inside the front cover of the book. I am looking at ONLY buying the unused codes, not the books. I'll link the specific books I am looking for below.
Computer Science, Chemistry, Biology, Physics
I'll pay you through paypal preferably. Looking to pay around £8 (can negotiate) for each individual code, you can convert to your local currency using google :)
Please DM me or leave a comment if you have any to sell.
Thanks guys, I appreciate it :)

Hi!
Thanks in advance to anyone that can help me- I've spent a total of 13 hours on hold with CRA over the past 2 weeks so I'm reluctant to call back to ask.
My 15-year-old son was recently approved for the Disability tax Credit and the Child disability amount. He will not be using any of this as he is not working. I am a single parent and I'm wondering if I need to adjust my Td1 federal and BC provincial forms for work now?
My confusion is around a few different boxes/lines (this is for the federal TD1)

• line 2- "Canada caregiver amount for infirm dependent under 18". Am I now eligible to claim this amount $2499 for 2023? I do meet the conditions listed as I am the only caregiver he has, but I'm wondering if being approved for the DTC automatically approves me to claim this amount as well.
• Line 6- "Disability Amount" (If you will claim the disability amount of your income tax return by using for T2201 enter $9428). I will be claiming this, but it's my son's not mine...so I'm unsure if I should be claiming that here at all.

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• Line 12- "Amount Transferred from Dependent" ( If the dependent will not use all of their disability amount on their income tax return, enter the unused amount)- Would I maybe claim this line/box amount instead of the disablity amount on Line/box 6? How do I know the total? My son will not claim any this year.

My other question is- If I just leave my TD1 as is, will I ultimately receive the correct refund come income tax time next year? I understand I can transfer the credits to myself come income tax time. Can I claim them here on my TD 1 and also again on a return later?
ANY answers to any of the questions would be helpful :) I really appreciate it too! Thank you so much!

She's pregnant and due to take leave in a week or two. Out of nowhere they asked to check all of her references after being in the company for over a year. (It's a marketing tech 外資系) she's a foreigner on 永住者の配偶者等 visa.
Is this normal or suspicious by the company?
For reference, most of the team has quit in the last months and it's just her and one other. It was originally 8 people. The company is not profitable in Japan.
Interested in hearing your insights

Homecoming. After 12 years. Arkady Lobanov was not a sentimental person but memories of his childhood came flooding in as he got closer to his destination - St. Petersburg.
“You know, my father would always fondly recall his trips to St. Petersburg and he would always come home with gifts for me and my sister.” James Pierre, Arkady’s friend remarked
“I did accompany him when I was 9 years old to meet his great-aunt Sofia Belinsky, but I hardly remember anything from the trip except that I fell of a horse and got a hiding from mother.” He continued as he surveyed the chequered board in front of them.
“Ah! I see that you almost had me distracted Arkady. But trust me, I am getting better at this” James moved his bishop to counter Arkady’s attack.
After a brief pause Arkady smiled and replied “I agree that you are getting better. And yet, you completely forgot about my knight who is in position to take your queen and with that this game”.
The sun was just sinking in the horizon and one of the train crew members went around the carriage lighting up the candles. James shook his head and looked distraught “I thought I almost had this. Guess you are a genius after all!”
“Or that I have had plenty of time to practice with my father” Arkady replied smartly as he rose from his seat.

**

Dinner was soon served and over the main course of roasted beef served with potatoes and mashed turnips, the men discussed their impeding trip.
“I do have to warn you, the Russian parties are even more boring than the French ones. Worse there aren’t enough girls our age who would be in attendance either. It will be old hairy warlocks, members of the Duma boring everyone with stories of legislative assemblies and quite a few married ladies with saggy tits fawning all over you to start a summer affair”
Arkady smiled behind his glass of wine. “It can’t be that bad. Personally, I am very excited to visit after 12 years.”
“While I understand your enthusiasm, I am afraid I can’t mirror that sentiment. Believe me, I would skip this trip entirely if I could” James sounded exasperated.
“I am sure not having to wake up for the lectures early morning would be a welcome change. Plus, we could hunt for game and go horse riding. Camp in the forest. As a matter of fact, an occasional liaison with a married woman wouldn’t be so bad do you think? I mean they would probably have more experience won’t they?” Arkady probed.
“Hah! To think that Arkady, the son of pious and celibate Mathematics Professor Mikhail Lobanov is interested in steamy liaisons with married woman of the Russian Aristocracy!” mocked James. “Alright Arkady. I see that you are a man with a mission. I don’t hope to dissuade you nor rain on your excitement. Let’s toast to a summer of adventures” James raised his glass. Arkady soon followed suit, a flicker of shadow crossing his face at the mention of the word mission.

**

Five carriages away, 2 men played cards while another was in deep conversation with a passenger. The three of them were travelling together. The train horn signalled the approaching station and one of the men rose from their seat. Wordlessly, he picked up his luggage and bid his goodbyes to the other man. The train slowed down and stopped at the small village town – Gatchina where this man got off the train and hurried off the empty station. This man who went by the name of Vadim, would band up with the Bolsheviks and gather resources and men for their eventual mission while the other two men would work in the shadows for Arkady.

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By 8 o clock, they had reached St. Petersburg and James and Arkady were met on the bustling station by Yuri Nosov – a butler arranged by James’ father and were escorted to their horse carriage. St. Petersburg looked bright and crowded and dirty and they were soon brought to the mansion were they would be staying the night arranged once again by James’ father.
“Mr. Ivanovich apologises to not being able to receive you personally as he was called to the court for an urgent matter. You have.. heard the news of the unrest in the capital I am sure? These are dangerous times.” The wife of Mr. Peter welcomed the young men, smiling and eyeing them surreptitiously.
“Seems like Mrs. Ivanovich might have taken a shine for you Arkady” James teased him teasingly as they settled in their rooms.
“I did warn you about old married ladies here”
“I just think she was nervous welcoming us James. Your father is obviously important to their business and they didn’t want to offend us”
“My naïve friend, that’s not all of it, I am sure – ”
A knock on the door interrupted their conversation and Yuri handed over a letter to James.
James tore open the letter and reading its contents, smirked and yawned “Here is the invitation for our first party. The Khilakov’s. Father warned me that they would court us. Lord Basil has recently found himself out of favor with the Tsar as his business venture in the east is overrun because of the Japanese invasion of Manchuria. But I am told his wife has an appetite for young men so this could be an interesting introduction to the debauchery of the Russian aristocracy for you my friend.”
James dropped down on his bed as he handed Arkady the invitation. Arkady’s heart was thumping against his chest as he read the contents of the invitation. It was all coming together as planned and yet he found it moving faster than he thought. He stayed awake late into the night, as dark thoughts about the future plagued him even as his friend snored beside him without a care of what was to come.

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Privet Comrades! Congratulations if you made it this far. I have pulled this one off the archives. Basically, the premise of the story is that my character is a Bolshshevik revolutionary who is now in Russia - recruiting and gathering resources, money, influence to ignite the revolution! To this extent, he is going to use his own heritage/ his friend's connections to gain entry into the rich/upper class society of Russia.
Who does he meet during his mission? A MILFy widow looking for companionship? An almost broke socialite looking to hedge her risks and welcome the regime change? Or a Duchess disillusioned with the going ons of the Russian Aristocracy? The possibilities are endless.
(The starter is obviously just to initiate/ spring forth your imagination and isn't set on stone).
Now who I am looking for? - A detailed/ creative writer who not only loves smut but also a good story build up. One who isn't afraid to drive the story when the need arises and also hopefully bring to life this intricate tapestry of politics, struggle, war, debauchery and violence!
Discord is preferred.
So if any of this interests you, do hit me up!

Hello there, my name is Brad and I am 34M from NY. I am hoping to find some new friends to get to know. I work from home and doing so makes having a social life a little tough.
For fun I like to play video games, I play all sorts of games and play on PC, Xbox, and the Nintendo Switch. I also love being active and outdoors. I love to go to the gym, go on hikes, go fishing, and just be outside. Music is another passion of mine and I love discovering new music/ artists to listen to. If you have suggestions I'd love to hear them. I have been playing guitar since I was 8 years old and try to play a little each day. I am always watching Youtube videos, Netflix shows, or catching up on Podcasts. I also enjoy watching sports and follow pretty much every league. I love pro wrestling and UFC as well.
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If you are interested in chatting and getting to know me, feel free to send me a chat. I prefer chatting on Discord but am open to other platforms as well! I hope to hear from you soon!

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2. Morning pages: Write three pages of stream-of-consciousness writing first thing in the morning.
3. Dream journal: Write down your dreams each morning.
4. Vision board: Create a visual representation of your goals and aspirations.
5. Brain dump: Write down everything that's on your mind.
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7. Letter to your past self: Write a letter to your past self.
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10. Quotes: Write down your favorite quotes and what they mean to you.
11. Mind map: Draw a mind map of your thoughts and ideas.
12. Self-reflection: Reflect on your day and what you could have done differently.
13. Travel journal: Document your travels and experiences.
14. Gratitude jar: Write down something you're grateful for each day and store it in a jar.
15. Fears and doubts: Write down your fears and doubts and try to overcome them.
16. Positivity journal: Write down positive affirmations and quotes to lift your mood.
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18. Problem-solving: Write down a problem and brainstorm solutions.
19. Free write: Write without any specific topic or goal.
20. Stream of consciousness drawing: Draw without any specific goal or purpose.
21. Recipe book: Write down your favorite recipes.
22. Memory book: Document memories from your childhood or significant life events.
23. Goals: Write down your short-term and long-term goals.
24. Bucket list travel destinations: Write down places you want to visit.
25. Bucket list experiences: Write down experiences you want to have.
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27. Mindfulness exercises: Write down mindfulness exercises to practice.
28. Daily affirmations: Write down affirmations to repeat to yourself each day.
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30. Book reviews: Write reviews of books you've read.
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34. Random thoughts: Write down any random thoughts that come to mind.
35. Bucket list hobbies: Write down hobbies you want to try.

I'm a 35 year old Caucasian male currently living in Central Kansas. I'm a bit over weight but have been trying to diet and taking walks. I work a professional job in banking and have for about 10 years.
I enjoy cooking, watching tv/anime/movies, reading, investing, and gaming.
I'm looking for someone 21+ that I connect with. Someone that might be ready to settle down soon. Goals are to eventually be married and have kids. But that's a long ways away at this point.
Location is not important.

Does anyone have any recommendations on some companies where you feel challenged and fulfilled at the end of the day? My interests are solid or liquid propulsion. Looking for a good company to work for. Someone where I can actually grow and develop.
Currently at NASA and for me personally it’s not challenging or fulfilling. I have around 4-8 years of engineering experience. Degree in engineering.
Obviously losing government benefits is a negative, so in a sense it would have to be worth the switch.
Trying to keep this post vague. Sorry if I wasn’t too specific.