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2023.06.10 22:42 jtwlson2 I (32m) have never seen/met/talked to/ or interacted with my father in any way… and it still bothers me.

So, let me first preface this with I don’t want anyone to feel bad or sorry for me. I generally don’t talk about this because I don’t want people’s sympathy, I just want someone to listen… or no one to listed and for me to just vent lol.
My father had an affair with my mother and I was the outcome from it. Through out my mom’s pregnancy he would send her letters saying he was going to leave his wife and bring his other kids to start a life with her “for real” but those were all lies to comfort my mother. When push came to shove the day I was born my mother and my father had a contractual agreement that my mom would never force my father to pay child support and in return he would never be allowed to have custody of me. This was to ensure that his family would never find out about his bastard child, which to this day they still don’t know I am assuming. My mother never dated anyone else and to this day has remained single.
When I was a young child through grade school I was bullied pretty severely because I did not have a father. Kids are mean is all I can say lol 🤷‍♂️ but this caused me to have a less than ideal relationship with my mother because she refused to tell me anything about why my father wasn’t around until I was an adult. My mother kept all of the letters that her and my father sent back and forth while they were apart for the roughly three years that they were having an affair and I stumbled upon them when I was 15. From that time I completely resented my mother for her decision making, I hated myself for representing their lust for each other, I hated my father for obvious reasons. When I turned 18 I left home to go to college and the relationship continued to deteriorate with my mother until we completely stopped interacting and she moved across the country.
My early 20’s were nothing but struggles. Periods of couch surfing, consistently working 2-3 jobs just to try and make ends meet. I dropped out of college after two years because I couldn’t balance working 60-80 hours a week and making all of my classes. This really was my low point in life, and I was dealing with it using alcohol and elicit narcotics.
After a near death experience I completely changed my approach on life. My work ethic had never wavered, the day to day struggles to pay my bills and keep a roof over my head we’re real but I chose a route of forgiveness instead of resentment. My late 20’s were spent trying to rebuild relationships with my mother and my true friends. I managed to go back to and finish college utilizing some tuition reimbursement benefits for the company I was and still am working for today.
Fast forward to present day, I live a sober life with better but not perfect relationship with my mother. We don’t talk about my childhood or my father at all because there is still bad blood there that I can’t forgive so I try to forget. In reality, I still struggle with my existence. I still struggle to understand how my mother and father thought this was okay or was the best outcome. I am pretty confident I will always be bitter about this and have accepted that I will never understand. I choose to try and be a better person and to learn from the mistakes that I represent being alive.
There is no real reason for posting this other than it’s been on my mind a lot and I needed a place to compartmentalize my thoughts and just vent. 😊
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2023.06.10 22:40 InitialOwn755 What Should I expect on my first day?

I start my first day tomorrow at a Panera near me, and my manager said I’d be doing the orientation material, and working from 7-4. Are the videos going to take the whole time? What kind of videos are they? And do I get paid for the day?
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2023.06.10 22:39 H3AVY_GRG I made a smart station. (as a newbie)

I made a smart station. (as a newbie)
Transporting crude oil by train, especially in the early stages of the game, has always had some problems. They load for a long time, and then accumulate oil for a long time, even with Speed modules.
so, I got tired of all of this and I decided that it was time to turn to the Circuit network.
Let me just say that I'm not a pro at this. I can understand concept, how in general Circuit network, but for realy hard things, such as computers, calculators, counters, watches, etc., my very basic knowledge is not enough.
Well, I thought that maybe even I will be able to make some very simple circuit based only on reading signals, so here we are.
The main idea that came to my mind was based on "teaching" trains to choose the right station from a large list that would be free at the moment and could provide an opportunity to quickly load crude oil and return to unload.
As soon as the desired oil value is reached, a signal is sent to the network and trainф at the waiting station receives permission to go
As a result, I came up with a scheme that would allow giving permission to the train to send only if the conditions for the amount of oil in the tanks are enough. By the way, all stations have the same name.
This solved the problem at first, but it resulted in the system being able to signal when there were no stations available and the trains would simply roll around, wasting fuel or just wait until they would full. It could also lead to a train deadlock
First I came up with a scheme that would turn off the station until the conditions (enough oil) are met.
However, I have encountered the fact that the train can go to the station at the moment while is still turned off, which will cause the train to just turn around and return back.
As long as the section of the road is empty, a signal is given. In order not to load the system with unnecessary signals, I make it through a combinator
First thing that came to my mind was to put a second combinator that would give a signal to the station and would work a little earlier. But then I realized that at one moment, when the speed of filling the storage tanks would be such that the train would again go to a useless circle.
As a result, I came up with the idea of giving another signal that comes from a traffic light when there is no train at the station.
W - wait station, L - load station, U - Unload station
And now, by giving 2 signals, we pass them to the train and give the condition "AND," to the signal, "ready for loading" and "empty section of the road", we get a circuit that allows you to set as many stations as you like for loading, and start up as many trains as you like, not afraid that they will uselessly roll around in circles or stand blocked.
Again, I'm not completely sure about this circuit. As soon as I install it, I can accurately understand whether it works fully or not. If you notice an error or know a way to simplify this scheme (or complicate it, but also improve it), write in the comments, I will gladly read it.

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2023.06.10 22:37 templed_mind My BF got into a run in with the feds/ATF

Hi just to start off, we live in FL, USA
A few weeks ago my bf was driving my grandmothers car and got blocked in the parking lot of a gas station by civilian clothed LE in unmarked undercover cars. Basically they apprehended him, whisked him up put him in one of their cars and one hopped in my grandmas car and followed. They took all of his cash money, less 2 grams of fentanyl and a gun from him (no charges have been made). At the time he was in possession of a Camaro that wasn’t his (stolen but he didn’t exactly steal it. He bought it from the thief) and he came to agreement while in the car with the people to return my grandmas car and he would take them to the camaro. So they all pulled up to my house, dropped off my grandmas car and then drove to the Camaro, let him out and drive the camaro around the corner to where one of them privately took the keys and left with it and he got back in their car. Now they’re talking about how they have incriminating knowledge about him, conducted atleast 2 undercover buys on him (one with real drugs and one with 100% fake drugs. My bf ripped them off one of the times) and that they had a tracker on the camaro for a month (I can’t find any record of a warrant for this anywhere) and they’re threatening him and intimidating him trying to get him to roll on his buddies… but there’s no record of anything and haven’t seen any warrants.. and I’m pretty sure my bf specified it’s ATF not DEA… They also lied about how much money they confiscated off him when they yolked him up in my grandmas car. does this sound like fishy police work to anyone else or is it just me?
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2023.06.10 22:37 kennynailtech What's the harm in combining nail products?

What's the harm in combining nail products?
Nail technicians use the most technologically advanced products.
Nail professionals work in a unique and diversified industry, and they frequently accidentally endanger themselves and their clients. They frequently work nail supply store near me with the most technologically advanced beauty products.
Many nail coatings are made from high-tech materials that are used to make everything from bone cements to dental implants, contact lenses, and bulletproof glass. Nail technicians often work with finger and toe nails that have become infected or injured.
When dealing with medical issues of the hands and feet, some clients want their Nail Professional to diagnose, treat, or prescribe a remedy for their illness, which is inappropriate and should be avoided.
When you combine this with the fact that many Nail Professionals like to "experiment" and try new things, it's easy to see how difficulties might arise, especially when manufacturer's instructions are ignored and nail products are used in ways they weren't meant to be used.

1. What's the harm in combining nail polishes?

This could cause severe issues for clients, Nail Professionals, and salons without a thorough understanding of chemistry or medicine. Here are a couple such instances.
Many items are designed to be used as a "system" in very particular ways to ensure safe use and accomplish the desired end result. Monomer liquids are made to work with certain powders. Using the improper powder or the inappropriate bubble bath nail polish liquid-to-powder ratio (too moist) can cause skin irritation, allergies, or even "onycholysis," a condition in which the nail plate separates from the nail bed. When the wrong nail light is used to cure a UV gel, all of these problems can arise.
Improper use of salon disinfectants can result in infections, which can lead to injury or a lawsuit, jeopardizing a Salon Professional's or salon's livelihood.

2. What's the point?

When products are mixed incorrectly or utilized best gel nail polish contrary to directions/instructions, unforeseen repercussions may occur, causing harm to clients and/or Nail Professionals. Contrary to popular belief, Nail Professionals should NOT use professional goods in any way they see fit. Instead, always carefully follow the manufacturer's directions and pay attention to all cautions. If a Nail Professional disagrees with, wishes to change, or does not understand the instructions, they should consult with the product maker before proceeding.


3. Experimenting with different nail products!

I like the inquisitive, interested attitude of Nail Professionals who like to "experiment" with their products and recognize that it is their inventiveness and imagination that inspires them to do so! These are wonderful characteristics that, if properly channeled, may benefit anyone. However, when "experimenting" entails disobeying the manufacturer's instructions or warnings, this is inappropriate and should be avoided.
Those who obtain a deeper understanding in these areas are far less likely to overuse nail products or experience any of the problems mentioned above. Avoid concentrating simply on how to apply these cosmetics skillfully; that is only half the picture! The days nail nippers when product application and removal were all that mattered are long gone. Nail professionals must grasp how their professional products function and why they do so.
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2023.06.10 22:37 Tundra_2190 Affordable camping spots near Sandy

I’ve been wanting to go camping but looking online most of the camp grounds near me are part of a weird company with a difficult to use website. Does anyone know of some camping sites that are for tents and not just a asphalt pad?
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2023.06.10 22:36 Los-Da-Boss [WTS][WTT] BDK Gris Charnel, Nishane Ani (Bottle)

Have a full bottle of Ani and want to upgrade to a big one?
Well, this might sound crazy, but I’m interested in trading Nishane Ani 100ml for a 50ml Ani (yes same frag) and $50 cash to cover the difference.
My other Nishane bottles - Wulong Cha, Fan Your Flames and Hacivat are 50ml. I’d like all the bottle sizes to match if possible. Figured I'd take a chance on this forum.
Bottle Must be in excellent condition and full or near full. Prefer full presentation but not a deal breaker - NOT SELLING.
SELLING BDK Gris Charnel 100ml for $160 (retails for $205) or will trade for any of the following:
Amouage Reflection 45, Xerjoff Pikovaya Dama, The Harmonist Hypnotic Fire, Unique’e Luxury Crush On Me, Unique’e Luxury Mashumaro, Roja Oceania, Roja Isola Blu, Roja Elysium Eau Intense, Roja A Midsummer Dream, Narcotica Doza, Electimuss Mercurial Cashmere, Nishane Shem, Narcotica Dulce Diablo, LV Ombre Nomade** The Harmonist Sun Force, The Harmonist Moon Glory, The Harmonist Yin Transformation, Electimuss Auster, SHL God of Fire, Argos Triumph of Bacchus, Unique’e Luxury Beverly Hills Exclusive, Marc Antoine Barrois B683 Extrait, Marc Antoine Barrois Encelade, Electimuss Silvanus, Byron Parfums Mula Mula, SHL Venom incarnate, Byron Parfums Mula Mula Rouge Extreme, Xerjoff Richwood, LV Afternoon Swim, Kilian Blue Moon Ginger Dash, Indult Tihoti, Javoy Paris Fire At Will, Unique’e Luxury Kutay, Xerjoff Symphonium, Thameen Carved Oud, Argos Adonis Awakens, Argos Danea, Electimuss Imperium, Xerjoff Italica, Electimuss Black Caviar, Electimuss Octavian, Electimuss Rodanthe, L’Artisan Parfumeur Tea for Two, Nishane Wulong Cha, Xerjoff 1861 Decas, Nishane Zenne, PDM Sedley, Initio Blessed Baraka, Xerjoff Ivory Route, Marc Antoine Barrois Ganymede Extrait, Nishane Hundred Silent Ways, JusBox Cheeky Smile, Electimuss Trajan, Vilhelm Mango Skin, Marc Antoine Barrois B683, Vilhelm Dear Polly, Electimuss Pomana Vitalis, Amouage Ashore, Amouage Crimson Rocks, Casamorati Mefisto Gentileoumo, Electimuss Vixere, Ormande Jayne Ormande Man, Byron Parfums The Chronic, Byron Parfums Black Dragon, Le Labo Santal 33, Initio Musk Therapy, Javoy Paris Psychedelique, Frederick Malle Portrait of a Lady, Amouage Search, Byron Parfums Green Butterfly.
*Can add cash to make up the difference if your trade is more expensive.
If you want to Buy/Trade please comment before sending chat/pm. Let me know if you have any questions.
Will accept PP G&S as long as you pay the 4% fee - Would prefer PP F&F, Cashapp, Zelle, Venmo, or ApplePay. Ships next day with plenty of protection.
Thanks for looking!
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2023.06.10 22:36 newscott20 Anyone else lose their ability to visualise?

I remember being a kid with the wildest, visual imagination. Up until I’d say around 15 I had a fantastic ability to conjure all sorts of things, in image form and in motion. I could rotate anything and see it crystal clear. But ever since it’s been on the decline, and now I’m 19 and the ability is nearly gone entirely.
For example, if you told me to think of an apple, I can ‘see it’ but at the same time not. Like it’s a small dot in the top corner of a picture, I really can’t explain it. It feels so distance and far. I am physically and mentally well apart from CFS (chronic fatigue syndrome.) so other than that I don’t know why my ability is deteriorating. Maybe the fatigue had an impact on my visualisation skills?
This saddens me greatly because I used to be able to genuinely conjure up any scenario for hours before bed in vivid detail. Also following books and going into a different world was amazing.
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2023.06.10 22:36 curiouskenzie28 Relocate?

Hello, I found this little guy in my backyard. The closest body of water is a little (probably dried out) pond near me but it’s fenced off and I can’t get to it. I am thinking he probably came from there. I really don’t want him getting ran over. I live on a busy highway out in the country and I share a driveway with another business that gets a lot of traffic. There is a pond in town that I can take him to and was wondering if that is a good idea? Kansas, USA
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2023.06.10 22:36 throwaway2278101 I am a survivor of the MSU school shooting. AMA

I am a survivor of the MSU school shooting. AMA
Aight take two of this (hopefully no problems posted this time). Not sure why I’m writing this, can’t tell if i want a reference while everything is relatively fresh or if I just need to get my story out of my head. Catharsis maybe? Halfhearted attempt at healing? Who knows. But here goes I guess. I am verified on another post, and that’s my id at the top. This is my account of that day (Sorry in advance cuz this is gonna be a novel)
At the time of the shooting, I was in my dorm. I lived in the north part of campus, though for anonymity reasons I cannot say which building. MSU north campus is set up so that there are a bunch of dorms on the western side. Moving eastward, there is the union, the medical center, Berkey, the art museum, and then a couple more dorms on the far east side (kinda like bookends). I was in the dorms on one side and some of my close friends lived on the other. For scale, from one set of dorms to the other is about a 10 minute walk (I have a bike so I could do it in two minutes easily). All these buildings are set facing Grand River Avenue, which is basically EL’s main strip. That’s where the target, chipotle, cvs, all the bars, etc are. It was a Monday night, but msu kinda has a party culture, so this area was pretty busy.
I had actually talked to my grandparents at about 3:30 pm ish about going to the Union to “study”. The food court there has insanely good pork nachos, and if I’m being honest, I really just wanted queso. However, I was stressing about midterms and had a shit sleep schedule, so I ended up falling asleep. I tend to have a pattern where I’ll come home, take a giant nap, eat dinner, do homework like real late, and then get like 4 hrs of sleep. If I hadn’t fallen asleep when I did, I would have gone to either the Union or the gym around the exact time everything happened, and i would have more than likely crossed paths with the shooter.
I remember waking up about 15 minutes before the alert first went out. Because of timing and my proximity to it all, it’s not unlikely that I actually woke up to the first volley of shots (I don’t remember this part, only the second volley). I was really groggy and kinda was just sitting in my bed when the alert came in.
Lansing isn’t the safest place, so it wasn’t uncommon to get an email saying “shots reported at the intersection of A and B”. Usually these were from the east side of Lansing, not East Lansing proper. This was different though. The subject was just “Shots fired”. I saved the email, so below is the contents of the first emergency alert:
“MSU Police report shots fired incident occurring on or near the East Lansing campus. Secure-in-Place immediately. Run, Hide, Fight. Run means evacuate away from danger if you can do so safely, Hide means to secure-in-place, and Fight means protect yourself if no other option. Monitor for information.”
As I read this email, I began to hear “pop pop pop pop pop”. Looking back, this matches more closely with the Union shots (the second attack). I kinda immediately went into panic mode. I’m an out of state student, so I called my mom. She kinda picked up happily, but when I said “mom I need you to get on the parent fb page, they’re saying shots on campus”, she went into info overdrive mode.
I immediately get out of bed, close the blinds, and turn off the lights. At some point i push my desk in front of my door (I lived on the first floor by an entryway). I kinda had a hard time with this because I couldn’t get it over my rug, but I eventually got it. I grabbed my pepper spray and hid in my closet. My mom was on ft with me and my dad was sitting next to her with the police scanner I sent to him playing.
At that point we start hearing the first responders get to the Union and Berkey. I could hear a shit ton of sirens, and I vividly remember hearing the 911 dispatch call out at least two casualties, one of whom was dead on arrival (pretty sure this was Brian). At this point I was texting my best friend (she went to college about two hours away), a family friend, my ra, a group chat of online friends, and constantly refreshing yikyak. I don’t have Twitter but my best friend does, so I was getting pretty much all the info from everywhere.
I think what usually gets lost here is that we all legit thought this was a terrorist attack on campus. People were running into dorms and screaming. A lot of these dorms are older (especially in north) and have heavy wooden doors. In a crisis, people slamming doors while screaming sounds a lot like gunfire. 911 calls were coming in from all 5200 acres of campus. People were convinced that the shooters were running with Ak-47s along the river (this turned out to be students running and a team of off duty officers). They actually evacuated Akers, which is pretty much as far from the Union as you an really get, because they were so sure the shooter was in the cafeteria. People were knocking on doors pretending to be police, and at one point, there were rumors of explosives being placed around campus.
The scariest part was when the police scanner said that the shooter was in the exact same location as my friends were hiding in. I was convinced for a while that I would never see my friends again.
The lockdown lasted for 4.5 hours. MSU is a huge ass campus, so they called in troopers from around the state and the fbi/swat teams as well. They flew helicopters around (the sound still gives me panic attacks) and systematically cleared every building on campus. There were still reports of single shots, but eventually people started to realize that it was probably over as no one new was getting hurt. There were a couple of funny moments though, the major one being when the 911 dispatch pages an ambulance for a girl experiencing neck pain from a car accident two weeks before (it broke the tension and the irony was great).
Just after midnight, they found the fucker a couple miles off campus. Pretty much right after shooting up the Union, he fucked off to the residential sector of EL. He shot himself as police closed in and was declared dead on scene. At this point I was still in my closet and heard them as they found him / call time of death.
I don’t think i slept that night at all. Once the lockdown was lifted, pretty much everyone who could left campus. I spent the night on the floor of my friend’s room. Around 6 am I went back to my room and packed a bag. We knew classes were gonna be cancelled for at least the next two days, and I knew I sure as hell wasn’t coming back that week. I’m pretty sure I eventually fell asleep around 9 am.
I got picked up by my father around 12 pm. My mom wanted to immediately go get me, but my dad convinced her to wait until morning. At that point I was pretty much the only person I knew that was still on campus. Going outside was the weirdest feeling ever. Campus was dead quiet, and I could see a bunch of yellow police tape. I just remember sobbing in my dad’s arms and telling him “im glad I got to come home”.
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2023.06.10 22:36 ArnoldBeretta2002 Fake / Authentic

Hello ! I am from Lebanon, middle east.
I want to check if the creatine gold line comes in any flavour or it's a fake product being sold near me?
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2023.06.10 22:35 DancingWithBalrug Something really strange happened to me in Holon today - could it be a scam attempt?

I was (with 2 friends) walking down the street at around 10:30pm, when a car stopped near us, and the driver told us "hey guys, I am handicapped, could you please help me deposit some money to the Atm?" (ATM was just few meters away)
It sounded strange already, but I didn't think much of it and initially agreed, than this mothafcka pulled out what must be at least 20-30k worth of bills, with a credit card and a code
Of course at that moment I noped out of there, later on when we walked away my friend said he didn't have an handicap sign, and when we drove away, less than 2 minutes later, we saw that him and his car weren't there anymore
Now, to me it's obvious that something illegal is going on with that dude, but considering that he gives us cash, which is probably not fake since ATMs can detect those(?), I can't think of what's behind the scenes here
My only guess is that it might be stolen money, and he wants our faces to be the ones in the cameras
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2023.06.10 22:35 av-baby213 How do I recover from such an uncomfortable session?

I haven’t seen my therapist in nearly 2 months and I’m really nervous about going back because my last session was so uncomfortable. I’m worried we were both uncomfortable.. even though I know as a therapist she’s used to uncomfortable topics, I still have this pit in my stomach and feel embarrassed. I also couldn’t really get out what I was trying to say so I feel dumb. As my next appointment gets closer I’m constantly replaying our last conversation in my head and it’s really bothering me. I almost just want to stop going all together but I know it’s important for me to continue therapy because I’m newly postpartum and have experienced PPD and PPA in the past. I’m so caught up on this, my mind is running wild.
Honestly, the amount of discomfort with this entire process is killing me, I feel exposed. Do I bring it up next session, or just change the subject and pretend we didn’t leave off on a big “thing”? Is it important to tell her how much this is consuming me?
How do I do this correctly and process what’s happening in my head?
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2023.06.10 22:34 ThrowRA-blue1 Partner (37m) wants to move to be nearer family with short notice, I'm (27f) not ready yet

Throwaway because my partner follows my other account and I'd rather keep this private.
My (27f) partner (37m) and I have been together for just under five years. We have been in a very serious, committed relationship the entire time and have lived together for most of it.
My partner comes from somewhere about 7 hours away from where we met and have been living. His family still lives there, and he visits 3 or 4 times a year including a longer visit around Xmas time. I join him often and when I'm able to (he has a lovely family!). My family and friends are pretty much all in the city we have lived in our entire relationship, and I do not know anyone in his hometown other than his family.
We were looking to move out of our current home, and had spent several weeks doing viewings for places in the city we currently live in. He then told me, very suddenly, that he wanted to move back to be with his family - I asked him if I wasn't ready to do that yet, would he be willing to hold off for another year or two? He said no, he wanted and needed to go now - and he'd like me to come but would be moving regardless.
For some additional context, I am an only child and my mother who lives near the city I'm in is single and disabled so I feel a lot of responsibility towards her (she's also just my best friend, love u mum). It's not a simple "grab my stuff and go".
After a lot of back and forth, I decided that I wasn't happy moving so suddenly - I needed way more time to prepare and feel comfortable with it, and with only a month to the move left I made the tough decision that I wouldn't be going with him and that this was likely the end of the relationship (there were some other factors I won't include here). I've been feeling upset, and angry to be honest. I tried to explain to him that 2 months isn't enough time for me to get on board with it and it felt unfair - and I was angry that after nearly five years together the relationship didn't mean enough to him for him to wait a bit longer. I appreciate he wants to be near his family, I want him to be too, but surely this is the kind of decision that a couple makes together as a team? I was always on board with us moving there together at some point, but when the timing was right for both of us and coming to the decision together.
He told me I'm being unfair and guilting him when he's done nothing wrong. I just feel so heartbroken, after years of him having other higher priorities I felt like our relationship was about to have some much needed TLC but instead he drops this huge bomb on me and makes it clear that, again, the relationship isn't his number one priority - it feels like there's always something else more important to him. He then told me he was going to tell his mum, who would confirm I was the one being unreasonable lol.
So, lovely people of Reddit, help me out here. Am I wrong for feeling this way? Is this normal for people to do to each other after such a long and strong relationship (which is what he's telling me)? Maybe I'm just being a romantic, but I always thought this was the kind of decision a couple makes together (at least after nearly half a decade together). I thought he was my future. Sorry for the ramble. It's been a tough few weeks. Thanks in advance :)
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2023.06.10 22:34 Sorpl3x Questions about boss positioning

Heya, Player with tanxiety stemming from uncertainty here, with some questions.
I often feel like im unsure how to position the Boss.

Of course, i start the Fight with a ranged attack to the boss ends up in or near the middle, then turn it around so it faces away from the party.
But after how do i position it when it moves?
The boss moves to the edge for an attack, and stays there after the attack ended? do i drag it back to the middle? do i just turn it until i touch the edge and the back is slightly reachable?
The boss turns around for a while for an attack. Do i let it turn back? Or go to its front to avoid unneeded boss movement?
I don't want to annoy my party with boss turning or make any mistakes.

I hope you can help me with some tips about this sort of stuff, thanks in advance.
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2023.06.10 22:33 Screamin_Kay_Lobbins Acceptable wait for parts?

My 2013 Chevy Spark needs new inner and outer tie rods. I ordered them thru the shop that will do the repair. This was Wednesday 5/24. One part came in just a couple days later, but not the other part.
Nearly two weeks from the order date (Tuesday 6/6), they call to say the item number for the second part was entered incorrectly. So they order it at that time, saying it should be in by the end of the week. It’s Saturday now and still not in.
My question is: am I in the right to ask for something knocked off my bill? The way they described it to me, it sounded unsafe to drive. So it’ll be about three weeks by the time this gets done, that I’ve been getting rides, borrowing cars, etc. Part of me says, they never explicitly promised the parts would come in quickly, and it just is what it is. But what is most frustrating is that they messed up the order and didn’t realize it for almost two weeks. So I feel I’m owed something for that wasted time.
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2023.06.10 22:33 Constant_Play9022 CNA Training or Resident Care Aide job? What to do over summer

What should I do this summer? I am a pre-nursing student (will start the actual nursing program in Jan 2024).
I was offered a job as a Resident Care Aide at a nursing home but I don’t believe they will give me any sort of certification. They are offering full time hours (over summer while I’m off school) but have part time option as well. I am sure this job would give me valuable experience caring for patients. The pay is pretty low unfortunately.
There is a 6 week CNA Training course at a college near me and it’s free (funded by the state). I would just have to cover transportation because I don’t have a car. Also I would have the opportunity cost of the hours missed out on working. The classes are from 9am-3pm M-F.
What should I do? I am hesitant to do both (take the CNA course and work part time evenings) because I want to enjoy my summer. I wish I had a better reason😂
Grateful for both opportunities but I am leaning towards getting my CNA certification because my area is very competitive when it comes to nursing. Plus 6 weeks is not too terribly long of a time to invest in my professional development and I would likely end up with a higher salary than what the nursing home offered.
Thoughts? TYIA
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2023.06.10 22:32 Bearded_Gussie There's an antique mall near me that always has tons of glass, cheap. I rarely go because the last thing I need is more glass. Went today because I was bored and wasn't disappointed.

There's an antique mall near me that always has tons of glass, cheap. I rarely go because the last thing I need is more glass. Went today because I was bored and wasn't disappointed. submitted by Bearded_Gussie to uraniumglass [link] [comments]

2023.06.10 22:31 JoshAsdvgi THE SNAKE MYTH


A Hopi Legend

At Tokóonavi, north of the Grand Canyon, lived people who were then not yet Snake people.
They lived close to the bank of the river.
The chief's son often pondered over the Grand Canyon and wondered where all that water went to.
"That must certainly make it very full somewhere," he thought to himself.
So he spoke to his father about it.
''So that is what you have been thinking about," the latter said. "Yes," his son answered, "I want to go and examine it."
The father gave his consent and told his son that he should make a box for himself that would be large enough for him to get into, and he should arrange it so that all openings in the box could be closed.
This the boy did, making also a long pole (according to others a long báho), with which he could push the box in case it became fast or tangled up anywhere.
When he was ready he took a lot of báhos and some food, went into the box, and allowed himself to be pushed into the water, on which he then floated along.
Finally he came to the ocean, where he drifted against an island.
He found the house of Spider Woman (Kóhk'ang Wuhti) here, who called him to come to her house.
He went over and found that he could not get through the opening leading to her house.
"How shall I get in?" he said; "the opening is too small."
She told him to enlarge it.
This he did and then entered.
He told her a story and gave her a báho, and said that he had come after beads, etc.
She pointed to another kiva away out in the water and said that there were some beads and corals there. but that there were some wild animals guarding the path to it.
"If you had not informed me, how could you have succeeded in getting there and how would you have gotten back?
But I shall go with you," she said, "because you have given me a báho, for which I am very glad."
She then gave the young man some medicine and seated herself behind his right ear.
He spurted the medicine over the water and immediately a road like a rainbow was formed from the dwelling of Spider Woman to the other kiva.
On this they went across the water.
As they approached the kiva to which they were going they first encountered a panther, who growled fiercely.
The young man gave him a green báho and spurted some medicine upon him, which quieted him.
A little farther on they met a bear, whom they quieted in the same manner.
Still farther on they came upon a wildcat, to which they also handed a báho, which quieted the animal.
Hereupon they met a gray wolf, and finally a very large rattle-snake (K'áhtoya), both of which they appeased in the same manner as the others.
They then arrived at the kiva, where they found at the entrance a bow standard (Aoát nátsi).
They then descended the ladder and found in the kiva many people who were dressed in blue kilts, had their faces painted with specular iron (yaláhaii), and around their necks they wore many beads.
The young man sat down near the fireplace, Spider Woman still being seated on his ear, but no one spoke.
The men looked at him, but remained silent.
Presently the chief got a large bag of tobacco and a large pipe.
He filled the latter and smoked four times.
He then handed the pipe to the young man and said: "Smoke and swallow the smoke."
The swallowing of the smoke was a test: any one not being able to do that was driven off.
Spider Woman had informed the young man about this test, so he was posted.
When he commenced to smoke she whispered to him: "Put me behind you."
This he did in an unobserved manner, so when he swallowed the smoke she immediately drew the smoke from him and blew it away, and hence he did not get dizzy.
The men who did not observe the trick were pleased and said to him:
''All right, you are strong; you are certainly some one.
Thank you.
Your heart is good: you are one of us; you are our child." "Yes." he said, and handed them some red nakwákwosis and a single green báho with red points, such as are still made in Shupaúlavi in the Antelope society.
They then became very friendly, saving that the were very happy over the báhos.
On the walls of the kiva were hanging many costumes made of snake skins.
Soon the chief said to the people:
"Let us dress up now," and turning to the young man bid him to turn away so that he would not see what was going on.
He did so, and when he looked back again the men had all dressed up in the snake costumes and had turned into snakes, large and small, bull- snakes, racers, and rattle-snakes, that were moving about on the floor hissing, rattling, etc.
While he had turned away and the snake People had been dressing themselves, Spider Woman had whispered to him that they were now going to try him very hard, but that he should not be afraid to touch the snakes; and she gave him many instructions.
Among those present in the kiva had also been some pretty maidens who had also put on snake costumes and had turned into serpents.
One of them had been particularly handsome.
The chief had not turned into a snake, and was sitting near the fireplace.
He now turned to the young man and said to him:
"You go now and select and take one of these snakes."
The snakes seemed to be very angry and the young man got frightened when they stared at him, but Spider Woman whispered to him not to be a coward, nor to be afraid.
The prettiest maiden had turned into a large yellow rattle-snake (Sik'á-tcua), and was especially angry.
Spider Woman whispered to the young man, that the one that acted so very angrily was the pretty maiden and that he should try to take that one.
He tried, but the snake was very wild and fierce.
"Be not afraid," Spider Woman whispered, and handed him some medicine.
This he secretly chewed and spurted a small quantity of it on the fierce snake, whereupon it immediately became docile.
He at once grabbed it, held and stroked it four times upward, each time spurting a little medicine on it, and thus freeing it from its anger.
The chief was astonished and said: "You are very something, thanks.
Now, look away again." He did so and when he turned back he saw that all the snakes had assumed the forms of men and women again, including the maiden that he had captured. They now were all very good to him, and talked to him in the kindest manner, because they now considered him as initiated and as one of them.
He was now welcome, and the chief invited him to eat.
The mána whom the young man had taken got from another room in the kiva some bread made of fresh corn-meal, some peaches, melons, etc., and set this food before the young man.
Spider Woman whispered to the young -man to give her something to eat too, which he did secretly.
She enjoyed the food very much and was very happy.
Now the chief asked the man why he came, etc.
"I hunt a lólomat kátcit (good life) and was thinking about the water running this way, and so this way it runs.
I have come also to get Hopi food from here.
I also heard that there lives a woman here somewhere, the Hurúing Wuhti, from whom I want beads."
"What have you for her?" they asked.
"These báhos," he said. "All right, you will get there.
But now you sleep here."
But Spider Woman wanted to get back.
He told them that he wanted to go out a little while.
Then he went and took Spider Woman home, and put her down.
She invited him to come and eat with her.
She had a pövö'lpik'i off which she lived and which never gave out, but he left her and returned to the Snake kiva, where he was welcomed and called brother and son-in-law (möö'nangwuu), although he had not yet married, but only caught the mána.
So he remained there.
That evening and night the chief told him all about the Snake cult, altar, etc., etc., and instructed him how he must put this up, and do that, when he would return.
He did not sleep that night.
In the morning he again went out on the same excuse as the previous evening, and went to Spider Woman, who went out. She made a rainbow road into the ocean to a high bluff where Hurúing Wuhti lived, and to which they ascended on a ladder. They went in and found an old hag, but on all the walls many beads, shells, etc.
The woman said nothing.
The young man gave her the báhos, then she, said faintly, "Áskwali!" (Thanks!)
At sundown she went into a side chamber and returned a very pretty maiden with fine buffalo and wildcat robes, of which she made a bed, and after having fed him, invited him to sleep with her on the bed.
Then Spider Woman ,whispered he should comply with her request, then he would win her favor and get the beads.
So he did as requested.
In the morning he awoke and found by his side an old hag, snoring.
He was very unhappy,
He stayed all day, the hag sitting bent up all day.
In the evening the change, etc., that occurred on the previous day was repeated, but the hag after this remained a pretty maiden.
He remained four days and nights with Hurúing Wuhti, who is the deity of the hard substances.
After four days he wanted to go home, so she went into a room on the north side and got a turquoise bead; then from a room west the same: from a room South a reddish bead (cátsni); from one east, a hard white bead (hurúingwa), a shell.
Then she gave him a few of all kinds of beads and told him to go home now, but charging him not to open the sack, because if he did they would be gone, and if he did not they would increase.
"You go to the Snakes, who will give you clothes, food, etc."
He then returned to the Snake kiva.
There he staved four days and four nights, sleeping with his wife.
When he was ready to go home the chief said: "Take this mána with you.
You have won us.
Take it all with you, take of our food.
Practice the ceremonies there that I told you about.
This woman will bear you children and then you will be many and they will hold this ceremony for you."
So they started.
At Spider Woman's house he told his wife, ''You stay here.
I will go to the rear."
So he went to Spider Woman's house and she asked:
''Well, did you get the mána?" "Yes," he said. "Well, you take everything along."
But she forbid him to touch his wife while they would be on the way, as then his beads would disappear and also his wife.
So they started.
The beads were as yet not heavy.
During the night they slept separately.
In the morning they found that the beads had increased, and they kept increasing as they went along the next day.
The next night they spent in the same way.
They were anxious to see whether the beads and shells had increased, but did not dare to do so.
The third night was again spent, and the contents of the bag increased the same as the previous two nights.
The bag with the beads and shells now became very heavy and the young man was very anxious to see them, but his wife forbade him to open the sack.
The fourth night was spent in the same manner, and when they arose in the morning the sack was nearly full and was very heavy.
Spider Woman had also put some strings into the bag with the beads, and the beads were strung onto these strings a,; they kept increasing.
They now approached the home of the young man, and the latter was very anxious to get home in order to see the contents, of the sack, so they traveled on.
When they had nearly one more day's travel to make the sack had become full.
During the last night the man opened the sack, although his wife remonstrated most energetically.
He took out many of the finest beads and shells and spread them on the floor before them, put them around his neck, and was very happy.
So they retired for the night.
In the morning they found that all the beads except those which Hurúing Wuhti had given to the man had disappeared. Hence the Hopi have so few beads at the present day.
If that man had at that time brought home with him all the beads which he had, they would have many.
So when they arrived at home they were very despondent.
At that time only the Divided or Separated Spring (Bátki) clan and the Pö'na (a certain cactus) clan lived at that place, but with the arrival of this young couple a new clan, the Snake clan, had come to the village.
Soon this new woman bore many children.
They were snakes who lived in the fields and in the sand. They grew very rapidly and went about and played with the Hopi children, whom they sometimes bit.
This made the Hopi very angry and they said:
"This is not good," and drove them off, so they were very unhappy.
The woman said to her husband:
"You take our children back to my home and there we shall go away from here alone."
Then the man's father made báhos, gave them to his son, who put all the snakes with the báhos into his blanket and took them back to his wife's home, and there told the Snake people why he brought their children and the báhos.
They said it was all right.
Hence the Snake priests, when carrying away the snakes from the plaza after the snake dance, take with them and deposit with the snakes some báhos, so that they should not themselves return to the village.
When the Snake man returned to his village lit and his wife traveled south- eastward, stopping at various places.
All at once they saw smoke in the distance, and when they went there they found a village perched son the mesa.
This was the village of Wálpi.
They at once went to the foot of the mesa on which Wálpi was situated and announced their presence.
So the village chief went down to them from the mesa, and asked what they wanted.
They asked to be admitted to the village, promising that they would assist the people in the ceremonies.
The chief at first showed himself unwilling to admit then), but finally gave his consent and took them up to the village.
From that time the woman bore human children instead of little snakes.
These children and their descendants became the Snake clan, of whom only very few are now living.
Soon also the Bátki and Pö'na clan came to Wálpi and found admittance to the village.
At Wálpi the Snake people made the first Snake típoni, Snake altar, etc., and had the first Snake ceremony.
From here the Snake cult spread to the other villages, first to Shongópavi, then to Mishóngnovi, and then to Oraíbi.
At the first Snake ceremony the Snake chief sent his nephew to the north, to the west, to the south, and to the east to hunt snakes.
He brought some from each direction,
The chief then hollowed out a piece of báho, made of cottonwood root.
Into this he put the rattles of three of the snakes and the fourth snake entirely.
He then inserted into it a corn-ear, and tied to it different feathers of the eagle, the oriole, blue-bird, parrot, magpie, Ásya, and topóckwa, winding a buckskin String around these feathers.
When he had made this típoni, the first ceremony was celebrated, and afterwards it took place regularly.
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2023.06.10 22:30 cookie-sylvan Hi I think I have PSSD are there any cures?

I just posted on sex about my lack of sex drive and a commenter suggested I look here. I've never heard of PSSD but it seems I exhibit the symptoms.
F29 always had a healthy sometimes insatiable sex drive then I started taking quetiapine 2020 for 6 months I gained weight and didn't feel any different mentally so I stopped taking it.. within the window or taking and not taking my sex drive seemed normal. Then in 2021 I met my ex and it was like the minuite we got together my sex drive disappeared. Like no daydreaming no watching prn no mastur**ing and I never really ever wanted to have sex, even seeing people do it on TV grossed me out like I'd become this big prude... after a mental dip and this having such an effect on our relationship I went back on quetiapine and sertraline to help with what I thought was stress inducing my no sex drive.. and here we are 2023 and that relationship has ended partly due to no sex drive.. still no sex drive even now.. if I was single the rest of my life I wouldn't mind as that sex pressure wouldn't be there but realistically I'd just like my sex drive back..
Thankfully I am off all medication around a month ago and trying to have a more healthy lifestyle but still not even a whisper of a sex drive.. its been nearly 2 years..
Is there a cure for this? I feel so so so lost :(
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2023.06.10 22:30 hocuspocus9538 How do I (28f) get my partner (27m) to workout more?

I’ve been with my husband for 3 years total. He’s great and generally very considerate and thoughtful. He’s also really smart and we have compatible lifestyles and goals, or I thought we did until somewhat recently.
When I first met my husband he worked out nearly every day. I also workout nearly every day. On our first date one of the things we bonded over was how we both came from families that prioritize physical fitness (as a means of health, not to look good).
After meeting his family I can see this is mostly true. Most of his family is exceptionally fit. Like, we are talking they could be fitness models. They look fantastic. But I soon realized they have really unhealthy attitudes about fitness, and mainly prioritize aesthetics and being skinny (especially his mom). The exception is his dad, who is extremely overweight, and drinks and smokes a lot. My husband has lamented to me that he wishes his dad would lose weight.
My husband is naturally thinner, but when he doesn’t work out he starts looking…a bit pear shaped? But he’s never had to buy larger clothing. However, in the time we have been together, I feel that he’s been working out less and less, and it’s been starting to show in the past year.
My dad has always instilled in me that fitness as a means of maintaining heart and lung health, and preventing osteoporosis is crucial. essentially, that you have to take time for your own health if you want to be a good parent/spouse/worker etc.
I don’t know how to get my husband to workout more. It’s a delicate topic obviously, because even though I know my main concern is his health, I know he will think it’s shallowness. I think it’s essential to build these habits NOW before we have kids. I’ve tried saying this broadly and by making generalized statements about how “we both should prioritize our physical health for ourselves and our future family” or by pointing out all the ways that exercise improves quality of life. But he’s become so lazy, he might go to the gym a couple times and then completely stop. What do I do??? I feel he’s become sooo complacent.
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