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2008.12.05 06:42 Credit Repair - Improve your credit, your score, and understand how to manage your credit
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2013.07.12 12:12 boomerangthrowaway A place for images from the Final Fantasy series!
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2023.03.28 20:44 catscattwed12 Getting over someone I never dated?
A little over a year ago, I met a man on a dating app who seemed to be everything I was looking for. We grew up in similar regions, had similar life experiences, both loved the outdoors, wanted similar things out of life (marriage, kids, living in the same region). We went only went on four dates, then were both gone for a long weekend. We texted intermittently after that, but conversation kind of fizzled out. I'm not totally sure why - I think I might not have properly communicated my level interest (I've learned from this since then) and I feel like an idiot for not having reached out again and directly asking if he wanted to meet up again.
Fast forward a month, I decided even thought it's been so long without communication, I was going to text him and see if he was interested in meeting again. But I checked the dating app and his profile was gone so I decided to wait. Another month or two later, I checked his social media profile and see pictures with a girl, indicating that they were together. I've continued dating since then, but find that I still think about this guy. Today I checked his social media profile again and saw that he is still with the same girl.
It's totally absurd, but I feel very disappointed. I recognize that I didn't even really know this guy so this is all just a fantasy in my head, but he seemed like exactly what I was looking for. I keep thinking that if I had done things differently, it could be me in his profile picture. When I meet new guys, I keep measuring them up to this idea of him in my head (even though logically I know that I didn't really know him). For example, I've been seeing a guy for a few weeks now and I like him, but he doesn't have much of an interest in the outdoors, which is a huge part of my life. So in my head, I keep comparing him to this guy I met a year ago who also loved the outdoors like me.
This is also all compounded by my concerns that I'm now in my 30s. I worry that my "type" of guy is the kind who settles down relatively early, and that while there are some left in the 28-30 range, most of them are coupled by beyond that and those that are left get paired up really quickly. Also concerns about my biological clock at 30 and feeling that if things had worked out that guy, I could be a year into a healthy, solid relationship and not have to stress as much about this. Plus I would have a year of shared experiences and trips with another person and might be starting to plan my future with him. As silly as it sounds, I worry that I missed my last "chance" to be with a guy who is a really good fit for me.
I know this is long, so thanks for reading if you made it this far! I know it's absurd to be this hung up on a man I only met four times a year ago, yet somehow I am.... Any advice/suggestions would be appreciated.
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Fast forward a month, I decided even thought it's been so long without communication, I was going to text him and see if he was interested in meeting again. But I checked the dating app and his profile was gone so I decided to wait. Another month or two later, I checked his social media profile and see pictures with a girl, indicating that they were together. I've continued dating since then, but find that I still think about this guy. Today I checked his social media profile again and saw that he is still with the same girl.
It's totally absurd, but I feel very disappointed. I recognize that I didn't even really know this guy so this is all just a fantasy in my head, but he seemed like exactly what I was looking for. I keep thinking that if I had done things differently, it could be me in his profile picture. When I meet new guys, I keep measuring them up to this idea of him in my head (even though logically I know that I didn't really know him). For example, I've been seeing a guy for a few weeks now and I like him, but he doesn't have much of an interest in the outdoors, which is a huge part of my life. So in my head, I keep comparing him to this guy I met a year ago who also loved the outdoors like me.
This is also all compounded by my concerns that I'm now in my 30s. I worry that my "type" of guy is the kind who settles down relatively early, and that while there are some left in the 28-30 range, most of them are coupled by beyond that and those that are left get paired up really quickly. Also concerns about my biological clock at 30 and feeling that if things had worked out that guy, I could be a year into a healthy, solid relationship and not have to stress as much about this. Plus I would have a year of shared experiences and trips with another person and might be starting to plan my future with him. As silly as it sounds, I worry that I missed my last "chance" to be with a guy who is a really good fit for me.
I know this is long, so thanks for reading if you made it this far! I know it's absurd to be this hung up on a man I only met four times a year ago, yet somehow I am.... Any advice/suggestions would be appreciated.
2023.03.28 20:44 CiafCiafOfOurLegs My (26F) boyfriend (27M) cheated on me and I gave him another chance, but everyday I feel like I will never trust him again.
I was using his laptop when I decided to check his messages (he has Telegram and Whatsapp on is laptop). I have never done anything like this and I promised myself I would never do it, but I had this gut instinct about him not being 100% truthful. By the way, we have been dating for 3 months, almost 4, and we've been exclusive from the get go as we had an immediate chemistry. He is my first everything. And there they are: sexual messages between him and a "penpal" he told me about, a girl he's known for years but only saw once. He'd even told me she showed him her breasts years ago but he doesn't find her attractive. I knew about the kind of relationship they had, and I thought it was common sense he'd stop doing whatever he was doing with her once he was with me, I made it clear I am monogamous and I don't tolerate any sort of cheating, whether be it sexting, emotional cheating, sex etc... He was asking her tips on my behalf about blowjobs (I didn't ask him to ask her, I just told him I needed to improve). So she gave him one, at which he replied "I don't understand, you'd need to do it to me". And on top of that, when he mentioned me, he referred to me as "The girl I am seeing", when we've been calling "boyfriend/girlfriend" for a while now, we met each other's friends. I met his parents several times already and his grandma and I adore each other. Now. Looking at the date, I think it was the day after those messages when he asked me about a threesome and showed me his "friend", to which I said I wasn't interested at all and even if I were, she wasn't my type. That's when I started having a gut feeling because not only he mentioned a threesome for the 3rd time, he already had an option in mind! Sometimes I hate being bisexual because this is the same treatment I get from men over and over again. So fast forward to when I was reading those texts, I confronted him and he apologized profusely, he admitted he was keeping her as an option because he wanted to try a threesome with me since I am quite open-minded about sex despite being a virgin before him. He denied being attracted to her and just knew she was as kinky as me and that she would be a good match for me. Now you may be wondering: why would I ever stay with him? Because overall he is a good guy, and he is as weird as me, and being with him feels like home. I don't feel ashamed around him, I have never felt this comfortable, and he says he feels the same. But he is deeply insecure, so much that he feels the need to be validated by other girls sometimes. So he promised he would go to therapy and work on himself. But I don't know... I have been going to therapy for a while and the reason I have been single for so long is that I don't want to settle for somebody who isn't as willing as I am to improve themselves, to grow together, to be better. It's been a little over a week since I found out and he hasn't researched any therapist yet. Maybe I am being impatient? If I were him I would move mountains in order to gain his trust again. I wonder if I did the right thing by giving him one last chance, or if I should have left him right there. I love his potential as a partner but I don't like things the way they are right now, and now that I know how it feels like to be accepted for the way I am, I am afraid I will never get this type of connection ever again.
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Your credit score is a three-digit number, usually between 300 and 850, that's based on the information in your credit report. It's valuable for lenders, who need to understand how likely you are to repay money you borrow.
While there are several credit scoring models with different score ranges, 700 or higher is generally considered a good credit score, while 800 or higher is excellent. If your score isn't quite in that range, here's how to get it back in shape. [[email protected]](mailto:[email protected])
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On the FICO® Score☉ 8 scale of 300 to 850, one of the credit scores lenders most frequently use, a bad credit score is one below 670. More specifically, a score between 580 and 669 is considered fair, and one between 300 and 579 is poor.
VantageScore®, another credit scoring model which was developed by the three main credit bureaus (Experian, TransUnion and Equifax), also uses a scale ranging from 300 to 850. But its definitions associated with each score range vary slightly. A VantageScore from 601 to 660 is considered fair, from 500 to 600 is poor, and from 300 to 499 is very poor.
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A bad credit score doesn't have to weigh you down. There are concrete actions you can take today and in the future to improve it, and to keep your score as high as possible.
Knowing where you stand, and making it a point not to avoid the reality of your credit status, are perhaps the most important ongoing tactics in the drive to improve credit. Check your credit report and score regularly using a free online service like the one available from Experian, and feel empowered knowing you can master your own financial well-being.
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2023.03.28 20:43 Similar_Corner8081 I want a divorce but I’m financially trapped
I (46f) met my husband when we were in college. I was 18 he was 19. It was a blind date. My college roommate worked with him so she set us up. He took me home for the summer. We had only been dating for 3 months. While he was staying at my house he fooled around with my younger sister.
I was in the next room taking a shower. He acted normal. She told me what happened. My mom said this is not the man for you. I told her he wouldn’t do it again. I was young and naive. I eventually got pregnant as we were living together. I was 21 but had my daughter when I was 22. My oldest sister came to stay with me because she was in an abusive relationship.
While staying with us my husband cheated on me with my oldest sister. I’m not perfect and I don’t blame him for the divorce. I also made mistakes. When our daughter was in 5th grade I was put on disability due to fibromyalgia.
He has always been controlling when it comes to money. I had a car payment that took over half my disability check. Our daughter is now 24. She still lives at home. I told him last year I wanted a divorce and that I couldn’t do it anymore otherwise I would be dead by the time I’m 50. He went and got an attorney thru his work.
Where we live property and divorce is 2 separate things. We thought we could live in the same house until I saved up enough money to move out. We have a 9 year old dog and our daughter has a cat so I decided I would be the one who moved out.
Lawyer went to file the papers and took a look at it again and said because of the county we are in we can’t file for divorce until we have lived separately for 6 months. Now I could move out but the only people I could stay with are the 2 sisters he cheated with and I don’t think that works for me.
He and I decided even though we are not even legally separated that we would live our own lives. If I had my way I would move to Alabama (I’m in Virginia). I want to start over somewhere new. I don’t have rich relatives who can help me buy a new home or even rent. I feel so trapped and I just want out. I don’t have family I could stay with in Alabama.
What can I do? He’s already taken me off of his insurance to pay alimony. As part of buying out my equity in the house he paid off my car so he could get his name taken off of it.
What can I do? I don’t have anyone who can help me and staying in the same house is killing my mental health. My depression isn’t getting any better and I sleep 14 hours a day and don’t really eat.
Does anyone have any suggestions or advice?
Tl:dr-I want to move out of the marital home but I haven’t worked since our daughter was in the 5th grade because I’m on disability.
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I was in the next room taking a shower. He acted normal. She told me what happened. My mom said this is not the man for you. I told her he wouldn’t do it again. I was young and naive. I eventually got pregnant as we were living together. I was 21 but had my daughter when I was 22. My oldest sister came to stay with me because she was in an abusive relationship.
While staying with us my husband cheated on me with my oldest sister. I’m not perfect and I don’t blame him for the divorce. I also made mistakes. When our daughter was in 5th grade I was put on disability due to fibromyalgia.
He has always been controlling when it comes to money. I had a car payment that took over half my disability check. Our daughter is now 24. She still lives at home. I told him last year I wanted a divorce and that I couldn’t do it anymore otherwise I would be dead by the time I’m 50. He went and got an attorney thru his work.
Where we live property and divorce is 2 separate things. We thought we could live in the same house until I saved up enough money to move out. We have a 9 year old dog and our daughter has a cat so I decided I would be the one who moved out.
Lawyer went to file the papers and took a look at it again and said because of the county we are in we can’t file for divorce until we have lived separately for 6 months. Now I could move out but the only people I could stay with are the 2 sisters he cheated with and I don’t think that works for me.
He and I decided even though we are not even legally separated that we would live our own lives. If I had my way I would move to Alabama (I’m in Virginia). I want to start over somewhere new. I don’t have rich relatives who can help me buy a new home or even rent. I feel so trapped and I just want out. I don’t have family I could stay with in Alabama.
What can I do? He’s already taken me off of his insurance to pay alimony. As part of buying out my equity in the house he paid off my car so he could get his name taken off of it.
What can I do? I don’t have anyone who can help me and staying in the same house is killing my mental health. My depression isn’t getting any better and I sleep 14 hours a day and don’t really eat.
Does anyone have any suggestions or advice?
Tl:dr-I want to move out of the marital home but I haven’t worked since our daughter was in the 5th grade because I’m on disability.
2023.03.28 20:42 Zero187 Please help get Wii U eShop back up for one more chance to spend remaining funds
Just saw the news about Wii U eshop closing and missed my chance to spend remaining funds.
I called their phone support and was told I would have to purchase a Switch and use the funds for that system, otherwise the money is gone. But I already had a Switch and sold it years ago, and won't be buying another one. I'm asking for them to please bring back Wii U eShop for one more day/week so that we can have one last chance to spend credit. Some sort of grace period. I can't imagine it would be that difficult, given they just shut it down yesterday.
If there's anyone else in same boat, please help by calling this #:
Nintendo Support:
1-855-559-5568
Options I had to press to get to person: 1 2 2 3 3
Ask to submit feedback regarding eShop and give us more time for Wii U / 3DS purchases. Give people a chance who may not have been checking Nintendo FAQ page. Even my friends who are usually up to date on this stuff had no idea until today.
Thanks to anyone who can call and submit their feedback! I have a feeling if enough people call, they may actually do something.
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I called their phone support and was told I would have to purchase a Switch and use the funds for that system, otherwise the money is gone. But I already had a Switch and sold it years ago, and won't be buying another one. I'm asking for them to please bring back Wii U eShop for one more day/week so that we can have one last chance to spend credit. Some sort of grace period. I can't imagine it would be that difficult, given they just shut it down yesterday.
If there's anyone else in same boat, please help by calling this #:
Nintendo Support:
1-855-559-5568
Options I had to press to get to person: 1 2 2 3 3
Ask to submit feedback regarding eShop and give us more time for Wii U / 3DS purchases. Give people a chance who may not have been checking Nintendo FAQ page. Even my friends who are usually up to date on this stuff had no idea until today.
Thanks to anyone who can call and submit their feedback! I have a feeling if enough people call, they may actually do something.
2023.03.28 20:42 Creative_Recover Want to enjoy drinking better coffee but desire low maintanence? Student budgets & advice
I'm a student and I recently got pretty hooked on drinking the university cafeterias filter coffee (which is made by a machine that grinds real beans) to the extent that instant coffee now tastes vile to me and sachets of coffee mixes (whilst tasting a little better than regular instant coffee) just don't hit the caffeine spot in the way that the university's freshly ground coffee does.
I'm nearing the end of my course now and so I started looking into purchasing a bean to cup coffee machine for myself but I was quickly horrified at how much new machines cost (I had no idea that coffee machines were this expensive!). So I began checking out 2nd hand options on sites like Ebay and since this, I have spotted a fair amount of options more within my budget range.
I've never owned a coffee machine before and my experience of them is pretty limited (I press button, delicious coffee comes out- magic!) but the more I learn about them, the more I'm getting the impression that you need to do a fair bit of maintance with coffee machines (which you also need to buy stuff for) and that they also occassionally require replacement parts to boot. For someone who is looking at 2nd hand models, has limited coffee & machine knowledge and whose emphasis is on getting a quick tasty hit of freshly ground coffee ASAP (I'm not a coffee snob I'm just addicted to real coffee now) in the mornings whilst potentially operating in a virtually zombified brain state, are there any particular models you would recommend to me (or things to consider in general) for my needs?
Thank you so much!
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I'm nearing the end of my course now and so I started looking into purchasing a bean to cup coffee machine for myself but I was quickly horrified at how much new machines cost (I had no idea that coffee machines were this expensive!). So I began checking out 2nd hand options on sites like Ebay and since this, I have spotted a fair amount of options more within my budget range.
I've never owned a coffee machine before and my experience of them is pretty limited (I press button, delicious coffee comes out- magic!) but the more I learn about them, the more I'm getting the impression that you need to do a fair bit of maintance with coffee machines (which you also need to buy stuff for) and that they also occassionally require replacement parts to boot. For someone who is looking at 2nd hand models, has limited coffee & machine knowledge and whose emphasis is on getting a quick tasty hit of freshly ground coffee ASAP (I'm not a coffee snob I'm just addicted to real coffee now) in the mornings whilst potentially operating in a virtually zombified brain state, are there any particular models you would recommend to me (or things to consider in general) for my needs?
Thank you so much!
2023.03.28 20:41 throwmefuckingaway Does anyone else here constantly get blamed for everything?
I'm just trying to make sense of the situation here...
Throughout my entire life, I've always been blamed for everything. Even if I did the same thing as what someone else did, even if I followed people's instructions, I would get blamed. I would always try and try and try to improve and get better, hoping that one day I would produce such perfect work that people would praise me for it.
Today I'm a software engineer. The code that I write is fast, simple to understand, scalable, robust and bug free. Many things I write is based on well established software engineering practices. I test my code thoroughly and I've automated the crap out of everything. In many of the teams that I run, the software engineers are constantly producing software faster than the designs can even be churned out.
But do I get praise for doing such an amazing engineering job? Nope. I'm still getting blamed.
These days, I don't even get blamed for software engineering anymore. I've now reached the point that people around me have even progressed to blaming me for my manager's mistakes. Some examples:
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Throughout my entire life, I've always been blamed for everything. Even if I did the same thing as what someone else did, even if I followed people's instructions, I would get blamed. I would always try and try and try to improve and get better, hoping that one day I would produce such perfect work that people would praise me for it.
Today I'm a software engineer. The code that I write is fast, simple to understand, scalable, robust and bug free. Many things I write is based on well established software engineering practices. I test my code thoroughly and I've automated the crap out of everything. In many of the teams that I run, the software engineers are constantly producing software faster than the designs can even be churned out.
But do I get praise for doing such an amazing engineering job? Nope. I'm still getting blamed.
These days, I don't even get blamed for software engineering anymore. I've now reached the point that people around me have even progressed to blaming me for my manager's mistakes. Some examples:
- PM was supposed to fill in data in an excel sheet (which has been in use for months). I asked if he knew how to fill it in, he said yes. He fills it in wrongly causing a huge delay and I get blamed for not verifying that he indeed knows how to fill it in properly.
- Informed PM that I need X info by Y date or we cannot complete it in time. PM gives me X past the dateline, and obviously I tell him we can't finish it. I get blamed for not communicating this vital piece of information clearly.
- PM makes a mountain out of a molehill and escalates some issue to the directors. I'm called in for questioning to which I'm like "...this is not even an issue if you were worried then why didn't you just check with me in the first place?!?". I get blamed again for not know what's going on?
2023.03.28 20:40 Professional-Rub9841 dual nagakiba glitch
I just killed elanora in the second church of marika and while i was having a convo wih yura a dog attacked me and coincidentally killed him. I killed the dog and picked up the kaiba then got invaded by elanora. When i killed her and checked my inventory there were two nagakibas. Has anyone encountered a similar glitch?
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2023.03.28 20:39 LiseEclaire [Leveling up the World] - Academy Arc - Chapter 721
Out there - Patreon (for all those curious or wanting to support :))
At the Beginning
Adventure Arc - Arc 2
Wilderness Arc - Arc 3
Academy Arc - Arc 4
Previously on Leveling up the World…
Book 2 of Leveling up the World will be hitting Amazon, Kindle, and Audible tomorrow (March 29th)!
There will be a dedicated post about it later this week, but wanted to thank everyone for all the support and comments you've given throughout the years :D
For anyone curious, you're welcome to take a sneak peek on Amazon until tomorrow :)
There was no rationale for pain. Dallion was fully aware that Nil had been manipulating him for centuries and more, and yet refusing to his face made him feel as if he’d lost a friend. It was easy to claim that it was the lingering effects of emotional blackmail, the overall stress he was subjected to, or some other rational reason. At the same time, Dallion knew all that to be a bunch of crap. The reason Dallion was feeling what he was had nothing to do with the echo or even the mage behind him; the pain came because in a way Dallion couldn’t honestly say he was any different. Several of his main skills were based on manipulation. Every time he used music skills or engaged the abilities of his empathy trait, he was making people, animals, and guardians do what he wanted. The degree varied, but there was never any doubt what he was doing. And the most absurd thing of it—for the most part, no one seemed to care all that much. It was the fight with the Star that had changed everything.
“He’s gone,” one of Dallion’s echoes approached him. “Back to your realm, if I had to guess.”
Dallion didn’t respond.
“We all know it’s messed up, but you know such things happened in this world. Even before you learned, he was the archmage you had your suspicions. Did you think he’d be any different from the other beings of power you’d come across? Two of them tried to take over the world in the past.”
No, I suppose not, Dallion said to himself.
“He was right about one thing, though. You need to rest. We can pause for a few hours so you can take a nap.”
“No.” Dallion briskly turned around. “No naps. I’ll just sit down for a bit.”
“Right. Better than nothing, I guess.” Dallion’s echo shrugged. “Just set your thoughts in order. Would be annoying if Nil ended up being right.”
Dallion sat on the floor and drew a light symbol. It wasn’t strong, just enough to provide a calming blue glow.
“Oh, and I’m sure Eury doesn’t see you that way,” the echo added.
“What way?” Dallion instinctively asked.
“Like Adzorg.”
While it was nice to be reassured by someone, it would have been better if that someone wasn’t an identical copy of himself. Distance was starting to play a part to the point that he considered her a memory. Sometimes the memories would stir him to action, but all it took was another event to make him forget just as much.
Guess you were right about that as well, Nil, Dallion thought. If he wanted his relationship to last, he was going to have to work on it, and that meant leaving the Academy. Either that or—
REALM COLLAPSED
A green rectangle appeared.
REALM BREAKER
(+5 MIND)
You have successfully destroyed a prison realm from within. Just be mindful that doesn’t make you unstoppable, just persistently annoying.
The suddenness kept Dallion from focusing on the unexpected achievement. Instead, he mentally prepared to return to a fight he had started weeks ago.
Less than a second had passed in the real world; Phoil—or rather the symbiotic echo within him—had started the final attack, though he hadn’t had enough time to complete it.
Splitting into dozens of instances, Dallion leapt back. Not the best move, considering his enemy had an advantage at a distance. In a sword versus dagger fight, it was always better to remain as close as possible. However, Nil’s persistent warnings in the prison realm had managed to cause enough self-doubt for him to err on the side of caution.
Crystal fragments fell to the ground. The rectangles of moments ago hadn’t exaggerated.
Both sides instantly realized what had happened, then reacted appropriately: Phoil spun around, doing multiple circular arcs with his sword. Meanwhile, Dallion pulled off the blocker ring from his finger.
“Ruby, Gem, attack from a distance!” he ordered. Just then, Phoil burst into instances. No longer was it the meager three copies he used in the past. Over fifty instances of the boy appeared in the room, filling it completely.
Caught by surprise, Dallion tried to force split the situation, but his opponent countered. The mental force was far greater than Dallion had felt so far, almost as if he were facing a dragon. Someone with greater ability was attempting to force their version of reality. The tug of war continued for half a second, resulting in a stalemate. When reality hit, Phoil and Dallion were at different ends of the room, neither gaining the upper hand.
“So, the hunter knows tricks,” Phoil said. “I knew I should have gone for you first.”
“You aren’t a mage,” Dallion said, keeping six instances at the ready. “Who are you?”
The large boy just smiled, then burst into instances again and charged forward.
Ruby attempted a wave of wing slashes, but all of them were easily evaded. The echo controlling Phoil was exceptional at acrobatics as well as attack. Based on his movements, Dallion estimated him to be in his seventies, at least, possibly more.
Blades clashed. The Nox dagger, usually capable of shattering objects on touch, failed to cause even a crack on the shimmering surface of the sword. It seemed that the material had a few other added bonuses, which both Nil and Onda had neglected to mention.
Parrying the first attack, Dallion twisted his body, attempting a high kick at the side of the other’s face. The attack didn’t land. With lightning reflexes, Phoil let go of the sword, blocking the kick. Immediately after, he grabbed hold of Dallion’s ankle and took a step back.
The approach was both clever and perfectly executed. Even experienced fighters would have lost their footing, which was why Dallion didn’t even bother to do anything about it. Rather, he twisted his entire body, kicking Phoil in a series of different spots in five separate instances. In three of the cases, the results were less than desirable. In the remaining two, he managed to force his opponent to let go.
Ruby quickly intervened again, sending out a wing slash between the two. The attack hid Enroy‘s dead body, while at the same time preventing Phoil from charging forward again.
“You’re a noble,” Dallion said, using his music skills to affect his enemy with as much slowness and weight as possible. “Are you a count? A countess?”
“You’re so full of yourself.” The other smirked. “You think a count would waste his time on you?”
“Wouldn’t be the first time.”
Dozens of Dallion’s instances attempted to attack from different sides. All of them were constantly pushed back by Phoil’s own.
“I don’t have to kill you,” the large boy said. “Just to keep you here.”
The words sounded almost exactly like the platypain Dallion had faced recently.
“So, I can still ruin your plans?” Dallion took a step forward with his anchor instance.
“Some think that.” Phoil slashed the air with his sword. As he did, Dallion felt a slight tingling in his ears. “Music only when no one knows you’re using it.” More instances of the boy emerged, rushing forward.
Line attack! Dallion thought, doing a horizontal slice.
Any reasonable person knew that performing such an attack indoors was a terrible idea. The entire structure risked crumbling, say nothing of the dozens if not hundreds of casualties on the outside. Being in a mage’s room changed things. For a split second, purple symbols appeared as they shined through the surface illusions that covered every part of the building. Before the line of destruction had a chance to form, a loud bang erupted, everyone was tossed right at the walls behind them. Even Ruby was thrust up, drilling into the ceiling like a razor blade into cheese.
The air was knocked out of Dallion’s lungs as his back slammed against the hard surface. Waves of pain and suffocation swept through him, almost making him black out. The force disappeared, letting him peel onto the floor, gasping for air.
At the other side of the room, Phoil hadn’t been so lucky. His awakened nature had let him survive the encounter with the wall, though unconscious. Only the faint noise coming from him told Dallion that the boy remained alive.
“Gem, can you heal him?”
Err, okay, the aetherfish replied. Unlike Ruby, the familiar hadn’t been particularly useful during the fight, spending most of the time observing in utter confusion. Fortunately, healing magic was something it was fully capable of.
Dallion forced himself up. He was in considerable pain, though nothing he couldn’t handle thanks to his high body trait. Limping slightly, he made his way to Enroy’s body. There was no question that the man was dead, pierced through the torso, then suffering additional wounds during the fight between Phoil and Dallion.
“Sorry about this,” Dallion whispered. Barely knew the man, and definitely didn’t like him, but didn’t want such an outcome.
Casting a spell to summon a blanket, Dallion covered the body, then went to the unconscious Phoil. With him rendered unconscious, he posed no threat. The echo controlling him had been formidable indeed, but all the skill couldn’t compensate for low traits.
Bending down, Dallion took the Vermillion ring off the boy’s finger, then retrieved the silver glass sword. The weapon felt like a natural fit, as if it belonged to him.
“What’s the way out?” Dallion asked as he used his own Vermillion ring to transport the sword to his realm. “Nil?” he added.
There are emergency exits scattered throughout the building. All you need to do is find one and use a specific unlock spell. Alternatively, you can use a Vermillion ring to pass through.
That was interesting. So, Phoil had come prepared in more ways than one. His goal had been to kill Enroy and Dallion, then leave. That was reassuring—it meant that there was a way to avoid the shardflies outside.
“You alright, Ruby?” Dallion glanced at the ceiling.
The shardfly was trembling with such speed that it was outright vibrating. Gradually, its winds moved back out of the ceiling, allowing the creature to re-emerge.
“Anything broken?”
No, the insect said, even if it were plainly visible that his wings were chipped in several places. Flying along a spiral, it made its way to Dallion’s shoulder.
“Lux will take care of you.” Dallion then retrieved his blocker ring from the floor. “Gem, keep him alive. If he or anyone tries to attack you, vanish.”
Okay, boss, the aetherfish replied.
Gritting his teeth to best ignore the pain that came with every step, Dallion left the room, then the building altogether. The situation in the corridor was just as bad as he remembered it. A few elder mages were making an attempt to forcefully impose order, but even they found it difficult with the number of panicking apprentices. This complicated things somewhat. If Dallion tried to run, there was every chance he’d be spotted and stopped. To avoid this, he calmly made his way towards the staircase section, keeping as closely as possible to the nearby buildings.
His effort paid off. Although slow and painful, the trip off the floor wasn’t interrupted. Once on the first floor, things went a lot more smoothly. At one point, he even had an apprentice shout at him to hurry up and get back to his room. Since that was Dallion’s intention, he complied, forcing himself to run as quickly as possible.
If you keep this up, you’ll faint in a minute, Nil said.
“A minute is all I need,” Dallion hissed through his teeth. He was almost at his door. His vision had gotten slightly blurry, and yet he pushed on. Collapsing in the corridor was out of the question. A concerned mage, or apprentice, or even a well-meaning fellow novice was enough to end his chance of leaving the Learning Hall.
Gripping the handle, Dallion opened the door and stumbled inside.
“Lux,” he managed to say. “Heal me.”
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There was no rationale for pain. Dallion was fully aware that Nil had been manipulating him for centuries and more, and yet refusing to his face made him feel as if he’d lost a friend. It was easy to claim that it was the lingering effects of emotional blackmail, the overall stress he was subjected to, or some other rational reason. At the same time, Dallion knew all that to be a bunch of crap. The reason Dallion was feeling what he was had nothing to do with the echo or even the mage behind him; the pain came because in a way Dallion couldn’t honestly say he was any different. Several of his main skills were based on manipulation. Every time he used music skills or engaged the abilities of his empathy trait, he was making people, animals, and guardians do what he wanted. The degree varied, but there was never any doubt what he was doing. And the most absurd thing of it—for the most part, no one seemed to care all that much. It was the fight with the Star that had changed everything.
“He’s gone,” one of Dallion’s echoes approached him. “Back to your realm, if I had to guess.”
Dallion didn’t respond.
“We all know it’s messed up, but you know such things happened in this world. Even before you learned, he was the archmage you had your suspicions. Did you think he’d be any different from the other beings of power you’d come across? Two of them tried to take over the world in the past.”
No, I suppose not, Dallion said to himself.
“He was right about one thing, though. You need to rest. We can pause for a few hours so you can take a nap.”
“No.” Dallion briskly turned around. “No naps. I’ll just sit down for a bit.”
“Right. Better than nothing, I guess.” Dallion’s echo shrugged. “Just set your thoughts in order. Would be annoying if Nil ended up being right.”
Dallion sat on the floor and drew a light symbol. It wasn’t strong, just enough to provide a calming blue glow.
“Oh, and I’m sure Eury doesn’t see you that way,” the echo added.
“What way?” Dallion instinctively asked.
“Like Adzorg.”
While it was nice to be reassured by someone, it would have been better if that someone wasn’t an identical copy of himself. Distance was starting to play a part to the point that he considered her a memory. Sometimes the memories would stir him to action, but all it took was another event to make him forget just as much.
Guess you were right about that as well, Nil, Dallion thought. If he wanted his relationship to last, he was going to have to work on it, and that meant leaving the Academy. Either that or—
REALM COLLAPSED
A green rectangle appeared.
REALM BREAKER
(+5 MIND)
You have successfully destroyed a prison realm from within. Just be mindful that doesn’t make you unstoppable, just persistently annoying.
The suddenness kept Dallion from focusing on the unexpected achievement. Instead, he mentally prepared to return to a fight he had started weeks ago.
Less than a second had passed in the real world; Phoil—or rather the symbiotic echo within him—had started the final attack, though he hadn’t had enough time to complete it.
Splitting into dozens of instances, Dallion leapt back. Not the best move, considering his enemy had an advantage at a distance. In a sword versus dagger fight, it was always better to remain as close as possible. However, Nil’s persistent warnings in the prison realm had managed to cause enough self-doubt for him to err on the side of caution.
Crystal fragments fell to the ground. The rectangles of moments ago hadn’t exaggerated.
Both sides instantly realized what had happened, then reacted appropriately: Phoil spun around, doing multiple circular arcs with his sword. Meanwhile, Dallion pulled off the blocker ring from his finger.
“Ruby, Gem, attack from a distance!” he ordered. Just then, Phoil burst into instances. No longer was it the meager three copies he used in the past. Over fifty instances of the boy appeared in the room, filling it completely.
Caught by surprise, Dallion tried to force split the situation, but his opponent countered. The mental force was far greater than Dallion had felt so far, almost as if he were facing a dragon. Someone with greater ability was attempting to force their version of reality. The tug of war continued for half a second, resulting in a stalemate. When reality hit, Phoil and Dallion were at different ends of the room, neither gaining the upper hand.
“So, the hunter knows tricks,” Phoil said. “I knew I should have gone for you first.”
“You aren’t a mage,” Dallion said, keeping six instances at the ready. “Who are you?”
The large boy just smiled, then burst into instances again and charged forward.
Ruby attempted a wave of wing slashes, but all of them were easily evaded. The echo controlling Phoil was exceptional at acrobatics as well as attack. Based on his movements, Dallion estimated him to be in his seventies, at least, possibly more.
Blades clashed. The Nox dagger, usually capable of shattering objects on touch, failed to cause even a crack on the shimmering surface of the sword. It seemed that the material had a few other added bonuses, which both Nil and Onda had neglected to mention.
Parrying the first attack, Dallion twisted his body, attempting a high kick at the side of the other’s face. The attack didn’t land. With lightning reflexes, Phoil let go of the sword, blocking the kick. Immediately after, he grabbed hold of Dallion’s ankle and took a step back.
The approach was both clever and perfectly executed. Even experienced fighters would have lost their footing, which was why Dallion didn’t even bother to do anything about it. Rather, he twisted his entire body, kicking Phoil in a series of different spots in five separate instances. In three of the cases, the results were less than desirable. In the remaining two, he managed to force his opponent to let go.
Ruby quickly intervened again, sending out a wing slash between the two. The attack hid Enroy‘s dead body, while at the same time preventing Phoil from charging forward again.
“You’re a noble,” Dallion said, using his music skills to affect his enemy with as much slowness and weight as possible. “Are you a count? A countess?”
“You’re so full of yourself.” The other smirked. “You think a count would waste his time on you?”
“Wouldn’t be the first time.”
Dozens of Dallion’s instances attempted to attack from different sides. All of them were constantly pushed back by Phoil’s own.
“I don’t have to kill you,” the large boy said. “Just to keep you here.”
The words sounded almost exactly like the platypain Dallion had faced recently.
“So, I can still ruin your plans?” Dallion took a step forward with his anchor instance.
“Some think that.” Phoil slashed the air with his sword. As he did, Dallion felt a slight tingling in his ears. “Music only when no one knows you’re using it.” More instances of the boy emerged, rushing forward.
Line attack! Dallion thought, doing a horizontal slice.
Any reasonable person knew that performing such an attack indoors was a terrible idea. The entire structure risked crumbling, say nothing of the dozens if not hundreds of casualties on the outside. Being in a mage’s room changed things. For a split second, purple symbols appeared as they shined through the surface illusions that covered every part of the building. Before the line of destruction had a chance to form, a loud bang erupted, everyone was tossed right at the walls behind them. Even Ruby was thrust up, drilling into the ceiling like a razor blade into cheese.
The air was knocked out of Dallion’s lungs as his back slammed against the hard surface. Waves of pain and suffocation swept through him, almost making him black out. The force disappeared, letting him peel onto the floor, gasping for air.
At the other side of the room, Phoil hadn’t been so lucky. His awakened nature had let him survive the encounter with the wall, though unconscious. Only the faint noise coming from him told Dallion that the boy remained alive.
“Gem, can you heal him?”
Err, okay, the aetherfish replied. Unlike Ruby, the familiar hadn’t been particularly useful during the fight, spending most of the time observing in utter confusion. Fortunately, healing magic was something it was fully capable of.
Dallion forced himself up. He was in considerable pain, though nothing he couldn’t handle thanks to his high body trait. Limping slightly, he made his way to Enroy’s body. There was no question that the man was dead, pierced through the torso, then suffering additional wounds during the fight between Phoil and Dallion.
“Sorry about this,” Dallion whispered. Barely knew the man, and definitely didn’t like him, but didn’t want such an outcome.
Casting a spell to summon a blanket, Dallion covered the body, then went to the unconscious Phoil. With him rendered unconscious, he posed no threat. The echo controlling him had been formidable indeed, but all the skill couldn’t compensate for low traits.
Bending down, Dallion took the Vermillion ring off the boy’s finger, then retrieved the silver glass sword. The weapon felt like a natural fit, as if it belonged to him.
“What’s the way out?” Dallion asked as he used his own Vermillion ring to transport the sword to his realm. “Nil?” he added.
There are emergency exits scattered throughout the building. All you need to do is find one and use a specific unlock spell. Alternatively, you can use a Vermillion ring to pass through.
That was interesting. So, Phoil had come prepared in more ways than one. His goal had been to kill Enroy and Dallion, then leave. That was reassuring—it meant that there was a way to avoid the shardflies outside.
“You alright, Ruby?” Dallion glanced at the ceiling.
The shardfly was trembling with such speed that it was outright vibrating. Gradually, its winds moved back out of the ceiling, allowing the creature to re-emerge.
“Anything broken?”
No, the insect said, even if it were plainly visible that his wings were chipped in several places. Flying along a spiral, it made its way to Dallion’s shoulder.
“Lux will take care of you.” Dallion then retrieved his blocker ring from the floor. “Gem, keep him alive. If he or anyone tries to attack you, vanish.”
Okay, boss, the aetherfish replied.
Gritting his teeth to best ignore the pain that came with every step, Dallion left the room, then the building altogether. The situation in the corridor was just as bad as he remembered it. A few elder mages were making an attempt to forcefully impose order, but even they found it difficult with the number of panicking apprentices. This complicated things somewhat. If Dallion tried to run, there was every chance he’d be spotted and stopped. To avoid this, he calmly made his way towards the staircase section, keeping as closely as possible to the nearby buildings.
His effort paid off. Although slow and painful, the trip off the floor wasn’t interrupted. Once on the first floor, things went a lot more smoothly. At one point, he even had an apprentice shout at him to hurry up and get back to his room. Since that was Dallion’s intention, he complied, forcing himself to run as quickly as possible.
If you keep this up, you’ll faint in a minute, Nil said.
“A minute is all I need,” Dallion hissed through his teeth. He was almost at his door. His vision had gotten slightly blurry, and yet he pushed on. Collapsing in the corridor was out of the question. A concerned mage, or apprentice, or even a well-meaning fellow novice was enough to end his chance of leaving the Learning Hall.
Gripping the handle, Dallion opened the door and stumbled inside.
“Lux,” he managed to say. “Heal me.”
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2023.03.28 20:39 RomanPines29 Doctor told me I HAVE TO CONSUME OLIVE OIL because my cholesterol was too low.
I have been following a WFPB diet now for exactly two years, and with the knowledge of my PCP. I’m not trying to get my numbers this low on purpose, but they are. My total cholesterol is 96. He looked me straight in the face and said I needed to consume olive oil, avocado oil and or fish oil. I was to eat avocados every day (I hate avocados, btw) and nuts by the handful. I told him I eat a tremendous amount of flax and eat a wide variety of fruits, vegetables & grains. No oil, no refined sugar, no salt (or EXTREMELY LOW amount of salt). I did not want to argue with him as to why I don’t consume oil but he said numbers this low are unhealthy. My cholesterol was 220 and my Cardiac Calcium score was 814 two years ago. They did prescribe rosuvastatin (20mg) at the time. Am I wrong? He made me feel like I did not know what was good for me. I’ve read every book, watched every documentary, listen to every podcast and I feel what I am doing is what is best for me. I feel FANTSTIC!! Your thoughts. Am I too militant in my diet? (My apologies. I just needed to vent a little frustration).
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2023.03.28 20:39 rasbperr1 Do you think he cares about me?
I'm Korean woman(32, F), dating a man(20, M) who is working in U.S army.
I got to know him at Dating app(Bumble) and we have been talking for for a few months.
Our first dating is in the early of January, and we lived far away in different cities in Korea, so we slept over together at hotel at first date, and we did kiss or things, but we didn't have sex because I'm inexperienced but he understood me and though I didn't expect it, and he did so sweet to me, like kissing on my forehead and holding my hands, which is one of the reasons I felt comfortable with him. The next day, we parted away and I thought he would not wanna meet me again because I didn't have sex and I'm not that interested in him at first time.
After that, he sometimes sent messages to me, and after a few weeks later, he said me he likes me and wanted to hang out again but he couldn't have relationship with me since he had to leave Korea later, and he doesn't think LDR is work out. since then, we had been sharing our daily lives via Snapchat everyday and he seemed to care about me, but we couldn't hang out until March since our fist date in January because he had been busy for work and he went back to America for holidays almost for a month.
Finally, we met in the end of March, recently, and we promised to meet at a train station around 5:30 pm. I went to a new city for the first time in my life, and so I got lost in the train station, I became late for a date and met him at 6 pm. I felt sorry for him for being late.
Our date plan is to take an air balloon flight at first day, and to go to an amusement park next day, but I had to cancel air balloon flight because of inclement weather.
Originally, we planned to go to a nice restaurant, which takes a few days for me to find out information about restaurants, but he said he ate dinner already, which I felt embarrassing. At first time, I thought he ate dinner earlier, waiting for me but I found out that he ate dinner at 5pm, even though we were supposed to meet at 5:30pm. I asked him why you ate eat dinner before I'm arriving and he said that he ate dinner because he felt so hungry.
Anyways, since I became late, I could understand him about that. He said if I wanna go to restaurant, he can go with me, but he didn't wanna eat anything. since I don't wanna eat alone at a nice restaurant, and he promised me to go to restaurants tomorrow morning and lunch, we went to hotel right away. As soon as we arrived at a hotel, he tried to have sex with me though I wanted to watch a movie and talk with him and doing it later.
Actually, in the past, he asked me If I'm really virgin and I said yes. He asked me if I have any experience of masturbation, and I said I have never been masturbated myself since I don't think it's hygienic to my vagina.
At first date, he dine out at a nice restaurant, and after arriving hotel, we watched movie and saw tiktok together, and he didn't try to sex as soon as possible but this time was different, but this time, he put his hand in my inner wear right away, and tried to take off my pants, which I felt comfortable. When he touched my lower body, touching near my vagina, I felt more likely painful than feeling good though he tried to do it gently and go slower. Though he is quite experienced, he seemed to not find my vagina since it's my first time. Though I said I would have sex with him, I felt insecure and not ready, so I couldn't have sex with him(PIV sex) though I helped him to ejaculate by hand.
Before a date, he asked if I would ever shave down, and I heard shaving down is socially norm in his country, so I did Brazilian waxing for hygiene and it felt so painful, and I tried to make an effort to have sex with him this time. But he seemed to not feel good about it, and said If I would not have sex with him, we don't need to come hotel and rather go to an amusement park right away, Actually, I'm afraid that he would not go to an amusement park if I didn't agree to have sex, and I just like to be with him. unlike last time, when he held my hands and kissed on my forehead while sleeping, he said he felt tired and wanted to sleep since he slept 9 pm to 2 am last night. I asked him why didn't sleep last night and he said he just couldn't sleep. He asked me to turn off light at 9pm since we met at 6pm , and I had to eat dinner alone in a dark room, relying on TV light, which I didn't feel comfortable, and I wondered if he didn't go out with me, why he dated with me.
although he made a reservation the hotel, where he had been before, I didn't know this hotel has almost no privacy like there's only transparent curtain between bedroom and bathroom, and I don't feel comfortable about taking shower and using bathroom.
And things happened. When I took a shower, I found out some kinds of trouble near my groin, and I became panicked because I rarely get any skin troubles near my groin and he did oral to me, which I didn't ask to him, so I suspected it might be some kinds of std like herpes.
since I have sensitive skin, and I knew that HSV2 type has no cure, I became so insecure and woke him up in the middle of showering, and asked to him about his past history of sex. He said he had sex 20 times in his life with 5 partners and he had never experienced any outbreak in his life. I showed him my body and he said it's not big deal and it might be just skin irritating. After that, I googled and looked that part under the bright light on bed, and he asked me if I'm ok.
I know it could be not considerate for him about asking std and If I would so worried a lot, them I would not have any sexual intimacy with him. Though I didn't ask him oral to me, but somehow it happened and I was so confused at that time.
Anyways, he fell asleep again, but I didn't wanna spend that night just sleeping without watching movies or talking, and I tried to wake him up like lying on his body or touched his body, and played some planks on him. I admitted that I behaved like a child who wanted to get attention, and he said he just wanna sleep.
And I tried to sleep, but his phone had been kept alarming from Snapchat in the middle of night, and I felt weird and checked his phone. Though I didn't know his passwords, I could see Snapchat notifications in the screen and I found out those messages were from a variety of girls, at least 5 girls.
Though I assume that he might be talking with other girls, I didn't expect as much and I lose my control. At first time, I tried to ask him calmly why they are, but it felt like he ignored my word intentionally, and all this situation seems like he didn't respect me. Finally, I loud my voice to him and firmly said I'm so uncomfortable about it and asked him to explain who they are. he said they are just friends like that in America, and the reason he kept sending messages to me is due to time difference.
And when I asked him if he is using other dating apps, he said yes, and he is different from what I expected. Before that night, I had never asked him about other girls, since I believed what he said that he likes me.
in the next morning around 7 am, he woke up and said to me that he didn't feel good about last night. He felt like I woke him up at least 10 times, and I cried a few times and he said he didn't understand me and he felt like it's crazy. He said he is not in the mood of going to an amusement park today, and just wanted to leave after eating breakfast. I apologized him about it and said I felt so insecure and unstable yesterday since he didn't eat out with me, do nothing with me, and just kept sleeping from 9 am. But he seemed to be cold. I asked him if he doesn't like me anymore, and he said he doesn't like me as much. I asked him if he doesn't wanna hang out with me anymore, and he said he wanna go to amusement park with me maybe another time, but he is not in the mood of going there today. And he left hotel.
But after 10 minutes he left, I heard that someone knocking on the door hardly, and it's him. He said the reason he came back to hotel is he couldn't get a taxi, so he had to wait a bus. it seems like he didn't take a public transportation easily, so I decided to go to train station together with him. But I'm not sure how he felt about me. Because he hold my hands while going to the train station. And we went to a cafe, and he didn't say anything, just eating quickly and left, leaving me alone at a cafe.
I felt regret about last night, losing cool and waking him up a lot, and even though I felt uncomfortable about him, I should have asked him early in the next morning or just don't hang out with him next time, but I became emotional and I couldn't control my feelings since I became liked him for over time. I just wanna go to an amusement park with him and have a good time.
But I got hurts a lot from him since he seemed to not care about me at all unlike first date.
Actually, I got a skin disease after meeting him on first date since he kept smoking before me and touched my body without cleaning hands, and I had to get treatments in a hospital for a few months to be healed, but I didn't tell him about him since he didn't meant to it. And before he leaving me, I talked about him that I was sick but he just saw me with a blank look, and reacted like it's none of his business. he just said 'so what? you got cured right now and that's all'.
After he went to his place, he sent me messages that he arrived, and since then, we haven't talked so far.
Although he said he likes me, I'm not sure.
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I got to know him at Dating app(Bumble) and we have been talking for for a few months.
Our first dating is in the early of January, and we lived far away in different cities in Korea, so we slept over together at hotel at first date, and we did kiss or things, but we didn't have sex because I'm inexperienced but he understood me and though I didn't expect it, and he did so sweet to me, like kissing on my forehead and holding my hands, which is one of the reasons I felt comfortable with him. The next day, we parted away and I thought he would not wanna meet me again because I didn't have sex and I'm not that interested in him at first time.
After that, he sometimes sent messages to me, and after a few weeks later, he said me he likes me and wanted to hang out again but he couldn't have relationship with me since he had to leave Korea later, and he doesn't think LDR is work out. since then, we had been sharing our daily lives via Snapchat everyday and he seemed to care about me, but we couldn't hang out until March since our fist date in January because he had been busy for work and he went back to America for holidays almost for a month.
Finally, we met in the end of March, recently, and we promised to meet at a train station around 5:30 pm. I went to a new city for the first time in my life, and so I got lost in the train station, I became late for a date and met him at 6 pm. I felt sorry for him for being late.
Our date plan is to take an air balloon flight at first day, and to go to an amusement park next day, but I had to cancel air balloon flight because of inclement weather.
Originally, we planned to go to a nice restaurant, which takes a few days for me to find out information about restaurants, but he said he ate dinner already, which I felt embarrassing. At first time, I thought he ate dinner earlier, waiting for me but I found out that he ate dinner at 5pm, even though we were supposed to meet at 5:30pm. I asked him why you ate eat dinner before I'm arriving and he said that he ate dinner because he felt so hungry.
Anyways, since I became late, I could understand him about that. He said if I wanna go to restaurant, he can go with me, but he didn't wanna eat anything. since I don't wanna eat alone at a nice restaurant, and he promised me to go to restaurants tomorrow morning and lunch, we went to hotel right away. As soon as we arrived at a hotel, he tried to have sex with me though I wanted to watch a movie and talk with him and doing it later.
Actually, in the past, he asked me If I'm really virgin and I said yes. He asked me if I have any experience of masturbation, and I said I have never been masturbated myself since I don't think it's hygienic to my vagina.
At first date, he dine out at a nice restaurant, and after arriving hotel, we watched movie and saw tiktok together, and he didn't try to sex as soon as possible but this time was different, but this time, he put his hand in my inner wear right away, and tried to take off my pants, which I felt comfortable. When he touched my lower body, touching near my vagina, I felt more likely painful than feeling good though he tried to do it gently and go slower. Though he is quite experienced, he seemed to not find my vagina since it's my first time. Though I said I would have sex with him, I felt insecure and not ready, so I couldn't have sex with him(PIV sex) though I helped him to ejaculate by hand.
Before a date, he asked if I would ever shave down, and I heard shaving down is socially norm in his country, so I did Brazilian waxing for hygiene and it felt so painful, and I tried to make an effort to have sex with him this time. But he seemed to not feel good about it, and said If I would not have sex with him, we don't need to come hotel and rather go to an amusement park right away, Actually, I'm afraid that he would not go to an amusement park if I didn't agree to have sex, and I just like to be with him. unlike last time, when he held my hands and kissed on my forehead while sleeping, he said he felt tired and wanted to sleep since he slept 9 pm to 2 am last night. I asked him why didn't sleep last night and he said he just couldn't sleep. He asked me to turn off light at 9pm since we met at 6pm , and I had to eat dinner alone in a dark room, relying on TV light, which I didn't feel comfortable, and I wondered if he didn't go out with me, why he dated with me.
although he made a reservation the hotel, where he had been before, I didn't know this hotel has almost no privacy like there's only transparent curtain between bedroom and bathroom, and I don't feel comfortable about taking shower and using bathroom.
And things happened. When I took a shower, I found out some kinds of trouble near my groin, and I became panicked because I rarely get any skin troubles near my groin and he did oral to me, which I didn't ask to him, so I suspected it might be some kinds of std like herpes.
since I have sensitive skin, and I knew that HSV2 type has no cure, I became so insecure and woke him up in the middle of showering, and asked to him about his past history of sex. He said he had sex 20 times in his life with 5 partners and he had never experienced any outbreak in his life. I showed him my body and he said it's not big deal and it might be just skin irritating. After that, I googled and looked that part under the bright light on bed, and he asked me if I'm ok.
I know it could be not considerate for him about asking std and If I would so worried a lot, them I would not have any sexual intimacy with him. Though I didn't ask him oral to me, but somehow it happened and I was so confused at that time.
Anyways, he fell asleep again, but I didn't wanna spend that night just sleeping without watching movies or talking, and I tried to wake him up like lying on his body or touched his body, and played some planks on him. I admitted that I behaved like a child who wanted to get attention, and he said he just wanna sleep.
And I tried to sleep, but his phone had been kept alarming from Snapchat in the middle of night, and I felt weird and checked his phone. Though I didn't know his passwords, I could see Snapchat notifications in the screen and I found out those messages were from a variety of girls, at least 5 girls.
Though I assume that he might be talking with other girls, I didn't expect as much and I lose my control. At first time, I tried to ask him calmly why they are, but it felt like he ignored my word intentionally, and all this situation seems like he didn't respect me. Finally, I loud my voice to him and firmly said I'm so uncomfortable about it and asked him to explain who they are. he said they are just friends like that in America, and the reason he kept sending messages to me is due to time difference.
And when I asked him if he is using other dating apps, he said yes, and he is different from what I expected. Before that night, I had never asked him about other girls, since I believed what he said that he likes me.
in the next morning around 7 am, he woke up and said to me that he didn't feel good about last night. He felt like I woke him up at least 10 times, and I cried a few times and he said he didn't understand me and he felt like it's crazy. He said he is not in the mood of going to an amusement park today, and just wanted to leave after eating breakfast. I apologized him about it and said I felt so insecure and unstable yesterday since he didn't eat out with me, do nothing with me, and just kept sleeping from 9 am. But he seemed to be cold. I asked him if he doesn't like me anymore, and he said he doesn't like me as much. I asked him if he doesn't wanna hang out with me anymore, and he said he wanna go to amusement park with me maybe another time, but he is not in the mood of going there today. And he left hotel.
But after 10 minutes he left, I heard that someone knocking on the door hardly, and it's him. He said the reason he came back to hotel is he couldn't get a taxi, so he had to wait a bus. it seems like he didn't take a public transportation easily, so I decided to go to train station together with him. But I'm not sure how he felt about me. Because he hold my hands while going to the train station. And we went to a cafe, and he didn't say anything, just eating quickly and left, leaving me alone at a cafe.
I felt regret about last night, losing cool and waking him up a lot, and even though I felt uncomfortable about him, I should have asked him early in the next morning or just don't hang out with him next time, but I became emotional and I couldn't control my feelings since I became liked him for over time. I just wanna go to an amusement park with him and have a good time.
But I got hurts a lot from him since he seemed to not care about me at all unlike first date.
Actually, I got a skin disease after meeting him on first date since he kept smoking before me and touched my body without cleaning hands, and I had to get treatments in a hospital for a few months to be healed, but I didn't tell him about him since he didn't meant to it. And before he leaving me, I talked about him that I was sick but he just saw me with a blank look, and reacted like it's none of his business. he just said 'so what? you got cured right now and that's all'.
After he went to his place, he sent me messages that he arrived, and since then, we haven't talked so far.
Although he said he likes me, I'm not sure.
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2023.03.28 20:38 Fit_Traffic8318 How can I keep track of my partner’s phone? How to track your partner’s phone How to Spy on Phones Without Physical Access How to Receive Text Messages from Another Phone Number
How to track your partner’s phone?
Relationships are built on trust, but sometimes that may not be enough. There will come a time in your relationship where you may need to resort to other methods such as tracking your partner’s phone just to make sure that they’re completely honest and faithful.
If you’re reading this, you might have a lot of questions. How can I track my partner’s phone location? How can I track their phone without them knowing? How do I find their phone? We will show you the best apps to track a phone without permission. But before we get into this, you need to first know that it is completely normal to have such thoughts running through your mind. Regardless of the situation you’re in now, everyone deserves to feel secure and have their fears allayed. So, let’s get straight down to it.
What Info Do You Want to Know?
The first step to tracking your partner’s phone is to first know what you want to track exactly. Do you want to know their phone’s location or check all their messages and calls? With the right app, you can find out your partner’s location at every point in time. The apps may even let you get a step further by tracking their text messages, call log, browser history, and more.
Why Track Your Partner’s Phone?
There are many justifiable reasons why someone would want to spy on their partner’s phone including:
One of those methods is oranjecracktech . Designed for parents to monitor their children, oranjecracktech is also used by men and women all over the world to help build trust in their relationships. Once installed on their device, you’ll be able to see their location, view their phone call log, read their texts, view their emails, and even read their private conversations on WhatsApp, Messenger, Snapchat, and all kinds of other social media apps (including Tinder). It should be noted, however, that to use Eyezy on your spouse, you need to have their explicit permission. Otherwise, you’d be violating Eyezy’s terms of service agreement. Assuming you’ve got their permission and they know you’re monitoring them, you’ll find that Eyezy offers you a world of information.
How to Spy on Phones Without Physical Access?
If you need information other than just location, you can consider installing a phone spy app. Phone spy apps are software programs that give you all the information you need from your partner’s phone without getting caught. A search online will reveal that there are tons of spy apps available that offer both advanced functionality and stealth to help you track your target.
One of the best phone spy apps available is oranjecracktech, it is a cell phone tracking software that runs on both smartphones and tablets to keep track of almost every activity carried out on the target device. Even more importantly, it leaves no trace of your digital footprint, so you’ll not get caught using the tracker.
Conclusion
With the advancement of science and technology, it is even easier now than ever to track your partner’s activities. Whether you’re tired of suspecting your partner’s intention or just want to make sure they’re safe, these are a few tips that you can use to track their location and smartphone activities without getting discovered. contact mail: [[email protected]](mailto:[email protected])
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How to track your partner’s phone?
Relationships are built on trust, but sometimes that may not be enough. There will come a time in your relationship where you may need to resort to other methods such as tracking your partner’s phone just to make sure that they’re completely honest and faithful.
If you’re reading this, you might have a lot of questions. How can I track my partner’s phone location? How can I track their phone without them knowing? How do I find their phone? We will show you the best apps to track a phone without permission. But before we get into this, you need to first know that it is completely normal to have such thoughts running through your mind. Regardless of the situation you’re in now, everyone deserves to feel secure and have their fears allayed. So, let’s get straight down to it.
What Info Do You Want to Know?
The first step to tracking your partner’s phone is to first know what you want to track exactly. Do you want to know their phone’s location or check all their messages and calls? With the right app, you can find out your partner’s location at every point in time. The apps may even let you get a step further by tracking their text messages, call log, browser history, and more.
Why Track Your Partner’s Phone?
There are many justifiable reasons why someone would want to spy on their partner’s phone including:
- Checking if their phone has been stolen.
- For safety reasons and to ensure your partner is safe.
- Checking if your partner is cheating on you.
One of those methods is oranjecracktech . Designed for parents to monitor their children, oranjecracktech is also used by men and women all over the world to help build trust in their relationships. Once installed on their device, you’ll be able to see their location, view their phone call log, read their texts, view their emails, and even read their private conversations on WhatsApp, Messenger, Snapchat, and all kinds of other social media apps (including Tinder). It should be noted, however, that to use Eyezy on your spouse, you need to have their explicit permission. Otherwise, you’d be violating Eyezy’s terms of service agreement. Assuming you’ve got their permission and they know you’re monitoring them, you’ll find that Eyezy offers you a world of information.
How to Spy on Phones Without Physical Access?
If you need information other than just location, you can consider installing a phone spy app. Phone spy apps are software programs that give you all the information you need from your partner’s phone without getting caught. A search online will reveal that there are tons of spy apps available that offer both advanced functionality and stealth to help you track your target.
One of the best phone spy apps available is oranjecracktech, it is a cell phone tracking software that runs on both smartphones and tablets to keep track of almost every activity carried out on the target device. Even more importantly, it leaves no trace of your digital footprint, so you’ll not get caught using the tracker.
Conclusion
With the advancement of science and technology, it is even easier now than ever to track your partner’s activities. Whether you’re tired of suspecting your partner’s intention or just want to make sure they’re safe, these are a few tips that you can use to track their location and smartphone activities without getting discovered. contact mail: [[email protected]](mailto:[email protected])
2023.03.28 20:38 everyone_woosh In-place or side-by-side upgrade?
Hi folks! I'm just new to SQL Server. I've already done my research about methods to upgrade an SQL instance but I would personally want to know your preferred method of upgrade?
Also, please explain some cons and pros and the post checking with your preferred method.
I am personally comfortable with the side-by-side (on same machine) but some of our clients wants to retain the instance name.
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Also, please explain some cons and pros and the post checking with your preferred method.
I am personally comfortable with the side-by-side (on same machine) but some of our clients wants to retain the instance name.
2023.03.28 20:37 Cold_Nobody_9685 How to know what insurance I'm getting with a new job?
I might be changing jobs soon, and with that I'm checking to see whether their insurance is a downgrade from what I currently have. I take a prescription that costs $20K/month which is now 100% covered by insurance. I'm trying to understand whether a 'crappy' insurance would cover part of it, or is it standard that insurance covers 100% of a prescription? Is it standard practice to ask for the full detailed plan before accepting an offer or is it expected that you just hope for the best with a new job?
So far, the only thing they've told me is that they offer Aetna EPO 45 Northeast with a 70/30 split. This basically says nothing, since I can't find any details for this particular plan, and 70/30 seems pretty lower considering it's a well funded small software company.
What would be a good way to make sure that I'm not suddenly paying hundreds/thousands to fill this prescription versus the $5 I spend now?
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So far, the only thing they've told me is that they offer Aetna EPO 45 Northeast with a 70/30 split. This basically says nothing, since I can't find any details for this particular plan, and 70/30 seems pretty lower considering it's a well funded small software company.
What would be a good way to make sure that I'm not suddenly paying hundreds/thousands to fill this prescription versus the $5 I spend now?
2023.03.28 20:36 Only_Transition3282 What all is affected by concealment/dazzled? (Ash Oracle Questions)
Hi, I just started playing an Ash mystery Oracle as my first character and I'm trying to find some good synergies for this little-discussed subclass.
I realize that for many of my turns, I'll be dazzled from my curse and will be treating all creatures and objects as concealed. I understand that this would give me a 20% miss chance on strikes and targeted spells, but what kinds of skill checks are or are not affected by it?
Can I demoralize, evangelize, or use bon mot without rolling the flat check? Could I use battle medicine, make a fascinating performance, or use a feat like Leading Dance? And could I cast spells on myself without the miss chance?
Bonus Question: Does the 10' aura of difficult terrain created by standing still as an ash oracle disappear at the beginning of my move action, after I move the first 5 feet, or at the end of a whole stride action?
Really grateful for any advice you guys can give!
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I realize that for many of my turns, I'll be dazzled from my curse and will be treating all creatures and objects as concealed. I understand that this would give me a 20% miss chance on strikes and targeted spells, but what kinds of skill checks are or are not affected by it?
Can I demoralize, evangelize, or use bon mot without rolling the flat check? Could I use battle medicine, make a fascinating performance, or use a feat like Leading Dance? And could I cast spells on myself without the miss chance?
Bonus Question: Does the 10' aura of difficult terrain created by standing still as an ash oracle disappear at the beginning of my move action, after I move the first 5 feet, or at the end of a whole stride action?
Really grateful for any advice you guys can give!
2023.03.28 20:35 Terrible-Compote My Long Road to NC, part I: the Drunk Dialing
A while ago, I went through my email correspondence with my mom (now NC for over two years) to try to make sense of things. I’ve added a little commentary in square brackets and context in italics but otherwise left everything as written. We had a version of this conversation every couple of months from 2006 to 2016, but these are the ones for which I have a written record. All spelling and punctuation is original.
In 2014, my mother and I are LC; I see her every second or third weekend for brunch. I’ve asked her for years not to call me after 5pm, which is when she starts drinking every day. As a result, she never calls me ever, but I call her several times a week to “check in” and listen to her complain. And every so often, she drunk-dials me.
Monday, September 29th, 2014
My long-divorced parents’ wedding anniversary. My mother calls me, drunk, at night. Again. It has been eight years since I asked her not to call me after 5pm. I remind her of this and hang up.
From her, the next morning:
A few brief points/thoughts:
I'd gotten home about 9:30; I was at [local politician]'s office helping to put together a meeting agenda for next week.
Because I'd had a crushing headache all day I was drinking only water, which is why there was a large glass of it on my bedside table.
After [her cat] spilled the water, and my phone wasn't working right, I thought it would be better to call you than [her mother, henceforth Narc grandma] to see if I could receive calls.
There are things I do that you don't approve of but, if you think back, I think you'll acknowledge that there have been things you did that I didn't approve or. But I didn't cut you off.
It scares me to think that 20 years from now your 84 year-old mother falls tripping over a cat and can't call you because it's after 6:00 pm?
Just thinking. I love you.
From me:
To answer your points in reverse order:
First of all, you will note that although I have asked you (repeatedly) not to call me after five in the evening unless it is an emergency, I always answer or call back, in case it is [this will change, but that’s where I am in 2014]. So you don't need to worry about what will happen twenty years from now.
Second of all, this is not about disapproval. This is about something that has actively caused me actual harm throughout my life. I am not going to mention specific incidents and instances, but if you really want to go there, we certainly can. I would rather not, because I've accepted that you are not going to change until and unless you want to, and that having a relationship with your daylight self is better than having none at all.
I'm sorry to hear that you had a headache, and I believe you when you say you were only drinking water. But the reason I asked you (eight years ago) not to call me in the evening is that I have spent far too much of my life trying desperately to gauge how much you've had to drink, what will set you off, and what you will remember the next day. I shouldn't have had to do that work as a child, and I can't do it any more.
I want us to be close and have a good relationship. And I'm sorry if you think that this is an unfair boundary to set, but it's what I have to do to feel safe talking to you at all.
I will always be your daughter, and I love you.
Tuesday, June 23rd, 2015
My mother calls me, drunk, at night. Again. As I hang up, I hear her shouting “No! No no no!”
From her:
Well fuck you bitch - you just missed the most amazing display over the [river],.
From me:
Charming.
We have an agreement. I will talk to you any time before 5pm, when I can trust you to be sober. Unless there's an emergency, I'm not willing to talk to you on the phone after that time. If there's something you want to tell me, there's always email or waiting until the next day.
It's the only way I can stand to be in any kind of contact with you at all. You know perfectly well why that is, and this kind of verbal abuse is a great example in case you've conveniently forgotten, as you've conveniently forgotten so many other things. We've been over this many times, and just when I start to feel safe with you, you push that boundary again.
From her:
I was trying to let you look at an amazing apricot sky. Almost gone now. But if you look west you might see it.
From her:
I didn't mean that - I was just really hurt and wondering what will be when I'm old and needy and you won't take my calls.
From me:
We went over all of this the last time you did this. I wrote above, as I have said before, that I will always answer in case it's an emergency [I really do facepalm reading this part now]. However, as I also pointed out last time, if it is an actual emergency, I am not physically nearby enough, nor do I have the training, to be the first person you should call if (for instance) you fall and need assistance. But the flip side of all that is that if it isn't an emergency, I'm going to be upset.
You choose to drink the way you do. My life has been affected by it long enough, and limiting the degree to which I am exposed to it or have to wonder about it is pretty much the only way I can deal with having any kind of relationship with you at all, which I do want to do.
If it were just a matter of wanting me to see the sky, you know that my email comes to my phone, and you could have sent me a quick email telling me to look. So it's hard for me to read this as anything but a power play, testing the boundary I've set to see if I'll still defend it and, when I do, immediately lashing out.
From her (sent while I was composing my response above):
and by the way - I haven't had a drink in two days.
From me:
Our history is such that I have a hard time taking that at face value. I'm not saying that it isn't true, and if it is, I'm glad, but the fact remains that I have spent a huge part my life, starting way too young, a) trying to figure out how much you'd had to drink so that I could know who I was dealing with at any given moment, and b) being lied to to my face about it despite overwhelming evidence to the contrary.
If you want to talk about this, I'm more than willing, but the morning brings more wisdom than the evening. I love you.
From her, the next morning:
I apologize for my uncalled for rude and crude email last night. I was lashing out because you'd hurt my feelings, so I guess I was trying to do the same to you.
From me:
Apology absolutely accepted. Hurting your feelings is not something I want to do. I don't want either of us to hurt. I love you.
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In 2014, my mother and I are LC; I see her every second or third weekend for brunch. I’ve asked her for years not to call me after 5pm, which is when she starts drinking every day. As a result, she never calls me ever, but I call her several times a week to “check in” and listen to her complain. And every so often, she drunk-dials me.
Monday, September 29th, 2014
My long-divorced parents’ wedding anniversary. My mother calls me, drunk, at night. Again. It has been eight years since I asked her not to call me after 5pm. I remind her of this and hang up.
From her, the next morning:
A few brief points/thoughts:
I'd gotten home about 9:30; I was at [local politician]'s office helping to put together a meeting agenda for next week.
Because I'd had a crushing headache all day I was drinking only water, which is why there was a large glass of it on my bedside table.
After [her cat] spilled the water, and my phone wasn't working right, I thought it would be better to call you than [her mother, henceforth Narc grandma] to see if I could receive calls.
There are things I do that you don't approve of but, if you think back, I think you'll acknowledge that there have been things you did that I didn't approve or. But I didn't cut you off.
It scares me to think that 20 years from now your 84 year-old mother falls tripping over a cat and can't call you because it's after 6:00 pm?
Just thinking. I love you.
From me:
To answer your points in reverse order:
First of all, you will note that although I have asked you (repeatedly) not to call me after five in the evening unless it is an emergency, I always answer or call back, in case it is [this will change, but that’s where I am in 2014]. So you don't need to worry about what will happen twenty years from now.
Second of all, this is not about disapproval. This is about something that has actively caused me actual harm throughout my life. I am not going to mention specific incidents and instances, but if you really want to go there, we certainly can. I would rather not, because I've accepted that you are not going to change until and unless you want to, and that having a relationship with your daylight self is better than having none at all.
I'm sorry to hear that you had a headache, and I believe you when you say you were only drinking water. But the reason I asked you (eight years ago) not to call me in the evening is that I have spent far too much of my life trying desperately to gauge how much you've had to drink, what will set you off, and what you will remember the next day. I shouldn't have had to do that work as a child, and I can't do it any more.
I want us to be close and have a good relationship. And I'm sorry if you think that this is an unfair boundary to set, but it's what I have to do to feel safe talking to you at all.
I will always be your daughter, and I love you.
Tuesday, June 23rd, 2015
My mother calls me, drunk, at night. Again. As I hang up, I hear her shouting “No! No no no!”
From her:
Well fuck you bitch - you just missed the most amazing display over the [river],.
From me:
Charming.
We have an agreement. I will talk to you any time before 5pm, when I can trust you to be sober. Unless there's an emergency, I'm not willing to talk to you on the phone after that time. If there's something you want to tell me, there's always email or waiting until the next day.
It's the only way I can stand to be in any kind of contact with you at all. You know perfectly well why that is, and this kind of verbal abuse is a great example in case you've conveniently forgotten, as you've conveniently forgotten so many other things. We've been over this many times, and just when I start to feel safe with you, you push that boundary again.
From her:
I was trying to let you look at an amazing apricot sky. Almost gone now. But if you look west you might see it.
From her:
I didn't mean that - I was just really hurt and wondering what will be when I'm old and needy and you won't take my calls.
From me:
We went over all of this the last time you did this. I wrote above, as I have said before, that I will always answer in case it's an emergency [I really do facepalm reading this part now]. However, as I also pointed out last time, if it is an actual emergency, I am not physically nearby enough, nor do I have the training, to be the first person you should call if (for instance) you fall and need assistance. But the flip side of all that is that if it isn't an emergency, I'm going to be upset.
You choose to drink the way you do. My life has been affected by it long enough, and limiting the degree to which I am exposed to it or have to wonder about it is pretty much the only way I can deal with having any kind of relationship with you at all, which I do want to do.
If it were just a matter of wanting me to see the sky, you know that my email comes to my phone, and you could have sent me a quick email telling me to look. So it's hard for me to read this as anything but a power play, testing the boundary I've set to see if I'll still defend it and, when I do, immediately lashing out.
From her (sent while I was composing my response above):
and by the way - I haven't had a drink in two days.
From me:
Our history is such that I have a hard time taking that at face value. I'm not saying that it isn't true, and if it is, I'm glad, but the fact remains that I have spent a huge part my life, starting way too young, a) trying to figure out how much you'd had to drink so that I could know who I was dealing with at any given moment, and b) being lied to to my face about it despite overwhelming evidence to the contrary.
If you want to talk about this, I'm more than willing, but the morning brings more wisdom than the evening. I love you.
From her, the next morning:
I apologize for my uncalled for rude and crude email last night. I was lashing out because you'd hurt my feelings, so I guess I was trying to do the same to you.
From me:
Apology absolutely accepted. Hurting your feelings is not something I want to do. I don't want either of us to hurt. I love you.
2023.03.28 20:34 NosfertyGaming Solving the Mystery! My take on FNAF
Like the Title says, this is my take on the events, my personal headcanon, if it turns out to be officially wrong, so be it, don't really want to deal with people that suggest things that make no sense, just gonna ignore them since I've tried explaining with as much details as possible, and can explain more in detail in a civil manner if need be. Still a work in progress singe FNAF has A LOT of information and this is one take that tries to simplify as best as possible. I do apologize for the lengthy post but almost 10 years of lore will do that lol
The base of my rationale is largely presented in an older version of the FNAF timeline https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9t_h3yKntww&t=944s, as it's the one I still most agree with, I'm just moving the pieces around to how I think they fit best and presenting the thought process.
Thanks for reading, upvote if you like it, and enjoy! and please excuse grammar errors lol
Chica's Party World (CPW), under the care of Afton Robotics as shown in the netcode for Sister Location and Withered Chica's line from UCN of being "the first" as the animatronics themselves in that game are able to speak to William directly like Nightmare Freddy stating he was "given flesh", exists for X amount of time before the opening of Fredbear's Singing Show (FSS), poster from Security Breach shows us the price of a ticket for the show itself not including any additional charges for refreshments (think of going to the movies) and begins out performing CPW with better animatronics created by Henry before Charlie's birth. Since we know that William is bordering on split personality, a bit shy of Jekyll and Hyde as the concept of duality within the franchise is severely overlooked even though it's a theme introduced since the FNAF1 trailer (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ws-yd9YPfdE), William would have not simply accepted that someone else was not only taking his livelihood through the business, but simultaneously showing that William was not as good of a roboticists, giving him the basis for the hate and admiration towards Henry that will be a core part of his motivation throughout the rest of the franchise.
Now, because we don't know the exact event that would cause Henry to partner up with William (why it's called a theory, right?), other than Henry just wanting to grow his business when FSS was growing in popularity, we have a window of plausibility where William infiltrates FSS as an employee, or at the very least disguised as one, and lures Cassidy to either kidnap her or stuff her in the Freadbear suit (whether he knew this would kill her or not still gives the same result, potentially the contents of the first Box, essentially My Lovely Bones), thus establishing The One You Shouldn't Have Killed (TOYSHK) as it represents the "line in the sand" that William crossed for his own selfish purpose (never made sense that out of the short bus of victims only one "shouldn't" have been killed) and the catalyst for all the other events to happen. This event would NOT be related to the Missing Children Incident (MCI) associated with the pizzeria under Fazbear Entertainment (FazEnt) and explains why the toy Chica is missing her beak in FNAF4 since FNAF2, and even FNAF Security Breach (FNAFSB), establishes that the Toy Chica animatronic loses her beak when she goes on to attack because she has remnant infused with it, why Golden Freddy appears in the Save Them Minigame, and why the grass around Cassidy's grave in the Lorekeeper ending is visually messier as it would be something that happened much earlier that we've been assuming. This then forces FSS to deal with the responsibility and liability of the lost child, giving William the window of opportunity to force Henry to work with him as William, being the businessman we know him to be, would have the knowledge and/or resources to deal with that issue, and would go on to form FazEnt and reopen the Diner with the addition of Golden Bonnie, concluding the Pre-FazEnt era.
From here, I turn over to The Game Theorist timeline video https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9t_h3yKntww&t=944s, around the 14:20 mark, states that the first pizzeria must stay open until at least 1983 but that it conflicts with the opening of Circus Baby's Pizza World (CBPW); yet, the conversation at the beginning of Sister Location (SL) between William Afton and the FazEnt representative tells us that that is NOT the first conversation about a sister location, further supported by the line "even more so the unfortunate closing of Freddy Fazbear's Pizza" told to us by Hand-unit in SL since "even more so" is a interjectory statement used to emphasize the degree to which a statement is true that can be removed without changing the meaning of the statement, in this case being "the UNFORTUNATE CLOSING", telling us that CBPW was already in the works by the time that Mike/Crying Child gets bit. This forces FazEnt to greenlight William's project (since the business aspect of this franchise is always SEVERELY overlooked) in order to save face, but ultimately fails and forces FazEnt to default back to it's original Intellectual Properties (IPs).
Around this time (probably from being rejected previously by FazEnt to start a new project when Freddy's was booming so much that they got a TV show fueling William's resentment towards Henry), is when we begin the first events of the MCI as shown on the FNAF3 minigames beginning with Mangle's quest, where we see William's first successful remnant infusion, which begin to show us the methods William uses to get away with everything. One of the biggest lingering questions to this day is how William is able to keep working on remnant whilst being locked behind a concrete wall bleeding to death. The Fazbear Frights story of the roboticist trying to sell his invention tells us that putting on a suit on the wooden endo skeletons gives you a very cheap animatronic, meaning that Stage01, the Shadow Bonnie minigame where it glitches through other parts of the other minigames, and the knowledge that William would dress up in the Golden Bonnie suit to do his deeds, gives us a clear picture since he is now able to give his "Dave" persona a physical body, allowing William to be in two places at once and be able to establish alibis for himself (essentially the same logic and plot twist as the original Scream movie of there being two killers under the same mask, not to mention that Mike and William are supposed to look very similar; and wouldn't you know it, one of the killers in THAT movie is playing the killer in THIS movie hahaaa). This is also where Phone Guy and Foxy come in since the GT Channel video covering Phone Guy being Purple Guy (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OQv_k43MYdw) covers pretty much everything on why, I'm just accounting for a body double and taking into consideration that the sprite used in the minigame where the purple guy dismantles the animatronics shows up in FNAF World stating that it's not the real Purple Guy, that it's just a game sprite, as well as the Ultimate Guide directly calling Scraptrap William Afton but NOT Springtrap. We also know Foxy is William's favorite, or at the very least the Endo that goes into Foxy, as the random, naked Endo that shows up in FNAF2 has pointy ears, as well as his entire purpose in FNAF1, where he forces the player to constantly be checking on him or he runs towards the player even though he's supposed to be in disrepair, another case of misdirection that we know William shows in his work, that is the entire purpose of the Funtime Animatronics after all (with the added bonus that Foxy was originally inspired by one of Scott's kids and Scott voicing Phone Guy). The biggest give away for William being Phone Guy is the fact that the each recorded tape starts off with a ring, telling us that whoever is recording the messages is not next to the machine at the time that the messages are being recorded, especially since most, if not all, tape recording machines have the ability to record messages directly onto the tape since that's essentially how they record messages after X amounts of rings. The anime Case Closed (Detective Conan) has two episodes with very similar methodology where the killers use answering machines to establish their alibis and remove suspicion from themselves and a 2 part episode where the killer hides in plain sight because of a disguise (makes himself appear bigger) that allows him to carry a puppet, that is supposed to be the "real" killer, in order to be in the same room as the witnesses, while simultaneously, be able to move parts of the victim to completely eliminate suspicion on him (a bit more complicated than the Scream comparison but same concept as portrayed in the Pizzeria Simulator poster with the ventriloquist).
Following Scott's principal of clarifying things in subsequent games, William using Foxy, remotely or programmed, is also supported by how FNAF 3 has Springtrap as the only animatronic actually there, all the others being hallucinations, since Foxy in FNAF 1 doesn't have a rare screen with the head twitching like Chica and Bonnie, something that happens when an illusion is caught on camera (as mentioned in the Silver Eyes trilogy), as well as being the only one in FNAF 1 who has any real movement since he physically runs down the hallway to jumpscare us, with the other animatronics just appearing in rooms. His jumpscare is also the only one that is not "in your face" whilst spazzing out since all he does is walk into the room and it's game over, almost exactly like we see with Springtrap in FNAF3. This begins to give light as to why Mike has issues remembering anything as he was rebuilt with animatronic parts, explaining why Mike and FoxyBro are able to be on-screen at the same time since FoxyBro is never shown without a mask, adding to the "by day one way, by night another" duality theme I presented earlier with the FNAF 1 trailer. This is supported by the ending if FNAF 4 tells us that Mike, as the bite victim, is going to get "put back together", the Curse of Dreadbear DLC where we literally Frankenstein one of the animatronics in what seems to be the FNAF 4 house, and the ending of SL where it's revealed to us by Baby that Mike is not die after getting scooped, stuffed with Ennard, and after expelling Ennard, as well as the understanding that, if the games and books are meant to be separate continuities under the same canon, then Mike in the games is the equivalent to Charlie in the books as "person that died early in life, was rebuilt by their dad with animatronics, but has no memory of it".
Following the absence of Funtime Chica in SL explains how FazEnt, the corporate entity and not Henry and/or William, was able to re-establish itself after the fire ending in FNAF 6, regardless of her being rented out or not built yet by the end of SL, since whatever survived the fire would have immediately passed on to the hands of FazEnt, giving FazEnt a window of opportunity to get ahold Funtime Chica's animatronic or blue-prints that would be the basis for the Glamrock models, as evidenced by Glamrock Chica and Funtime Chica being the only iterations of the IP that share a white body with a pink torso design and Glamrock Chica being the only to address Gregory by his name, even though he's not in the system and had to introduce himself to Glamrock Freddy at the beginning of the game. This also paves the road for FazEnt to further push both Henry's and William's technology to allow for FazGoo to exist as it gives FazEnt an out for any liabilities that involve missing people, as well as literally creating an endless supply repeating customers because, once again, the corporate elements of this franchise are mostly always excluded. This is also supported by the opening sequence of SL since it establishes that at LEAST ONE FazEnt Rep has seen William's blueprints, even if it was only Baby's, which would allow them to revive the franchise without it being a corporation, mimicking the very same way the FazEnt was established by combining both Henry and William.
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The base of my rationale is largely presented in an older version of the FNAF timeline https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9t_h3yKntww&t=944s, as it's the one I still most agree with, I'm just moving the pieces around to how I think they fit best and presenting the thought process.
Thanks for reading, upvote if you like it, and enjoy! and please excuse grammar errors lol
Chica's Party World (CPW), under the care of Afton Robotics as shown in the netcode for Sister Location and Withered Chica's line from UCN of being "the first" as the animatronics themselves in that game are able to speak to William directly like Nightmare Freddy stating he was "given flesh", exists for X amount of time before the opening of Fredbear's Singing Show (FSS), poster from Security Breach shows us the price of a ticket for the show itself not including any additional charges for refreshments (think of going to the movies) and begins out performing CPW with better animatronics created by Henry before Charlie's birth. Since we know that William is bordering on split personality, a bit shy of Jekyll and Hyde as the concept of duality within the franchise is severely overlooked even though it's a theme introduced since the FNAF1 trailer (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ws-yd9YPfdE), William would have not simply accepted that someone else was not only taking his livelihood through the business, but simultaneously showing that William was not as good of a roboticists, giving him the basis for the hate and admiration towards Henry that will be a core part of his motivation throughout the rest of the franchise.
Now, because we don't know the exact event that would cause Henry to partner up with William (why it's called a theory, right?), other than Henry just wanting to grow his business when FSS was growing in popularity, we have a window of plausibility where William infiltrates FSS as an employee, or at the very least disguised as one, and lures Cassidy to either kidnap her or stuff her in the Freadbear suit (whether he knew this would kill her or not still gives the same result, potentially the contents of the first Box, essentially My Lovely Bones), thus establishing The One You Shouldn't Have Killed (TOYSHK) as it represents the "line in the sand" that William crossed for his own selfish purpose (never made sense that out of the short bus of victims only one "shouldn't" have been killed) and the catalyst for all the other events to happen. This event would NOT be related to the Missing Children Incident (MCI) associated with the pizzeria under Fazbear Entertainment (FazEnt) and explains why the toy Chica is missing her beak in FNAF4 since FNAF2, and even FNAF Security Breach (FNAFSB), establishes that the Toy Chica animatronic loses her beak when she goes on to attack because she has remnant infused with it, why Golden Freddy appears in the Save Them Minigame, and why the grass around Cassidy's grave in the Lorekeeper ending is visually messier as it would be something that happened much earlier that we've been assuming. This then forces FSS to deal with the responsibility and liability of the lost child, giving William the window of opportunity to force Henry to work with him as William, being the businessman we know him to be, would have the knowledge and/or resources to deal with that issue, and would go on to form FazEnt and reopen the Diner with the addition of Golden Bonnie, concluding the Pre-FazEnt era.
From here, I turn over to The Game Theorist timeline video https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9t_h3yKntww&t=944s, around the 14:20 mark, states that the first pizzeria must stay open until at least 1983 but that it conflicts with the opening of Circus Baby's Pizza World (CBPW); yet, the conversation at the beginning of Sister Location (SL) between William Afton and the FazEnt representative tells us that that is NOT the first conversation about a sister location, further supported by the line "even more so the unfortunate closing of Freddy Fazbear's Pizza" told to us by Hand-unit in SL since "even more so" is a interjectory statement used to emphasize the degree to which a statement is true that can be removed without changing the meaning of the statement, in this case being "the UNFORTUNATE CLOSING", telling us that CBPW was already in the works by the time that Mike/Crying Child gets bit. This forces FazEnt to greenlight William's project (since the business aspect of this franchise is always SEVERELY overlooked) in order to save face, but ultimately fails and forces FazEnt to default back to it's original Intellectual Properties (IPs).
Around this time (probably from being rejected previously by FazEnt to start a new project when Freddy's was booming so much that they got a TV show fueling William's resentment towards Henry), is when we begin the first events of the MCI as shown on the FNAF3 minigames beginning with Mangle's quest, where we see William's first successful remnant infusion, which begin to show us the methods William uses to get away with everything. One of the biggest lingering questions to this day is how William is able to keep working on remnant whilst being locked behind a concrete wall bleeding to death. The Fazbear Frights story of the roboticist trying to sell his invention tells us that putting on a suit on the wooden endo skeletons gives you a very cheap animatronic, meaning that Stage01, the Shadow Bonnie minigame where it glitches through other parts of the other minigames, and the knowledge that William would dress up in the Golden Bonnie suit to do his deeds, gives us a clear picture since he is now able to give his "Dave" persona a physical body, allowing William to be in two places at once and be able to establish alibis for himself (essentially the same logic and plot twist as the original Scream movie of there being two killers under the same mask, not to mention that Mike and William are supposed to look very similar; and wouldn't you know it, one of the killers in THAT movie is playing the killer in THIS movie hahaaa). This is also where Phone Guy and Foxy come in since the GT Channel video covering Phone Guy being Purple Guy (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OQv_k43MYdw) covers pretty much everything on why, I'm just accounting for a body double and taking into consideration that the sprite used in the minigame where the purple guy dismantles the animatronics shows up in FNAF World stating that it's not the real Purple Guy, that it's just a game sprite, as well as the Ultimate Guide directly calling Scraptrap William Afton but NOT Springtrap. We also know Foxy is William's favorite, or at the very least the Endo that goes into Foxy, as the random, naked Endo that shows up in FNAF2 has pointy ears, as well as his entire purpose in FNAF1, where he forces the player to constantly be checking on him or he runs towards the player even though he's supposed to be in disrepair, another case of misdirection that we know William shows in his work, that is the entire purpose of the Funtime Animatronics after all (with the added bonus that Foxy was originally inspired by one of Scott's kids and Scott voicing Phone Guy). The biggest give away for William being Phone Guy is the fact that the each recorded tape starts off with a ring, telling us that whoever is recording the messages is not next to the machine at the time that the messages are being recorded, especially since most, if not all, tape recording machines have the ability to record messages directly onto the tape since that's essentially how they record messages after X amounts of rings. The anime Case Closed (Detective Conan) has two episodes with very similar methodology where the killers use answering machines to establish their alibis and remove suspicion from themselves and a 2 part episode where the killer hides in plain sight because of a disguise (makes himself appear bigger) that allows him to carry a puppet, that is supposed to be the "real" killer, in order to be in the same room as the witnesses, while simultaneously, be able to move parts of the victim to completely eliminate suspicion on him (a bit more complicated than the Scream comparison but same concept as portrayed in the Pizzeria Simulator poster with the ventriloquist).
Following Scott's principal of clarifying things in subsequent games, William using Foxy, remotely or programmed, is also supported by how FNAF 3 has Springtrap as the only animatronic actually there, all the others being hallucinations, since Foxy in FNAF 1 doesn't have a rare screen with the head twitching like Chica and Bonnie, something that happens when an illusion is caught on camera (as mentioned in the Silver Eyes trilogy), as well as being the only one in FNAF 1 who has any real movement since he physically runs down the hallway to jumpscare us, with the other animatronics just appearing in rooms. His jumpscare is also the only one that is not "in your face" whilst spazzing out since all he does is walk into the room and it's game over, almost exactly like we see with Springtrap in FNAF3. This begins to give light as to why Mike has issues remembering anything as he was rebuilt with animatronic parts, explaining why Mike and FoxyBro are able to be on-screen at the same time since FoxyBro is never shown without a mask, adding to the "by day one way, by night another" duality theme I presented earlier with the FNAF 1 trailer. This is supported by the ending if FNAF 4 tells us that Mike, as the bite victim, is going to get "put back together", the Curse of Dreadbear DLC where we literally Frankenstein one of the animatronics in what seems to be the FNAF 4 house, and the ending of SL where it's revealed to us by Baby that Mike is not die after getting scooped, stuffed with Ennard, and after expelling Ennard, as well as the understanding that, if the games and books are meant to be separate continuities under the same canon, then Mike in the games is the equivalent to Charlie in the books as "person that died early in life, was rebuilt by their dad with animatronics, but has no memory of it".
Following the absence of Funtime Chica in SL explains how FazEnt, the corporate entity and not Henry and/or William, was able to re-establish itself after the fire ending in FNAF 6, regardless of her being rented out or not built yet by the end of SL, since whatever survived the fire would have immediately passed on to the hands of FazEnt, giving FazEnt a window of opportunity to get ahold Funtime Chica's animatronic or blue-prints that would be the basis for the Glamrock models, as evidenced by Glamrock Chica and Funtime Chica being the only iterations of the IP that share a white body with a pink torso design and Glamrock Chica being the only to address Gregory by his name, even though he's not in the system and had to introduce himself to Glamrock Freddy at the beginning of the game. This also paves the road for FazEnt to further push both Henry's and William's technology to allow for FazGoo to exist as it gives FazEnt an out for any liabilities that involve missing people, as well as literally creating an endless supply repeating customers because, once again, the corporate elements of this franchise are mostly always excluded. This is also supported by the opening sequence of SL since it establishes that at LEAST ONE FazEnt Rep has seen William's blueprints, even if it was only Baby's, which would allow them to revive the franchise without it being a corporation, mimicking the very same way the FazEnt was established by combining both Henry and William.
2023.03.28 20:34 Strwb3rrym3rmaid The Other Side
I recently caught my husband using Reddit to watch porn. I was in shock because he is not a redditor and after seeing the app on his phone I asked what he used it for (I use it for spoilers and following different social topics or parenting advice as we have an infant.) he said he used it for work and I was like ok whatever but then I got the urge to check his phone while he walked out of the room and there was multiple accounts searched up. I was in shock first that he lied and second that he was watching what he was watching. He’s always been less sexually charge then I - never fully engaging in it as much as I need. He continued to advocate for himself by saying he’s a man so it’s interesting to him as if we don’t all struggle with lust for physicalities of others. I too have struggled. I let him know there was no excuse for this. And begged to know what was so interesting so that I could emulate that in our own lives and he said it’s because they’re strangers and their bodies are his type. Mine was once like theirs but since having my son it’ll be a long road till I’m back to that point. He says he’s happy with our sex life, doesn’t mind my body and it’s truly just because he’s bored.
I’m hurting because I’m suddenly so insecure. My husband was one of the only people who I felt truly loved me and thought I was beautiful and didn’t look at other women in that way. I had healed years of self deprecation and it’s all back. I just don’t know what to do to mend our relationship. I can’t look at him the same. He was once my angel and made me feel so secure and safe but I don’t want to even be around him and nothing feels the same. But I still want sex and it’s confusing us both. I just wish I had never seen what I saw.
How have some of you healed your relationships from porn damage? What was something your wife was missing from sex that made you gravitate to porn? (Because I’m sure my husband is just being to nice to tell me) how can I help my husband recover from this interest without having to feel like a nagging parent?
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I’m hurting because I’m suddenly so insecure. My husband was one of the only people who I felt truly loved me and thought I was beautiful and didn’t look at other women in that way. I had healed years of self deprecation and it’s all back. I just don’t know what to do to mend our relationship. I can’t look at him the same. He was once my angel and made me feel so secure and safe but I don’t want to even be around him and nothing feels the same. But I still want sex and it’s confusing us both. I just wish I had never seen what I saw.
How have some of you healed your relationships from porn damage? What was something your wife was missing from sex that made you gravitate to porn? (Because I’m sure my husband is just being to nice to tell me) how can I help my husband recover from this interest without having to feel like a nagging parent?
2023.03.28 20:32 JohnBarnesReddit An absolutely unforgivable mistake when starting in the STR industry in 2021
My absolute biggest mistake when starting in the short term rental industry was thinking I could start by just simply just getting a property and listing it. This started when I got a beautiful sky rise apartment in downtown Orlando to spend my weekends in. I was able to enjoy the downtown nightlife, a luxury lifestyle, and had a great idea to make my money back while doing so. “Put the apartment on a listing app to rent out the days I’m not here!” I thought. It was a no brainer!
The apartment complex was well known for accommodating short term rentals, without asking its tenants to notify management. It was an unspoken agreement between management and tenants. This lasted for about 3 months, or until the building was sold and new management took over. That’s when things changed. That’s when everything changed.
The main entrance to the towers was locked, and guests were all forced to enter the building past security. This put a halt to many short term rentals as the guests would check in with security as if it were a hotel. I found it rather funny when they told me that this had happened. Until I got a notice on my door. The notice read something along the lines of “we’ve been informed that this apartment is hosting guests on a listing platform, and if it doesn’t stop you’ll be evicted”. This made my heart drop immediately. My new found income for my cost free luxury life was put to an abrupt end.
What was I to do? Get rid of the apartment? Try my luck and keep renting to people but off platform? Keep the apartment and just pay for it now that I had nobody else staying there? That’s what I decided to do. I kept the apartment, and extra $2,300 a month in expenses that I was previously able to cover no problem with guest stays. This wasn’t my first time in life making a mistake by thinking “everything will just work out because it always does”, but it was definitely one of my last.
If there are a few bits of information I can leave you with it would be to 100% always make sure that short term rentals are allowed in the agreement you are signing if you’re doing an arbitrage rental (if you don’t know what that is, here’s a link to an article on arbitraging your properties). Another huge piece of information that not everybody knows is, check with your city zoning to confirm that short term rentals are allowed, and if they are allowed make sure you are approved by the city as a legal short term rental. There can be hefty fines if you neglect to do this. While some listing platforms provide insurance, it’s nice to have your own as well, just in case.
I've since made drastic changes to the way I go about everything in this industry and am even working on a booking platform for hosts and guests to use as an alternative to the current platforms. I won't be posting the link here but if you'd like to know more about it either follow me, reach out, or ask in a comment. I'd be happy to provide any info.
Thanks for reading, and good luck with your short term rentals!
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The apartment complex was well known for accommodating short term rentals, without asking its tenants to notify management. It was an unspoken agreement between management and tenants. This lasted for about 3 months, or until the building was sold and new management took over. That’s when things changed. That’s when everything changed.
The main entrance to the towers was locked, and guests were all forced to enter the building past security. This put a halt to many short term rentals as the guests would check in with security as if it were a hotel. I found it rather funny when they told me that this had happened. Until I got a notice on my door. The notice read something along the lines of “we’ve been informed that this apartment is hosting guests on a listing platform, and if it doesn’t stop you’ll be evicted”. This made my heart drop immediately. My new found income for my cost free luxury life was put to an abrupt end.
What was I to do? Get rid of the apartment? Try my luck and keep renting to people but off platform? Keep the apartment and just pay for it now that I had nobody else staying there? That’s what I decided to do. I kept the apartment, and extra $2,300 a month in expenses that I was previously able to cover no problem with guest stays. This wasn’t my first time in life making a mistake by thinking “everything will just work out because it always does”, but it was definitely one of my last.
If there are a few bits of information I can leave you with it would be to 100% always make sure that short term rentals are allowed in the agreement you are signing if you’re doing an arbitrage rental (if you don’t know what that is, here’s a link to an article on arbitraging your properties). Another huge piece of information that not everybody knows is, check with your city zoning to confirm that short term rentals are allowed, and if they are allowed make sure you are approved by the city as a legal short term rental. There can be hefty fines if you neglect to do this. While some listing platforms provide insurance, it’s nice to have your own as well, just in case.
I've since made drastic changes to the way I go about everything in this industry and am even working on a booking platform for hosts and guests to use as an alternative to the current platforms. I won't be posting the link here but if you'd like to know more about it either follow me, reach out, or ask in a comment. I'd be happy to provide any info.
Thanks for reading, and good luck with your short term rentals!
2023.03.28 20:32 OverSeaworthiness729 (Duck) Tales From The Front Desk
(Using a throwaway because I post regularly here and elsewhere on my main and I don't want to out myself lmao)
Before you continue - you know how when a cute animal shows up in a dark or gritty show and you get REALLY nervous about its fate? Well, this is like that. Except - things don't go too well for our little buddy. TW for animal cruelty (not graphic just upsetting)
I cover audit on Fridays and Saturdays and a few weeks ago, I tried to ignore the fact that the nights have been a little suspiciously calm lately. But, I still must have manifested this bozo somehow despite my careful avoidance of uttering the Q word.
First time, he comes up to the desk and just goes HAM on the suite shop. Probably 50 dollars of stuff (so three doritos basically). Tries to buy beer but has no ID. Ooops, forgot his card too! Whatever, put it on the room. Is significantly more chatty than I'm in the mood for but overall just seemed like some annoying stoner type. No biggie.
A few hours later after an inexplicably long stint in the gym, he's back for more snacks. This time however, he's saying the elevator smooshed his finger! It could be broken! I am temporarily worried because in fact, mr. Left Elevator had made some weird noises earlier. He tries again to buy beer (nope, also it's past 2am anyway) and takes some manager cards to follow up about his horrible injury.
Entering the 4am zone. Audit and reports pretty much done, almost time to start coffee, things are running smooth, right? However, on the cameras I see Bozo coming into the lobby. I stay back and play dead because I really don't want to deal with him again unless I really have to...oh wait, shit, why did he just bend down to the large water bowl we keep out for dogs? Ugh ok time to see what's up.
And what was up? AN ENTIRE BABY DUCK SWIMMING AROUND IN THE DOG BOWL. LIKE. STOCK PHOTO YELLOW CUTIE. He swears up and down he doesn't "know where this duck came from" while also asking for directions to the ER because he really needs to get his fingy checked out. He lets the duck run loose in the lobby and makes fun of me for stepping back from it to you know, avoid stepping on the poor thing. Then he starts throwing coffee stirrers and straws at the duck and fucking...mocking it? My "this guy is a piece of shit, actually!" meter starts to activate. Meanwhile he asks about the safety of the walk to the ER and if he should "bring his gun from the car" ummm. Then, he finally exits, with duck in tow, on the way to the hospital a couple blocks away. Knowing how ER waits are, I am almost certain I am rid of him for the rest of the shift.
NOPE. Around 6am, he comes back to the desk and I ask what they had to say about his finger, which, by the way, was just slightly red almost like he had eczema in the cold. "Yeah, they said it's broken and I could sue easily" 10 seconds later "I didn't get seen so I left" ???? to make things more confusing he had a huge plastic bag full of stuff marked "PATIENT BELONGINGS" so who knows what was the truth at this point. The poor duck is nestled in the bag, he takes it out and heads upstairs.
I'm almost to the finish line of the night, and I see him on the cameras coming down towards the breakfast area. I should probably be out at the desk by this point but I simply hunker down in the back, finish processing invoices, and watch him kind of wonder around and squawk at the breakfast hostess about something. Well.....she comes in and says "this guy just asked if we had a janitor or maintenance on duty" because he . FLUSHED. HIS DUCK. DOWN THE TOILET. At this point, I was boiling with rage and trying to just get through the last 20ish minutes and go right home.
I texted my roommate this whole thing thinking they wouldn't be up, but i just HAD to tell somebody. When I got home, an 8am mug of neat whiskey was waiting for me. They were at least as disturbed as I was but I couldn't even fully get upset because the whole situation was so above and beyond. Sure did have a good cry about it later that night though. Really hope I never see this guy again.
EPILOGUE - I asked my AGM the next time I was in how things ended up going down, and I guess he ended up making a huge scene in the breakfast area and was also being a creep to AM shift, to the extent that the cops were called. He almost got off with a trespass but then he decided to run out and start shit w the cops as they were leaving, prompting a single night in the clink. Good grief.
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Before you continue - you know how when a cute animal shows up in a dark or gritty show and you get REALLY nervous about its fate? Well, this is like that. Except - things don't go too well for our little buddy. TW for animal cruelty (not graphic just upsetting)
I cover audit on Fridays and Saturdays and a few weeks ago, I tried to ignore the fact that the nights have been a little suspiciously calm lately. But, I still must have manifested this bozo somehow despite my careful avoidance of uttering the Q word.
First time, he comes up to the desk and just goes HAM on the suite shop. Probably 50 dollars of stuff (so three doritos basically). Tries to buy beer but has no ID. Ooops, forgot his card too! Whatever, put it on the room. Is significantly more chatty than I'm in the mood for but overall just seemed like some annoying stoner type. No biggie.
A few hours later after an inexplicably long stint in the gym, he's back for more snacks. This time however, he's saying the elevator smooshed his finger! It could be broken! I am temporarily worried because in fact, mr. Left Elevator had made some weird noises earlier. He tries again to buy beer (nope, also it's past 2am anyway) and takes some manager cards to follow up about his horrible injury.
Entering the 4am zone. Audit and reports pretty much done, almost time to start coffee, things are running smooth, right? However, on the cameras I see Bozo coming into the lobby. I stay back and play dead because I really don't want to deal with him again unless I really have to...oh wait, shit, why did he just bend down to the large water bowl we keep out for dogs? Ugh ok time to see what's up.
And what was up? AN ENTIRE BABY DUCK SWIMMING AROUND IN THE DOG BOWL. LIKE. STOCK PHOTO YELLOW CUTIE. He swears up and down he doesn't "know where this duck came from" while also asking for directions to the ER because he really needs to get his fingy checked out. He lets the duck run loose in the lobby and makes fun of me for stepping back from it to you know, avoid stepping on the poor thing. Then he starts throwing coffee stirrers and straws at the duck and fucking...mocking it? My "this guy is a piece of shit, actually!" meter starts to activate. Meanwhile he asks about the safety of the walk to the ER and if he should "bring his gun from the car" ummm. Then, he finally exits, with duck in tow, on the way to the hospital a couple blocks away. Knowing how ER waits are, I am almost certain I am rid of him for the rest of the shift.
NOPE. Around 6am, he comes back to the desk and I ask what they had to say about his finger, which, by the way, was just slightly red almost like he had eczema in the cold. "Yeah, they said it's broken and I could sue easily" 10 seconds later "I didn't get seen so I left" ???? to make things more confusing he had a huge plastic bag full of stuff marked "PATIENT BELONGINGS" so who knows what was the truth at this point. The poor duck is nestled in the bag, he takes it out and heads upstairs.
I'm almost to the finish line of the night, and I see him on the cameras coming down towards the breakfast area. I should probably be out at the desk by this point but I simply hunker down in the back, finish processing invoices, and watch him kind of wonder around and squawk at the breakfast hostess about something. Well.....she comes in and says "this guy just asked if we had a janitor or maintenance on duty" because he . FLUSHED. HIS DUCK. DOWN THE TOILET. At this point, I was boiling with rage and trying to just get through the last 20ish minutes and go right home.
I texted my roommate this whole thing thinking they wouldn't be up, but i just HAD to tell somebody. When I got home, an 8am mug of neat whiskey was waiting for me. They were at least as disturbed as I was but I couldn't even fully get upset because the whole situation was so above and beyond. Sure did have a good cry about it later that night though. Really hope I never see this guy again.
EPILOGUE - I asked my AGM the next time I was in how things ended up going down, and I guess he ended up making a huge scene in the breakfast area and was also being a creep to AM shift, to the extent that the cops were called. He almost got off with a trespass but then he decided to run out and start shit w the cops as they were leaving, prompting a single night in the clink. Good grief.
2023.03.28 20:30 RadiateDeezNuts Living with my parents at 28. No savings, no debt, no clue what I'm doing. Just enrolled in college. Where would you start if you were me?
I've been living with my parents and working at our family business since high school. I haven't put anything into savings but I have about 7,000 in a checking account. I have no debt and I've never taken a loan or used credit for anything, so no credit score.
I have excellent grades from some previous college and I have some scholarship options. My parents are reasonably wealthy and the college I chose is relatively cheap, so I have no need for student loans.
I got accepted into a radiography program and I'm on track to specialize as a radiation therapist in about 3 years. With the course load eating into my work hours and most costs being covered by my parents/landlords/employers all wrapped up into one, I will effectively net a loss of about -$300 a month for all 3 years. I'll pay back whatever excess my parents need to cover after I drain my checking account. No interest.
I recognize that, even though I'm about 10 years late to the starting line, I'm in a pretty favorable position. I don't know how to leverage that though.
So what would you do if this was your situation? Where would you focus? What would you do while at school and what would you do after graduation?
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I have excellent grades from some previous college and I have some scholarship options. My parents are reasonably wealthy and the college I chose is relatively cheap, so I have no need for student loans.
I got accepted into a radiography program and I'm on track to specialize as a radiation therapist in about 3 years. With the course load eating into my work hours and most costs being covered by my parents/landlords/employers all wrapped up into one, I will effectively net a loss of about -$300 a month for all 3 years. I'll pay back whatever excess my parents need to cover after I drain my checking account. No interest.
I recognize that, even though I'm about 10 years late to the starting line, I'm in a pretty favorable position. I don't know how to leverage that though.
So what would you do if this was your situation? Where would you focus? What would you do while at school and what would you do after graduation?
2023.03.28 20:30 Snobgrass UCLA MLIS Rejection Fall 2023
Hello All,
I just checked the online application status page (I did not receive an official e-mail as of this post to check the status page) and was rejected by the UCLA MLIS program for a second time. Am I shocked? No, I’m not shocked. After all, I was expecting to get rejected by the program because I don’t have a ridiculously high 3.67 GPA, even though I have several years of professional library experience and recommendations by librarians!
I wouldn’t be surprised if the UCLA MLIS program admitted recent or soon-to-be recent undergrads with those super high GPAs or GRE scores. However, you would think that they would accept someone who is serious about the field and shows this by having multiple years of experience in it vs. candidates who do not.
Luckily I knew this would probably be the outcome, and I also applied to the online San Jose State MLIS program as my backup.
If you don’t have an uber-high GPA or GRE score and this was the only MLIS program you applied to, you will probably be disappointed when you view your rejection letter.
Have a backup school if you plan to apply to the UCLA MLIS program in the future, especially if you don’t have the extremely high grades or test scores that they seemingly give preference to over experience and recommendations.
Good luck to you if you are accepted into the program!
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I just checked the online application status page (I did not receive an official e-mail as of this post to check the status page) and was rejected by the UCLA MLIS program for a second time. Am I shocked? No, I’m not shocked. After all, I was expecting to get rejected by the program because I don’t have a ridiculously high 3.67 GPA, even though I have several years of professional library experience and recommendations by librarians!
I wouldn’t be surprised if the UCLA MLIS program admitted recent or soon-to-be recent undergrads with those super high GPAs or GRE scores. However, you would think that they would accept someone who is serious about the field and shows this by having multiple years of experience in it vs. candidates who do not.
Luckily I knew this would probably be the outcome, and I also applied to the online San Jose State MLIS program as my backup.
If you don’t have an uber-high GPA or GRE score and this was the only MLIS program you applied to, you will probably be disappointed when you view your rejection letter.
Have a backup school if you plan to apply to the UCLA MLIS program in the future, especially if you don’t have the extremely high grades or test scores that they seemingly give preference to over experience and recommendations.
Good luck to you if you are accepted into the program!